Ngaba wakha waya kugqirha waza waziva ngathi bathetha kuphela ngamafutha omzimba wakho kodwa abazange baphulaphule isigulo sakho sokwenyani? Okanye, ngaba waziva ngathi bakubiza ngokuba ulivila kwaye awunambeko ngenxa yobunzima bakho? Le yinto ebuhlungu, engathethwayo abantu abaninzi abayifumanayo. Namhlanje sithetha ngale meko ibizwa ngokuba yi-'Weight Bias'. Oko kukuthi, ukuphatha umntu ngendlela eyahlukileyo ngokusekelwe kubunzima bakhe kunye nokuma komzimba wakhe .
Masiqale ngeli bali. ULekan ngumfazi oneminyaka engama-27 ubudala. Ukholelwa ukuba ukudakumba kwakhe kwakufihliwe kubo bonke abantu ngenxa yamafutha omzimba wakhe. Ngexesha lakhe laseyunivesithi, akazange alale kakuhle. Wade walibala nokutya. Walahlekelwa ngaphezu kweekhilogram ezili-13 kwisemester enye. Ngokwesiqhelo, ukwehla kobunzima ngequbuliso ngaphandle kwesizathu kunokuba luphawu lokugula kakhulu. Kodwa akukho mntu wayekrokrela ukuba uhlile ubunzima. "Abahlobo bam nootitshala bonke bathi ndibhityile kwaye ndimhle. Kodwa eneneni, ndandibuthathaka kakhulu ebomini bam, engqondweni nasemzimbeni," utshilo.
Wafuna uncedo lwempilo yengqondo waza waya kugqirha. Icebiso likagqirha lalisithi, "Ukuba unciphisa ubunzima kancinci, uza kuziva ungcono." Emva kweenyanga, wasinda ngokulambisa kwimizamo yokuzibulala. Ngoku ubuyele kubunzima bakhe obuqhelekileyo kwaye unyangwa ngenxa yokudakumba. Uziva ngcono ngomzimba wakhe ngoku. Kodwa usazibuza, "Ukuba bendimncinci, ngaba abantu bebeya kubona ezi mpawu zilumkisayo? Ngaba bebeya kundithatha nzulu?"
"Ngenxa yokuba ndandityebile, abantu baqaphela kuphela ukuba ndinciphile. Babecinga ukuba oko kumele ukuba kundenze ndasempilweni ."
Yintoni iWeight Bias kunye neWeight Stigma?
Nangona la magama mabini esenokubonakala ngathi athetha into enye, kukho umahluko omncinci. UNjingalwazi uRebecca Poole, ophanda oku, ukucacisa ngolu hlobo.
- Ibala lokutyeba: Ngamafutshane, ibala lokutyeba ebantwini lokuba abantu abanemizimba etyebileyo baphathwa kakubi. Oko kukuthi, inkolelo eqhelekileyo yokuba "ukutyeba akulunganga."
- Ubunzima Bi AS : Oku kudlulela ngaphaya koko. Oko kukuthi, izimo zengqondo ezingalunganga ezifana nokuba abantu abakhulupheleyo “bayavilapha,” “bangalawulekiyo”, “bangcolile” kwaye babaphathe ngendlela engafanelekanga ngokusekelwe kuloo nto.
Ezi meko zinokuvela kumqeshi wakho, kootitshala, kubantu obathandayo, okanye nakugqirha okunyangayo. Xa uqala ukwenza ezi zigwebo ngawe, zibizwa ngokuba yi-'Internalized Weight Stigma'. Kuthetha ukuba uzicingela uthi, "Andinamsebenzi kuba ndityebile."
Zithini iziphumo zeWeight Bias?
Oku kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kunye nonyango olufumanayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abatyebileyo bathi baziva bengonwabanga ngolu hlobo ikakhulu ngoogqirha.
| Indlela eyenzeka ngayo impembelelo | Inkcazo kunye nemizekelo |
|---|---|
| Kunyango lwezonyango | Ukuba i-body mass index yakho (BMI) iphezulu, abanye oogqirha banokwenza oku kulandelayo: - Ukuchitha ixesha elincinci ndithetha nawe. - Ukubonelela ngolwazi oluncinci malunga nempilo. - Ukukuphatha ngentlonipho encinci. - Ukusebenzisa amagama arhabaxa ngomzimba wakho. - Ukutyhola ubunzima bakho ngezinye izifo onazo nako kuyinto embi. |
| Kwimpilo yengqondo | Xa umntu enziwa abe neentloni ngobunzima bakhe, oko kunokuba ngumthombo woxinzelelo. Yiyo loo nto: - Ukwehla kokuzithemba. - Iimpawu ezikhulayo zokuxhalaba nokudakumba. - Ukuziva kakubi ngomzimba wakho (Umfanekiso womzimba wakho mbi kakhulu). - Umngcipheko okhulayo wokusebenzisa iziyobisi kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala. |
| Kubomi bemihla ngemihla | Simele sijongane namava afana nala, "Kunzima ukufumana impahla esifanelayo, abantu bayasijonga xa sisitya ngaphandle, kwaye kufuneka singene ezihlalweni ezibhasini nakwiinqwelomoya." |
Ngenxa yamava anje, abantu abaninzi abayi kugqirha de ukugula kwabo kube kukhulu kakhulu , kuba bayoyika kwaye baneentloni ngonyango abaza kulufumana.
Qonda oku. Ukubekwa ibala ngobunzima akusiyongxaki nje yobulungisa bentlalo, yingxaki yempilo yoluntu kuba iyonakalisa ngqo impilo yomzimba nengqondo yabantu.
Umelana njani nale ngxaki yokungabikho kokusesikweni?
Ewe, ngumceli mngeni. Kodwa xa into efana nale ikwehlela, unelungelo lokuthetha. Ukuba umntu uthetha into engalunganga ngobunzima bakho, mxelele ukuba uphosisile. Akulula njengoko kuvakala. Kodwa ngamaxesha anje, kufuneka uzithethele. Nokuba kukho ugqirha wakho.
Ezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda xa undwendwela ugqirha:
- Cwangcisa kwangaphambili: Ngaphambi kokuba uye kugqirha , bhala phantsi imibuzo ofuna ukuyibuza. Ukuba ugqirha uqala ukuthetha ngobunzima bakho, kodwa unenye ingxaki yempilo, chaza ngokucacileyo ukuba, "Gqirha, andikho apha namhlanje ukuthetha ngale ngxaki. Ndilapha ukuthetha ngenye ingxaki endinayo."
- Zola: Ukuthetha ngobunzima kunokuba luxinzelelo. Ngamaxesha anje, phefumla nzulu, uthethe wedwa, kwaye ucinge, "Kulungile, ndiza kuyisingatha le nto ngoxolo," ngaphambi kokuba uphinde uncokole.
- Hamba nomntu oza kukunceda: Hamba nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho. Ngaphambi kokuba uhambe, mchazele injongo yakho. Ukuba kunzima ukuthetha, mcele ukuba akuthethele.
- Yazisa ugqirha wakho: Thetha ngqo ngokukhetha ubunzima. Ukuxelela ugqirha wakho ukuba ukhe waba namava amabi anje ngaphambili kunokunceda atshintshe indlela asebenza ngayo. Kukho oogqirha abaninzi abaluncedo nabaqondayo.
Ungamfumana njani ugqirha okuhloniphayo?
Okwangoku, oogqirha abaninzi bayazi ukuba ingxaki kukuba umntu utyeba kakhulu. Abanye bade babhengeze kwiikliniki zabo ukuba baza kuthetha ngobunzima kuphela xa isigulana sivuma.
Ungabuza ugqirha ukuba bayayilandela na indlela ye-Health at Every Size (HAES) . Ngamafutshane, kuthetha ukuthi, "Andicingi ukuba uyanciphisa umzimba okanye awunciphi, kodwa ndiza kukunika unyango olungcono kakhulu."
Buza abahlobo bakho abatyebe kakhulu nabatyebe kakhulu ukuba bafumana phi unyango lwabo. Le yindlela elungileyo yokwenza loo nto. Kungathatha iminyaka ukufumana ugqirha omthembayo nomhloniphayo. Kodwa ungayeki ukuzama.
Zithande kwaye ufumane inkxaso.
Akulula ukuphelisa la mabala angaphakathi. Kodwa amaqhinga okuziphatha kwengqondo anokunceda. Cela ugqirha wakho ukuba akuthumele kumcebisi osebenza nabantu abatyebe kakhulu. Angakunceda uchonge iingcinga ezimbi eziza engqondweni yakho aze azithathele indawo zezo zilungileyo.
Kukho amaqela amaninzi kwimidiya yoluntu athetha ngeengcamango ezifana ne-'Body Positivity', 'Body Neutrality', kunye ne-HAES. Ungafumana amandla amaninzi kuzo.
"Ukungathathi cala komzimba" kuthetha ukuthi "Umzimba wakho akufuneki uhlale umhle okanye umangalisa." Kodwa "Ukuzigcina Umzimba Ulungile" kuthetha ukuthi "Bhiyozela umzimba wakho, uwuthande, kwaye wonwabe ngento onokuyenza."
Ukuba nomzimba olungileyo akuthethi ukungawunaki impilo yakho. Kuthetha ukuba akufuneki uthiye umzimba wakho, nokuba awufanelani nombono "omncinci" woluntu.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukukhetha izinto ngobunzima kuyinyani: Kuyinyani. Kwaye kuyingozi kwimpilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo.
- Thetha ngokwakho: Unelungelo lokuthetha ukuba uphathwa kakubi, nokuba useofisini kagqirha okanye naphi na.
- Fumana unyango oluhloniphekileyo: Nokuba ubunzima bakho bunjani, unelungelo lokufumana unyango oluhloniphekileyo. Musa ukwaneliseka yinto engaphantsi koko.
- Fumana inkxaso: Awuwedwa kolu hambo. Funa inkxaso kubahlobo abakuxhasayo, kumaqela eendaba zoluntu, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.
- Ixabiso lakho alixhomekekanga kubunzima: Ixabiso lakho, izakhono zakho, ububele bakho, akukho nanye kwezi zinto enokulinganiswa ngenani elikwisikali.
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