Ukwenza iphupha lakho lokuba ngumama okanye utata libe yinyani ngamanye amaxesha akulula njengoko ucinga. Emva kokulinda iminyaka emininzi umntwana, ubandezeleka kakhulu, kwaye ekugqibeleni ufuna uncedo lwetekhnoloji efana ne-IVF ( In Vitro Fertilization ), zininzi izinto ezifika engqondweni. Phakathi kwazo, ingcinga ephambili efika kubantu abaninzi kukuba, "Ukuba besinokugqiba olu hambo ngexesha elinye...". Ngamafutshane, ukuziva ukuba bekuya kuba mnandi kangakanani ukuba namawele ngexabiso elifanayo nangomzamo ofanayo.
Kutheni abantu abaninzi kangaka bewathanda kangaka amawele?
Eyona sizathu siphambili soku lixabiso eliphezulu lonyango lwe-IVF. Sonke siyazi ukuba naseSri Lanka, umjikelo omnye we-IVF ubiza amakhulu amawaka eerupi. Ngamanye amaxesha unyango aluphumeleli kwanakwisihlandlo sokuqala. Ngoko ke, ukuba olu nyango, olwenziwa emva kokuchitha yonke imali esandleni, lunokugqibezela usapho ngaxeshanye, oko kukuthi, ukuba kuzalwa abantwana ababini, kulungile ukukubona njengenzuzo enkulu.
"Bekubiza kakhulu. Besisazi ukuba le yayiyeyona xesha lokuphela nelokugqibela esinokuyenza. Ngoko ke bekuya kuba luncedo kangakanani ukuba besinokuba namawele? Kuba nokuba besinomntwana omnye okanye ababini, ixabiso liza kufana. Ngoko ke sacinga ngokugqibezela usapho ngoko nangoko." - Olu luluvo lomama owayeneentombi ezimbini ezingamawele ngonyango lwe-IVF.
Ngaphandle kweendleko, kukho nezinye izizathu .
- Ugqatso oluchasene nexesha: Ixesha lixabisekile, ingakumbi kubasetyhini abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-35. Xa ucinga ukuba awuyi kuba nexesha elaneleyo lokuzama ukukhulelwa kwakhona uze uqale olunye umjikelo wonyango, akumangalisi ukuba uhendeke ukuba nabantwana ababini kukukhulelwa okukodwa.
- Uxinzelelo lwengqondo: Uxinzelelo, usizi, kunye nokudinwa okubangelwa kukungabi nabantwana iminyaka emininzi kuyandoyikisa. Ngoko ke kuvakala kulungile ukukwazi ukuphelisa konke oku ngaxeshanye.
- Ingcamango yokuba " amawele amahle kakhulu": Abanye abantu bayawathanda amawele kuba becinga ukuba "amnandi kakhulu". Kwakhona, abanye abantu bakufumanisa kulula ukukwazi ukugqiba umsebenzi ngokukhulelwa okukodwa kunye nokuzala omnye.
Kodwa kutheni oogqirha bengakuthandi oku? - Masiqonde umngcipheko
Ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho uthi, "Ndifuna amawele," mhlawumbi uza kuzama ukukunyanzela ukuba ungenzi njalo. Isizathu kukuba, ngokwezonyango , ukukhulelwa kwamawele yimeko enobungozi kakhulu kumama nakumntwana kunokuthwala umntwana omnye .
"Izigulane ezininzi zicinga ngokukhulelwa nangayiphi na indlela ezinokukwazi ngayo. Zicinga kwakhona ngengozi enokubakho yamawele. Ngamanye amaxesha aziqondi ukuba 'iziphumo ezimbi' zinokuba zimbi kangakanani," itsho enye ingcali.
Masiziqonde ngokucacileyo ezi ngozi kwitheyibhile engezantsi.
| Ngubani osengozini? | Yintoni enokwenzeka? |
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| Kwabantwana abalindele ukuzalwa |
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| Iingozi kumama |
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Ezi zinto zinokuba yinto eyoyikisayo ukuva. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu onamawele uza kuba nezi ngxaki. Uninzi lwamawele luzalwa luphilile kwaye luphilile. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba umngcipheko uphezulu kakhulu kunaxa unomntwana omnye .
Masifunde kumava.
UAmanda, umama owafumana amawele nge-IVF, kwafuneka aqale ukuzala ngaphambi kwexesha kwiiveki ezingama-20 waza kwafuneka aphumle ebhedini iiveki ezili-11. Ekugqibeleni, amawele akhe azalwa kwiiveki ezisi-8 ngaphambi kwexesha.
Uthi into efana nale: "Hamba uyokubona ukuba kunjani ukuba nomntwana ozelwe ngaphambi kwexesha. Yenza isigqibo sokuba ingaba ngumngcipheko onokuwuthatha na. Kuba yintlungu enkulu. Abantwana bam baneenyanga ezili-9 ngoku, kwaye baphila kakuhle, kodwa ndihlala ndibaxhalabela. Ndisoloko ndixhalabile malunga neengxaki eziza kubakho ixesha elide."
I-IVF inokubiza kakhulu, kodwa ukuba kuzalwa abantwana abazelwe ngaphambi kwexesha, iindleko zokubagcina esibhedlele ixesha elide - kungekuphela nje ngokwemali, kodwa nangokweemvakalelo - ziphezulu kakhulu.
Ukuqonda kutshintsha izimvo.
Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba xa ezi ngozi zichazwe ngokucacileyo, abantu abaninzi ababecinga ukuba bafuna amawele ekuqaleni batshintsha iingqondo zabo. Olunye uphando lubonise ukuba emva kokuthetha nogqirha wabo malunga neengozi zokukhulelwa kwamawele, ipesenti yabazali abafuna amawele iyancipha malunga nesiqingatha.
Isizathu soku kukuba emva kweminyaka yokubandezeleka ngenxa yokungafumani bantwana, ingqwalasela ikwinjongo "yokukhulelwa" nangayiphi na indlela efunekayo. Kodwa umfanekiso omkhulu wokukhulelwa, ukuzala, kunye nokukhulisa abantwana oza emva koko awubonakali ngelo xesha.
Ukunyamekela amawele aphilileyo akulula!
Khawuthelekelele ukuba unamawele asempilweni, azalwe ngexesha elifanelekileyo, ngaphandle kweengxaki. Kulungile oko. Kodwa ukuwanyamekela akulula.
Omnye uchwephesha, onguyise wamawele aphilileyo, uthi: "Kunzima kakhulu kunokuba abantu becinga. Umsebenzi wokwenene uqala xa abantwana bezalwa. Akukho nto yanelisayo njengokufika ekhaya ekupheleni kosuku uze bobabini abantwana batsibe baze bakugone. Kwaye akukho nto icaphukisayo ngaphezu kokuba abantu ababini bekhala kunye kwi-stereo."
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Eyona miphumo iphambili neyona ilungileyo yonyango lwe-IVF kukuba nomntwana omnye ophilileyo . Ayilonani elibalulekileyo, kodwa yimpilo yomntwana kunye nomama.
- Ukuba ucinga ngokuba namawele, thetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka ngazo zonke iingozi zonyango ezibandakanyekileyo kugqirha wakho.
- Musa ukwenza izigqibo ezibeka ubomi bomama nomntwana ongekazalwa emngciphekweni ngokucinga ngeendleko zonyango. Iindleko kunye noxinzelelo lokunyanga umntwana ozelwe ngaphambi kwexesha zinkulu kakhulu.
- Ugqirha wakho uya kugqiba ukuba zingaphi iimbumba oza kuzidlulisela ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yakho, impilo yakho, kunye nomgangatho weembumba. Thembela kuloo ngcebiso yobungcali.
- Eyona njongo iphambili kukubuyela ekhaya wonwabile nomntwana ophilileyo. Oko kubaluleke ngaphezu kokuba unomntwana omnye okanye ababini.
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