Kungani izingane zidinga ukwelulekwa ngempilo yengqondo (ukwelashwa)? Ake sixoxe ngalokhu!

Ingane yakho ingase ibe nezinkinga nezinkinga empilweni yayo yansuku zonke ngezinye izikhathi. Ngaleso sikhathi, njengomama noma ubaba, ungakhuluma nengane yakho uyisize ixazulule lezo zinkinga. Esikhathini esiningi, ukukhuluma kanjalo kuxazulula izinkinga. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, wena nengane yakho ningadinga usizo olwengeziwe. Yilapho-ke okufanele nicabangele khona ukuyisa ingane yakho kumeluleki wezempilo yengqondo (uchwepheshe wezokwelapha) .

Kungani izingane ezincane zidinga ukubona udokotela wezokwelapha?

Kalula nje, umelaphi ngumuntu othole ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile kwezempilo yengqondo. Bafana nodokotela, kodwa basiza ngokukhethekile ngezinkinga zomzwelo kanye nobunzima bengqondo. Laba belaphi baqonda kahle izinkinga ezahlukene izingane ezincane ezinazo kanye nalokho ezikuzwayo. Bayazi nokuthi bangasiza kanjani ngalezo zinkinga. Abafundisi nje kuphela ingane, kodwa nokuthi wena, njengomzali, ungasiza kanjani ingane yakho.

Cabanga ngalokhu. Ingane yakho ihlukile kunangaphambili. Ibonakala idabukile ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma ithukuthela kalula. Uthi inenkinga yokugxila emsebenzini wesikole. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhuluma kangakanani, uzizwa sengathi awukwazi ukuyikhipha kuleso simo. Esikhathini esinjengalesi, ukuthola usizo kumuntu ongaphandle, umuntu oyazi kahle le ndaba, kungaba usizo olukhulu enganeni yakho. Yingakho sizobona udokotela wezokwelapha.

Yiziphi izinhlobo zezinkinga abelaphi abasiza ngazo?

Odokotela bezokwelapha basiza izingane nemindeni yazo ngezinkinga ezahlukahlukene. Ake sibheke ukuthi ziyini:

• Izinkinga zokulala, ukucindezeleka ngomsebenzi wesikole, ubunzima bokuhlalisana kahle nabanye: Ezinye izingane zinenkinga yokulala ebusuku futhi ziba namaphupho amabi. Lapho umsebenzi wesikole unqwabelana futhi izivivinyo zisondela, zizizwa zicindezelekile kakhulu. Zingase zibe nezinkinga nabangani, othisha kanye nomndeni.
• Ubunzima bokunaka nokuhlala endaweni eyodwa: Izinkinga ezinjengokungakwazi ukugxila ekilasini, ukuba nesikhathi esinzima sokuhlala unganyakazi, nokugijima njalo. Lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kubizwa ngokuthi i-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Kodwa-ke, akuzona zonke izinkinga zokunganaki eziyi-ADHD, futhi lokho kufanele kunqunywe udokotela.
• Ukulwa njalo, ukushesha ukuthukuthela, ukuntuleka kokubekezela: uthukuthela ngezinto ezincane, uhlala elwa nabanye, futhi wenza sengathi akukho lutho olungabekezelelwa.
• Ukuzizwa ukhathazekile ngokungadingekile ngempilo nokuphepha kwakho: Ukuzizwa ukwesaba nokukhathazeka njalo ngezinto ezinjengokuthi 'Ingabe ngizogula?', 'Ingabe kuzoba nengozi?'
• Ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba kanye nobuhlungu kwenzeka ngisho noma ungenasifo: Ngisho noma odokotela bethi 'akukho kugula', uma uhlala uzwa ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba njengobuhlungu besisu kanye nekhanda elibuhlungu, imbangela ingaba ngokwengqondo.
• Izinkinga zomndeni, ukugula okukhulu, izikhathi ezinzima empilweni:Izinkinga ekhaya, izinkinga phakathi kwabazali, ukulahlekelwa umuntu oseduze nabo, noma ukugula okungathi sína enganeni noma emndenini - phakathi nezikhathi ezinzima kangaka, izingane zidinga usizo ukuze zibhekane nazo.
• Ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka, intukuthelo, ukudabuka, ukucindezeleka, noma usizi: Le mizwa ivamile futhi ayiyona inkinga. Kodwa-ke, uma ihluleka ukulawula futhi iphazamisa imisebenzi yansuku zonke yengane yakho kanye nenjabulo yayo, kubalulekile ukuyihlola.

Khumbula, uma uzizwa sengathi ingane yakho inesifo esifana nalesi, akukho okufanele ube namahloni ngaso noma usifihle. Kufana nokubona udokotela ngenxa yesifo somzimba.

Kwenzekani uma uqala ukuhlangana nodokotela wezokwelapha?

Uma uqala ukuya kudokotela wezokwelapha nengane yakho, kuyinto evamile ukuzizwa wesaba futhi unelukuluku. Kodwa abelaphi banobungane kakhulu. Bazokwenza wena nengane yakho nizizwe nimukelekile kakhulu.

Okokuqala, umelaphi uzokhuluma nawe kanye nengane yakho. Bazokwakha indawo lapho ingane yakho ingakhuluma khona kalula. Ngemuva kwalokho, bazoqala ukubuza imibuzo. Le mibuzo ayiyona eyokwahlulela wena, kodwa eyokuqonda kangcono ingane yakho, inkinga ebhekene nayo, kanye nesizinda somndeni. Bazolalela ngokucophelela lokho okushoyo.

Okulandelayo, ungabuza imibuzo eyengeziwe ukuze uqonde kahle ukuthi ingane ibhekene nani , njengokukhathazeka , ukucindezeleka , ukucindezeleka , noma izinkinga zokunaka . Ngezinye izikhathi ungabacela ukuthi bagcwalise imibuzo emifushane. Konke lokhu kwenzelwa ukuthola inkinga eqondile.

Uma sebeqonda ukuthi inkinga iyini, umelaphi uzokutshela ukuthi angakusiza kanjani. Lokho kusho ukuthi bazochaza ukuthi bazosebenzisa luphi uhlobo lwendlela yokwelapha, ukuthi izothatha isikhathi esingakanani, njalo njalo.

Ngokuvamile, abelaphi bazocela izingane ukuthi zize kwezinye izikhathi ezimbalwa. Lezi yizinto esizibiza ngokuthi izikhathi zokwelapha . Lezi zikhathi zivame ukuba kanye ngesonto, kodwa zingahluka kuye ngezidingo zomntwana. Lokhu kungathatha izinyanga eziningana.

Banjani abantwana abancane?

Ezinganeni ezincane kakhulu, okungukuthi, izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka emi-5-6 ubudala, umelaphi angakwazi ukuqoqa ulwazi ngokubuka ukudlala kwengane nokusebenzisana kwayo nabazali kunokukhuluma ngqo nengane. Futhi, ulwazi oluningi lutholakala kubazali. Kunezindlela zokwelapha ezithile, njenge -Play Therapy , esebenzisa amathoyizi nokudweba ukuze azame ukuqonda okusengqondweni yengane.

Kwenzekani uma uya emihlanganweni yokwelapha?

Kulungile, kwenzekani uma uqhubeka nokuya kulezi zikhathi zokwelapha? Kufana nengane eya ekilasini ukuyofunda okuthile okusha. Kodwa lapha, lokho ekufundayo ukuthi ingabhekana kanjani nezinkinga zayo, ukuthi ingaziqonda kanjani imizwa yayo, kanye nezindlela ezintsha zokuxazulula izinkinga.

Esifundweni ngasinye, ingane ikhuluma nodokotela wezifo zengqondo. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo ubuza imibuzo, alalele ngokucophelela lokho ingane ekushoyo, futhi asize ingane ikhulume ngokukhululeka ngezinto ezisengqondweni yayo, njengokwesaba nokukhathazeka. Bese bekhuluma ngalezo zinkinga nokuthi bangabhekana kanjani nazo.

Ngezinye izikhathi abelaphi banikeza izingane imisebenzi emincane okufanele bayenze. Isibonelo, bangase babacele ukuba badwebe isithombe semizwa yabo, noma bangase babafundise izivivinyo ezincane zendlela yokulawula intukuthelo yabo. Lokhu kufana 'nokuzivocavoca kwengqondo' .

Lokho okufundiswa abelaphi

Odokotela bezokwelapha bafundisa izingane izinto eziningi ezibalulekile. Isibonelo:

• Indlela yokubona nokuphatha imizwa: Ikufundisa ukuthi ungayiqonda kanjani futhi uphendule ngendlela efanele imizwa efana nokudabuka, intukuthelo, nokwesaba lapho iphakama.
• Amakhono okuxazulula izinkinga: Akusiza ukuthi ucabange ngezindlela ezahlukene zokuxazulula inkinga, kunokuba ukhathazeke uma iphakama.
• Ukushintsha izindlela zokucabanga ezingezinhle: Ngezinye izikhathi sijwayele ukucabanga ngendlela engeyinhle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Zisisiza ukuthi sicabange ngendlela engokoqobo neyakhayo esikhundleni sokucabanga njengokuthi 'Angikwazi' noma 'Ngimubi'. Lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kwenziwa kusetshenziswa izindlela ezifana nokuthi '(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - CBT)'.
• Amakhono okuxhumana nabantu: Izinto ezifana nokukhuluma kahle nabanye, ukwenza abangane, nokuveza imibono yakho ngendlela efanele.
• Amasu okuphumula: Izinto ezifana nokuzivocavoca kokuphefumula zingakusiza ukuthi uzole uma uzizwa ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abelaphi bafundise nabazali indlela yokusiza ingane yabo. Bakuqondisa ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani nengane yakho ekhaya, ungayisekela kanjani ingane yakho, nokuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane yakho iqhubeke nalokho ekufundile. Ngoba ukwesekwa kwabazali nakho kubalulekile ekwakheni inhlalakahle yengqondo yengane.

Ukuya ekwelashweni ngale ndlela kunikeza izingane amandla amaningi okubhekana nezinkinga, ukuphumula, nokwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke, umsebenzi wesikole, kanye nobudlelwano nabangani.

Yini esingayenza njengabazali?

Ngiyazi ukuthi ukuyisa ingane yakho kudokotela wezokwelapha akusona isinqumo esilula. Kungase kube nemibuzo eminingi efika engqondweni. Izinto ezinjengokuthi, 'Abanye abantu bazocabangani?', 'Ingabe lokhu kuzoyisiza ngempela ingane yakho?' Kodwa khumbula,Lokho okwenzayo kungenye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazenzela ingane yakho.

Ngakho-ke, kunezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza njengomzali:

1. Vula: Khuluma nengane yakho ngokuya kudokotela wezokwelapha. Yenza kucace ukuthi akuyona isijeziso noma into ingane eyenzayo ngoba 'imbi.' Mane uthi, 'Sizothola usizo ngenkinga encane onayo, njengoba nje ubungaya kudokotela uma unomkhuhlane.'

2. Yiba ngumsekeli: Landela imiyalelo yomelaphi. Siza ingane yakho ngemisebenzi emincane ekhaya. Lalela lokho okushiwo yingane yakho bese uzama ukuyiqonda.

3. Bekezela: Kungathatha isikhathi ukubona imiphumela. Akuzona zonke izinto ezizoshintsha ngobusuku obubodwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nesineke nokuqhubeka nokusekela ingane yakho.

4. Hlala uxhumana njalo nodokotela wezifo zengqondo: Khuluma nodokotela wezifo zengqondo ngesimo sengane yakho kanye nanoma yiziphi izinkinga ongase ube nazo. Kulapho kuphela lapho ungathola khona imiphumela emihle kakhulu.

5. Khuthaza ingane yakho: Ncoma ingane yakho ngokubamba iqhaza ekwelashweni kanye nemizamo yayo. Ukusho into efana nokuthi, "Unesibindi kakhulu ngokubhekana nalokhu" kungaba yisikhuthazo esikhulu enganeni yakho.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula ukuthi awuwedwa. Kukhona abelaphi abazokusiza, futhi kukhona nabanye abazali abaye baba nokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo.

Umyalezo okufanele uwuthathe uye nawo ekhaya.

Kulungile, ngakho-ke, nazi izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okudingeka uzikhumbule kulokho esikhulume ngakho namuhla:

• Kujwayelekile ukuthi ingane ibe nenkinga yempilo yengqondo noma ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Kungenzeka kunoma ubani.
• Ngezikhathi ezinjalo , akukho okufanele ube namahloni ngakho, ukufuna usizo kuchwepheshe onjengochwepheshe wezokwelapha. Kuwusizo olukhulu enganeni.
• Odokotela bezokwelapha ngabantu abathole ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile ukuze baqonde futhi basize izingane ngezinkinga zabo zempilo yengqondo.
• Ukwelapha kuyinqubo efundisa ingane ukubhekana nemizwa nezinkinga zayo ngendlela enempilo.
• Ukusekelwa kwabazali nokuqonda kubaluleke kakhulu enganeni kulolu hambo.

Ngakho-ke, uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho idinga lolu hlobo losizo, ungesabi ukulihlola kabanzi, futhi uma kudingeka, thatha isinyathelo sokubona udokotela wezokwelapha ofanelekayo. Inhlalakahle yengqondo yengane ibaluleke njengenhlalakahle yayo engokomzimba. Kubalulekile ukubeka lokho kuqala. Ngikufisela inhlanhla!

Impilo yengqondo , isayensi yezengqondo yengane, ukwelashwa, ukwelulekwa, Ukwelapha, Uchwepheshe wezokwelapha, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, izinkinga zezingane, ukwelulekwa kwabazali