Ni gute watoza umwana wawe ubwiherero? (Gutoza ubwiherero) Reka tubiganireho!

Uko umwana wawe agenda akura, hari imbogamizi nyinshi nshya uzahura nazo nk'umubyeyi cyangwa se, sibyo? Kimwe muri byo ni ukumenyera umwana wawe kujya mu bwiherero, ni ukuvuga kumwigisha kugenzura inkari ze n'umwanda . Ababyeyi benshi bagira ubwoba iyo babitekerejeho, kandi bibaza ibibazo byinshi nka 'Mana yanjye, nkwiye gutangira ryari?' na 'Ese umwana wanjye yiteguye ibi?'. None rero uyu munsi, reka tuganire ku buryo iki kintu cyitwa 'Toilet Training' gikorwa, ni ryari tugomba gutangira, n'icyo tugomba kwitondera.

Wamenya ute niba umwana wawe yiteguye kujya mu bwiherero?

Ababyeyi benshi batekereza bati 'Oh, umwana w'inshuti yanjye yatangiye kujya mu bwiherero afite amezi 18, bityo uwanjye agomba gutangira afite imyaka imwe.' Ariko ukuri ni uko atari abana bose bameze kimwe. Umwana umwe aba yiteguye mu gihe gitandukanye n'ikindi. Rero si byiza gushingira ibyemezo ku myaka gusa. Icy'ingenzi kurushaho ni ukureba ibimenyetso byerekana ko umwana wawe yiteguye ku mubiri no mu mutwe. Ni nko kwiga gusoma inyuguti no kumenya amabara mbere yo kujya ku ishuri.

Tekereza, ese wigeze ubona umwana wawe ahita ahagarika ibyo akora arimo gukina, akakureba akanya gato, wenda akanamukoraho? Ni mu tuntu duto nk'utwo dushobora kumva ko 'Oh... asa n'urimo kwituma amara ubu, arabyumva'. Iki ni cyo kimenyetso cya mbere kandi cy'ingenzi.

Rero, ni ngombwa cyane kwita kuri ibi bimenyetso kuruta imyaka. Reka turebe ibindi bimenyetso byerekana ko umwana yiteguye.

Witondere kandi ibi bimenyetso bigaragaza ko umwana wawe yiteguye:

Niba umwana wawe akora ibi bintu, bishobora kuba ikimenyetso cy'uko yitegura gutangira imyitozo yo kwiyuhagira:

• Ubushobozi bwo kumva amabwiriza yoroshye: Iyo utanze amabwiriza yoroshye nka 'zana umupira' cyangwa 'mpa inkweto zawe', reba niba abyumva kandi akabikora uko bikwiye. Ubwo bushobozi burakenewe kandi mu myitozo yo kwiyuhagira kugira ngo usobanukirwe ibintu nka 'reka tujye mu isafuriya' na 'kwicara'.
• Gusobanukirwa no gukoresha amagambo ajyanye n'ubwiherero: Ese yumva amagambo nka ' inkari ', 'inkongoro', 'ijipo ritose'? Ese agerageza kuyavuga? Nubwo adashobora kuvuga ' mama ', ese agerageza kukubwira mu buryo runaka (wenda yerekeza ku ijosi cyangwa agatera urusaku ruteye ubwoba) iyo yumva akeneye?
• Gusobanukirwa isano iri hagati yo kunyara /kwitumamo no gukoresha ubwiherero: Igitekerezo cy'uko 'ndimo kunyara , bityo ngomba kujya mu mwobo' kigomba kwinjira buhoro buhoro mu mutwe we muto. Ibi bishobora kutazabaho mu ntangiriro, ariko nyuma y'igihe gito azamenya iyo sano.
• Ese ikariso imaze amasaha abiri cyangwa arenga itose? Ibi bivuze ko uburyo bwo kugenzura uruhago rwe bwarushijeho kuba bwiza, kandi arimo kwihagarika inkari nyinshi icyarimwe.Ni ukubasha kwihanganira ibiro runaka. Iyo umwana atangiye kunyara mu gihe cy'iminota 30 mbere y'uko abyitwaramo, ntabwo aba yiteguye.
• Kuba ushobora kujya mu cyuma cyo mu gikoni wenyine, ukicaraho akanya gato, hanyuma ukongera guhaguruka: Kwicara ku cyuma na byo ni ikibazo ku bana bato. Bagomba kugira imbaraga z'umubiri n'ubwihangane kuri byo.
• Kuba ushobora gukuramo imyenda yo mu bwoko bwa "diapers" , "training pantalo", cyangwa imyenda y'imbere: Niba ushobora gukuramo imyenda wenyine, ni ingirakamaro cyane. Bitabaye ibyo, uzakenera gufasha igihe cyose.
• Kugaragaza ko ushishikajwe no gukoresha agatambaro cyangwa kwambara imyenda y'imbere: Hari abana bashishikajwe no gukoresha agatambaro cyangwa kwambara imyenda y'imbere iyo babonye ababyeyi babo bagiye mu bwiherero. Bashobora kuvuga bati "Nanjye ndashaka kujyayo," cyangwa "Ndashaka agatambaro nk'ako." Niba hari uwo mushishikajwe, ni igihe cyiza cyo gutangira.

Icy'ingenzi: Si abana bose bagaragaza ibi bimenyetso byose mu buryo bumwe cyangwa icyarimwe. Ariko niba umwana wawe agaragaza byinshi muri ibi, birashoboka ko igihe cyo gutangira buhoro buhoro.

Abana benshi batangira kugaragaza ibi bimenyetso hagati y'amezi 18 na 24. Ariko bamwe mu bana bashobora kugaragara nyuma, wenda bafite imyaka 3. Nta kibazo kiri muri ibyo. Abahungu, cyane cyane, bakunze gutangira batinze gato ugereranije n'abakobwa kandi bifata igihe kirekire kumenyera. Rero ntukitege ko umuhungu wawe azamenyera imyaka nk'iy'umukobwa w'inshuti yawe. Muhe umwanya we.

Ni izihe nzira nziza nahitamo mu gihe natinze gutangira imyitozo ngororamubiri?

Nubwo umwana wawe yaba agaragaza ibimenyetso byerekana ko yiteguye kujya mu bwiherero, hari igihe byaba byiza gutinda gutangira iki gikorwa. Kuko mu bihe nk'ibi, umwana wawe ashobora kuba adafite ukwitaho guhagije no kwihangana guhagije kugira ngo amenyere ikintu gishya. Kandi ushobora no kugira umwanya muto n'imbaraga nke zo kugikoresha.

Tekereza uramutse utangiye imyitozo yo kwiyuhagira mu bwiherero igihe witeguraga urugendo rurerure, cyangwa igihe wari ufite umwana mu rugo? Ni ikibazo cy’inyongera ku mwana, ndetse no kuri wowe. Bityo rero ni byiza gutinda gutangira imyitozo yo kwiyuhagira mu bwiherero muri ibi bihe:

• Mu rugendo: Niba ujya hanze kenshi cyangwa ugenda urugendo rurerure, gutangiza ubwiherero bushya bishobora kukugora wowe n'umwana wawe. Bishobora kugorana niba ugomba gushaka aho guterera amazi ahantu hose, cyangwa niba umwana wawe adashobora kugenzura irari rye.
• Iyo umwana mushya yinjiye mu muryango cyangwa agiye kwinjiramo: Iyo umuvandimwe cyangwa mushiki we mushya avutse, umwana mukuru aba yamaze kumva itandukaniro rikomeye. Igihe cyo kwita ku bintu biratandukana, ndetse ashobora no kugira ishyari. Muri icyo gihe, indi mpinduka ikomeye, kwitoza kwiyuhagira, ishobora kugorana kuri we.
• Mu gihe wimura umwana mu buriri umujyana mu buriri:Kuva ku buriri bw'umwana ujya ku buriri na byo ni ibintu bishya ku mwana. Ni byiza gutegereza kugeza igihe abimenyere mbere yo gutangira imyitozo yo kwiyuhagira. Biragoye ku mwana kwihanganira impinduka ebyiri cyangwa eshatu zikomeye icyarimwe.
• Iyo wimukiye mu rugo rushya: Kwimukira mu rugo ni ikibazo gikomeye. Bifata igihe kugira ngo umwana amenyere ahantu hashya. Ntugatangire iki gikorwa mu gihe nk'icyo.
• Iyo umwana wawe arwaye (cyane cyane iyo afite impiswi ): Ntukagerageze ibintu bishya iyo umwana wawe arwaye umuriro cyangwa ibicurane. Ntugatangire imyitozo yo kwiyuhagira niba umwana wawe afite impiswi. Biragoye ko agenzura inkari n'imyanda muri icyo gihe, kandi aba yumva amerewe nabi cyane.

Ibuka: Kwigisha ubwiherero si ikintu cyo kwihuta cyangwa guhatirwa. Ibisubizo byiza biza iyo umwana wawe yishimye kandi utuje. Niba bibaye ngombwa, gisha inama muganga w'umuryango wawe cyangwa umuganga w'abana kuri ibi.

Izindi nama nke zo kwitoza ubwiherero neza

Noneho, ubu uzi uburyo bwo kugenzura niba umwana wawe yiteguye n'igihe atagomba gutangira. Noneho, reka turebe utuntu duto dushobora koroshya iki gikorwa kandi kikagenda neza kurushaho.

• Komeza kugira imitekerereze myiza: Iki ni cyo kintu cy'ingenzi kurusha ibindi. Nurakazwa cyangwa ugatuka umwana wawe, azarushaho kugira ubwoba no kudashaka gukora iki gikorwa. Vuga umutera inkunga, urugero nka, "Sawa, mwana wanjye, reka tugerageze," cyangwa "Nta kibazo niba tudashobora kubikora uyu munsi, tuzareba ejo."
• Hitamo agakoresho ko mu gikoni: Hitamo agakoresho koroshye ko umwana wawe akoresha, kandi azakunda. Hari udukoresho two mu gikoni dufite indirimbo n'amatara. Iyo umwana wawe akunze, azashishikazwa no kugakoresha. Agakoresho gakwiye gushyirwa aho umwana wawe ashobora kujya byoroshye, ahantu akunze kumara igihe kinini. Ntabwo ari ngombwa ko kaba mu bwiherero mu minsi ya mbere.
• Jyana umwana wawe mu cyuma kenshi: Jyana umwana wawe mu cyuma cyane cyane iyo akangutse mu gitondo, nyuma yo kurya, nyuma yo gusinzira, na mbere yo kuryama nijoro. Iki ni cyo gihe aba ashobora kunyara /kwituma.
• Emera ko 'impanuka' ari ibisanzwe: Mu ntangiriro, umwana ashobora kutabasha kujya mu cyuma gishyushya neza kandi ashobora kunyara /kwituma ku myenda ye. Izi zitwa 'impanuka'. Ntugakange cyangwa ngo umuhane mu bihe nk'ibyo. Ahubwo, vuga utuje uti 'Ubwo wanyoye gato, sibyo? Nta kibazo, tuzajya mu cyuma ubutaha,' hanyuma ugisukure.
• Shyira icyubahiro kandi utange impano nto: Iyo umwana wawe akoresheje agasanduku neza, mushimire amagambo nka 'Wow... umukobwa wanjye/umuhungu wanjye ni umunyabwenge cyane!', 'umuhungu mwiza/umukobwa mwiza!' Ushobora kandi kumuha ikintu nk'agapapuro gato cyangwa igikinisho gito akunda. Ariko ntukabigire akamenyero. Ikintu cy'ingenzi ni ukumwereka ibyishimo byawe.
• Menya imyenda y'imbere:Nyuma y'igihe runaka, umwana wawe amaze kumenyera kujya mu isafuriya, mukuremo ipantaro hanyuma mushyiremo ipantaro nziza. Muri ubwo buryo, azumva ameze nk'umuhungu mukuru ubu. Nanone, kubabara mu kuvoma ipantaro ye bishobora kongera ubushake bwe bwo kujya mu isafuriya.
• Ihangane: Iki si ikintu gishobora gukorwa mu munsi umwe cyangwa ibiri. Hari abana bashobora gufata ibyumweru, cyangwa amezi, kugira ngo bamenyere neza ibi. Rero ibi ubikorane kwihangana n'urukundo.

Ntiwibagirwe: buri mwana aratandukanye. Kuba umwana w'inshuti yawe yarize gukoresha icyo gikoresho mu minsi itatu ntibivuze ko umwana wawe na we azagikoresha. Fasha umwana wawe ku muvuduko we.

Ibintu by'ingenzi cyane ugomba kwibuka (Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo)

Sawa, reka twongere twibukiranye ingingo z'ingenzi cyane mu byo twaganiriyeho uyu munsi.

• Nta myaka runaka ihari yo gutangira kwimenyereza ubwiherero. Ni ngombwa gushaka ibimenyetso byerekana ko umwana wawe yiteguye.
• Iyo umwana yumvise amabwiriza, akavuga amagambo yerekeye inkari / imyanda, agakomeza kuba yumye amasaha arenga abiri, kandi agashishikazwa n'inkono, ibyo ni ibimenyetso byiza.
• Ubusanzwe abahungu bafata igihe gito kugira ngo bamenyere ibi.
• Ntugatangire imyitozo yo kwiyuhagira mu gihe hari impinduka nini mu nzu (umwana mushya, inzu yimuka), cyangwa igihe umwana arwaye.
• Ukwihangana, imyitwarire myiza, no gushyigikirwa ni byo nshuti zawe magara muri uru rugendo.
• Impanuka ni ikintu gisanzwe muri iki gikorwa. Ntugahangayikishwe nazo.
• Niba ufite gushidikanya, ntugatinye gusaba inama kwa muganga w'umuryango wawe cyangwa ku muganga w'abana .

Nkwifurije ibyiza byose wowe n'umwana wawe mu gutsinda iki kibazo gishya!

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