Sonke sinezikhathi ekuphileni kwethu lapho sizizwa sidabukile futhi sidangele. Kuvamile. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, uma lokhu kudabuka nokudabuka kuqhubeka izinsuku noma amasonto, kungaba okungaphezu nje kokudabuka okuvamile. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngesimo esisodwa esinjalo, ukucindezeleka. Kungaba nzima kakhulu kumuntu ohlushwa yilokhu ukuveza imizwa yakhe ngamazwi futhi atshele omunye umuntu. Ngakho-ke, uma unomngane, ilungu lomndeni, noma umuntu omaziyo okulesi simo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi wazi lezi zinto ukuze umsize.
1. Ukucindezeleka akusikho nje ukudabuka.
Yilapho abantu abaningi benza khona iphutha elikhulu. Kulula ukucabanga ukuthi, "O, akukho okufanele ukhathazeke ngakho, kuzolunga ezinsukwini ezimbalwa." Kodwa iqiniso lihlukile kakhulu.
Kalula nje, ukudabuka ngokuvamile kuyimizwa yesikhashana. Singase sizizwe sidangele ngenxa yento eyenzekile, kodwa izophela ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, usuku noma ezimbili. Kodwa ukucindezeleka akufani nalokho. Kuyisifo sesikhathi eside esithinta impilo yethu yonke.
Cabanga ngakho, umuntu onesifo sokucindezeleka akudingeki ahlale edabukile. Ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa engenandaba futhi engenalutho. Ngezinye izikhathi angaba nolaka kakhulu futhi athukuthele.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuyisimo sengqondo esenza kube nzima ukujabulela impilo nokwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke. Akusikho ukudabuka nje kuphela.
Ungawuqonda kangcono umehluko kuleli thebula.
| Isici | Usizi Olujwayelekile | Ukucindezeleka |
|---|---|---|
| Isikhathi | Okwesikhashana. Kuhlala amahora ambalwa noma izinsuku ezimbalwa. | Isikhathi eside. Kuhlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili ngesikhathi. |
| Umthelela | Ungenza ezinye izinto empilweni ngenjabulo. | Anginaso isithakazelo sokwenza izinto engangizijabulela ngaphambili. Angizizwa ngijabule. |
| Izici zomzimba | Cishe cha. | Ukushintsha kokulala (ukulala kakhulu noma ukungalali ngokwanele), ukushintsha kwesifiso sokudla, ukukhathala komzimba. |
| Imizwa | Ungazizwa imizwa efana nokudabuka nokuzisola, kodwa futhi ungajabula. | Ukungabi nalutho, ukudumala, imizwa yecala, ukucasuka, intukuthelo esheshayo. |
2. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufisa kangakanani noma ukuthi unquma kangakanani, awukwazi ukukususa lokhu.
Iseluleko esifana nokuthi “Qina”, “Ungacabangi ngakho”, “Iya ethempelini noma esontweni bese wenza isinqumo” sivame kakhulu emphakathini wethu. Nakuba ukholo luyinto eletha amandla engqondweni, ukucindezeleka akulona ubuthakathaka bengqondo, kuyisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa.
Uma usho lokho, umuntu ohlushwa yilesi simo uzizwa sengathi, "Leli yiphutha lami, inkinga ukuthi angikwazi ukuzibamba." Lokho kumenza azizwe ecindezeleke kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke kufanele wenzeni?
Esikhundleni sokunikeza iseluleko, baphathe ngothando, ngomusa nangokuqonda. Ukusho izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Nginawe," "Uzizwa kanjani?", "Ingabe kufanele siye kudokotela?" kubaluleke kakhulu ngokuphindwe kayinkulungwane kunokuthi, "Nquma." Abakudingayo akuyena umuntu ozobalungisa, kodwa umuntu ozobalalela futhi ababambe isandla.
3. Ukucindezeleka kuyisifo sangempela.
Abantu abaningi basacabanga ukuthi ukucindezeleka “kuyinto oyicabangayo.” Kodwa lokho akulungile neze. Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo sangempela sezokwelapha, njengesifo sikashukela kanye nomfutho wegazi ophakeme.
Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi ukucindezeleka kubangelwa inhlanganisela yokungalingani kwamakhemikhali ebuchosheni bethu (ama-neurotransmitters), izakhi zofuzo, kanye nezici zemvelo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi akuyona into esingayilawula. Ngakho-ke uma wena noma othile omaziyo ebhekene nezimpawu zokucindezeleka, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukubona udokotela ofanelekayo noma umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo ngokushesha.
4. Ngisho nomuntu onenkani angase abe nokucindezeleka.
Sibheka umuntu ngaphandle bese sicabanga, "O, unamandla kangaka, kungani enalezi zinkinga?" Kodwa lokho akulona iqiniso. Ukucindezeleka akulona isilinganiso samandla omuntu.
Cabanga ngomama noma ubaba othwale yonke imithwalo yomndeni futhi waba amandla awo wonke umuntu, noma umuntu owenza konke kahle ehhovisi. Bangase bamomotheke futhi babonakale benamandla ngaphandle, kodwa bangase balwe impi enkulu ngaphakathi. Ukubizwa ngokuthi “banamandla” kubangela abantu abaningi ukuba bafihle izinkinga zabo futhi bahlupheke bodwa.
Khumbula, kuyinganekwane ukuthi ngoba nje unamandla akusho ukuthi ngeke uthole ukucindezeleka. Ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kuyinto eyenziwa ngumuntu onamandla ozicabangela yena.
5. Imithi yokucindezeleka ayikwenzi umuntu ' ozisolayo '.
Cishe uke wezwa izindaba ezinjengokuthi, "O, leyo mithi yokugula ngengqondo iyakwenza uhlanye," kanye nokuthi "Uzolala usuku lonke." Lokhu kwesaba yingakho abantu abaningi bengabaza ukufuna ukwelashwa.
Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi, imithi yokucindezeleka yanamuhla ingcono kakhulu. Ayikwenzi ulale noma ishintshe ubuntu bakho. Ikusiza ukuthi ulinganisele kabusha amakhemikhali asebuchosheni bakho asebengalingani , ikusize uzizwe unentshisekelo enkulu empilweni futhi ujabule futhi.
Yiqiniso, akuwona wonke umuntu odinga imithi. Kwabanye, ukwelashwa ngenkulumo noma ukushintsha indlela yokuphila kungase kwanele. Kodwa kumuntu odinga imithi, ukuthola imithi efanele ngaphansi kokuqondisa kukadokotela kungabasiza ukuba babuyisele impilo yabo endleleni efanele.
6. Ukucindezeleka akusho ukuthi ungumuntu ongemuhle.
Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi komama abahlushwa ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha (PPD). "Kungani ningajabuli yize ninomntwana omuhle?" kanye nokuthi "Kunabantu abaningi abahlupheka ngaphandle kwezingane, kufanele nijabuliswe yilokho eninakho," konke okwenza umama azizwe elimele kakhulu.
Ukucindezeleka akuyona into abangayikhetha, kuyisifo. Ngisho noma bezama ukujabulela lokho abanakho, izinguquko zamakhemikhali ebuchosheni babo ezibangelwa ukugula azibavumeli ukuba bazizwe bejabule. Eqinisweni, ukusho lokho kungenza bazizwe benecala nakakhulu futhi kwenze ukucindezeleka kwabo kube kubi nakakhulu.
7. Ukuzizwa ungcono kancane akusho ukuthi ukugula sekuphelile.
Abanye abantu bangase babhekane nokucindezeleka kanye kuphela empilweni yabo bese belulama. Kodwa kubantu abaningi, ukucindezeleka kuyisifo esingamahlalakhona, njengesifo sikashukela .
Cabanga nje, ingabe umuntu onesifo sikashukela angayeka ngokuzumayo ukuthatha i-insulin ngoba amazinga kashukela egazini lakhe emahle? Cha, akunjalo? Ngendlela efanayo, umuntu olashelwa ukucindezeleka akanakuyeka ukuthatha imithi yakhe noma ukuyeka ukwelashwa ngokushesha nje lapho ezizwa engcono kancane. Uma enza kanjalo, amathuba okuthi lesi sifo siphinde sivele aphezulu kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqhubeka nokuxhumana nodokotela wakho nokulandela iseluleko sakhe, noma ngabe uzizwa uphilile.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka akusikho nje ukudabuka. Kuyisifo sangempela esibangelwa izinguquko zamakhemikhali ebuchosheni.
- Lokhu akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka noma ukucabanga okungekuhle. Ngisho nabantu abanamandla, abanamakhono bangahlupheka ngenxa yalokhu.
- Esikhundleni sokunikeza iseluleko esinjengokuthi “yenza isinqumo sakho,” balalele, ubaqonde, futhi ubakhuthaze ukuba bafune iseluleko sezokwelapha.
- Imithi kanye nokwelashwa okunqunywe udokotela kuphephile futhi kungathuthukisa impilo yakho.
- Ungalokothi uyeke ukwelashwa ngaphandle kweseluleko sikadokotela wakho ngoba nje izimpawu zakho seziphelile. Lesi yisimo esidinga ukuphathwa isikhathi eside.
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