Kukho iintsuku apho uziva ngathi uneengcinga eziliwaka ezidlula entlokweni yakho ngaxeshanye. Zininzi izinto ekufuneka uzenze, kodwa kubonakala ngathi awunakuqala. Nento encinci ingakuphazamisa. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka rhoqo kuwe, usenokuba ulwa nesifo esibizwa ngokuba yi-ADHD ungaqondi nokuba yintoni na. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba le yinto echaphazela abantwana abancinci kuphela. Kodwa akunjalo. Makhe sithethe ngayo ngokweenkcukacha namhlanje.
Yintoni kanye kanye i-ADHD?
Ngamafutshane, i-ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) yimeko yophuhliso lwe-neurodevelopmental echaphazela indlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo yethu. Asikuko ubuvila okanye isiphene sobuntu. Kunzima ngakumbi kumntu onesi sifo ukulawula ingqalelo yakhe, ukuziphatha kwakhe, kunye neminqweno yakhe kunabanye.
Iimpawu eziphambili ezibonwayo zezi:
- Ubunzima bokugxila : Xa ufunda incwadi okanye xa umntu ethetha, ingqondo yakho iyazulazula.
- Ukuphazamiseka lula: Nokuba ingxolo incinci inokubangela ukuba ulahlekelwe yingqwalasela kwinto oyenzayo.
- Ukuxakeka kakhulu: Ukuhlala ushukuma, kunzima ukuhlala kwindawo enye nokuba usesitulweni.
- Ukungakwazi ukuhlela umsebenzi: Igumbi lingcolile, uyalibala apho ubeke khona izinto, kwaye kunzima ukugqiba umsebenzi wakuba uwuqalile.
- Ukungxama ( Ukungxama ): Ukwenza izigqibo ngequbuliso ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo, uphendula ngaphambi kokuba umntu agqibe ukuthetha.
Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ayizizo zonke ezi mpawu ezikhoyo kuye wonke umntu one-ADHD. Kwaye ubukhali bezi mpawu bunokwahluka ukusuka kumntu ukuya komnye nangobudala.
Ngaba nabantu abadala bane-ADHD?
Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba i-ADHD yinto echaphazela abantwana abancinci kuphela. Kodwa oko akuyonyani ngokupheleleyo. Uphando olwenziwe kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo lufumanise ukuba le meko inokuqhubeka de kube mdala.
Iingcali zithi wonke umntu omdala one-ADHD ebenayo ukususela ebuntwaneni. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayizange iqatshelwe ngelo xesha. Nangona inkcubeko yethu ibiza abantwana ngokuthi “bangcolile,” “banekratshi,” kwaye “banenkani,” akukho mntu ucinga ukuba loo mntwana usenokuba unengxaki ye-ADHD.
UDuane ngumphathi weprojekthi. Ngenye imini, umphathi wakhe wamcela ukuba akhokele intlanganiso ebalulekileyo ngoMvulo kusasa. Oku bekungoLwesihlanu. NgoMvulo kusasa, wonke umntu wafika kwintlanganiso, kwaye uDuane, njengabo bonke abanye, wayelinde umphathi wakhe ukuba afike. Wayelibele ngokupheleleyo ukuba wayenikwe umsebenzi wokukhokela intlanganiso! Wakhumbula kuphela isiganeko xa umphathi wakhe wabuya kamva waza wabuza ukuba intlanganiso ihambe njani.
UDuane uthi, ukuphila ne-ADHD kufana nokuhlala uloyiko olungapheliyo. "Uhlala uphazamisekile. Awusoze wazi ukuba kukho into eza kungahambi kakuhle nini. Uhlala ucinga ukuba kukho into eza kungahambi kakuhle kuba ndenze into engalunganga okanye ndilibele into engalunganga." Le yingxaki yangaphakathi engabonakaliyo abantu abaninzi abadala abane-ADHD abadlula kuyo.
| Uphawu / iimvakalelo | Indlela evakalelwa ngayo kubomi bemihla ngemihla |
|---|---|
| Ukuphazamiseka | Ukungakwazi ukunikel' ingqalelo kwintlanganiso. Ukulahlekelwa yingqondo xa umntu ethetha. Ukulibala into oyenzayo ngelixa ujonge imoto endleleni. |
| Ukusebenza ngokugqithisileyo | Ukungakwazi ukuhlala kwindawo enye, ukushukuma rhoqo, ukungakwazi ukuhlala kamnandi nokuba usesitulweni. Ukuhlala uziva ungaphumli. |
| Ukungxama | Ukuthetha nantoni na efika engqondweni (akukho sihluzo). Ukuchitha imali ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo. Ukuphazamisa nokuthetha ngaphambi kokuba umntu agqibe ukuthetha. |
| Ukungabikho kwamandla ombutho | Ukulibala apho ubeka khona izitshixo okanye ibhegi yakho. Ukungakwazi ukugqiba umsebenzi ngexesha. Ukulibala ukuhlawula amatyala. |
| Ukugqithisa | Ukudibana komsebenzi wasekhaya nomsebenzi weofisi kuvakala ngathi ngumthwalo onzima. Ukungakwazi ukuthwala izinto ezifana nengxolo enkulu nezibane ezikhanyayo. |
Kutheni oku kunzima kwabanye ukukuqonda?
I-ADHD ayisiyonto ibonakalayo ngaphandle. Xa waphuka umlenze, ubona iplasta ephosweyo. Kodwa i-ADHD yingxaki yangaphakathi. Yiyo loo nto kunzima kakhulu ukuba abanye bayiqonde.
UTeri yingcali kwezonyango egxile kubafazi abane-ADHD. Ukwanayo ne-ADHD. Ufumanise ukuba unayo emva kokuba intombi yakhe ifunyaniswe ukuba inayo le meko. I-ADHD ifumaneka kwiintsapho, oko kuthetha ukuba inefuthe lemfuza.
Uthi ubomi bebunzima kakhulu kuye emva kokuba ngumama. "Ndinabantwana ababini, imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukupheka, yonke into yayivakala ngathi ngumthwalo endingenakuwuthwala. Ndibone abanye oomama besenza ezi zinto nangona benabantwana abahlanu. Kutheni ndingenakukwenza? Ndisisidenge? Ngaba ndingumntu osileleyo?" Ndazicingela.
Olu luvo luqhelekile kubafazi abaninzi abane-ADHD. Xa bengakwazi ukungena kwisakhelo sento uluntu oluyibiza ngokuba "ngumfazi olungileyo" okanye "umama olungileyo," bazibeka ityala.
Kunzima kakhulu kumntu ongena-ADHD ukuqonda umntu onesi sifo, kuba akukho mntu usebenza nzima kangaka ukuze angaphumeleli rhoqo. Yinto engekho phantsi kolawulo lwakhe.
Ungaphila njani ngempumelelo ne-ADHD?
Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. I-ADHD ayisosiphelo sobomi. Zininzi iindlela zokuphila ngempumelelo nayo.
1. Funa ingcebiso kagqirha: Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba unale mpawu, into yokuqala neyona ibalulekileyo omawuyenze kukubona ugqirha ofanelekileyo, ingakumbi ugqirha wengqondo, uze uthethe ngayo. Musa ukuzama ukuzixilonga ngokufunda ngayo kwi-intanethi. Ugqirha wakho uza kukuxilonga kakuhle aze aqinisekise ukuba unale meko okanye akunjalo.
2. Amayeza: Abanye abantu bafumana isiqabu esikhulu kumayeza abhalwe ngugqirha. La mayeza anokubanceda bagxile baze bazole. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha anokubangela iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezifana nokozela kunye nesicaphucaphu. Ngoko ke , kufuneka uthethe nogqirha wakho ukuze akumisele amayeza afanelekileyo kunye nomthamo ofanelekileyo.
3. Unyango kunye noQeqesho: Ungafumana uncedo kumqeqeshi we-ADHD okanye ingcali yezonyango. Banokukufundisa iindlela ezisebenzayo zokulawula ixesha lakho, ukucwangcisa ishedyuli yakho, kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane bentlalo.
4. Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila:
- Umthambo:Ukuzilolonga imihla ngemihla kunye neyoga kubonelela ngegazi elilungileyo engqondweni kwaye kukwanceda kakhulu ekuthomalaliseni ingqondo.
- Ukugxila kubuchule: UDuane, owayelibele ngaloo ntlanganiso, kamva waqonda ukuba amandla akhe ayengekho ekukhumbuleni iinkcukacha, kodwa ekudaleni izinto ezintsha nasekufumaneni izisombululo kwiingxaki zobugcisa. Wagxila kuloo nto waza waphumelela. Fumanisa ukuba ziziphi amandla akho.
Kulula ukujonga umntu one-ADHD uthi, "Ulivila kakhulu" okanye "Akakhathali." Kodwa asiboni ubunzima abajongene nabo ngaphakathi. Ukuba uziva ezi mvakalelo, khumbula ukuba awuwedwa.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-ADHD ayilovila okanye isiphene sobuntu. Yimeko yokwenyani yempilo enxulumene nokusebenza kwengqondo.
- Le meko ichaphazela abantwana abancinci kunye nabantu abadala. Abantu abadala abaninzi baphila bengazi ukuba banale meko.
- Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba uneempawu ze-ADHD, musa ukuqikelela kwaye ucele ingcebiso kugqirha ofanelekileyo.
- I-ADHD inokulawulwa ngempumelelo ngamayeza, unyango, utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila, kunye nokuqaphela amandla omntu.
- Awungomntu “ophukileyo” okanye “ongaphumeleliyo.” Ufuna nje uncedo olufanelekileyo kunye neendlela ezifanelekileyo ezihambelana nendlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo yakho.
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