Ese agahinda kawe karagoye kwihanganira? Reka tuvuge ku bujyanama ku bibazo by'agahinda

Ububabare n'irungu twumva iyo dupfushije umuntu wa hafi kandi umukunda biragoye kubisobanura, si byo se? Ni kimwe n'iyo duhuye n'igihombo gikomeye mu buzima bwacu bitewe n'impanuka cyangwa ibiza. Aka gahinda n'umubabaro mwinshi ni byo twita "agahinda." Ibi ni ibisanzwe, ariko rimwe na rimwe aka gahinda kaba gakomeye ku buryo tudashobora kwihanganira. None rero uyu munsi, reka tuganire ku cyo agahinda ari cyo n'uburyo twabona ubufasha bwo guhangana nacyo.

Ubujyanama ku bibazo by'agahinda ni iki?

Mu magambo make, ubujyanama ku bijyanye n'akababaro ni uburyo bw'ubuvuzi bw'umwuga bugufasha guhangana n'agahinda n'ububabare bukomeye wumva. Bugufasha gusobanukirwa ibyiyumvo byawe, aho kubirwanya, no kubaho mu buzima bwawe bushya.

Inzobere mu ndwara zo mu mutwe Elisabeth Kubler-Ross yagaragaje ibyiciro bitanu by'ingenzi by'agahinda mu 1969. Nubwo atari buri wese unyura muri ibyo byiciro byose uko bikurikirana, ni ngombwa kubimenya.

• Kwanga: Gutekereza uti "Oya, ibi ntibishoboka."
• Uburakari : Kurakara kuri wowe ubwawe, abandi ndetse no ku Mana, ukibaza uti "Kuki ibi byambayeho?"
• Guhuza: Kugerageza guhindura ibintu utekereza ibintu nk'ibi, "Iyo mba narabikoze, yari kuba akiri hano."
• Kwiheba: Kumva ufite agahinda kenshi, irungu, no kubura icyo ushishikazwa nacyo.
• Kwemera: Kwemera ko igihombo cyabayeho no gufata icyemezo cyo gukomeza uwo mugambi.

Muri iki gihe, ushobora kandi kugira ibimenyetso nk'ibi:

• Kumva ubabaye cyane
• Kutamenya ukuri
• Guhangayika no kubura amahoro
• Umuhangayiko ukomeye wo mu mutwe
• Gusinzira nabi
• Gukunda kurya

Niba ibyo byiyumvo bikugora gukora mu buzima bwawe bwa buri munsi, ni ikimenyetso cy'uko ukeneye ubufasha. Hari abantu bakira mu mezi 6, ariko abandi bashobora kumara umwaka cyangwa irenga.

Ese hari ubwoko butandukanye bw'agahinda?

Yego, imiterere y'agahinda ishobora gutandukana bitewe n'imiterere y'igihombo twahuye na cyo ndetse n'umubano twagiranye n'uwo muntu cyangwa ikintu. Reka turebe ubwoko bumwe bw'ingenzi.

Agahinda katoroshye

Abantu benshi biga gucunga agahinda kabo uko igihe kigenda. Ariko kuri bamwe (hafi 15%), aka gahinda gashobora kumara umwaka umwe cyangwa urenga, kandi gashobora kuba gakomeye cyane. Ibi byitwa agahinda gakomeye . Bishobora gutuma bigorana gukora mu buzima bwa buri munsi.

Agahinda gaterwa n'ihungabana

Tekereza uko wakwiyumva uramutse upfushije uwo ukunda mu buryo butunguranye, nko mu mpanuka, cyangwa niba warabonye ibyabaye n'amaso yawe. Agahinda kabaho muri iyo mimerere gashobora kwitwa agahinda gateye ihungabana . Ibi byiyumvo rimwe na rimwe bishobora kugaragara nyuma y'amasaha, iminsi, cyangwa ibyumweru nyuma y'ibyabaye. Ibi bishobora kuba ibintu bigoye cyane kandi biteye ubwoba guhangana nabyo. Niba urimo guhura n'ibi, hita ubonana na muganga wawe kandi ushake ubufasha.

Indwara y'Umutima Yavunitse

Nubwo agahinda gashobora kwica umuntu gake, guhangayika guterwa n'agahinda gatunguranye bishobora kugira ingaruka ku mutima. Iyo wumva agahinda gakabije, umubiri wawe urekura imisemburo myinshi yo guhangayika. Ibi bishobora gutuma igice cy'umutima wawe kibyimba kandi amaraso yawe agatera amaraso mu buryo butunguranye. Ushobora kandi kugira ububabare mu gituza, nk'indwara y'umutima. Ibi byitwa indwara y'umutima yacitse . Ariko ntugahangayike, abantu benshi bakira mu byumweru bike.

Isano iri hagati y'agahinda n'ihungabana

Ibimenyetso by'agahinda, nko kubabara, guhangayika no kwiheba, bisa cyane n'iby'agahinda. Ariko, ibi biratandukanye. Ariko, agahinda gashobora no gutera kwiheba, bishobora gutuma agahinda karushaho kwiyongera. Kubwibyo, niba ufite ibi bimenyetso, ni ngombwa cyane kuvugana na muganga, inzobere mu ndwara zo mu mutwe, cyangwa umujyanama.

Ni ubuhe buryo bukoreshwa mu gutanga inama ku bijyanye n'akababaro?

Hariho intego enye z'ingenzi zo gutanga ubujyanama ku bijyanye n'akababaro:

• Gufasha kwemera ko igihombo ari impamo.
• Ubuyobozi bwo guhangana n'ububabare bw'agahinda.
• Gufasha kumenyera ubuzima butari kumwe n'umuntu wabuze.
• Gushaka uburyo bwo gutera imbere mu buzima, mu gihe ukomeza kugirana umubano n'uwazimiye mu mutima wawe.

Kugira ngo ibi bigerweho, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze cyangwa abajyanama bakoresha uburyo nka CBT cyangwa Psychotherapy .

Ni gute wafasha abana guhangana n'agahinda?

Abana bagira agahinda mu buryo butandukanye n’ubw’abantu bakuru. Mu ntangiriro ntibasobanukirwa icyo kubura n’ingaruka zacyo ku buzima bwabo. Biga kubabara bareba abantu bakuru. Kubwibyo, ni ngombwa kuba inyangamugayo no kuvugana n’umwana kuri ibi.

Niba wapfushije uwo ukunda, ni ngombwa gushaka ubufasha bw'umujyanama w'abana kugira ngo agufashe kumenya uburyo bwo guhangana n'agahinda mu buryo bwiza. Ushobora kandi kwitabira ubuvuzi bw'umuryango nk'umuryango. Ushobora kandi gufasha umwana wawe gusobanukirwa iki gihombo binyuze mu bikorwa nko kuvuga inkuru no gukina.

Ni gute nabona inama?

Niba agahinda kawe kagukomereye kandi kakakugora gukora, ni byiza gushaka ubufasha bw'inzobere. Ntabwo ari kare cyane cyangwa ngo bitinde cyane gushaka ubufasha. Ariko uko ushaka ubufasha vuba, ni ko ushobora kongera imbaraga ukeneye kugira ngo uhangane na bwo vuba.

Ushobora kuvugana na muganga w’umuryango wawe ukabona koherezwa kwa muganga w’imitekerereze cyangwa umujyanama w’umuhanga. Ushobora kandi kubona ubufasha mu mashami y’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe mu bitaro bya leta. Icy’ingenzi ni ugusaba ubufasha ntubabare wenyine.