Cishe ujwayelene nokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka okuhambisana nokuzama ukukhulelwa umntwana. Kunzima ukuchaza usizi nokukhathazeka okufika engqondweni uma ulinda izinyanga eziningi kodwa imizamo yakho ingaphumeleli. Okwamanje, lapho othile efika ethi, "O, ungacabangi kakhulu, vele uphumule," cishe uyathukuthela, akunjalo? Kodwa ingabe kukhona iqiniso kule ndaba? Ingabe ukucindezeleka kuyawuthinta ngempela amandla okukhulelwa umntwana? Namuhla, sizoxoxa ngalokhu ngokujulile.
Isibonelo esihle salokhu yisipiliyoni sowesifazane ogama lakhe linguYurit. Wayesezame ukuba nomntwana iminyaka emibili. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, wayekhulelwe izikhathi ezine, kodwa isikhathi ngasinye, amathemba akhe ayephela phakathi nokukhulelwa. Wayezame izindlela zemvelo neze-IVF. “Akukho okukhungathekisayo njengokungazi ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka,” kusho uYurit. “Ngangifuna umntwana kakhulu kangangokuthi ukube othile wayengitshele ukuthi ngingaba nomntwana ngokuma ngekhanda noma ngokuphuza amagalani ejusi eluhlaza, ngabe ngikwenzile lokho.”
Ngolunye usuku, ngesikhathi ethola ukwelashwa, wabona iphosta yohlelo oluzosiza abesifazane ababezama ukukhulelwa, futhi wabhalisela lokho. Lolu hlelo lwathatha amasonto ayi-10, futhi lwaluhlanganisa i-yoga, ukuzindla, kanye nezinye izivivinyo ezamfundisa ukuthi angayinqoba kanjani imicabango emibi. Ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa uhlelo luphelile, uYurit wakhulelwa futhi. Ngo-2018, waba ngumama wendodakazi enempilo. “Ngangivame ukuthukuthela lapho othile engitshela ukuthi ngiphumule, kodwa kimi, kwangisiza kakhulu,” kusho yena. “Ngayeka ukuzizwa sengathi umzimba wami uyisitha sami.”
Kuyini ukuxhumana kwesayensi phakathi kokucindezeleka nokuzala?
Kunezizathu eziningi ezenza abanye abantu babe nezingane ngokushesha kanti abanye baba nobunzima. Kodwa ucwaningo olusha lubonisa ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana okuqondile phakathi kokucindezeleka kwansuku zonke kowesifazane kanye nekhono lakhe lokukhulelwa elinciphile .
Kalula nje, uma singaphansi kokucindezeleka okukhulu, imizimba yethu icabanga ukuthi lesi yisikhathi esiyingozi, esingaphephile, nesicindezelayo.
Umzimba wakho uhlakaniphe kakhulu. Uyazi ukuthi isikhathi sokucindezeleka okukhulu akusona isikhathi esihle sokuba nomntwana. Ngakho-ke umzimba ngokwemvelo ucindezela kancane inqubo yokuzala.
Kokunye ukuhlola, amasampula amathe abesifazane ahlolwe futhi kwatholakala ukuthi abesifazane abanamazinga aphezulu e-enzyme ebizwa ngokuthi i-alpha-amylase, okuwuphawu lokucindezeleka , bathatha isikhathi eside ngo-29% ukukhulelwa kunalabo abanamazinga aphansi e-enzyme.
Ngokufanayo, uma sicindezelekile, sikhipha ama-hormone okucindezeleka njenge-cortisol, okuphazamisa uhlelo lokuxhumana phakathi kobuchopho bethu nama-ovari. Lokhu kungabangela ukuthi ukuvuthwa kweqanda, inqubo yokukhulula iqanda, kungajwayelekile noma kume ngokuphelele.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu, kunezinye izizathu ezingokoqobo.
- Umbhangqwana ocindezelekile ungase ube nobulili obuncane.
- Abanye abantu baphendukela ezintweni ezinjengokubhema, ukuphuza utshwala obuningi , noma ukuphuza ikhofi ngenxa yokucindezeleka. Le mikhuba ayilungile enganeni.
Ezinsukwini zokuqala, ngisho nodokotela babengakwamukeli ukuthi ingqondo ingalawula umzimba. Kodwa namuhla, umphakathi wezokwelapha uye wakwamukela kabanzi ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kokucindezeleka nokuzala.
Ngakho-ke senzani ngalokhu kucindezeleka?
Sonke sibhekana nokucindezeleka ngesinye isikhathi empilweni yethu. Ukucindezeleka amasonto ambalwa ngenxa yenkinga yomsebenzi noma ukucindezeleka kokuthutha indlu ngeke kube nomthelela omkhulu ekhonweni lakho lokuba nengane.
Kodwa-ke, uma lokhu kucindezeleka kuhlala isikhathi eside , noma uma ubhekene nokushaqeka okukhulu, njengokulahlekelwa umsebenzi noma ukufa kwelungu lomndeni, inqubo yakho yokukhipha amaqanda ingase iphazamiseke ngokuphelele.
Cishe owesifazane oyedwa kwabayi-10 abaseminyakeni yokuzala uzoba nobunzima bokukhulelwa noma ukukhulelwa kuze kube yilapho ekhulelwe. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kubangelwa yimbangela engokomzimba, njengemibhobho ye-fallopian evalekile.
Kodwa uma uzama izinyanga eziningi kodwa wehluleka ukukhulelwa, kuba yingcindezi enkulu.
Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi izinga lokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka okubhekana nabesifazane abahlushwa ukungazali lifana nelowesifazane otholakale enomdlavuza noma i-HIV.
Lokhu kufana nomjikelezo omubi. Ukungabi nabantwana kudala ukucindezeleka. Lokho kucindezeleka kwenza ukuba nabantwana kube sekwephuzile.
Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo, i-yoga, nokuzindla kungasiza ekuqedeni lo mjikelezo. Kukusiza ukuthi ubone, uphonsele inselelo, futhi ushintshe imicabango emibi njengokuthi "Angisoze ngakwazi ukuba nomntwana," "Konke kuyiphutha lami," futhi kukusize ukuthi uyishintshe.
Yini enye ongayenza?
Uma ubulokhu uzama ukuba nomntwana isikhathi esithile, noma ufuna nje ukwandisa amathuba akho, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lezi zinto zingasiza. Ake sizibheke etafuleni.
| Okufanele ngikwenze | Kungani lokho kubalulekile? |
|---|---|
| "Inani" lokuzivocavoca | Ukuvivinya umzimba kunciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi kwandisa ukuzala. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukwenza "ngokulinganisela." Ukuvivinya umzimba okulingene , njengokuhamba amahora angu-1-5 ngesonto, kungandisa amathuba akho okukhulelwa. Kodwa ukuvivinya umzimba ngokweqile nokukhandlayo ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nemiphumela emibi nakakhulu. |
| Lawula isisindo somzimba wakho | Lapho amazinga okucindezeleka ekhuphuka, abanye abantu baphendukela ekudleni ukuze baziduduze. Kodwa ukukhuluphala kuyisithiyo esikhulu ekukhulelweni nasekulondolozeni ukukhulelwa okunempilo. Ngokusho kocwaningo oluthile, abesifazane abakhuluphele banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okuba nobunzima bokukhulelwa kunabanye. |
| Yidla ukudla okunempilo. | Kuvamile ukufisa ukudla okumnandi, okucutshunguliwe uma uzizwa udangele. Kodwa ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abesifazane abadla ukudla okufana nokwaseMedithera, okuhlanganisa okusanhlamvu okuphelele, izinhlanzi ezicebile ngama-omega-3 fatty acids, kanye nesoya, banamathuba amaningi okukhulelwa kunalabo abadla ukudla okucolisisiwe nokunamafutha amaningi. |
| Khuluma nomlingani wakho kanye nodokotela. | Lena akuyona inkinga obhekene nayo wedwa. Umlingani wakho naye uyingxenye yalolu hambo. Ukulalelana nokwabelana ngemizwa yakho kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka. Futhi, khuluma ngokukhululekile nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Uma kudingeka, ungangabazi ukufuna iseluleko. |
Ekugcineni, ukulindela umntwana kuwuhambo olubucayi noluyinselele. Kubalulekile ukunakekela umzimba nengqondo yakho kahle phakathi nalolu hambo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kuyisici esithinta kakhulu ukuzala. Kungaphazamisa ukusebenza kwamahomoni kanye nokukhishwa kwamaqanda.
- Kubalulekile ukungabanjwa umjikelezo omubi wokucindezeleka ngenxa yokungabi nabantwana, kanye nokucindezeleka okuholela ekubambezelekeni okwengeziwe kokuba nabantwana.
- Ukulawula ukucindezeleka ngezindlela ezifana ne-yoga, ukuzindla, kanye nokwelapha ngengqondo kungandisa amathuba akho okukhulelwa umntwana.
- Ukuzivocavoca okulingene, ukugcina isisindo esinempilo, nokudla ukudla okunempilo kuzokugcina unamandla ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
- Awuwedwa kulolu hambo. Khuluma ngokukhululekile ngalokhu nomlingani wakho, umndeni wakho, ikakhulukazi udokotela wakho.
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