Ngaba nawe ulindele ukuba umzimba wakho uqale ukutshintsha? (Ukufikisa) Masithethe ngale nto!

Ingxaki enkulu kubantu abaninzi abalingana nawe, mhlawumbi into ekukhathaza kakhulu, kuxa olu tshintsho lomzimba luqala, oko kukuthi, xa siba ngabantwana abakhulu, okanye ngokwezonyango, xa kuqala ukufikisa. Ngamanye amaxesha xa abahlobo bakho beqala olu tshintsho ngaphambi kwakho, unokucinga, "Owu, kutheni oku kungenzeki kum ndedwa? Ngaba kukho into engalunganga ngam?" Kodwa ungoyiki okanye ukhathazeke konke konke. Makhe sithethe ngale nto namhlanje, ngokucacileyo ngokungathi uthetha nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Kulungile?

Kutheni le nto ezi nguqu zingenzeki kubo bonke abantu ngaxeshanye?

Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Asingomntu wonke ofanayo. Cinga ngayo, nokuba utyala uhlobo olufanayo lwentyatyambo emyezweni omnye, ezinye ziya kuqhakaza kakuhle ngaphambi kwezinye, kwaye ezinye ziya kuqhakaza kamva. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, zonke izityalo ziya kuqhakaza, akunjalo? Yile ndlela esiyiyo. Ulwakhiwo lomzimba womntu wonke kunye nexesha lewotshi ngaphakathi emzimbeni wakhe zahlukile kancinci. Ke ngoko, ixesha ofikelela kulo "Ukufikisa" lisenokuba ngaphambi okanye emva komhlobo wakho. Oku kuqhelekile kakhulu. Uninzi lwexesha, ezi zizinto othetha ngazo phakathi kwakho kule minyaka. Ukuba ungumfana, ungaziva ulusizi uze uthi, "Owu, ilizwi lakhe litshintshile, iindevu zakhe azikakhuli, kwaye ndisavakala njengomntwana." Ukuba uyintombazana, ungaziva ulusizi kwaye uneentloni, "Owu, amabele abanye abantu akhulile, kutheni ndingodwa ndilibele kangaka?" Kodwa oku akuyonto yokukhathazeka okanye iintloni . Khumbula ukuba iwotshi yomzimba yomntu wonke isebenza ngokwahlukileyo kancinci.

Ukufikisa Kwamantombazana

Xa intombazana idlula ekufikiseni, utshintsho lokuqala nolukhulu elubonayo kukukhula kwamabele. Masiqale sijonge oko.

Uphuhliso lwamabele luqala nini?

Ngokwesiqhelo, uninzi lwamantombazana luqala ukuphuhlisa amabele xa luneminyaka eli-10 okanye eli-11 ubudala. Oku kuthetha ukuba luqala ukuziva ngathi sisigaqana esincinci esifubeni, esikhula kancinci kancinci. Kodwa oku akwenzeki xa umntu ekwiminyaka efanayo. Amanye amantombazana angaqala olu tshintsho eneminyaka esi-7 ubudala. Kwabanye, lunokuba semva kweminyaka eli-13 ubudala. Kuqhelekile ukuba amabele aqale ukuphuhlisa nangaliphi na ixesha phakathi kwezi zigaba zimbini zeminyaka.

Ngoko ke ungakhathazeki ngomhlobo wakho osenyongweni oza kukhula amabele ngaphambi kwakho, kulungile? Iwotshi yakhe yomzimba mhlawumbi ikhawuleza kancinci kuneyakho. Yiyo loo nto kuphela.

Ixesha Lokuqala Lokuya Exesheni

Esinye isiganeko esibalulekileyo ebomini bentombazana kukuya kwayo exesheni okokuqala. Sidla ngokubiza oku ngokuthi "ukuya exesheni." Ngoko ke, eli xesha (iXesha lokuya exesheni) lidla ngokuqala malunga neminyaka emi-2 okanye emi-2 1/2 emva kokuba amabele eqalile ukukhula.Akukho mthetho wokuba oku kufuneka kwenzeke ngexesha elinye. Kwabanye abantu, kusenokuba ngaphambi kwexesha, kwabanye kusenokuba kamva kancinci. Oku nako kuyahluka kumntu nomntu, kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kukho utshintsho oluninzi oluvela emzimbeni ngeli xesha. Izinto ezifana nokukhula kwethanga, mhlawumbi nokuvela kwamaqhakuva.

Ukufikisa Kwabafana

Kulungile, ngoku makhe sijonge ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubafana. Ubudala obuqhelekileyo babafana bokuqala ukubona olu tshintsho bumalunga neminyaka eli-10 okanye eli-11 ubudala . Kodwa ukuba sithetha ngokuchanekileyo, kuqhelekile ukuba ezi mpawu zokufikisa ziqale nanini na phakathi kweminyaka eli-9 neli-15 ubudala. Ngoko ke zithini ezi nguqu?

• Ukurhawuzelela kwelizwi : Ilizwi elithambileyo nelincinci lobuntwana liyatshintsha, kwaye ilizwi elinzulu kancinci, elirhawuzelelayo, neliyindoda liqala ukuphuma. Ngamanye amaxesha ilizwi lisenokunyuka ngequbuliso, nto leyo eqhelekileyo ngeli xesha.
• Ukukhula kweenwele ngeendevu nomzimba: Iendevu ziqala ukukhula kuqala, kulandele ngaphantsi kwamakhwapha. Iinwele ziqala ukukhula emakhwapheni, esifubeni, nakwiindawo zangasese (ezijikeleze amalungu esini).
• Ukukhula kwamalungu esini : Amasende kunye nepenis ziyakhula ngobukhulu. Oku kukwaluphawu olubalulekileyo lokufikisa.
• Ukukhula kwemisipha kunye nokukhula kobude: Imisipha emzimbeni iba nkulu kancinci, iqine, amahlombe aba banzi, kwaye kufezwa inkangeleko yobudoda. Kwakhona, ngeli xesha, ukuphakama ngequbuliso kuqala ukwanda.

Konke oku akwenzeki ngobusuku obunye, konke ngaxeshanye. Olu tshintsho luya kugqitywa kancinci kancinci, mhlawumbi kwiminyaka embalwa. Ngoko ke, ungothuki ukuba omnye umhlobo wakho oneminyaka ubonakala "emdala" kunawe. Utshintsho lwabo lusenokuba luqale kwangethuba. Konke kuya kulunga xa ixesha lakho lifika.

Ngaba akukho ndlela yokuba mkhulu "ngokukhawuleza"?

Ndiyazi ukuba le yingxaki uninzi lwenu olunayo. Usenokuba ucinga, "Owu, akukho ndlela yokukhula ngokukhawuleza, ukuze ufane nabanye abantu?" Kodwa inyani yile, akukho nto unokuyenza ukukhawulezisa olu tshintsho lwendalo emzimbeni wakho. Ukutya ukutya okunesondlo, ukuzilolonga imihla ngemihla, kunye nokulala kakuhle ebusuku konke kulungile kwimpilo yakho iyonke. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uzenze ezo zinto. Kodwa akukho nanye kwezo zinto eya kukhawulezisa inkqubo yendalo yokufikisa.

Ukutya okukhethekileyo (umz., abanye abantu bathi 'ukuba utya oku, uza kukhula ngokukhawuleza'), iivithamini zomntu ngamnye (Izongezo zokutya), kunye neeloshini zomzimba ezikhethekileyo.Iikhrimu azinakuze ziyikhawulezise le nkqubo yendalo. Kuyinkcitho ukuchitha imali kwizinto ezinjalo.

Umzimba wakho uza kuqala olu tshintsho ngexesha lawo, ngesantya sawo. Kholwa. Vumela.

Sifanele siye kugqirha nini?

Sisandula ukuthetha ngeminyaka apho olu tshintsho ludla ngokuqala khona. Uninzi lwexesha, ukuba ukwiinqanaba eziqhelekileyo, akukho nto inokubangela uxhalabe ngayo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ungaziva urhanela kancinci, njengokuthi, "Kutheni ndifika kade kangaka?" Ngamaxesha anjalo, licebo elihle ukubona ugqirha kwaye ufumane ingcebiso. Kwimeko enjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka ubonane nogqirha kwaye uthethe ngemeko yakho:

• Ukuba uyintombazana, uneminyaka eli-13 ubudala kwaye amabele akho awakaqali ukukhula, okanye awukayi exesheni lakho lokuqala.
• Ukuba ungumfana, ukuba uneminyaka eli-15 ubudala kwaye awubonisi zimpawu zokufikisa (umzekelo, utshintsho kwilizwi, ukukhula kweendevu okanye iinwele, okanye uphuhliso lwamalungu esini).
• Nokuba umncinci kunale minyaka, ukuba unoloyiko olukhulu, ixhala, kunye nokuthandabuza malunga nolu tshintsho emzimbeni wakho, oko kukuthi, ukuba uhlala uziva ngathi "Andazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngam."

Ukubona ugqirha akuthethi ukuba unesifo esinzulu, uyaqonda? Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhlolwe, wazi ukuba yonke into iza kulunga, kwaye ususe uloyiko kunye namathandabuzo angeyomfuneko . Ugqirha angakuxelela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba yonke into iza kuhamba kakuhle na, okanye ukuba kufuneka wenze naluphi na olunye uvavanyo.

Izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Kulungile, ngoko ke ekugqibeleni masikukhumbuze ngezinye zezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzithathe koko sithethe ngako. Ezi "ziindaba zakho zokuya nazo ekhaya."

• Wonke umntu wahlukile, kwaye wena ukhethekile: Kuqhelekile ukuba abahlobo bakho nawe babe nomahluko kolu tshintsho lomzimba. Akukho nto ingaqhelekanga okanye ingalunganga ngomntu okhule kwangethuba aze umntu abe mdala kancinci. Ulungile ngendlela onjalo ngayo.
• Olu asilokhuphiswano: musa ukwenza ubomi bube lukhuphiswano lokuba ngubani okhula kuqala, ngubani okhulisa iindevu kuqala, ngubani ofumana ixesha lakhe lokuqala. Wonke umntu unohambo lwakhe olwahlukileyo emzimbeni wakhe, olo hambo maluqhubeke nendlela yalo.
• Umonde lolona yeza lilungileyo: Kuthatha ixesha ukuba olu tshintsho lukhulu emzimbeni wakho luhlale luhleli. Alwenzeki ngobusuku obunye. Ngoko ke kufuneka ube nomonde.
• Kubalulekile ukuhlala usempilweni: yitya ukutya okunempilo, yenza umthambo emini, kwaye ulale kakuhle ebusuku. Ezi zinto ziya kunceda impilo yakho iyonke kwaye zincede olu tshintsho lwenzeke.
• Musa ukoyika, cela uncedo:Ukuba unengxaki, umbuzo, okanye amathandabuzo, musa ukuyigcina iyimfihlo. Musa ukoyika ukuthetha ngayo nomntu omdala omthembileyo (umama, utata, utitshala, umkhuluwa, udadewenu) okanye kwanogqirha. Oko kuya kuba luncedo olukhulu kuwe.

Ekugqibeleni, umzimba wakho uyakuthanda. Mnike ixesha olidingayo lokwenza olo tshintsho. Ufanelekile kanye ngendlela oyiyo, kwaye uyamangalisa!

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