Akukho okuhle ukwedlula ukuphupha ngokuba ngumama noma ubaba. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi uhambo lokwenza lelo phupho lifezeke lungaba nzima kancane. Ngenhlanhla, ngenxa yesayensi yezokwelapha ethuthukisiwe yanamuhla, sinethuba lokwenza lelo phupho lifezeke ngokwelashwa okufana ne-IVF ( In Vitro Fertilization ). Namuhla sikhuluma ngomama onothando ogama lakhe lingu-Amanda owadlula ohambweni olunjalo. Indaba yakhe izosifundisa izifundo eziningi ezibalulekile, ikakhulukazi kodadewethu nabangane bethu abakhulelwe amawele noma abacabanga ngokwenza ukwelashwa kwe-IVF.
Uhambo lwe-IVF kanye nokunquma ukuthi zingaki izibungu okufanele zidluliselwe
U-Amanda nomyeni wakhe, uKenneth, bakhulelwa ngesikhathi bezama i-IVF okokuqala, kodwa baphuphuma isisu. Akudingeki ukusho ukuthi lokhu kwaba buhlungu kakhulu. Yingakho, lapho beya kokwelashwa kwesibili kwe-IVF, u-Amanda wacabanga, "Kulokhu, kufanele sidlulisele wonke ama-embryo amathathu."
Kodwa njengoba esho, "Udokotela wami othandekayo wangichazela izingozi futhi wangikholisa ukuthi ngidlulisele ama-embryo amabili. Ekugcineni, saba namawele. Empeleni ngiyajabula kakhulu namuhla ukuthi angizange ngidlulisele ama-embryo amathathu!"
Into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka siyiqonde lapha ukuthi odokotela bahlala bezama ukuqinisekisa ukuphepha okuphezulu kukamama nomntwana ongakazalwa. Ikakhulukazi uma ama-embryo amabili edluliselwa esemncane, amathuba okuba namawele aphezulu afinyelela ku-60%. Nakuba kuyinjabulo ukuba nezingane ezimbili noma ezintathu ngesikhathi esisodwa, kumelwe futhi siqaphele izingozi zezokwelapha ezihambisana nakho.
Into ehlakaniphe kakhulu ongayenza ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho bese wenza isinqumo esinolwazi. Ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi, "Ngifuna umntwana maduze, ngizodlulisela wonke ama-embryo enginawo," kufanele sicabange kabili ngalokho okungenzeka.
Ukukhulelwa kwakunzima kakhulu kunalokho obekulindelwe
U-Amanda uthi ungowesifazane osemusha onempilo enhle kakhulu, oqaphela ukuqina komzimba. Yingakho ayecabanga ukuthi ukukhulelwa kuzoba lula kakhulu. Kodwa ukuthwala amawele esibelethweni sakhe akuzange kube lula njengoba ayecabanga.
Uthi, "Ngaya emsebenzini izinyanga ezintathu zokuqala. Kodwa ngokuzumayo emavikini angama-20, ngasikwa . Kwakuyisimangaliso ngempela ukuthi odokotela bakwazile ukuyimisa nokuthi ngakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthwala izingane."
Ngemva kwalesi sigameko, u-Amanda kwadingeka achithe amasonto ayi-11 esibhedlela elele embhedeni. Ekugcineni, zombili izingane zazalwa kusasele amasonto ayi-8, okusho ukuthi zazalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi.Yileyo ndlela engafika ngayo kuleli zwe.
Ukuzalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi kungenye yezinselele ezinkulu abazali ababhekana nazo. Esikhundleni sokuphupha ngokugodla umntwana wabo ekhaya ngokushesha nje lapho ezalwa, kunzima kakhulu ukucabanga ngokubheka egumbini lengilazi e-Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). Ubuhlungu nokukhathazeka akunakuchazwa ngamazwi.
| Izingozi zokuzalwa kwabantu abaningi (amawele, amawele amathathu) |
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| - Ukuzalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi: Ukuzalwa komntwana amasonto ambalwa ngaphambi kosuku lokuzalwa. |
| - Isisindo esiphansi sokuzalwa: Izingane ezizalwa zinesisindo esiphansi kakhulu zisengozini enkulu yezinkinga zempilo. |
| - Izingozi kumama: Ingozi eyengeziwe yezimo ezifana nomfutho wegazi ophakeme nesifo sikashukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. |
| - Izinkinga zesikhathi eside ezingase zenzeke ezinganeni: izinkinga ngokuthuthukiswa kobuchopho, amaphaphu, nezinye izitho zomzimba. |
Ungakhohlwa umthelela empilweni yengqondo
Ngaphandle kobuhlungu obungokomzimba, yonke le nqubo iyakhathaza ingqondo. U-Amanda uyavuma ngobuqotho, "Nganginesifo sokucindezeleka ngemva kokushaqeka kanye nokucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha ngemva kokuzalwa kwezingane zami. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphilile kangakanani, ukubhekana nento efana nalena kungakukhathaza kakhulu."
Ngisho noma umzimba ubuthakathaka ngenxa yokuphumula embhedeni, ungaphinde uthole amandla awo. Kodwa umonakalo engqondweni uthatha isikhathi ukuze ululame. Udinga ukwesekwa. Esimweni esinjengalesi, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nomyeni wakho, umndeni, futhi ikakhulukazi udokotela wakho . Asikho isizathu sokuba namahloni noma ukuhlupheka wedwa.
Impilo namawele: izinselele kanye nenjabulo
Ngenxa yokukhula kwabo ngaphambi kwesikhathi, izingane zika-Amanda zisemuva kancane kwezinye izigaba zokukhula, ikakhulukazi amakhono okunyakaza komzimba. "Njengabazali, sihlala sikhathazekile ngokuthi bazoba nezinkinga zesikhathi eside," kusho u-Amanda.
Kukhona nezinselele ezisebenzayo ekunakekeleni amawele.
"Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwalokho umama wengane eyodwa angakusho 'ukuhlala uphapheme ubusuku bonke' nalokho engikushoyo ngalokho," kusho u-Amanda ehleka. "Bavuka kabili noma kathathu ebusuku. Ngisho ukuthi, ngilale ihora elilodwa kuphela izolo ebusuku!"
Izinto ezifana nokuncelisa izingane ezimbili ngesikhathi esisodwa, ukuzizwa ungenalusizo lapho zombili zikhala ngesikhathi esisodwa, nokungakwazi ukwabelana ngazo kunzima kakhulu ezinsukwini zokuqala.
"Kodwa uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, njengoba bekhula, izinto ziba lula kancane. Ngoba badlala bodwa. Ngakho-ke kunezinzuzo nezingozi zokuba namawele."
Ekugcineni, u-Amanda ulandisa indaba ebaluleke kakhulu. "Naphezu kwakho konke lokhu, ngingayincoma kunoma ubani ocabanga nge-( IVF )`. Ngaphandle kwe-(IVF)` besingeke sibe nezingane zethu. Ngisho noma sibhekene nobuhlungu esidlule kubo, ukube bengingathola ithuba futhi, bengingeke ngishintshe lutho."
Isifundo esikhulu esingasifunda endabeni yakhe ukuqaphela nokulungiselela. Ngizobhekana nalokhu, futhi lapho ngiqala uhambo lwami ngihlome ngolwazi futhi ngilungele ukuthi into efana nale yenzeke, ngizizwa nginamandla okubhekana nezinto ezingalindelekile.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Yenza izinqumo ezinolwazi: Khuluma nodokotela wakho mayelana nokwelashwa okufana ne-IVF, ikakhulukazi mayelana nokuthi zingaki izibungu okufanele uzidlulisele. Qonda izingozi zokuzalwa kwabantu abaningi.
- Lungiselela ukubeletha ngaphambi kwesikhathi: Kunobungozi obukhulu bokuzalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi kokukhulelwa kwamawele noma okuningi. Kubalulekile ukulungiselela lokhu ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba.
- Impilo yakho yengqondo nayo ibalulekile: Ukukhulelwa kanye nesikhathi sangemva kokubeletha kungaba yinto ekhathazayo ngokomzwelo. Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile, ukhathazekile, noma unezimpawu zokucindezeleka, khuluma nodokotela wakho noma nomuntu omdala omethembayo ngokushesha.
- Uhambo ngalunye luhlukile: Ungaziqhathanisi nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye. Uhambo lwakho luhlukile kuwe. Funa amandla nokusekelwa ukuze ubhekane nezinselele.
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