Ngaba kukho iimfumba zamaphepha edesikeni yakho? Ngaba iimpahla zisasazeke kwigumbi lakho? Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ujonge indawo engcolileyo, unokuzibuza, “Ngaba ndinengxaki yokuqokelelwa kwezinto?” Nceda ungoyiki. Oku akudlali kangako njengoko sisoyika. Nangona kunjalo, kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokuxinana kwekhaya okuqhelekileyo kunye nemeko yezonyango eyaziwa ngokuba yi-“hoarding.” Masihlalutye iinyani namhlanje.
Yintoni kanye kanye iHoarding Disorder?
Ngamafutshane, iHoarding Disorder yimeko yempilo yengqondo eyaziwayo. Ibandakanya ubunzima obuqhubekayo bokulahla okanye ukwahlukana nezinto, nokuba zixabiseke kangakanani na, nto leyo ekhokelela ekuqokeleleni kwezinto ezininzi ezixineneyo nezingcolisa iindawo zokuhlala. Ukuzama ukulahla ezi zinto kudla ngokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu okanye ixhala.
Umzekelo, umntu angagcina amacephe angama-40 afanayo. Kubo, amaphephandaba amadala, izikhongozeli zeyogathi ezingenanto, okanye neengxowa zeti ezisetyenzisiweyo zibonakala zixabisekile. Olu thando lweemvakalelo lwenza kube nzima ukuba baluyeke.
Xa le meko iba mandundu, ibeka emngciphekweni indawo yokuhlala ngokupheleleyo:
- Igumbi lokuhlambela lingasetyenziselwa ukugcina izinto endaweni yococeko.
- Kusenokungabikho ndawo yokuhlala kwigumbi lokuhlala.
- Ikhitshi lisenokungasebenzisi ukupheka.
- Eyona ndlela ikuphela kwayo yokungena endlwini kukuhamba ngeendlela ezimxinwa nezigobileyo phakathi kweenqwaba zezinto.
Oku kuyingozi kakhulu. Izindlu ezinjalo ziindawo ezinobungozi obukhulu beengozi zomlilo , kwaye umngcipheko wokukhubeka okanye ukwenzakala ngenxa yeemfumba ezingazinzanga zemfumba ubalulekile.
Le meko ikwachaphazela ubomi bentsapho kakhulu. Xa elinye iqabane lihlala lizisa izinto ezingabalulekanga ekhaya, oko kunokukhokelela kwingxabano enkulu kunye noxinzelelo ngaphakathi kwekhaya.
Ukususela ngo-2013, iHoarding Disorder iye yaqatshelwa ngokusesikweni njengengxaki eyahlukileyo yempilo yengqondo. Ichaphazela malunga ne-2% ukuya kwi-5% yabemi. Ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba isenokuba yinxalenye ye- Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) . Inokunxulunyaniswa ne -ADHD (imingeni enxulumene nomdla) kunye ne-dementia .
Yintoni i-'Clutter' yasekhaya eqhelekileyo?
Kwabaninzi kuthi, ukuba nesiphithiphithi endlwini kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kwezi meko, usenako ukuhambahamba ekhayeni lakho ngokukhuselekileyo. Ukuba umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho lifowunela ukuza kukutyelela, ungacoca kakuhle. Amagumbi asetyenziselwa injongo yawo; umzekelo, indlu yangasese yeyokuhlamba, hayi yokugcina amaphepha amaninzi.
Abanye abantu bayakonwabela ukuqokelela izinto ezithile, ezifana nezitampu, iingqekembe ezindala, okanye imihombiso yexesha elithile. Ezi zinto zixabisa umntu okanye zivuyisa, kwaye ukuzijonga kuzisa ikratshi endaweni yehlazo okanye uxinzelelo oluhambelana nokuqokelelwa kwezinto.
Ngamafutshane, 'i-Clutter' ixhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo. Oko umntu akubiza ngokuba yingxubakaxaka, omnye angakufumana kwamkelekile. Nangona kunjalo, ukufumbatha izinto kwahlukile; yingxaki ecacileyo yempilo yengqondo efuna unyango .
Ngaba Ungazahlula Kalula Phakathi Kwezi Zimbini?
| Uphawu | Ingxubakaxaka (Ingxaki Eqhelekileyo) | Ingxaki Yokugcina Izinto |
|---|---|---|
| Uhlobo lwezinto | Ngokuyintloko zizinto ezisetyenziswa rhoqo okanye ezinexabiso lokwenyani. | Ukuqokelelwa kwezinto ezingenaxabiso okanye ezingenaxabiso (umz., inkunkuma, iimpahla eziphukileyo). |
| Indawo yokuhlala | Amagumbi ahlala esebenza ngokwenjongo yawo. | Amagumbi awasebenziseki ngenxa yokuxinana kakhulu. |
| ukhuseleko | Ikhaya likhuselekile ukulisebenzisa. | Umngcipheko omkhulu wokuwa, umlilo, kunye nemiba yempilo (ukungunda, izinambuzane). |
| Ukulahla | Akukho bunzima bungako ekukhupheni inkunkuma. | Uxinzelelo olukhulu lwengqondo kunye noxinzelelo xa ulahla. |
| Ubomi bokuhlala | Ndiyavuya ukwamkela iindwendwe. | Ukuphepha ukumema abanye ngenxa yeentloni; kukhokelela ekubeni abe yedwa. |
Indlela Yokuchonga Ukuba Le Yingxaki
Ukuba izinto ezininzi ozixakekisayo zichaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, luphawu olulumkisayo. Zibuze le mibuzo:
- Ngaba uhlala uthenga izinto osele unazo kuba ungazifumani ekhayeni lakho?
- Ngaba uneentloni zokumema iindwendwe, okanye ngaba ukuxinana kwakho kubangele uxinzelelo lwezemali?
- Ngaba uphoswa ziintlawulo zeebhili kuba ungafumani iingxelo?
- Ngaba ikhitshi lakho ligcwele kakhulu kangangokuba awukwazi ukulungiselela ukutya?
- Ngaba intsapho yakho ihlala ikhalaza ngengxaki yakho, nto leyo ekhokelela kwiingxabano eziqhubekayo?
- Ngaba kufuneka uhambe ngeendlela ezimxinwa phakathi kweenqwaba zezinto ukuze uhambe endlwini yakho?
- Xa ujonge izinto ezingafunekiyo, ngaba uziva uphelelwe lithemba okanye ukhathazekile ngenxa yokungakwazi kwakho ukuzilawula?
Ukuba uphendule ngokuthi “ewe” kule mibuzo, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuxinana kwezinto zakho kuba yingxaki enkulu kuwe nakwabo bakungqongileyo.
Amanyathelo Okulawula Le Meko
1. Lumka kwimikhwa yakho
Wenza ntoni xa uzisa iposi ngaphakathi? Ukuqonda iindlela zakho zokuziphatha kunokunceda. Umzekelo, ungayilahla iposi engcolileyo kwibhini yokulahla izinto ezisetyenzisiweyo kwangoko nje xa ungena emnyango?
2. Qonda Ingxaki Ephambili
Abaninzi bathi, “Ndiyicocile idesika yam, kodwa ibuyile.” Kuphephe ukuyikhupha ingxaki ngaphandle. Ingxubakaxaka ibangelwa yimikhwa yakho. Yamkela ukuba, “Imikhwa yam yiyo ekhokelela ekubeni idesika yam iphinde ibe yingxubakaxaka.”
3. Beka Imida Ecacileyo
Endaweni yosukelo olungacacanga olufana nokuthi “Ndiza kuthenga kancinci,” beka iinjongo ezicacileyo ezinje, “Ndiza kunciphisa ukungcola kula magumbi mabini kuphela.”
4. Yamkela ukuba umyalelo ngumngeni wobomi bonke
Ukugcina ucwangco kufana nokulawula ubunzima. Wakuba wehlile ubunzima, kufuneka usebenzele ukuba buhlale bunjalo. Yinkqubo eqhubekayo yokugcina ubunzima nomzamo.
5. Funa Uncedo lweeNgcali
Ukuba le meko inzima ukuyilawula wedwa, ungabi neentloni ukucela uncedo.
- Ingcebiso yezonyango: Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba uneHoarding Disorder, eyona nto ilungileyo kukutyelela ugqirha wakho. Ugqirha angenza uvavanyo ukuze abone ukuba oku kubangelwa ziimeko ezingaphantsi ezifana noxinzelelo okanye i-ADHD . Banokukuthumela kunyango olusebenza kakuhle olufana neCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) .
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuxinana kwekhaya okuqhelekileyo kunye neHoarding Disorder zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo.
- Ingxaki Yokuba Neentloni Ayisiyonto yokuhlazeka; yimeko yengqondo efuna unyango.
- Ukuba ukuqokelela kwakho izinto kuphazamisa ukhuseleko lwakho, impilo yakho, kunye nolonwabo losapho lwakho, oko kukubeka emngciphekweni.
- Ukuba ukulawula oku kuvakala kunzima, ungathandabuzi ukucela uncedo. Nxibelelana nogqirha wakho ukuze uxoxe ngale nkxalabo. Ngonyango olufanelekileyo, le meko inokulawulwa kakuhle.
Ingxaki yokuGcina, ukuxinana kwezinto, impilo yengqondo, ukuGcina izinto, ukucwangcisa ikhaya, i-OCD, isifo sengqondo, iNirogi Lanka
