Kodi n'zotheka kukhala ndi banja lopambana ndi matenda a bipolar? Inde, n'zotheka. Tiyeni tikambirane za izi.

Kodi ndinu munthu amene ali ndi matenda amisala monga bipolar disorder ? Kapena munthu amene mumamukonda, mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu, ali ndi vutoli? Ngati ndi choncho, mafunso monga "Kodi ubalewu uli bwino?", "Kodi ukwati wathu ukuyenda bwino?" ayenera kuti akukuvutitsani maganizo. Ili ndi funso lomwe anthu ambiri ali nalo. Kotero lero, ndaganiza zolankhula nanu za izi kuchokera pa zomwe ndakumana nazo.

Pamene ndinali mu giredi 7, ndinauza aphunzitsi anga a sayansi kuti ndikufuna kukwatira posachedwa. Anaseka nati, "Ndi zomwe mwana aliyense wa msinkhu umenewo amaganiza. Ndi mahomoni, zomwe amaona kuchokera kwa makolo awo, komanso mphamvu ya anthu." Koma sindinavomereze. Ndinkaganiza kuti chifukwa changa chinali chapadera kuposa pamenepo.

Ndipotu, mpaka pamlingo wina, mphunzitsiyo anali wolondola. Ndinkafuna kukhala ngati wina aliyense. Ndinkafuna chikondi, kulandiridwa, ndi kukhazikika m'moyo wanga. Ndinkaganiza kuti ukwati ungandipatse zonsezi. Koma chifukwa changa chinali chosiyana. Ngakhale kuti sindinazindikire panthawiyo, vuto langa la bipolar linkandipangitsa kumva kuti ndine wopanda pake komanso wopanda pake nthawi zonse. Ndinkavutika ndi maganizo ofuna kudzipha komanso kudzida. Ndinkaganiza kuti ndikangokumana ndi munthu woyenera ndikukwatira, chisoni chonsechi chidzatha.

Ukwati si mankhwala othetsera mavuto: Maphunziro ovuta omwe ndinaphunzira

Ndipotu, ndinaphunzira movutikira kuti ukwati sungathetse mavuto anga. Ndipotu, unabweretsa mavuto atsopano. Ndinkaona mkazi wanga ngati amene angathetse mavuto anga onse. Choncho akalephera kuchita zimenezo, nthawi zonse ndinkamukwiyira. Ndinkamuimba mlandu chifukwa cha kusungulumwa kwanga ndi chisoni changa, ndipo ndinayamba kumuda.

Umenewo unali mkazi wanga woyamba. Tinakwatirana tili aang'ono kwambiri. Anali ndi zaka 18, ine ndinali ndi zaka 20 zokha. Tonse tinkaganiza kuti ukwati ndi matsenga omwe angatipatse moyo. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, tonse tinkakhumudwa nthawi zonse. Tinkachitirana nkhanza kwambiri. Patatha zaka zambiri titasudzulana, wina akafunsa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani ukwati woyamba sunayende bwino?" Ine ndimanena moseka kuti, "Ndikuganiza kuti akazi sakonda kukwatiwa ndi munthu wovutika maganizo amene sanachiritsidwe ."

Pamene mkazi wanga wachiwiri anandipeza, ndinapezeka ndi matendawa ndipo ndinayamba kulandira chithandizo. Koma ndinali ndisanachire mokwanira. Sindinazindikirebe kuti palibe wina amene angandichiritse.Ndinkaganiza kuti ndi mankhwala ndi ubale watsopano, ndingakhale wosangalala. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, ndimaganizabe kuti chisangalalo chimachokera kunja. Ndinkakhulupirira kuti ndingakhale wosangalala ndikakumana ndi munthu woyenera, ndikukhala pamalo oyenera, ndikupeza ntchito yoyenera.

Ubale wanga ndi mkazi wanga wachiwiri unali wabwino kuposa woyamba, koma sunakhalitse. Tinasudzulana patatha zaka 5, koma tinakhalabe mabwenzi abwino. Panthawi imeneyo, ndinaphunzira zambiri za matenda anga ndipo ndinapeza mankhwala oyenera kwa ine. Koma ukwati umenewo unathanso chifukwa sindinali "munthu wathunthu" pamene ndinalowa m'banja.

Kodi mwalakwitsa pati? Munakonza bwanji?

Malamulo a ukwati sasintha chifukwa chakuti ndine munthu wosinthasintha maganizo. Ndinalowa m'mabanja onse awiri ndikuganiza kuti, "Kodi mkazi wanga angandichitire chiyani?" Koma sindinaganizepo kuti, "Ndingamuchitire chiyani?" Ndinali ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa. Koma koposa zonse, ndinali wodzikonda kwambiri.

Sindinali munthu wokhazikika pamene ndinali ndekha. Choncho m'malo moyamba chibwenzi, zolakwa zanga zinayamba kuonekera kwambiri. Pozindikira izi, ndinadziwa kuti ndiyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti ndikhale ndi moyo wabwino ndisanayambe chibwenzi chokhazikika chomwe ndimafuna.

Ndisanakumane ndi mkazi wanga wachitatu, ndinali wosakwatiwa kwa zaka ziwiri ndi theka. Nthawi ino, ndinali ndi zambiri zoti ndimupatse. Ndinali wokhazikika, wosangalatsa, komanso wosamala. Ndinkatha kudzisamalira ndekha, ndipo ndimatha kumusamalira. Tinagwirizana chifukwa tonse tinkadziwa zomwe tinkafuna muukwati tisanakumane.

Tinapita patsogolo mosamala kwambiri. Sitinkafuna kukhala limodzi kuti tithetse vuto, koma kuti tiwonjezere miyoyo yathu, yomwe inali yokhazikika komanso yokhutiritsa ngakhale tisanayambe kukumana.

Ndinamuuza kuti aphunzire za matenda amisala ndi matenda a bipolar. Ndinkafuna kumuthandiza kumvetsetsa bwino momwe angathere za tanthauzo la kusamalira matenda aakulu kwa moyo wake wonse. Tinakambirana momasuka za zomwe ndinkakumana nazo komanso zomwe tinkayembekezera kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake pankhani yothandizirana ndi chisamaliro.

Lero, dongosolo langa la ukwati wosangalala ndikuwongolera vuto langa la bipolar komanso ukwati wanga momwe ndingathere. Ndine womasuka komanso wowona mtima kwa mkazi wanga, ndipo ndikuyembekezera chimodzimodzi kwa iye. Ndife gulu limodzi. Timasamalirana. Mu ukwati uwu, ndili ndi chikondi, kulandiridwa, ndi kukhazikika komwe aliyense amalakalaka. Koma chifukwa chake ndidapeza zinthu zimenezo mwa ine ndekha poyamba.