Kuyini ukuthomba?
Kalula nje, ukuthomba kuyisikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho lapho ushintsha kancane kancane usuka ekubeni yintombazanyana ube ngowesifazane osemusha. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, umzimba wakho ukhiqiza amakhemikhali amaningi abizwa ngokuthi ama-hormone . Ukuze kube sobala, lawa ma-hormone yiwona enza zonke lezi zinguquko emzimbeni wakho - ukuphakama kwakho, ukuma komzimba wakho, kanye nezinto zakho zokuqala ezintsha zenzeke. Cabanga ngakho, uma ubheka abangani bakho, abanye odadewenu bangase baqale ukubonisa izimpawu zokuthomba lapho beneminyaka engaba ngu-8 noma engu-9 ubudala. Kwabanye, lezi zinguquko zingase zingaqali kuze kube yilapho beneminyaka engaba ngu-13 noma engu-14 ubudala. Lokhu kuyinto ehlukahluka kumuntu nomuntu. Ngakho-ke ungacabangi ukuthi uyinqaba noma ukhathazeke uma uqala ngaphambi kwabangane bakho noma kamuva kunabo. Iwashi lomzimba lawo wonke umuntu lisebenza ngendlela yalo ehlukile nejwayelekile. Kufana nezinye izimbali eziqhakaza ekuseni kakhulu, kanti ezinye ziqhakaza ntambama kakhulu.Yiziphi izimpawu zokuqala zokuthomba?
Uma usufike esikhathini sokuthomba, ushintsho lokuqala ozolubona futhi uluqonde ukukhula kwamabele. Kwezokwelapha, lokhu kubizwa nangokuthi `(Thelarche)`. Lokhu kusho ukuthi amabele akho azokhula kancane, aqale ukuphuma, futhi angase azizwe ebuhlungu kancane. Lokhu kuvame ukuba uphawu lokuqala abantu abaningi abaluqaphelayo. Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile, izinwele ezincane zizoqala ukuvela endaweni yakho yangasese, okungukuthi, eduze kwezitho zakho zangasese (ezungeze isitho sangasese sangasese) . Kwezokwelapha, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi `(Pubarche)`. Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, izinwele zizoqala ukuvela ngaphansi kwamakhwapha akho. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, amanye amantombazane angase abe nesikhumba esinamafutha kancane futhi angase aqale ukuba nama-acne.Zonke lezi zinto zenzeka ngokwemvelo. Lezi yizimpawu zokuthi umzimba wakho uyakhula futhi ulungiselela inqubo entsha yezinto eziphilayo. Ungesabi uma uzibona.
Ngingalindela nini ukuya esikhathini kokuqala (Menarche)?
Umbuzo omkhulu onayo manje uthi, 'Ngizoqala nini ukuya esikhathini?' Akunjalo? Amantombazane amaningi aqala ukuya esikhathini kwawo kokuqala, noma 'ukuya esikhathini ' njengoba ukubiza kanjalo, cishe eminyakeni emibili ngemva kokuba amabele awo eqale ukukhula, njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili. Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka cishe eminyakeni eyi-12 noma eyi-13.Kodwa njengoba ngishilo ngaphambili, lokhu akufani kuwo wonke umuntu. Abanye odade bangaqala ukuya esikhathini besebancane beneminyaka engu-8 noma engu-9 ubudala, kanti abanye bangaqala sekwephuzile, cishe beneminyaka engu-15 ubudala. Lokhu kuyinto ehlukahluka ngaphakathi kobubanzi. Izinto eziningi zithinta lokhu, njengobudala umama noma udadewenu aqala ngabo ukuya esikhathini (okungukuthi, izakhi zofuzo zomndeni), impilo yakho engokomzimba, izinga lokudla okunomsoco lokudla okudlayo, kanye nesisindo somzimba wakho. Ngakho-ke ungazizwa kabi ucabanga ukuthi uNimali oseduze waqala ngaphambi kwakho. Kuzokwenzeka uma isikhathi sakho sifika, lapho umzimba wakho usukulungele.Ingabe zikhona izimpawu zokuthi sengizoqala ukuya esikhathini?
Yebo, kunesinye isibonakaliso esihle sokuthi usuzoqala ukuya esikhathini sakho sokuqala. Lokho kuwukuphuma kwegazi okufana nokuphuma kwegazi esithweni sakho sangasese. Siphinde sikubize ngokuthi "ukuphuma kwegazi esithweni sangasese". Lokhu kuphuma kwegazi kungaba mncane njengamanzi, noma kungaba manzi kancane, njengokumhlophe kweqanda. Ngezinye izikhathi kungaba mkhulu, njengomuncu. Ngokuphathelene nombala, kungaba sobala, kube mhlophe, noma kube mhlophe njengobisi (ongacwebezeli). Ngokuvamile ungakubona lokhu cishe ezinyangeni ezi-6 ngaphambi kokuya esikhathini kwakho kokuqala. Ungakhathazeki uma ubona lokhu, lokhu futhi kuyinqubo evamile yomzimba. Kodwa uma lokhu kuphuma kwegazi kuphuzi, kuluhlaza, kunephunga elibi, noma kuhambisana nokulunywa esithweni sangasese sangasese, kungaba uphawu lokutheleleka, ngakho-ke kungcono ukutshela umama wakho ukuthi abone udokotela.Ingabe kufanele ngibone udokotela?
Nakuba le nqubo yokuthomba kanye nokuya esikhathini kokuqala ivame ukwenzeka ngokwemvelo, kunezikhathi lapho sidinga khona iseluleko sezokwelapha. Ake sibone ukuthi ziyini:- Uma uqala ukuya esikhathini ungakafiki eminyakeni engu-8 , lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi " ukuthomba kwangaphambi kwesikhathi" futhi udinga ukukubheka.
- Uma uneminyaka engu-15 ubudala futhi ungakaqali ukuya esikhathini sakho sanyanga zonke.
- Noma, uma uneminyaka engu-13 noma engu-14 ubudala futhi ungakaqali ukuzwa noma yiziphi izimpawu zokuqala zokuthomba (njengokukhula kwebele ) okukhulunywe ngazo ekuqaleni.
- Ngemva kokuqala kokuya esikhathini, uma wopha kakhulu, uzwa ubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki , noma uma umjikelezo wakho wokuya esikhathini ungajwayelekile (isibonelo, ungase ungabi nesikhathi izinyanga bese uzithola unesithukuthezi).
Ngikulungiselela kanjani lokhu?
Uma uzizwa sengathi usuzoqala ukuya esikhathini, ukulungela kancane kuzokwenza uzizwe ukhululekile futhi uqiniseka kakhudlwana.- Hlala ugcina i-sanitary pad kanye nezingubo zangaphansi ezengeziwe esikhwameni sakho sesikole noma esikhwameni. Ungazigcina esikhwameni esincane. Ngaleyo ndlela, uma uqala ukuya esikhathini ungekho ekhaya, esikoleni, noma ekilasini, ngeke kudingeke ukhathazeke.
- Ungabuza umama wakho noma udadewenu omdala ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani kahle i-"Sanitary pad". Kulula kakhulu. Futhi, buza ukuthi kufanele uyishintshe kangaki (ngokuvamile kuhle ukuyishintsha njalo emahoreni angu-4-6).
- Uma ufuna, ungamaka usuku oqala ngalo ukuya esikhathini ekhalendeni elincane noma kuhlelo lokusebenza efonini yakho. Ngaleyo ndlela, ungathola umbono oqondile wokuthi ukuya esikhathini kwakho okulandelayo kuzofika nini.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi lokhu kuyinto eyenzeka kuwo wonke amantombazane nabesifazane emhlabeni. Ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokuba namahloni ngakho, ukukwesaba, noma ukucabanga ukuthi kuyinto engcolile. Kuyinto ekhombisa impilo yomzimba wakho.
Nginemibuzo eminingi mayelana nokuya esikhathini kwami, futhi ngiyesaba kancane. Ingabe lokho kuvamile?
Impela! Kujwayelekile kakhulu ukuthi ube nemicabango eminingi, imibuzo, futhi mhlawumbe nokwesaba okuncane, ukukhathazeka, nokudideka mayelana nokuya esikhathini kwakho kokuqala kanye nezinguquko ezenzeka emzimbeni wakho, sthandwa sami. Akuwena wedwa, yiyo yonke intombazane eneminyaka yakho ngalesi sikhathi. Uzizwa wesaba ngoba ezinye izinto zintsha futhi awazi konke. Noma ngabe ucabangani ngalokhu, khuluma nomuntu omethembayo futhi uzizwe ukhululekile ukukhuluma naye. Kungaba umama wakho, udadewenu omdala, u-anti, uthisha wesikole, noma udokotela womndeni wakho. Bangaphendula imibuzo yakho, banciphise ukwesaba kwakho, futhi bakuqinisekise. Mhlawumbe umama wakho wayezizwa ngendlela efanayo ngesikhathi eseneminyaka yakho. Khuluma naye.Iyini ngempela le nkathi yanyanga zonke?
Kalula nje, njalo ngenyanga umzimba wakho uzilungiselela ithuba lokukhulelwa umntwana esikhathini esizayo. Lokhu kuhilela ukukhiqizwa kolwelwesi olukhethekile (ulwelwesi) odongeni lwangaphakathi lwesibeletho sakho (isibeletho). Lolu lwelwesi yilona olusiza umntwana ukuba akhule uma ukhulelwa. Kodwa-ke, awukhulelwa umntwana njalo ngenyanga, ikakhulukazi usesemncane njengawe. Ngemuva kwalokho, lolu lwelwesi olungafuneki, olunomsoco lwesibeletho, kanye negazi nezicubu, luchitheka ngesitho sangasese sowesifazane. Yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi ukuya esikhathini kwakho, noma ukuya esikhathini. Ngokuvamile kuthatha izinsuku ezintathu noma ezine kuya kweziyisikhombisa. Lesi yisibonakaliso esisodwa sokuthi uphilile. Lena yingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu futhi yemvelo yokuphila kowesifazane. Lena yindlela umzimba wakho olungiselela ngayo ukuba ngumama wesikhathi esizayo.Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya Ovela Kulokho Esikuxoxile
Kulungile, ngakho-ke dadewethu, sixoxe ngezinto eziningi ezibalulekile namuhla, akunjalo? Isikhathi sakho sokuqala sokuya esikhathini, noma "ukuya esikhathini," kuyisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu, semvelo ohambweni lwakho lokukhula.- Ungesabi noma ube namahloni ngakho. Lokhu kuyinto eyenzeka kuwo wonke amantombazane aphilile.
- Qaphela izinguquko emzimbeni wakho, kodwa ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngazo.
- Lungela. Gcina i-sanitary pad encane esikhwameni sakho.
- Uma unemibuzo, ukungabaza, noma ukwesaba, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nomama wakho, udadewenu, noma udokotela. Awuwedwa, sonke sinawe!
- Khumbula, umzimba wakho uyamangalisa, futhi konke okwenzayo kungokwenzuzo yakho.
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