Ukuba ngumzali yenye yezona mbopheleleko nemingeni mikhulu ehlabathini. Yinto wonke umntu anayo. Kodwa ukuba une-ADHD ( attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), lo mngeni unokuba nzima ngakumbi. Iimpawu ze-ADHD ezifana nobunzima bokunikel' ingqalelo, ukungabi namdla, kunye nobunzima bokuhlela zinokwenza kube nzima nangakumbi ukunyamekela abantwana bakho. Kwakhona, i-ADHD inokuba yimfuza. Yiyo loo nto malunga nesiqingatha sabantwana abane-ADHD benomama okanye utata naye onayo le meko. Ngoko ke, makhe sibone indlela yokujongana ngempumelelo nalo mngeni.
Okokuqala, lawula i-ADHD yakho.
Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ukuba uthatha unyango olufanelekileyo lwe-ADHD yakho, nokuba ngamayeza okanye unyango lokuziphatha, luya kukunika amandla kakhulu njengomzali. Luya kunciphisa noxinzelelo kuwo wonke umntu kusapho.
Khawucinge ukuba kuya kuba lula kangakanani kuwe ukulungiselela umntwana wakho ukuya esikolweni, enze umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, aze enze izinto ezincinci ngaphambi kokuba alale ebusuku. Isiqhelo esifana nesi silula kakhulu kuwe nakumntwana wakho.
Abazali abane-ADHD ngamanye amaxesha banengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo xa umntwana wabo esenza impazamo. Basenokulibala nokuxabisa izinto ezintle ezenziwa ngumntwana wabo. Unyango olufanelekileyo lunokubanceda balawule ezi mvakalelo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho naye une-ADHD, kubalulekile ukuba umncede afumane unyango. Xa iimpawu zakho zilawulekile, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukunika umntwana wakho amayeza akhe ngexesha kwaye ukhumbule amaxesha akhe okubonana nogqirha.
Khumbula, ungamnyamekela kakuhle umntwana wakho kuphela xa uphilile. Njengakwimeko kaxakeka kwinqwelo-moya, kufuneka unxibe imaski yakho yeoksijini ngaphambi kokuba uncede abanye.
Zibekele ixesha lokuchitha nabantwana bakho.
I-ADHD inokubangela ukuba ingqalelo yakho ihlale iphambukiselwa kwezinye izinto, nto leyo enokubangela ukuba ungazi ukuba umntwana wakho uphoswa yingqwalasela yobuqu ayidingayo.
Isisombululo esilungileyo kukubeka ecaleni ixesha elincinci yonke imihla njenge "xesha lomntwana." Nokuba yimizuzu eli-15 kuphela, ayinamsebenzi. Beka isikhumbuzo kwidayari yakho okanye kwifowuni yakho ukuqinisekisa ukuba ulibekela ecaleni eli xesha lomntwana wakho. Ngeli xesha, nobabini ningadlala kunye, nizobe umfanekiso, okanye nithethe nje.
Sebenzisa isibali-xesha ukuze uhlale ugxile.
Xa unyamekela abantwana, kunokuba nzima ukugcina ingqondo yakho igxile. Xa ingqondo yakho ikwenye indawo, umntwana unokuba sengozini. Lo mngcipheko uphezulu ngakumbi ukuba umntwana naye une-ADHD.
Amandla okuzenzela kuphela awanelanga koku. Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukusebenzisa isibali-xesha . Ngokuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana, seta isibali-xesha imizuzu eli-15 ukuya kwengama-30, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha usiva isandi, mjonge umntwana kwaye ujonge ukuba uphilile kwaye ukhuselekile na. Oku kuya kunceda ukubuyisela ingqalelo yakho kumntwana.
Hlala uhleli.
Abantu abane-ADHD badla ngokuthetha nokwenza izinto ngaphandle kokucinga. Yiyo loo nto ungasabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwimpazamo efanayo eyenziwa ngumntwana yonke imihla. Umzekelo, xa umntwana ephosa ithoyizi phantsi, ngenye imini uyayihleka uze ngosuku olulandelayo umthethise kabukhali kakhulu. Oku kuyamdida kakhulu umntwana. Le ndlela yokulawula ukuziphatha komntwana ayisebenzi konke konke.
Njengesisombululo soku, misela imithetho efanayo yendlu. Sebenzisana neqabane lakho ukwenza le mithetho. Gqiba kwangaphambili ukuba isohlwayo okanye impendulo iya kuba yintoni xa waphula le mithetho. Bhala le mithetho phantsi uze uyibeke kwindawo apho wonke umntu anokuyibona khona. Xa unomsindo ngomntwana, jonga olu luhlu ngaphambi kokuba usabele ngendlela engafanelekanga.
Zinike ixesha lokuphumla nawe.
Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile kwaye uxinezelekile yimisebenzi yabantwana, fumana indlela yokuthatha ikhefu. Enyanisweni, kufuneka uzibekele ixesha lokuphumla nokuphumla ubuncinane kanye ngeveki. Ngaba unayo into oyithandayo? Umsebenzi owuthandayo? Zibekele ixesha lokwenza ezo zinto.
Wonke umzali udinga ixesha elithile ukungabikho nabantwana bakhe. Kodwa kubazali abane-ADHD, abanengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo, oku kubaluleke kakhulu . Ukuba uziva ngathi unomsindo kakhulu kwaye umntwana wakho sele eza kugqabhuka, yiya kwigumbi elithuleyo uze uphumle. Zinike imizuzu embalwa yokuphefumla uze uzole.
Kububulumko ukwabelana ngemisebenzi yasekhaya.
Njengomzali one-ADHD, kufuneka uchonge amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka bakho. Thetha ngokukhululekileyo ngale nto neqabane lakho. Ukuba unelungu losapho okanye umhlobo onokukunceda, mbandakanye naye kule nto. Yabelana ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kunye.
| Imisebenzi Onokuyifumanisa Inzima | Imisebenzi Onokuyenza Kalula |
|---|---|
| Izinto ekufuneka zenziwe ngexesha. Umzekelo, ukwenza idinga lokubonana nogqirha, okanye ukuzikhumbuza ukuba ungenise iprojekthi yesikolo ngexesha. | Imisebenzi engadingi ukwenziwa ngexesha. Umzekelo, ukuhlamba impahla, ukucoca igadi, okanye ukulungisa izinto ezincinci ekhaya. |
| Ukufundisa umntwana wakho umsebenzi wasekhaya (ingakumbi ukuba i-ADHD yakho ayinyangwa, kunokuba nzima ukuhlala ugxile kwaye umfundise kwindawo enye). | Izinto ezifana nokuzisa izinto ezifunekayo ekhaya nokucoca indlu. |
| Hlala ugxile xa uqhuba imoto. Ukuba oko kunzima, kungcono ukushiya izinto ezifana nokusa abantwana esikolweni kwiqabane lakho. | Izinto okwaziyo ukuzenza, izinto ozithandayo. Mhlawumbi ukwaziyo ukupheka, okanye ukwenza umsebenzi wokudala. Yenza eminye imisebenzi enjalo. |
Ngokwabelana ngomsebenzi ngale ndlela, unganciphisa umngcipheko wokungahoyi imicimbi yosapho ngenxa yobuthathaka bakho.
Thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto.
Iimpawu ze-ADHD ziyahluka kumntu nomntu. Abanye abantu banokuba nobunzima obungakumbi ngemisebenzi ethile kunabanye. Ngoko ke, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho ngezi zinto, kunye neqabane lakho.
Emva koko, ugqirha unokuxoxa ngamandla akho kunye nobuthathaka bakho njengomzali aze alungise isicwangciso sakho sonyango ukuze sijongane neendawo apho ufuna uncedo oluninzi khona. Umzekelo, ukuba unengxaki ngento efuna ingqalelo eqhubekayo, njengokuqeqesha umntwana wakho kwindlu yangasese, unokukunceda uphuhlise izakhono ozidingayo ukuze uhlale ugxile kuloo msebenzi.
Funda kwaye uziqhelise kwakhona.
Ukuba umntwana okanye abantwana bakho bane-ADHD, kukho iinkqubo ezikhethekileyo ezinokukunceda ufunde indlela yokulawula ukuziphatha kwabo. Ezi zibizwa ngokubaIbizwa ngokuba yiBehavioral Parenting Training (BPT). Ifundisa izinto ezininzi, njengemithetho yasekhaya kunye nezenzo, indlela yokunika imiyalelo ecacileyo, kunye nendlela yokuvuza ukuziphatha okuhle.
Ngokwesiqhelo, inkqubo efana nale ithatha malunga neeyure ezi-8-12. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abane-ADHD banokufuna uqeqesho olungaphezulu kunolo. Uphando lubonise ukuba abazali abane-ADHD bafumana iziphumo ezingcono ngenkqubo ye-BPT equlathe malunga neeseshoni ezili-12 zeeyure ezi-2 nganye. Isizathu soku kukuba kubalulekile ukuba umntu omdala one-ADHD aziqhelise ezi zakhono zokufunda de zibe ngumkhwa ozenzekelayo . Emva koko akufuneki bakhumbule yonke into. Ke ngoko, kungcono ukukhetha inkqubo eguquguqukayo evumela ixesha lokuba isakhono esinye siqheliswe kakuhle uze uqhubekele kwesinye.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuba ngumzali one-ADHD kunzima, kodwa ungoyisa. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukufumana unyango olufanelekileyo kwimeko yakho ye-ADHD.
- Misela inkqubo ehambelanayo nemithetho ecacileyo yasekhaya. Hlala usenza okufanayo xa uphendula umntwana wakho.
- Sebenzisa izixhobo ezilula ezifana nezibali-xesha kunye nezikhumbuzo ukuze uhlale ugxile kwaye ucwangcisekile.
- Zinike ixesha lokuphumla nengqondo yakho. Nawe uyalidinga ixesha lokuphumla .
- Ungoyiki ukucela uncedo. Thetha neqabane lakho, usapho, ingakumbi ugqirha wakho ngale nto uze ufumane izisombululo ezisebenza kakuhle kuwe.
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