Ukuba ungumama okhulelweyo , usenokuba ukhe waziva umntwana wakho ehambahamba ngaphakathi esibelekweni sakho xa umyeni wakho ebeka intloko yakhe esiswini sakho aze athethe nomntwana wakho, okanye xa uculela umntwana wakho ingoma. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ucofa kancinci elinye icala lesisu sakho, kuvakala ngathi umntwana wakho uphendula ngendlela efanayo, akunjalo? Ezi asizozinto nje ezingaqhelekanga. Olu lunxibelelwano lokuqala phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho.
Kukho ihlabathi elimangalisayo ngaphakathi esibelekweni!
Besisoloko sicinga ukuba isibeleko sikamama yindawo ethuleyo, engenasandi okanye ukukhanya. Kodwa ngenxa yeteknoloji yanamhlanje, ingakumbi ii-ultrasound scans, izazinzulu zifumanise ukuba imeko-bume engaphakathi kwesibeleko ifana nendawo yokudlala emangalisayo egcwele yonke into umntwana ayidingayo ukuze akhule ngokweemvakalelo.
Ngamafutshane, umntwana wakho usabela kwilizwi lakho nakwezinye izandi ezisegumbini ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakho. Xa usuka kwindawo ekhanyayo uye kwindawo emnyama, umntwana wakho usabela kutshintsho lokukhanya. Xa ulala phantsi kwaye usukuma, umntwana wakho uyaqengqeleka esibelekweni. Okumangalisayo kukuba umntwana wakho unokungcamla nokutya okumnandi nokuneziqholo okutyayo. Onke la mava abalulekile kuphuhliso olusempilweni lwengqondo yomntwana wakho.
Ngaba umntwana uyakuva ngokwenene?
Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuva komntwana, okanye ukukwazi kwakhe ukuva, kukhula kakuhle kwikota yesithathu yokukhulelwa. Ngexesha le-scan ('sonograms') eyenziwa ngelo xesha, umntwana unokubonwa ejika intloko yakhe ephendula izandi zangaphandle.
Kodwa izifundo zibonisa ukuba iintsana zinokuva izandi kwasekuqaleni kweeveki ezingama-20, kwaye malunga neeveki ezingama-25, ziyathuthumela kwaye zisabele kwizandi ezinkulu ngequbuliso. Ngamanye amaxesha iingxolo ezinkulu zinokubangela ukuba isantya sentliziyo yomntwana sitshintshe, sonyuse intshukumo, kwaye side sichame.
Imeko-bume engaphakathi kwesibeleko ayithuli. Ihlala izaliswe zizandi ezifana nesandi sokuhamba kwegazi lakho, isandi senkqubo yakho yokugaya ukutya, kunye nesandi sentliziyo yakho esibethayo. Kuzo , umntwana wakho uyaliva ilizwi lakho ngokucacileyo. Kungenxa yokuba ilizwi lakho liyangcangcazela ngamathambo akho kunye nolwelo, kunokuba lingcangcazele emoyeni.
Nangona izandi ezivela ngaphandle zingavakali kakuhle, umntwana usenokuziva ngokucacileyo ngendlela emangalisayo. Iintsana zinokuziva izandi eziphantsi, ezifana namazwi endoda nomculo , ngakumbi kakuhle.
Ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba umntwana ukhumbula ibali aliva ngokuphindaphindiweyo esesibelekweni okanye ingoma enomxholo wedrama yeTV abadla ngokuyiphulaphula, nokuba sele ezelwe, kwaye umntwana uyazola xa esiva ezo zandi.
Zinjani ezinye iimvakalelo zomntwana?
Ezinye iimvakalelo zomntwana nazo zikhula ngendlela emangalisayo esibelekweni. Makhe sijonge loo nto.
| Ingqiqo | Umntwana uziva njani? |
|---|---|
| Chukumisa | Ukususela ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa, abantwana baziva bechukunyiswa ngokuchukumisa udonga lwesibeleko, intambo yomlomo, kunye namalungu omzimba wabo. Bathanda kakhulu ukuchukumisa ubuso babo. Malunga neenyanga ezisi-8, baya kufikelela kwinto ethile baze bavule imilomo yabo xa besondezwa kuyo. Eli liqalo le-"rooting reflex" elifunekayo ukuze bancancise emva kokuzalwa. |
| Incasa kunye nevumba | Kunzima ukwahlula ezi mvakalelo zimbini. Ukususela kwinyanga yesine yokukhulelwa, umntwana wakho uginya ulwelo lwe-amniotic, oluqulethe iincasa zokutya okutyayo. Kwikota yesithathu, umntwana wakho akanakukwazi ukwahlula kuphela iincasa ezimnandi, ezikrakra, ezimuncu, kodwa nezinongwe njengegalikhi. Oku kuqhelana neencasa esibelekweni kuya kunceda umntwana wakho aqhele ukungcamla ubisi lwebele emva kokuzalwa. |
| Ibhalansi | Ingqondo yomntwana wakho yokulinganisela iyakhula njengoko edada kwaye ejikeleza esibelekweni, kunye neentshukumo zakho. Ezi ntshukumo zivuselela izakhiwo ezingaphakathi kwendlebe yakhe ezilawula ukulinganisela. Yiyo loo nto abantwana abaninzi bejika iintloko zabo ngaphambi kokuba bazalwe. Kwakhona, emva kokuzalwa, xa umshukumisa xa ekhala, intshukumo imkhumbuza intshukumo ekhululekileyo awayifumana esibelekweni, emenza azole. |
| Umbono | Ukubona yimvakalelo yokugqibela ephuhliswayo. Nangona amehlo omntwana eqala ukukhula, awavuli amehlo akhe de kube yinyanga yesi-7. Ukususela ngelo xesha, umntwana uya kuvula aze avale amehlo akhe, eqengqeleka amehlo akhe, aze abonakale ngathi uyawahlola. Ukuba ukukhanya okukhanyayo kukhanya ngequbuliso kuwe, umntwana unokukuva ngesibeleko. Emva koko umntwana uya kuba nomdla ngakumbi. |
Ngaba ufuna ukwenza "umntwana obalaseleyo"?
Kukho izixhobo ezahlukeneyo ezithengiswayo namhlanje ezithi ziphuhlisa ubukrelekrele bomntwana kunye nezakhono zakhe. Ezi ziquka izithethi ezincinci ezinamathele esiswini, kunye nezixhobo ezenza umntwana amamele umculo (izixhobo ze-`fetal acoustic stimulation`). Abanye abantu bathi ``isiphumo sikaMozart``, oko kukuthi, ukumamela umculo weklasikhi, siphuhlisa ubukrelekrele bomntwana. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, abanye abazali bayalingeka ukuba bachithe imali eninzi baze bathenge ezo zinto.
Kodwa akukho mfuneko yokukhathazeka okanye ukuchitha imali koku. Iingcali ezininzi zophuhliso lwabantwana zithi indalo ngokwayo inika umntwana ukhuthazo aludingayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo nangendlela efanelekileyo.
Indlela umntwana wakho akhuthazwa ngayo zizinto ezifana nezinto ozenzayo imini yonke, iincoko zakho, kunye nomculo owumamelayo yanele ukumlungiselela ukufika kwakhe emhlabeni.
Enyanisweni, ukubeka izipikha okanye ii-headphone esiswini somntwana wakho nokumenza amamele umculo kunokuphazamisa iindlela zakhe zokulala zendalo. Iintsana zichitha i-95% yexesha lazo zilele esibelekweni. Ke ngoko, olo vuselelo lokwenziwa lunokuphazamisa nendlela yendalo yophuhliso lobuchopho bazo.
Ngoko ke yintoni injongo yokuthetha nokucula iingoma kumntwana?
Eyona nzuzo inkulu yayo kukuba ilungele abazali kunye nosana. Xa uthetha nosana lwakho, umculele iingoma, kwaye umhlikihla isisu, wena nosana lwakho nikhulisa ubudlelwane obuqinileyo. Uqala ukuziva ukuba olu ndwendwe lutsha luza kuba yinxalenye enkulu yobomi bakho. Usana lukwavakalelwa luthando kunye nenkathalo kamama noyise ukususela esibelekweni. Yiyo leyo into ebaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuba uthanda umculo weklasikhi, wumamele. Ukuba ukuzisela uvuyo nentuthuzelo, umntwana uya kuziva olo vuyo nentuthuzelo ngeehormones. Ngaphandle koko, musa ukuzinyanzela ukuba wenze into ongayithandiyo, uthi "ilungile kumntwana."
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Umntwana osesiswini sakho unokukuva, akuve ukuba uchukumiseka , aze angcamle nento oyityayo. Sisiqalo sobudlelwane obumangalisayo.
- Ukukhuthaza okufunekayo ukuze ingqondo yomntwana wakho ikhule kakuhle kwaye ikwazi ukuva kuza ngokwemvelo ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla.
- Thetha nomntwana wakho, mculele iingoma, uze umhlikihle isisu. Ezi zinto ziqinisa ulwalamano phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho.
- Akukho sizathu sesayensi sokuthenga izixhobo ezibizayo kwimarike ezithi zenze "uMntwana Omkhulu." Zinokuphazamisa nophuhliso lwendalo lomntwana.
- Ukukhulelwa ngakunye kwahlukile. Ukuba unemibuzo okanye iinkxalabo malunga neentshukumo okanye ukukhula komntwana wakho, ncedaThetha nogqirha wakho.
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