Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa sengathi ingqondo yakho ayikho endaweni eyodwa, konke kuyindida, awukwazi ukuqeda umsebenzi owodwa kahle, futhi kuhlale kukhona okungaphumuli engqondweni yakho? Mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi, "Kukhona okungahambi kahle kakhulu ngami, angazi ukuthi ngiyahlanya yini." Uma usuphile nale mizwa iminyaka eminingi futhi ngolunye usuku udokotela ekutshela ukuthi une-ADHD ( Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder ), ubungazizwa kanjani? Yilokho esikhuluma ngakho namuhla.
Isivunguvungu semizwa esihambisana nokuxilongwa
Njengomuntu omdala, uma uthola ukuthi une-ADHD, kunemizwa eminingi engafika engqondweni. Kufana nokuhamba ngesivinini esikhulu semizwa. Abanye abantu abakwazi ukwamukela lokhu. Bacabanga ukuthi, "Cha, cha... abantu abane-ADHD banonya, bayalwa, bangena enkingeni nomthetho. Anginjalo mina." Lokhu kuyiphutha emphakathini.
Cabanga ngowesifazane oneminyaka engama-30 osezingeni eliphezulu emsebenzini wakhe, onethalente, futhi ozwana kahle nawo wonke umuntu. Kodwa ubhekene nempi enkulu ngaphakathi. Akakwazi ukugxila emsebenzini, uzizwa ekhathazekile lapho engakwazi ukuqeda umsebenzi ngesikhathi, futhi ukhohlwa izinto. Ngemva kokuhlupheka kanje iminyaka eminingi, uya kudokotela futhi uthola ukuthi une-ADHD.
Umuzwa wokuqala ofika engqondweni ukuphika. Umcabango othi, "Lokhu akunakwenzeka." Kanye nalokho kuza nokwesaba ukuthi uma ukhuluma ngesifo sengqondo, uzokhishwa inyumbazane ngumphakathi nokuthi abantu bazocabanga ngendlela engafanele. Ukwesaba ukuzwa izindaba ezinjengokuthi, "Abantu abane- ADHD abenzi kahle imisebenzi yabo, abakwazi ukuthenjwa" kuwumcabango ohluphayo.
Kodwa iqiniso lihlukile kakhulu. Ubuchopho bomuntu one-ADHD bucubungula imizwa ngendlela ehlukile kancane kunobuchopho babanye. Kalula nje, yonke imizwa ayizwayo izwakala "inkulu" kancane.
- Uma udangele: Kungazwakala njengokudabuka okukhulu.
- Uma injabulo ifika: Ingazwakala sengathi iyintokozo enkulu nejabulisayo.
- Uma uzizwa ukhululekile: Nalokho kungazwakala njengenkululeko engenakucatshangwa.
Ngakho-ke, kuvamile ukuba nemizwa eminingi ephikisanayo ngesikhathi esisodwa uma uthola ukuthi une-ADHD.
Ukushintshashintsha phakathi kokukhululeka nosizi
Lokhu kutholakala kwesifo kufana nenkemba. Kubuhlungu ngakolunye uhlangothi, kodwa futhi kuletha impumuzo enkulu kolunye. Abantu abaningi bazizwa behlukene phakathi kwalokhu okubili.
| Umuzwa owuzwayo | Ungase ucabange... |
|---|---|
| Usizi | "O, ukube nje bengikwazi lokhu eminyakeni edlule... Yeka ukuthi izinsuku zami zesikole bezizohluka kanjani, ubudlelwano bami ngabe buhluke kangakanani?" "Mangaki amathuba ebengingawaphuthelwa ngenxa yalokhu?" "Ingabe ngiphuthelwe yimpilo enhle ebengiyicabanga?" Umuzwa wokudabuka. |
| Ukukhululeka | "Huh...-ke lesi yisona sizathu senkinga engibe nayo isikhathi eside kangaka. Akulona iphutha lami." "Manje kunegama lesizathu sokuthi angikwazi ukwenza izinto ngesikhathi, ngikhohlwe izinto, futhi angikwazi ukugcina ingqondo yami endaweni eyodwa." Inkululeko yokuthi, "Manje kukhona ukwelashwa kwalokhu, ngingaguqula impilo yami ibe ngcono." |
| Intukuthelo | "Kungani abazali bami, othisha, noma abangane bami bengakubonanga lokhu?" "Kungani kungekho muntu ongisizile?" "Ingabe ngihlupheke isikhathi eside kangaka ngeze?" Ngizizwa ngithukuthelele mina nabanye. |
Induduzo yokwazi iqiniso
Kwabanye, lokhu kutholakala kufana nethoshi elitholakala ebumnyameni. Kumuntu obelokhu elwa iminyaka eminingi engakwazi ukuqeda imisebenzi, ukugcina ubudlelwano, noma ukuthuthuka emfundweni yakhe, ukufunda ukuthi i-ADHD iyimbangela kungaba impumuzo enkulu nokuthula.
"Ngisho noma izinto zihlelekile ekhanda lami, uma ngizibeka ngamazwi bese ngizitshela omunye umuntu, uyadideka. Kunzima kakhulu kimi ukuhlala ngigxile futhi ngiqede umsebenzi." Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wabhekana nento efana nale. Uma usuqonda isizathu salokhu konke, ungaqala ukuyamukela bese ucabanga ukuthi, "Kulungile, nginalesi simo. Manje ngingasisingatha kanjani?"
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu akusikho ubuthakathaka ebuntwini bakho, kodwa ushintsho ekusebenzeni kobuchopho.
Uphila kanjani nale mizwa emikhulu?
Kulungile, manje usuyazi ukuthi unalesi simo. Ulwa nemizwa ehambisana naso. Wenzani manje? Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi zokukusiza ukuthi uphathe lesi simo futhi uphile impilo ephumelelayo.
1. Ukwelashwa: Khuluma nodokotela wakho ukuze uthole ukuthi yikuphi ukwelashwa okufanele wena. Abanye abantu bathola impumuzo enkulu emithini evuselelayo . Lokhu kungasiza ekugxiliseni ingqondo nasekulawuleni ukungaphumuli.
2. Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (i-CBT): Lokhu kufana nokuqeqesha ingqondo. Lokhu kwelashwa kukusiza ukuthi ubone futhi ushintshe amaphethini okucabanga angemahle abangelwa yi-ADHD, futhi kukusize ukuthi uwaphathe ngendlela engokoqobo.
3. Ukuthuthukisa Imisebenzi Yokuphatha: Lokhu kungase kuzwakale njengegama lobuchwepheshe, kodwa ngamagama alula, kubhekisela ekhonweni lobuchopho bethu lokuhlela, ukuhlela, ukugcina ukunaka, ukukhumbula, nokulawula imizwa. Lawa makhono ayaphazamiseka kancane kubantu abane-ADHD. Kunezivivinyo ezikhethekile zokuqeqesha ubuchopho ('ukuqeqeshwa kwengqondo' noma 'ukuqeqeshwa kobuchopho') zokuthuthukisa lokhu.
4. Amaqembu Okusekelana : Ukuhlangana nabanye abantu abane-ADHD kungaba umthombo omkhulu wamandla. Kuyimpumuzo enkulu ukwazi ukuthi angingedwa obhekene nalokhu. Lena indawo enhle yokwabelana ngolwazi lwakho nokufunda kwabanye.
5. Amathiphu awusizo:
- Yenza uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe . Setha izikhumbuzi efonini yakho.
- Khetha indawo ethule, egxile emsebenzini. Uma kudingeka, xoxa ngalokhu nomphathi wakho.
- Tshela umndeni wakho nabangane abaseduze ngalokhu. Uma beqonda isizathu sokuziphatha kwakho, uzothola ukwesekwa okwengeziwe nokuqonda kubo.
I-ADHD akuyona ukuphela kokuphila. Kuyisiqalo sokuziqonda kangcono. Esikhundleni sokuhlala ezintweni oziphuthelwe empilweni yakho, sebenzisa njengethuba lokucabanga ngendlela ongayakha ngayo impilo engcono nephumelelayo esikhathini esizayo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Njengomuntu omdala, kuvamile ukuzwa imizwa eqinile nephikisanayo njengokudabuka, intukuthelo, kanye nokukhululeka lapho uthola ukuthi une-ADHD.
- Lokhu kutholakala kwesifo akulona iphutha kuwe. Kuyithuluzi elichaza izizathu zezinselele obhekane nazo isikhathi eside futhi likuqinise.
- Izinto ezifana nemithi kanye nokwelashwa kokuziphatha kungaba usizo olukhulu ekulawuleni impilo yakho kanye nemizwa yakho.
- Umuntu ongcono kakhulu ongakhuluma naye ngalokhu udokotela wakho. Khuluma naye bese uveza uhlelo lokwelashwa olusebenza kahle kuwe.
- Ukusekelwa okuthola emndenini, kubangani, kanye namaqembu okusekela abantu abane-ADHD njengawe kubaluleke kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi awuwedwa.
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