Whakaarohia, he aha ō whakaaro mēnā ka kī ohorere mai te tākuta ki a koe he mate pukupuku te tangata tino nui o tō ao, tō wahine, tō tāne rānei? Ka rite ki te hinganga o te ao katoa ki a koe, kāore? Kua rongo tātou mō ēnei mea e pā ana ki ētahi atu, engari ina pā mai ki a tātou, he tino uaua ki te whakamanawanui. I pērā anō ōku whakaaro i taku kitenga he mate pukupuku ū tōku wahine. Kāore au i te mōhio me pēhea taku mahi i ēnei mea katoa ko au anake, me pēhea taku mahi me te tiaki i a ia.
"Ko tāna mahi he ora, ko taku mahi he mahi i ngā mea katoa"
Koinā te whakaaro tuatahi i puta ake ki tōku hinengaro. I whakaaro ahau ko tana kawenga he tere te ora, ā, ko taku kawenga he mahi i ngā mea katoa, tae atu ki ngā mahi o te whare, ngā mahi o waho, me āna mahi. Engari he raruraru nui me pēhea te tīmata i tēnā.
I kōrero mai ngā tākuta he mate pukupuku ū wāhanga 3 tā taku wahine. Me tango te puku o te uma, me tango te rongoā mate pukupuku, me te rongoā irahiko. I hiahia ia kia noho ahau i tōna taha i roto i ngā āhuatanga katoa, ā, i hiahia hoki ahau kia noho ki tōna taha i ngā huarahi katoa e taea ana e au.
I taua wā, i noho mātou i tētahi wāhi uaua, motuhake hoki. Nō reira, kāore he tangata hei āwhina i a mātou. Kāore he rōpū tautoko , he mea pērā rānei. Nā te mea he kaiwhakawhanake pūmanawa taku mahi, ka tīmata ahau ki te rapu i tēnei mea i runga i te ipurangi, i taku tikanga. Whai muri i te rapu roa, ka kitea e mātou te tohunga mate pukupuku pai rawa atu me te hōhipera mate pukupuku pai rawa atu.
I muri i tērā, i whakatapua katoatia e au tōku kaha ki tōna oranga. I roa ake te haerenga i taku i whakaaro ai. I whawhai māua ki tēnei mate mō ngā tau, tae atu ki ngā pokanga e ono, ngā rauna e rua o te chemotherapy, me ngā rauna e toru o te radiation therapy. I takai ahau i ōna patunga, i horoi i ōna paipa pokanga, i kaukau i a ia, i whāngai i a ia, ā, i hoatu hoki i ana rongoā ki a ia i te wā tika. I haria ia e ahau ki te hōhipera tata ki te 100 maero te tawhiti, ā, i haria hoki ia e ahau ki te kāinga. Kotahi te mea i mahia e ahau i roto i tōku hinengaro. Ā, ko te utu mō te wā roa mai i tēnei patunga poto, ko tōna ora, he mea utu nui.
I a koe e tiaki ana i tētahi e arohaina ana, kaua e wareware ki a koe anō. Mēnā he kaha koe, ka taea ai e koe te noho hei kaha mō tētahi atu.
Kua hoha hoki koe ki te tiaki i te tūroro? (Te ngenge o te Kaitiaki)
I muri i te rima tau o tēnei mahi, ka tīmata ahau ki te tino ngenge, ā, ka tīmata te ngenge o te hinengaro me te tinana. Ka karangahia tēnei āhuatanga e ngā tākuta ko te 'burnout' te 'compassion fatigue' rānei.Ko te ngenge aroha te ingoa. Ki te whakarapopoto, koinei te ngenge nui e pā ana ki a tātou i muri i te āwhina i tētahi atu. I tino hiahia ahau kia puta atu i te whare mō tētahi wā, kia matara atu i te kōrero mō te mate pukupuku, kia matara atu i te whakaaro mōna. Haunga ngā raruraru pūtea i puta ake i taua wā, kua nui rawa atu ēnei mea katoa e kore e taea te whakamanawanui.
He mea whakaharikoa te mōhio kāore koe i te mokemoke i tēnei wā. I uru atu ahau ki tētahi rōpū tautoko ipurangi. He tino āwhina i ahau. I homai he kaha nui ki ahau te mōhio kei reira ētahi atu tāngata kei roto i te waka kotahi me ahau.
Nā tēnei wheako, i whakaaro ahau me āwhina e au ētahi atu pērā i ahau, nō reira i tuhi ai ahau i tētahi pukapuka. I hangaia hoki e au ētahi paetukutuku hei āwhina i ngā tūroro me ō rātou kaitiaki.
Ngā wero me pēhea te aro atu ki aua wero
He haerenga tonu te tiaki i tētahi tūroro mate pukupuku . He maha ngā wero e pā ana ki a tātou i te ara. Me titiro tātou ki ētahi o aua wero me ngā mea hei āwhina i a tātou ki te whakatau i aua wero.
| Wero | Ngā Mahi Āwhina |
|---|---|
| Te mokemoke me te noho motuhake | Kōrero ki tētahi hoa pono, ki tētahi mema whānau rānei mō ō whakaaro. Hono atu ki ngā rōpū tautoko ipurangi. |
| Ngenge hinengaro me te tinana (Burnout) | Whakatakotoria he haora i te rā māu ake. Mahia tetahi mea e pai ana ki a koe. Moe noa, pānui pukapuka, whakarongo ki tētahi waiata. |
| Ngā kōrero kino a ētahi atu | Tērā pea ētahi tāngata e kōrero ana i ngā mea nā te kuware. Ngāna kia kaua e aro ki aua mea. I ētahi wā he otinga pai te whakamahi i te whakakatakata. |
| Ngā raruraru pūtea | Kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina. Kōrerohia tēnei ki tō whānau me ō hoa tata. Tērā pea ka taea e rātou te āwhina i a koe. |
Ngā akoranga i akohia e au i tēnei haerenga
He nui ngā mea i akohia mai e tēnei haerenga roa ki ahau mō te ao.
- Te hiranga o te whakakatakata: Ehara te mate pukupuku i te katakata. Engari tera ētahi wā ka kata nui koe ina titiro koe ki ētahi atu āhuatanga i puta mai i te mate pukupuku. He rongoā pai te kata i ēnei wā uaua.
- Te kōrero me te whakarongo: Kōrero ki tō hoa mō ō kare ā-roto, ō wehi, ō āwangawanga. Ā, whakarongo pai ki tāna e kōrero ai. Mā tēnei ka whakapakari i te hononga i waenganui i a kōrua.
- Me pēhea te mahi tahi me ētahi atu: Ka kōrero ngā tāngata i ngā mea rerekē i ngā wā pēnei. Ngā mea pēnei i te, "Āe, he aha i pēnei ai?", "Kāore koe i whakamātau i taua rongoā?" Engari kaua e riri i taua wā, akohia te tuku atu, me te whakaaro ko tō rātou kuware.
E toru ngā hokinga mai o te mate pukupuku o taku wahine (kotahi ki ōna wheua, e rua ki te mate pukupuku roro). Engari kei te ora tonu ia. E 25 tau māua e noho tahi ana, e 24/7, mō ngā tau e 7. Engari nā tēnei haerenga uaua i tata ai māua.
Ki te mea kei te haere koe i tētahi haerenga ōrite, kia mahara kāore koe i te mokemoke. Kei reira te whānau, ngā hoa, ngā tākuta, me te tini ke atu hei āwhina i a koe, hei whakakaha hoki i a koe. Ko te mea nui, kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He tino whakapau kaha, he wero nui hoki te tiaki i tētahi tūroro matepukupuku. He mea noa te ngenge me te taumaha i roto i tēnei haerenga.
- Kia mahara hoki ki tō hauora hinengaro me tō hauora tinana. Mā te hauora anake koe ka taea ai e koe te noho hei puna kaha mō tō hoa aroha.
- Kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina. Rapua he āwhina mai i te whānau, i ngā hoa, i ngā rōpū tautoko ipurangi rānei.
- Mena kei te raru koe ki te aro atu ki tō ahotea, kōrero ki tō tākuta ('Taote'). Tērā pea ka taea e ia te tuku atu i a koe ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro tika.
- Ahakoa i ēnei wā uaua, kimihia he wā harikoa, he wā hoki hei kata. He puna kaha nui tēnei māu, mā te tūroro hoki.
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