Unyaka omtsha usandul’ ukuqala, kwaye sonke senza izigqibo ezintsha sinethemba elitsha, akunjalo? "Ngeli xesha ndiza kuyeka ukutshaya," "Ndiza kulawula ukutya kwam ndize ndibe sempilweni," "Ndiza kuqala ukuzilolonga," njalo njalo. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni ngokwenene? Ngokutsho kophando, malunga nesibini kwisithathu sabantu bayaphula izigqibo zabo zoNyaka oMtsha ngaphambi kokuphela kwenyanga. Ngoko ke sekuyisiko loNyaka oMtsha. Kodwa kutheni oku kusenzeka? Masithethe ngendlela esinokuyitshintsha ngayo loo nto kulo nyaka.
Kutheni sithambekele ekwenzeni izigqibo zoNyaka oMtsha?
Unyaka oMtsha ufana nesiganeko esibalulekileyo kwikhalenda yobomi bethu. Xa sibona idayari entsha, ikhalenda entsha, siziva ngathi kufuneka siqale ngokutsha. Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, olu "luvo lokuhlaziya" luzisa ithemba elikhulu ezintliziyweni zethu. Yiyo loo nto silangazelela "ukwenza izinto ebesingenakukwazi ukuzenza kunyaka ophelileyo" kulo nyaka.
Kodwa nangona olu thando luyinto entle, ngamanye amaxesha siyathabatheka yile thando size sizibekele iinjongo ezinkulu kakhulu ukuba singazifezekisa. Ngaba uthando lodwa alwanele ukufezekisa usukelo?
Ngaba ukhe wacinga 'ngendlela yokwenza' endaweni yokuba ucinga ntoni?
Kuhle ukucinga ngeenjongo. Kodwa ukuze uqhubeke nazo, kufuneka ube nesicwangciso esilungileyo . Abantu abaninzi baqala iinjongo zabo ngovuyo loNyaka oMtsha, kodwa xa olo lonwabo luphela emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, bayayeka phakathi kuba bengenaso isicwangciso.
Enye ingxaki kukuba iinjongo esizibekele zona ngamanye amaxesha zinzima kakhulu . Khawuthelekelele uzibekele usukelo olufana noluthi "Ndiza kunciphisa iikhilogram ezi-5 ngqo ngenyanga." Kodwa ukuba awufumani ziphumo ngokukhawuleza, uyaphoxeka. Ekugqibeleni, uyayeka. Iinjongo zithatha ixesha ukuzifezekisa, ngoko ke kufuneka siziyeke.
Masijonge ngasemva size siqhubeke phambili.
Ngaba uluhlobo lomntu owenza isigqibo esifanayo minyaka le? Lixesha lokuba uziphathe njengomcuphi omncinci.
Sihlala sizibekela iinjongo ezinkulu zexesha elizayo, kodwa asicingi ngokunyaniseka ukuba kutheni singakwazanga ukuzifezekisa kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Kutheni ndingazange ndiyeke ukutshaya kwixesha elidlulileyo? Kutheni ndiqale ukuzilolonga ndaza ndayeka emva kweveki? Kufuneka ufumane iimpendulo ezinyanisekileyo kule mibuzo. Mhlawumbi abahlobo bakho bayakucinezela? Awunalo ixesha elaneleyo? Okanye ngaba asiyonto ufuna ukuyenza ngokwenene? Ngaphandle kokufumana ezi zizathu, sisoloko "senza izigqibo, sibuyele kwindlela efanayo endala, kwaye umjikelo uyaqhubeka." Ukuze siwuqhawule lo mjikelo,Simele sithembeke kuthi ngokwethu.
Ukusuka kwiimpumelelo ezincinci ukuya kwiinjongo ezinkulu
Mhlawumbi ukhe weva ukuba kufuneka uqhekeze iinjongo ezinkulu zibe ziinxalenye ezincinci. Kodwa kutheni usenza loo nto?
Ngamafutshane, njengabantu, sithanda ukuziva ngathi "Ndiphumelele oku." Kubizwa ngokuba 'yimvakalelo yobuchule.' Ngoko endaweni yenjongo enkulu, engacacanga efana nokuthi "Ndiza kuqina," yahlulahlula ibe ngamanyathelo amancinci, anokulinganiswa.
| Igoli elikhulu, elingacacanga | Amanyathelo amancinci, anokwenzeka |
|---|---|
| "Ndiza kuqina" | - Hamba imizuzu engama-30, iintsuku ezi-3 ngeveki. - Musa ukutya ngaphezu kweitisipuni ezimbini zeswekile ngosuku. - Yeka ukutya emva kwentsimbi yesi-8 ebusuku. |
| "Ndifunda iincwadi" | - Ndifunda amaphepha ama-5 encwadi yonke imihla ngaphambi kokuba ndilale. |
Ngalo lonke ixesha ugqiba inyathelo elincinci elinje, ingqondo yakho iziva imnandi kancinci. Loo lonwabo lukukhuthaza ukuba uqhubeke usenza loo nto.
'Qala izinto ezilungileyo' kunokuthi 'yeka izinto ezimbi'
Le yinyaniso ebaluleke kakhulu yengqondo. Ingqondo yethu ikhetha injongo "yokwenza into" kunenjongo "yokungenzi into."
Umzekelo, endaweni yokucinga, "Ndiza kuyeka ukucaphuka," zibekele usukelo oluhle endaweni yoko. Njengokuthi, "Ndiza kucamngca imizuzu eli-10 qho ngokuhlwa ukuze ndizolise ingqondo yam," okanye "Xa ndiziva ndicaphukile, ndiza kubala ndiye kwi-10." Apha, uthatha inyathelo. Iinjongo ezinje zinokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba ziphumelele.
Ngaba kufuneka sizibekele usukelo 'OLUMNYAMA'?
Indlela edumileyo nephumelelayo yokubeka iinjongo yindlela ethi 'SMART'. Oku kuthetha ukuba injongo yakho mayibe nezi mpawu zintlanu. Masiqonde oku ngomzekelo wokuyeka ukutshaya .
| Ileta ehlakaniphileyo | Intsingiselo | Umzekelo: Ukuyeka ukutshaya |
|---|---|---|
| S - Okukhethekileyo | Injongo yakho mayicace kakhulu kwaye icace gca . | "Ndiza kuyeka ukutshaya." (Oku kuyacaca) |
| M - Inokulinganiselwa | Kufuneka ukwazi ukulinganisa inkqubela yakho. | "Ndinciphisa inani leecuba endizitshayayo ngosuku ukusuka kwi-10 ukuya kwi-5." (Oku kuyalinganiseka) |
| A - Inokufikeleleka | Ngaba le yinto onokuyenza ngokwenene? | Kunokuba nzima kumntu otshaya iicuba ezingama-20 ngosuku ukuyeka ngequbuliso, ngoko ke kulula ngakumbi ukunciphisa kancinci kancinci. |
| R - Efanelekileyo | Ingaba olu sukelo lubaluleke ngokwenene ebomini bakho? | "Ndifuna ukuyeka ukutshaya ukuze ndiphucule impilo yam ndize ndonwabe nosapho lwam." (Oku kuyasebenza kuwe) |
| T - Ixhomekeke kwixesha (enexesha elibekiweyo) | Kufuneka ube nexesha elimiselweyo ukuze ufezekise le njongo. | "Ndiza kuyeka ngokupheleleyo ukutshaya kwiinyanga ezi-3 ezizayo." (Le yingxelo yexesha elimiselweyo.) |
Ingakumbi xa kufikwa kwiinjongo ezinxulumene nempilo ezifana nokuyeka ukutshaya, ukunciphisa umzimba, okanye ukulawula ukutya kwakho, ukuba ufumana kunzima ukuzifezekisa wedwa,Thetha nogqirha wakho wosapho. Angakunceda ucinge ngesicwangciso esifanelekileyo esiza kusebenza kakuhle kuwe.
Vumela ixabiso lakho likukhokele.
Okokugqibela, khumbula "Isizathu" esisemva kosukelo lwakho. Imilinganiselo yakho yikhampasi yakho.
Umzekelo, endaweni yokucinga, 'Ndiza kunciphisa iikhilogram ezi-5,' cinga ngexabiso elingasemva koko. Mhlawumbi ' yimpilo .' Ukuba ucinga, 'Ngenxa yokuba ndiyikhathalele impilo yam, ndiza kukwazi ukuhlala ndisempilweni, ndibaleke ndidlale nabantwana bam, ndize ndiqhele indlela yokuphila enempilo,' oko kuya kukunika amandla amaninzi. Nanini na xa uziva ngathi unengxaki, zikhumbuze ukuba 'kutheni' uzibekele olu sukelo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Yahlulahlula iinjongo zakho ezinkulu zibe ngamanyathelo amancinci, alula onokuwathatha yonke imihla.
- Endaweni yokuthi "Andenzi nto imbi," zibekele usukelo oluthi "Ndiqala into elungileyo."
- Zibekele usukelo lwakho usebenzisa indlela ye-SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound).
- Kusenokubakho imiqobo. Yenza isicwangciso (isicwangciso B) kwangaphambili.
- Xa kufikwa kwiinjongo ezinxulumene nempilo, musa ukuzama ukusebenza nzima wedwa, kodwa cela ingcebiso kugqirha wakho.
- Hlala ukhumbula "isizathu" sokwenza oku. Ngamandla akho amakhulu lawo.
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