Kungu-5:30 ntambama. Cishe usasendleleni eya ekhaya uvela emsebenzini. Indodakazi noma indodana yakho esencane isanda kubuya esikoleni. Kodwa benzani ekhaya bodwa? Ingabe bachitha isikhathi nabangani babo futhi benza into engafanele? Ingabe unakho lokhu kwesaba okuncane noma ukungabaza engqondweni yakho? Uma uzizwa ngaleyo ndlela, awuwedwa. Lena inkinga abazali abaningi ababhekene nayo kulezi zinsuku.
Emphakathini wanamuhla, bobabili abazali bayasebenza. Ngezinye izikhathi kunomnakekeli oyedwa kuphela emndenini. Ngakho-ke, izingane zivame ukubuya ekhaya ngemva kwesikole ngaphandle kokugadwa umuntu omdala. Sikhuluma ngabantwana abancane. Ezinganeni ezincane, kunemisebenzi eminingi yangemva kwesikole kanye namakilasi okufanele zihlanganyele kuwo. Kodwa ezinganeni ezincane eziphakathi kweminyaka eyi-12-18, kunezinhlelo ezimbalwa kakhulu ezifanele futhi ezibagcina bematasa.
Kungani kudingeka sicabange ngalokhu kangaka?
Lokhu kungathi sína kakhulu kunalokho esikucabangayo. Izifundo ezahlukahlukene zithole ukuthi izingane ezincane ezichitha isikhathi zodwa ngaphandle kokugadwa ngabantu abadala zisengozini enkulu kakhulu yokwenza okubi .
Cabanga ngalokhu: Ucwaningo olwenziwe yi-American Academy of Pediatrics luthole ukuthi izingane ezineminyaka engu-8 ubudala ezichitha amahora angaphezu kwe-10 ngesonto zodwa zinamathuba acishe abe yi-10% okuzama izidakamizwa ezifana nensangu. Zinamathuba aphindwe kabili okubhema nokuphuza utshwala kunezingane ezihlala ziqashwe abantu abadala.
"Ukushiya izingane zinganakiwe kuyisici esikhulu esiyingozi ezintweni ezifana nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa nokukhulelwa kwentsha," kusho uPhilip B. Cunningham, MD, uprofesa wezifo zengqondo eMedical University of South Carolina. "Ngakho-ke uma ingane yakho ishiywa yodwa ngemva kwesikole uze ufike ekhaya, isengozini enkulu yokungena enkingeni."
Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izixazululo esingazithola kule nkinga ngaphandle kokuyeka umsebenzi wakho bese uhlala ekhaya? Ake sixoxe ngakho.
Akukhona lokho esikwenzela izingane zethu, yilokho izingane zethu ezingasenzela kona!
Kudingeka sishintshe indlela esicabanga ngayo ngale ndaba kancane. Esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi, "Singabanakekela kanjani abantwana bethu?", kungcono ukuqala ukucabanga ukuthi, "Yini laba bantwana abangasenzela yona, emphakathini?"
Kalula nje, ukuthumela izingane enkonzweni yomphakathi kuyisisombululo esihle kakhulu. Cabanga nje, lokhu kunikeza ithuba elihle lokusebenzisa isikhathi sazo samahhala ngendlela ewusizo.
- Siza ikhaya lasebekhulile eliseduze.
- Babandakanyeke emsebenzini ovamile ethempelini, esontweni, noma ethempelini.
- Uma ingane yakho ithanda izilwane, yikhuthaze ukuthi izinikele enhlanganweni esiza izilwane.
Uma ingane ihilelekile entweni enhle efana nale, amathuba okuba ihambe ngendlela engalungile ancipha kakhulu. Futhi, ingane iqala ukuzizwa ibalulekile futhi inomthwalo wemfanelo.
Omunye umqondo omuhle ukuhlangana nomakhelwane bakho bese nenza amalungiselelo amancane. Isibonelo, ungatshela abanye abazali ukuthi, "Ngingumzali osebenzayo, kodwa ngingachitha amahora amathathu ngesonto ngenza okuthile nezingane endaweni yakithi." Uma ungashintshana ngokubuka izingane, kuwusizo olukhulu kuwo wonke umuntu.
Ake sichaze lokhu kabanzi kuthebula elingezansi.
| Ukuziphatha Okuyingozi | Okunye Okuhle |
|---|---|
| Ukuchitha isikhathi, ukuzihlanganisa nabangane abangalungile. | Ukuzinikela emdlalweni, ukudlala insimbi yomculo, ubuciko, noma okunye ukuzilibazisa. |
| Ukuchitha isikhathi ngokungadingekile ku-inthanethi noma emidlalweni yevidiyo. | Khuthaza inkonzo yomphakathi, ukuzithandela, noma ukuya emtatsheni wezincwadi. |
| Isilingo sokusebenzisa izidakamizwa, ugwayi, njll. | Ukuhlonza amakhono engane nokuyisiza ukuthi iwathuthukise. (isib. amabhizinisi amancane, imisebenzi yezandla) |
| Ukuhlala unesizungu futhi ucindezelekile. | Ukusiza ekwakheni ubuhlobo nomuntu omdala omethembayo (uthisha, umqeqeshi, isihlobo). |
Ukubaluleka kokukhuluma nengane yakho
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ngaphezu kwakho konke ukugcina ukuxhumana okuhle nengane yakho .
"Iphi ingane yakho? Obani abangane bayo? Benzani?" Kungase kubonakale kuyinto 'engenamsebenzi' ukubuza ngalezi zinto, kodwa kungumthwalo wemfanelo wabazali. Kungokwemvelo yezingane ezincane ukuzama ukweqa leyo mingcele. Sidinga ukuqonda lokho futhi siziqondise ngothando.
Uma ukhuluma nezingane, ungaziphathi njengeziwula, eziyingozi, noma ezenza amaphutha njalo. Kunalokho, khuluma ngokuqiniseka ukuthi "lo mntwana anganikwa umthwalo wemfanelo, ukuthi angaqonda okulungile nokungalungile." Futhi, uma utshela ingane yakho ukuthi ingayenzi into ethile, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubeka isibonelo ngokungayenzi wena.
Ezinye izinto ongazenza:
- Yazi abangane bengane yakho: thola ukuthi bangobani, bahlalaphi, nokuthi bangobani abazali bayo. Uma kungenzeka, khuluma nalabo bazali .
- Ukuqapha ukude: Yakha uhlelo lokuqapha ingane yakho ngenkathi usemsebenzini.
- Beka isikhathi esithile sokubuya ekhaya.
- Bacele ukuthi bakunike konke uma ufika ekhaya.
- Cela umakhelwane omethembayo ukuthi ahlole ingane ukuze abone ukuthi ibuyile yini ekhaya.
Lezi zinto zingase zibonakale ziyinkinga, kodwa khumbula, akukho okubaluleke ngaphezu kokuphepha kwengane yakho kanye nekusasa layo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ngisho noma ingane yakho isencane, isadinga ukugadwa kanye nesiqondiso somuntu omdala. Ungayeki ngokuphelele ngoba "usengumfana omkhulu manje."
- Ungavumeli isikhathi somntwana wakho sichitheke. Mqondise emisebenzini emihle efana nezemidlalo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, kanye nenkonzo yomphakathi.
- Khuluma nengane yakho njalo. Mphathe ngenhlonipho, lalela imibuzo yakhe, futhi wakhe isimo ekhaya lapho ungakhuluma khona ngokukhululekile.
- Yazi abangane bengane yakho kanye nabazali bayo. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphepheni kwengane yakho.
- Uma ubona ushintsho olukhulu ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho (isib., intukuthelo eyeqile, ukuba yedwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukweqa umsebenzi wesikole) ongakwazi ukukuqonda, noma uma usola ukuthi isebenzisa into efana nezidakamizwa, akukaze kube sekwephuzile ukukhuluma ngakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iseluleko kudokotela omethembayo (udokotela) .
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