Phokoso la kutafuna chakudya mokweza, wina akulankhula mokweza kwambiri moti basi yonse imatha kumva akalandira foni, wina akusiya thaulo lonyowa logwiritsidwa ntchito pabedi... Kodi mumakwiya kwambiri komanso kukhumudwa ngakhale ndi zinthu zazing'ono kwambiri? Ndiye simuli nokha. Ambiri aife timamva ngati zinthu zazing'onozi ndi mavuto akulu. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika? Kodi izi ndi matenda? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi mwasayansi, mosavuta.
Kodi 'Peeves za Ziweto' izi ndi ziti?
Mwachidule, 'Pet Peeves' ndi zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimatikwiyitsa, zomwe zimatikwiyitsa, koma zomwe sizili zofunika kwa ena. Tangoganizirani wina m'nyumba mwanu akutha mapepala a chimbudzi ndipo osayika atsopano. Si vuto lalikulu kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi. Koma panthawi imeneyo, mungakwiye kwambiri. Mungamve nkhawa kwambiri, "Chifukwa chiyani mukuchita izi?" Ndicho chimene 'Pet Peeves' ali.
Anthu ena satha kupirira phokoso la munthu akutafuna chakudya chawo. Ena amakwiya wina akalankhula pafoni. Ena amakwiya wina akatafuna chingamu n’kunena kuti “soot”. Pali zifukwa zamaganizo ndi zamoyo zomwe zimayambitsa zonsezi. Maganizo ofala kwambiri pa zonsezi ndi mkwiyo ndi kusakhazikika.
Ndipotu, mkwiyo si vuto. Mkwiyo ndi malingaliro achibadwa a munthu. Koma vuto limayamba pamene simungathe kuuletsa.
N’chifukwa chiyani timakwiya ndi zinthu zazing’ono ngati zimenezi?
Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimapangitsa izi. Tiyeni tiwone chimodzi ndi chimodzi.
Chinachake chomwe chinachokera ku chisinthiko
Kuyambira nthawi ya makolo athu, mkwiyo wathandiza anthu kukhalabe ndi moyo. Kodi zimenezo zili bwanji?
1. Pamene cholinga chasokonekera: Tangoganizirani kuti mukuyendetsa galimoto pamsewu wopita kwinakwake, ndipo mwadzidzidzi wina akutseka njira yanu. Mukukwiya, eti? Chifukwa chake ndi chakuti ulendo wanu, ndiko kuti, cholinga chanu, wasokonezedwa ndi munthuyo. Mofananamo, ngati wina akuyimba nyimbo mokweza pamene mukugwira ntchito, zimasokoneza chidwi chanu. Panthawiyo, inunso mumakwiya.
2. Tikazindikira zoopsa: Ubongo wathu unapangidwa kuti uchitepo kanthu mokwiya tikazindikira zoopsa kapena zoopsa. Izi zimafuna kuchenjeza ena za zoopsazo ndikutilimbikitsa kuti tipewe. Phokoso la munthu amene akuluma misomali yake silili loopsa kwenikweni kwa ife. Koma chifukwa cha njira yakale imeneyi muubongo wathu, timayankha mosazindikira zinthu zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa.
Monga Zoopsa za Anthu
Iyi ndi mfundo yosangalatsa kwambiri. Tangoganizirani kuti munthu ali ndi vuto la fumbi. Poyamba, fumbi laling'ono silimayambitsa chilichonse. Koma pamene mukupitirizabe kukhudzidwa ndi fumbi, vuto lanu la fumbi limawonjezeka pang'onopang'ono, kenako fumbi laling'ono m'thupi lanu limayambitsa vuto lalikulu.
' PE t Peeves' ndi choncho. Poyamba, chinthu chaching'ono chimene munthu amachita sichingakuvutitseni kwambiri. Koma chinthu chomwecho chikachitika mobwerezabwereza, mumayamba kukhala ndi vuto la ziwengo. Kenako, chinthucho chikangochitika, mumakwiya kwambiri.
Zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti vutoli liipireipire
Nthawi zina, mkwiyo umene umachokera ku zinthu zazing'onozi ukhoza kukhala wosalamulirika. Gome ili pansipa likufotokoza zina mwa zifukwa zamaganizo zomwe zimapangitsa izi.
| Chifukwa cha maganizo | Momwe zimakhudzira |
|---|---|
| Kupsinjika Kwambiri | Tikakhala ndi nkhawa, kuleza mtima kwathu kumachepa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, tikhoza kukwiya msanga pazinthu zazing'ono zomwe nthawi zambiri sitingazisamale nazo. |
| Zotsatira Zosonkhanitsa | Si vuto limodzi laling'ono lokha, koma mavuto ambiri ang'onoang'ono amaunjikana limodzi motsatizana, ndipo amaoneka ngati katundu waukulu m'maganizo mwathu. Ali ngati chidebe cha madzi chomwe chimadzaza dontho limodzi nthawi imodzi. Ndi dontho lomaliza lomwe limatuluka. |
| Kumva ngati walephera kudziletsa (Mavuto Olamulira) | Tikamaona kuti sitingathe kulamulira chinthu china chake, zingayambitse kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa. Timakwiya chifukwa sitingathe kulamulira zinthu zazing'ono zomwe anthu ena amachita. |
| Chisonkhezero cha Banja | Zimene timaona tili ana zimakhudza khalidwe lathu. Ngati makolo athu kapena akuluakulu omwe tinakulira nawo ndi anthu omwe amakwiya ndi zinthu zazing'ono ndipo sangathe kuthana ndi nkhawa, mwina tingatsatire chitsanzo chimenecho. |
Kodi izi zingakhale zoposa 'Pet Peeve' chabe?
Inde. Nthawi zina izi zitha kukhala vuto lomwe limafuna chithandizo, osati kungokhala vuto wamba. Limodzi mwa mavuto amenewa ndi misophonia .
Kusamvera malamulo a boma ndi vuto limene munthu amakwiya kwambiri, kunyansidwa, kapena kuda nkhawa akamamva mawu enaake (monga kutafuna chakudya, kupuma, kulemba). Ndi vuto lalikulu kuposa 'kutopa' kwachibadwa chifukwa limasokoneza moyo wa munthu watsiku ndi tsiku (ntchito ya kusukulu, ntchito ya muofesi, kuyanjana ndi anthu ).
Taganizirani izi motere: Si aliyense amene amadwala chifukwa chomwa mowa pang'ono. Koma mukamwa mowa mopitirira muyeso popanda kuuletsa, umakhala vuto lachipatala. Ndizachibadwa kumva chisoni, koma ngati chikupitirira mosalamulirika, ndi vuto lachipatala lotchedwa kuvutika maganizo. Mofananamo, ndizachibadwa kukwiya pang'ono ndi phokoso limene wina akupanga. Koma ngati simungathe kuuletsa mkwiyowo, ndipo muyamba kutseka njira yopita kumalo kumene phokosolo limachokera, kumenyana nawo, ndikupewa kupita kumalo amenewo, likhoza kukhala vuto lomwe limafuna chithandizo.
Ndiye kodi timachita chiyani?
Pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungachite kuti muchepetse mkwiyo pa zinthu zazing'ono ngati izi.
1. Yang'anani ndi vutolo mwachindunji
Ngati pali chinachake chomwe chikukuvutitsani, pezani njira yothetsera vuto m'malo mochithawa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati wina akuonera makanema pafoni yake mokweza m'basi, mungafunse mwaulemu kuti, "Pepani, chonde mungayike mahedifoni?"
2. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi popuma komanso kutonthoza maganizo
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuchepetsa nkhawa yanu yonse. Izi zitha kuchitika popuma mozama, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi opumira , kuchita zinthu zosamala, komanso kuchita zinthu monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa zomwe mumakonda.
3. Lankhulani mwachindunji, koma mokoma mtima.
Nthawi zina kulankhula mwachindunji ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, munganene kuti, "Pepani, mwina ndili ndi vuto langa, koma ndikumva chisoni kwambiri ndi banga lomwe mwasiya pa kapu yanu ya khofi." Izi zitha kukhala zothandiza kwa onse awiri. Munthu winayo angasinthe khalidwe lake, ndipo inunso mungamve bwino chifukwa mwawonetsa momwe mukumvera.
4. Onani ngati yankho lanu lapitirira malire
Ngati mukudzimva kuti mukuganiza kuti, "Sindiyenera kukwiya kwambiri ndi chinthu chaching'ono chonchi," kapena ngati chikuyambitsa kupsinjika maganizo kapena chikupitirira kukhudza ubale wanu, izi zitha kukhala chizindikiro cha vuto lalikulu. Pazochitika zotere, ndikofunikira kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri ndi azachipatala. Lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu za izi. Iye angakuthandizeni kukhala panjira yoyenera. Mankhwala monga Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavuto amtunduwu.
Chofunika kwambiri ndi kusachita manyazi ndi malingaliro amenewa, kuwamvetsa, ndikupempha thandizo ngati kuli kofunikira.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
- 'Pet Peeves' ndi zinthu zomwe zimakukwiyitsani pa zinthu zazing'ono. Ndi zachilendo kwa anthu ambiri.
- Kumbuyo kwa malingaliro amenewa kuli malingaliro achibadwa a anthu monga mkwiyo ndi nkhawa. Zifukwa za kusintha kwa zinthu zimachitanso gawo pa izi.
- Vutoli likhoza kuipiraipira chifukwa cha zinthu monga kupsinjika maganizo, kuda nkhawa nthawi zonse, komanso kumva kuti munthu sakulamulira.
- Ngati kukwiya kwanu kwambiri ndi mawu ena kumakhudza moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku, kungakhale vuto lotchedwa Misophonia.
- Izi zitha kuthetsedwa mwa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi popuma, kulankhula mwaulemu, komanso kuchepetsa kupsinjika maganizo.
- Ngati yankho lanu lapitirira mulingo woyenera, musazengereze kufunsa dokotala wanu kuti akupatseni upangiri.
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