Ðe ŋugbledede kple Dhamma ate ŋu ada dɔléle nyateƒea? (Gbɔgbɔmenuwo & Lãmesẽ)

Ne kuxiwo do mo ɖa le míaƒe agbe me, ne míese le mía ɖokui me be míele fu ɖem na mí vevie la, mía dometɔ geɖe dia kpekpeɖeŋu aɖe ƒomevi, alo? Ame aɖewo yia gbedoxɔ, sɔlemexɔ, alo gbedoxɔ aɖe me be yewoƒe dzi nadze eme. Ame bubuwo dea ŋugble hedzea agbagba be yewoana yewoƒe susu nadze akɔ anyi. Eyata ɖe mawusubɔsubɔ kple gbɔgbɔmenu mawo ate ŋu akpɔ ŋusẽ ɖe míaƒe ŋutilã ƒe lãmesẽ, vevietɔ míaƒe susu dzi nyateƒea? Egbea míele nu ƒom tso nyati sia si le vevie na ame geɖewo ŋu.

Kadodo si le wò ahɔhɔ̃ kple wò gbɔgbɔmegbenɔnɔ dome

Ɣetoɖoƒetɔwo ƒe kɔnyinyiwo ƒe atikewɔwɔ metsɔ ɖeke le ame ƒe mawusubɔsubɔdzixɔsewo me boo o. Gake ema le tɔtrɔm. Numekuku yeye geɖe le eɖem fia be gbɔgbɔmenuwo alo mawusubɔsubɔ me nuwɔnawo ate ŋu akpɔ ŋusẽ ɖe míaƒe lãmesẽ dzi nukutɔe, vevietɔ susu ƒe lãmesẽ.

Kpuie ko la, numekuku gbogbo aɖewo ɖee fia be amesiwo zɔna ɖe gbɔgbɔme alo mawusubɔsubɔ ƒe nuwɔna aɖe dzi la ƒe blanuiléle, ameɖokuiwuwu, kple atike muamewo zazã mebɔ o . Tsɔ kpe ɖe eŋu la, anɔ eme be amesiwo dea sɔleme edziedzi, doa gbe ɖa, dea ŋugble, hekpena ɖe ame bubuwo ŋu la haya tso nuteɖeamedzi le nuteɖeamedzi megbe (PTSD) me eye woƒe susu nasẽ ŋu le nudzɔdzɔ dziŋɔ aɖe megbe.

Le Lisa Miller, si nye susuŋutinunyala le Columbia Yunivɛsiti ƒe nya nu la, nuwɔna siawo nana ame sena le eɖokui me be yele dedie le agbemeɣeyiɣi sesẽtɔwo kekeake me, “ame aɖe le ŋku lém ɖe mía ŋu, menye míawo ɖeɖe koe o.” Ame siwo kpɔa gɔmesese kple tameɖoɖo le woƒe agbenɔnɔ me to woƒe gbɔgbɔmedzixɔsewo me la tua susu ƒe ŋusẽ ɖo be woadze ŋgɔ kuxi sesẽ ɖesiaɖe ahaɖu edzi, wotua tenɔnɔ ɖe nɔnɔme sesẽwo nu be woadze ŋgɔ kuxi ɖesiaɖe si ava wo dzi.

Menye susu ƒe lãmesẽ ɖeɖeko ŋue esia ku ɖo o. Numekukuwo ɖee fia be ame siwo dea subɔsubɔhawo edziedzi la mexɔa kɔdzi boo o, eye ne woxɔ wo ɖe kɔdzi gɔ̃ hã la, wohayana heyia aƒeme kaba. Dɔnɔ siwo ŋu dɔléle sesẽwo abe kansa ene le gɔ̃ hã gblɔna be yewoƒe agbenɔnɔ de ŋgɔ wu ne yewowɔ ɖe gbɔgbɔmenuwɔna aɖe dzi.

Ame aɖe si lé blanui ɣeyiɣi didi aɖe ƒe ahɔhɔ̃ ƒe akpa aɖewo ate ŋu adze abe ɖe “wole tsɛ” (hypotrophy). Gake numekukuwo ɖee fia be ame aɖe si haya to gbɔgbɔmenuwɔnawo me ƒe ahɔhɔ̃ ƒe akpa mawo “lolona” (hypertrophy). Tɔtrɔ siawo siwo vaa ahɔhɔ̃a me ate ŋu akpɔ ame ta tso tagbɔdɔléle me . Gake wogale numekuku wɔm le alesi tututu esia dzɔnae ŋu.

Nu vevitɔe nye be, le esi teƒe be nàxɔe ase ko la, ele vevie ŋutɔ be nàwɔ ɖe nuwɔna aɖe si do ƒome kplii dzi . Ele abe susumedɔdamɔnu si ɖɔkta aɖe ŋlɔ ɖi ene. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, le atikewɔwɔwo abe ( Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – CBT) ene me la, nu mawo wɔwɔ atraɖii ye hea emetsonuwo vɛ.

Ðe ‘Mawu’ ƒe nukpɔsusua le veviea?

Ao, mehiã kokoko be wò gbɔgbɔmedzixɔse nanye mawusubɔsubɔ o. Ate ŋu anye kadodo kple “ŋusẽ si kɔ wu” alo “xexeame katã ƒe ŋusẽ.” Le ame aɖewo gome la, “nane si lolo wu wo ɖokui” ƒe seselelãme koe wònye. Ate ŋu atso Mawu aɖe dzixɔse si nɔ anyi tso blema ke dzi va ɖo kadodo deto si le wo kple xexeame katã dome, kple aɖaŋudɔwo dome, kple dzɔdzɔmenuwo dome, alo kple ame bubuwo dzi.

Bu seselelãme deto ma si míesena le mía ɖokui me ne míelé ŋku ɖe ɣe ƒe toɖoɖo dzeani aɖe ŋu, se hakpanya alo ha vivi aɖe, alo se vivi na dzɔdzɔmenuwo ƒe atsyɔ̃ si tso Sigiriya alo Xexeame ƒe Nuwuwu. Ema hã nye gbɔgbɔ me nuteƒekpɔkpɔ.

Eyata dzixɔse kple nuwɔna siwo wowɔ le se nu mehiã o. Àte ŋu ada akpe na ame bubuwo, aɖe dɔmenyonyo afia, awɔ nutoa me dɔwo, alo azã ɣeyiɣi ɖe dzɔdzɔmenuwo ŋu. Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be dzi le ye dzɔm eye ŋutifafa le ye me la, se haƒoƒo, xlẽ hakpanyawo, eye nàwɔ nu mawo geɖe wu.

Ŋusẽ si le ɖekawɔwɔ ŋu ɖe nusianu si wowɔ ɖeɖeko dzi

Ne míele nu ƒom tso “gbɔgbɔmeme” ŋu la, ate ŋu adze abe ame ŋutɔ ƒe nu ŋutɔŋutɔ, ame ɖekaɖekawo tɔ ene ɣeaɖewoɣi. Hadomegbenɔnɔ ŋuti nunyala Brandon Vaidyanathan gblɔ be: “Gake hadomenuwɔwɔwoe míenye. Míehiã ame bubuwo. Míehiã teƒe si míanɔ.”

Ðewohĩ esia tae subɔsubɔha si ŋu ɖoɖo le me nɔnɔ kpɔa ŋusẽ ɖe lãmesẽ dzi wu ɖokuisinɔnɔ le gbɔgbɔ me. Ne mede ɖeke o la, nenemae numekuku aɖe si wowɔ le COVID-19 dɔvɔ̃a wɔɣi la kpɔe.

Ne èyi gbedoxɔ alo sɔlemeha aɖe me eye nèwɔ ɖeka kple ame bubuwo la, èsena le ɖokuiwò me be “Nuto sia me tɔe menye.” Emae nye akogotsitsi ƒe atike nyuitɔ kekeake. Mèsena le ɖokuiwò me nenema ne wò ɖeka nède ŋugble le xɔ aɖe me o.

Gake esia ƒe akpa bubu aɖe hã li. Menye subɔsubɔhawo alo gbɔgbɔmehabɔbɔwo katãe nyo o. Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be yeƒe mawu alo nutoa me tɔwo he to na ye, wogblẽ ye ɖi, eye wòna nèse le ɖokuiwò me abe nuvɔ̃wɔla ene la, ate ŋu ana wò dzimaɖitsitsi, blanuiléle, kple nuteɖeamedzi nadzi ɖe edzi. Azɔ hã, ne dunyahehe, ameŋkumenuwɔwɔ, kple ameŋugblẽnyawo le miaƒe subɔsubɔhawo me la, kakaɖedzi li be nuteɖeamedziwo sɔ gbɔ le wo dome.

Aleke woate ŋu adzra atikewɔwɔ kple gbɔgbɔmedɔyɔyɔ dome ɖo?

Ðɔkta kple susuŋutinunyala aɖewo le dɔnɔwo ŋutɔ ƒe mawusubɔsubɔ alo gbɔgbɔme nuwɔnawo tsɔm de woƒe atikewɔwɔwo me xoxo (e.g., CBT). Numekukuwo ɖee fia be mɔnu sia wɔa dɔ nyuie ŋutɔ le atike muamewo zazã, blanuiléle si nɔa anyi didi, kple nuveviwɔame dzi kpɔkpɔ me.

Anna Yusim, si nye tagbɔdɔdala le Yale Atikewɔwɔ Suku, nye numekula veviedonula le nyati sia ŋu. Abe alesi wògblɔe ene la, “Gbɔgbɔmenuhiahiãwo nye ame ƒe anyinɔnɔ ƒe akpa vevi aɖe kple nu vevi aɖe.”

Etsɔa mawusubɔsubɔ kple gbɔgbɔmenuwɔna vovovowo dea eƒe dɔnɔwo dada me. Ne dɔnɔa ƒe dzixɔse veviwo nye woƒe xɔse ƒe akpa aɖe la, etsɔa gbedodoɖa, mawunyakpukpuiwo xexlẽ, kple gomekpɔkpɔ le mawusubɔsubɔ ƒe kɔnuwo me dea atikewɔwɔ ƒe ɖoɖoa me. Le amesiwo si mawusubɔsubɔdzixɔse tɔxɛ mawo mele o gome la, .Ezãa aɖaŋuwo abe ŋugbledede, yoga, kple gbɔgbɔ ƒe dɔwɔwɔ ene. Egblɔ be mɔnu siawo te ŋu na tɔtrɔ sẽŋu aɖe ŋutɔ eye wòtrɔa ame le dɔnɔwo ƒe agbenɔnɔ me.

Eya ta, ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be yeƒe gbɔgbɔmedzixɔsewo le vevie na yeƒe susu ƒe lãmesẽ la, mègavɔ̃ be yeaƒo nu tso eŋu na yeƒe ɖɔkta o. Gblɔ wò dzixɔsewo kple nusiwo naa akɔfafa wò la nɛ. Ate ŋu akpe ɖe ŋuwò be wò atikewɔwɔ nawɔ dɔ nyuie wu.