He nui ake te riri o tāu tamaiti i te mea e whakaarohia ana mō ngā mea iti? Kāore rānei ia i te tino harikoa, ā, ka uaua ki te whakahaere i tōna harikoa? I ētahi wā ka whakaaro pea koe, "He aha te take i pēnei ai te whanoke o taku tamaiti? Kāore ia e mōhio ki te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto?" Ehara tēnei i te whanoke, i te pakeke rānei. He mea tēnei e kitea pinepinetia ana i waenga i ngā tamariki e pāngia ana e te Mate Aro-Kore/Hyperactivity (ADHD) . Ka rongo rātou i ngā kare ā-roto pērā i ngā tāngata katoa, pērā i te pouri, te harikoa, te riri, me te wehi. Ko te rerekētanga he kaha ake te rongo i ēnei kare ā-roto, he maha ake te wā, ā, ka roa ake te wā ki te whakakore i aua kare ā-roto. Nō reira, me kōrero tātou me pēhea te mārama ki tēnei me te āwhina i tāu tamaiti.
He aha rātou i uaua ai ki te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto?
I te whakarapopototanga, nā tētahi panonitanga iti noa iho tēnei i te mahi a ō rātou roro. I a rātou e tamariki ana, he maha ngā tamariki e mahi pōrearea ana, e uaua ana rānei ki te marino ina tino harikoa rātou. Engari i a rātou e pakeke haere ana, ka ako rātou ki te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ka kiia hoki tēnei pūkenga ko te whakahaere i a rātou anō .
Whakaarohia te whakamahana i roto i tō tātou hauhautanga i te kāinga. Mēnā ka piki ake te pāmahana o te rūma i te pāmahana kua whakaritea, ka tahuri te whakamahana ka whakamatao anō i te rūma. Waihoki, ina piki ake te "mahana" o ō tātou kare ā-roto, he pūnaha anō tō tō tātou roro pērā i te whakamahana hei whakahaere i a ia. Engari i roto i ngā tamariki e pāngia ana e te ADHD, he ngoikore te kaha e kiia nei ko te whakahaere-ā-koe, arā, ko taua whakamahana. Nō reira, ina tino "wera" ō rātou kare ā-roto, he tino uaua ki a rātou te "whakamatao" anō, arā, te marino.
Ko te mea nui ko te mārama kāore te tamaiti e mahi ana i ēnei mea me te āta whakaaro . Ehara i te he nōna. Tērā pea me nui ake te wā me te āwhina e hiahiatia ana e rātou i ētahi atu tamariki hei ako i te whakahaere i ēnei whanonga .
Te whakaatu a ngā tamariki whai ADHD i ō rātou kare ā-roto
Kāore e rite ana te whanonga o ngā tamariki katoa e pāngia ana e te ADHD ina kore e taea e rātou te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ka ngaro te mana whakahaere o ētahi tamariki ina riri rātou. Ko ētahi, ina tonoa kia mahi i tētahi mea kāore e hiahiatia ana e rātou, kāore he hiahia, he hihiri rānei.
Heoi anō, kei reira ētahi tohu noa me mōhio koe.
| Āhuatanga e kitea whānuitia ana | He whakamārama māmā |
|---|---|
| Te riri, te pōuri rānei mō tētahi mea iti noa iho | Ahakoa he mea noa pea ki ētahi atu, e whakaaro ana rātou he raruraru nui. Ka mau tonu ō rātou whakaaro mō te kaupapa, ā, kāore e taea te whakakore, ka nui te ahotea hinengaro e pā ana. |
| Ka roa ake te wā e marino ai | Ka roa ake te wā e ora ake ai rātou i ētahi atu, ā, ka marino hoki i muri i te pānga o tētahi mea mamae. Ka taea e rātou te pupuri i te riri mō ngā hāora, tae noa ki ngā rā. |
| Ahakoa he iti noa te whakahē, he whakaeke nui tēnei | Ahakoa te whakaaro pai ki tāu kī atu, "E tama, ehara tēnei i te mea pēnei, meatia pēnei," kei te whakaaro rātou kei te whakaiti koe i a rātou, me te mea kua hē nui koe. |
| Te manawanui kore me ngā hiahia ohorere | Ki te mea kei te hiahia rātou ki tētahi mea, ka hiahia tonu rātou. He uaua ki a rātou te manawanui ki te kīia mai kia "tāria." |
Kia tūpato hoki ki te nui rawa o te harikoa. I ētahi wā ka taea e ngā tamariki whai ADHD te tino pēhia e ngā kare ā-roto pēnei i te harikoa me te harikoa, ā, ka mahi i waho o te mana whakahaere.
Me pēhea e taea ai e koe te āwhina i tāu tamaiti ki te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto?
He uaua pea te āwhina i tētahi tamaiti whai ADHD ki te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto, engari ehara i te mea kāore e taea. Anei ētahi mea hei āwhina i a koe.
Whakautehia ngā kare ā-roto o te tamaiti.
Ina kōrero tāu tamaiti mō ōna kare ā-roto, kaua e whakaititia mā te kī atu, "Kāore he aha," "Kaua e whakaaro nui ki tēnā." Engari, waihangahia he taiao haumaru mō tāu tamaiti ki te whakapuaki i ōna whakaaro. Whakarongo nui atu i te pātai. Ngāna ki te whakaaro mai i te tirohanga a tāu tamaiti. Kia mahara ahakoa te āhua kāore e mārama ki a koe, ko te kare ā-roto he mea e tino pā ana ki tāu tamaiti .
Waihangahia ngā tikanga hauora
- Pō mārie :Kia tino mohio kei te moe pai tāu tamaiti. Ka riri tātou ina kore e moe pai, pērā anō hoki ā tātou tamariki.
- Kai pai: Whakaratohia he kai whai kiko. He tino uaua ki te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto ina hiakai.
- Whakakorikori Tinana: Whakatenatenahia tāu tamaiti kia tākaro, kia whakakorikori tinana hoki mō te iti rawa i te haora i te rā. Mā te kaha tāpiri e tukuna ana mai i te tinana ka whakamarie i te hinengaro.
Ki te kōrero koe ki tō tākuta mō tēnei, ka taea e ia te tuku i a koe ki ngā kōwhiringa maimoatanga e tika ana mō tāu tamaiti, ki te tika. I ētahi wā, ka tino āwhina ngā tikanga pēnei i te Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) me te Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) .
Waihangahia he rārangi o ngā huarahi hei whakamarie i tō hinengaro (Ngā Pūkenga Whakatutuki i te Hinengaro)
Ina pāngia koe e te ahotea, e te riri rānei, tuhia he rārangi me tāu tamaiti mō ngā huarahi hei whakamarie i a koe anō, me te kore e whara i a koe anō, i ētahi atu rānei. Ka taea ētahi o ngā tikanga te mahi i te kāinga, ko ētahi ia ka taea te mahi i waho, i te kura.
Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te whakamātau:
- Te manawa hōhonu (he tikanga māmā pēnei i te manawa whakapūha mō te tatau e whā, te pupuri i tō manawa mō te tatau e whitu, me te tuku mārire i te manawa mō te tatau e waru).
- Te whakarongo ki tētahi waiata.
- Te tuhi i ngā mea kei roto i tō hinengaro ki roto i tētahi pikitia.
- Te tuhi i ngā mea kei roto i tō hinengaro ki roto i tētahi rātaka.
- Te oma me te tākaro.
- Te kōrero mō ō whakaaro ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe (māmā, pāpā, hoa).
Whakaarohia hoki tō hauora hinengaro.
He mea tino nui tēnei. Hei āwhina i tāu tamaiti, me ora koe i te tuatahi. He uaua ki te aro atu ki ngā kare ā-roto o tāu tamaiti ina pāngia koe e te ahotea me te riri. He rite ki te kī i roto i te āhuatanga ohorere i runga i te waka rererangi, "I mua i te āwhina i ētahi atu, kakahuria tō kopare hāora."
Waihangahia he rārangi o ngā huarahi hei whakamarie i a koe ina pāngia koe e te ahotea. Tonoa he āwhina mai i te whānau me ngā hoa ina hiahiatia. Mena ka taea e koe te whakauru atu ki ngā rōpū tautoko mō ngā mātua o ngā tamariki ADHD, he kaha nui anō hoki tēnā mōu. Kaua hoki e wareware ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnei mea, me te tiki i āna tohutohu.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He uaua ki ngā tamariki whai ADHD te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto, ehara i te mea he whanonga kino, engari nā te mea he wāhanga rātou o te mate tonu. Kāore rātou e mahi ana i tēnei i runga i te whakaaro.
- Whakautehia ngā kare ā-roto o tāu tamaiti. Whakarongo ki a rātou me te kore e aro ki a rātou, me te kore e pātai, "He aha tēnā?"
- He mea nui te moe pai, te kai whai kiko, me te whakakori tinana mō te taurite hinengaro o te tamaiti.
- Tāutuhia ētahi pūkenga ngāwari hei āwhina i tāu tamaiti kia marino ina riri, ina ahotea rānei.
- Hei āwhina i tāu tamaiti, me tiaki tuatahi koe i tō ake hauora hinengaro.
- Mena he āwangawanga āu mō tēnei, kaua e mamae ko koe anake, engari me toro atu ki tō tākuta whānau mō ētahi tohutohu.
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