Amazwi awakwazi ukuchaza injabulo oyizwayo lapho kufika isivakashi esisha empilweni yakho neyomyeni wakho, akunjalo? Kanye naleyo njabulo, kunemithwalo yemfanelo eminingi emincane ehambisana nayo. Phakathi kwayo, ukukhetha igama lomntwana kuyisihloko abazali abaningi abasithola sicindezela kancane futhi ngezinye izikhathi sibangela izingxabano ezincane. Ogogo nomkhulu bathi igama elilodwa, abangane bathi elinye igama, unelinye engqondweni... Ekugcineni, awukwazi ukunquma ukuthi uzokhetha ini. Ngakho-ke namuhla, ake sixoxe ngokukhetha igama lalo mntwana.
Igama akulona nje igama!
Sivame ukucabanga ngegama elihle elisho usana oluncane. Kodwa cabanga ngale ndlela. Igama olikhethayo lizoba nengane yakho kuze kube phakade. Lapho leyo ngane iya esikoleni, idlala nabangani, iqala umsebenzi, inomndeni wayo... leli gama lizoba ubunikazi bayo kuzo zonke lezi zindawo.
Ngokusho kukaLaura Wattenberg, owabhala incwadi ekhuluma ngamagama ezingane, iseluleko esingcono kakhulu yilesi, "Cabanga ngegama ozibiza lona." Ukube ubuqala impilo yakho namuhla, ubungathanda yini ukuthi leli gama likumelele? Uma impendulo ingu-"yebo," usemzileni ofanele. Uma impendulo ingu-"cha," sekuyisikhathi sokucabanga ngalelo gama futhi.
Kalula nje, cabanga ngengane yakho isikhulile inegama olikhethile, hhayi njengengane yakho enhle.
Ungalandeli imfashini yakamuva.
Ngezinye izikhathi sibona amagama angajwayelekile futhi ahlukile. Ikakhulukazi emazweni angaphandle, izingane zabadlali nabalingisi zinamagama anjengo-Apple no-Blue Ivy. Manje sekukhona umkhuba ezweni lethu wokuthola amagama ahlukile kangaka. Abantu abaningi bazama ukuthola igama elithandwa yiwo wonke umuntu, kodwa akekho omunye olisebenzisayo.
Kodwa igama elidumile ngomunye unyaka lingase liphelelwe yisikhathi ngolandelayo. Lezi ezinye zezitayela zamagama ezidumile kulezi zinsuku.
| Uhlobo Lokuthambekela | Izibonelo |
|---|---|
| Amagama amadolobha | E-Austin, eBrooklyn (nakuba eSri Lanka bengasebenzisi amagama anjengoKandy noDambulla okwamanje, umqondo ofanayo) |
| Ukusebenzisa izibongo emagameni okuqala | UParker, uColeman (ezweni lakithi, izibongo ezifana noPerera noSilva azivamile ukusetshenziswa emagameni) |
| Ukusebenzisa kabusha amagama amadala, endabuko | Iparele, iRuby (eSri Lanka, amagama afana neparele neruby) |
| Amagama ahlobene nemvelo | UMfula, iSkye (njengomfula, isibhakabhaka) |
Ngaphezu kwalokhu, kuthandwa kakhulu ezweni lakithi ukuqamba ingane ngegama lelungu lomndeni, isihlobo, noma othile esimhloniphayo. Konke lokhu kubonisa ukuthi umphakathi osizungezile usithonya kangakanani lapho sikhetha igama.
Imibono emihle kakhulu ifika ngesikhathi ongasilindele.
Ngezinye izikhathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufunda izincwadi namawebhusayithi amangaki, awukwazi ukuthola igama elifanelana nokunambitheka kwakho. Kodwa umqondo omuhle kakhulu ungavela endaweni nesikhathi esingalindelekile.
- Igama elivela emlandweni womndeni: UMelanie noBrian babefuna igama lendodana yabo. Ngolunye usuku, lapho beya endlini yabazali bakaBrian, uyise kaBrian wabiza igama elithi "Preston" ngenkathi ekhuluma ngomkhulu wakhe. Ngaleso sikhathi, bobabili babukana bamomotheka. Base bethole igama ababelifuna. Ezweni lakithi, kuvamile kakhulu ukunikeza igama elivela kumkhulu, ugogo, noma uzalo .
- Igama elithandwa abazali bobabili: Abanye abazali bahlanganisa izinhlamvu zamagama abo amabili ukuze bakhe igama elihle. Liyakha kakhulu, futhi njalo uma uzwa lelo gama, ukhunjuzwa ngothando oluphakathi kwabo bobabili.
- Igama elivela enkumbulweni ekhethekile: Umama ogama lakhe linguJoan waqamba indodana yakhe ngokuthi "uBenny" ngoba kwakuyigama lendawo yokudlela ayithandayo ayeya kuyo lapho ekhulelwe. "Ngangihlala ngidla lapho ngiseyingane, futhi manje yindawo eyintandokazi yendodana yami," usho kanje.
Ukuzisola ngegama - 'Igama Lomntwana Ukuzisola'
Kweminye imindeni, ukukhetha igama kungaba umthombo wempikiswano enkulu. Umfazi akalithandi igama lomyeni, kanti indoda ayilithandi igama lomfazi. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu. Ngoba ngemuva kokukhetha igama, izinto eziningi zihlobene kakhulu, njengemizwa yethu, isizinda somndeni wethu, uhlanga, kanye nenkolo.
Umama ogama lakhe linguMariyaLapho emtshela ukuthi igama lakhe alithandayo kakhulu elithi “Stella,” umyeni wakhe akakuthandanga nhlobo. Wathi, “Uma indodakazi yami yenza into embi, ngizizwa njengoMarlon Brando ku-‘A Streetcar Named Desire.’” Ekugcineni, bobabili baqhamuka nohlu lwamagama abavumelana ngawo bobabili futhi bakhetha amabili amahle kakhulu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuhlonipha imizwa yabo bobabili nokukhetha igama abangalijabulela bobabili.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ngemva kokuba abazali sebechithe isikhathi esiningi bekhetha igama, bazizwa sengathi igama alifanele ingane lapho ingane izalwa. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi Ukuzisola Ngegama Lomntwana .
Umama ogama lakhe linguKelsey waqamba indodakazi yakhe ngokuthi “Presley,” kodwa kusukela ngesikhathi ezalwa, waba nomuzwa wokuthi leli gama alimfanele. Kamuva, bamnika igama elisha, elithi “Summer,” futhi balishintsha ngokusemthethweni.
"Kungaba ngumqondo omuhle ukushintsha igama lapho ingane isencane, ngaphambi kokuba ijwayele igama, uma abazali bobabili bevumelana. Kodwa uma ingane isikhulile kancane futhi kungekho sivumelwano phakathi kwabo bobabili, kungcono ukujwayela igama elikhona. Ngokuvamile, njengoba ingane ikhula, igama liba yingxenye yayo," kusho ochwepheshe.
Awukakwazi ukukuqonda? Nanka amanye amathiphu
Uma usabambekile ekukhetheni igama, lawa macebiso azokusiza .
- Khuluma nabantu abambalwa ongabathemba: Tshela abangani abambalwa obathembayo futhi ube nehlaya elihle ngamagama amabili noma amathathu wena nomyeni wakho eninawo engqondweni. Thola imibono yabo. Uma umndeni wakho nabangani bakho bengalithandi igama olikhethile, kungaba uphawu lwesixwayiso .
- Lipele kalula: Abanye abazali bazama ukwenza igama elivamile libe elikhethekile ngokulipela ngendlela ehlukile. Isibonelo, igama elithi "Mihiri" lipeletwa ngendlela ehlukile, njengokuthi "Mihiry". Khumbula, sichitha isikhathi esiningi sempilo yethu sifunda amagama, hhayi ukuwapela. Uma isipelingi singajwayelekile, ingane kuzodingeka ipele futhi ichaze igama layo esikoleni noma emsebenzini. Lokhu kungaba yinkinga kuyo.
- Khuluma nodokotela wakho: Uma unenkinga yokuxazulula ukucindezeleka kokukhetha igama noma izingxabano phakathi kwenu nobabili, ungakhuluma nodokotela womndeni wakho ngakho futhi uthole usizo, njengokufuna ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Uma ukhetha igama lomntwana wakho, cabanga hhayi ngesikhathi esengumntwana kuphela, kodwa nangendlela lelo gama elizomthinta ngayo lapho esemdala.
- Ungalandeli nje imfashini yakamuva. Ngezinye izikhathi igama elilula nelendabuko lingaba yigugu kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- Lesi yisinqumo phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho. Xoxani ngakho bese nikhetha igama enilijabulelayo nobabili.
- Ngezinye izikhathi igama elihle kakhulu lingafika kuwe ngokungalindelekile uma unenkinga yokulicabanga. Ngakho ungazicindezeli kakhulu.
- Gcina indlela yokupela igama ilula. Kuzoba lula kakhulu enganeni esikhathini esizayo.
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