Wake wahlela impilo yakho yonke? Wake waba nephupho elikhulu kusukela usemncane, "Yilokhu engifuna ukuba yikho lapho ngikhula"? Mhlawumbe kwakuwukuba udokotela. Noma mhlawumbe kwakuwukuba yi-CEO yenkampani enkulu. Kodwa kuthiwani uma impilo yakho ngokuzumayo ithatha indlela ehluke ngokuphelele kunaleyo obuyicabanga? Umshado, ingane, ukuthuthela edolobheni elisha... Ngakho konke lokhu, uyaqaphela ukuthi impilo obuyiphupha akuyona into onayo ngempela, futhi ingazwakala ingaphezu kwamandla futhi imnyama. Lobo bumnyama bungaba ukuqala kwesimo esikhuluma ngaso namuhla, ukucindezeleka.
Ingabe ukucindezeleka kumane nje kuwukudabuka?
Cha, akunjalo nhlobo. Ukucindezeleka kungaphezu nje kokuzizwa udabukile. Kuyisimo sangempela sezokwelapha . Uma sikhuluma iqiniso, kuyisimo esihlotshaniswa nezinguquko kumakhemikhali obuchopho. Sibizwa ngokuthi "i-Major Depression Disorder".
Cabanga nje, ubulokhu wenza konke kahle, uphumelele kukho konke. Kodwa ngokuzumayo awukwazi ukwenza lutho. Awuzizwa sengathi uvuka embhedeni ekuseni. Awunawo amandla okwenza ngisho nomsebenzi omncane kakhulu. Konke kuhamba kahle. Bese uqala ukuzibona "njengokwehluleka." Umuzwa wokuthi "angilutho" ufakwa engqondweni yakho. Lo muzwa wenza ukucindezeleka kube kubi kakhulu. Kufana nomjikelezo omubi. Lesi simo singaba sibi kangangokuthi abanye abantu bafuna ukushiya imindeni yabo, abangane, nakho konke ngemuva babalekele kwenye indawo ukuze baqale impilo entsha. Akumangalisi.
Ukucindezeleka akusona ubuthakathaka. Kuyisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa, njengesifo sikashukela noma umfutho wegazi ophakeme. Ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokuba namahloni noma sokukufihla.
Ngisho nangemva kokuqala ukwelashwa, kungani ngezinye izikhathi kuzwakala sengathi akusebenzanga?
Lena inkinga abantu abaningi ababhekene nokucindezeleka abanayo. Mhlawumbe udokotela wakho ukuqalile ukwelashwa. Kodwa uma ungaboni intuthuko elindelekile, ungazizwa ungenathemba futhi uzibuze, "Ingabe lokhu kuyoke kube ngcono?" Ake sibheke ezinye zezizathu zalokhu.
Ingabe ukwelashwa kuzwakala sengathi akusebenzi?
Ngezinye izikhathi, uma uya kudokotela wengqondo noma umeluleki, ungase uzizwe sengathi awusho lutho ngaphandle kokuthi “yebo” noma “cha” emibuzweni abayibuzayo. Kungaba nzima ukukhuluma ngalokho okusengqondweni yakho. Kungaba nezizathu eziningana zalokhu.
- Wena nodokotela anikakhi ubuhlobo obuhle.
- Awukakulungeli ngokugcwele ukukhuluma ngalokho okusengqondweni yakho.
- Lokho kungase kungabi ukwelashwa okufanele kuwe.
Khumbula, ukuthi nje akuphumelelanga ngodokotela oyedwa akusho ukuthi ukwelashwa ngokwako akuphumelelanga.Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola udokotela noma umeluleki okulalela kahle, okuqondayo, futhi okulula ukukhuluma naye.
Akukho mehluko noma ngabe uthatha umuthi?
Imithi yokucindezeleka, eyaziwa ngokuthi imithi yokucindezeleka, ayisebenzi ngendlela efanayo noma ngesivinini esifanayo kuwo wonke umuntu.
- Kuthatha isikhathi ukuthola imithi efanele kanye nomthamo. Udokotela wakho angase azame imithi eminingana kanye nemithamo.
- Eminye imithi ingaba nemiphumela emibi. Ungase uzizwe sengathi awuyena wena, sengathi awunayo imizwa.
- Kungase kube nezinkinga ngemithi ethathwa kwezinye izimo. Isibonelo, ingase ihlangane nemithi ye-attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
Okubaluleke kakhulu: Konke lokhu kufanele kwenzeke ngaphansi kokuqashwa okuseduze kukadokotela wakho . Ungalokothi uyeke ukuthatha imithi yakho noma ushintshe umthamo ngokwakho. Uma unemiphumela emibi, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngayo.
Bheka leli thebula. Lingase liphendule eminye yemibuzo yakho mayelana nokwelashwa.
| Inselele Ekwelapheni | Lokho Ongakwenza |
|---|---|
| Ubunzima bokukhuluma ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kwengqondo. | Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngokwethembeka ngakho. Mhlawumbe ukwelashwa okuhlukile noma omunye umeluleki kungasiza. |
| Angizizwa ngingcono naphezu kokuthatha imithi. | Yiba nesineke. Kungathatha amasonto ambalwa ukuthi umuthi usebenze. Uma kungekho shintsho, khuluma nodokotela wakho mayelana nokushintsha umuthi noma umthamo. |
| Imiphumela emibi yemithi (isib. ukozela, ukunganaki). | Tshela udokotela wakho ngokushesha. Ungayeki ukuthatha imithi. Uzokunikeza enye indlela ekufanele. |
| Umuzwa wokuthi "lokhu ngeke kube ngcono." | Lo muzwa uyingxenye yokucindezeleka. Khuluma nabathandekayo bakho kanye nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Awuwedwa. |
"Ngisho nodokotela akakwazi ukungelapha" - Ngingaphuma kanjani kulokhu kungabi namandla?
Mhlawumbe ngemva konyaka wokwelashwa, udokotela wakho wezifo zengqondo uthi, "Kufanele ukuthi usuthuthuke kancane manje," futhi kuzwakala sengathi umhlaba wonke usuwile kuwe. "Uma ngisho nodokotela engakwazi ukungelapha, ubani omunye ongakwazi?" Ucabanga. Lena yingxenye embi kakhulu yokucindezeleka. Kuzwakala sengathi yonke ithonsi lokugcina lethemba seliphelile.
Kodwa cabanga ngale ndlela. Udokotela akasho lokho ukuze akulahle. Uthi lokho ebesikwenza isikhathi eside akusebenzi kuwe, ngakho-ke sidinga ukubhekana nalokhu ngendlela ehlukile . Ngempela kuyithuba lokuthola indlela entsha.
Ukululama ngokuphelele ekucindezelekeni akwenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa. Luhambo. Lolo hambo ludinga imithi, ukwelashwa kwengqondo, nokunye okuningi. Lokho kubizwa ngokuthi indlela ephelele .
- Ukuqhubeka kokwelashwa: Lesi yisisekelo. Ungabuqedi ubuhlobo bakho nodokotela wakho.
- Izinguquko endleleni yokuphila: Ukudla okunempilo okuhle, ukuzivocavoca umzimba nsuku zonke, kanye nokulala kahle kubaluleke kakhulu.
- Ukusekelwa komphakathi: Khuluma nomngane omethembayo noma ilungu lomndeni ngalokho okucabangayo. Ungathwali lo mthwalo wedwa.
- Ukuthola incazelo nethemba: Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Kwabanye, lokhu kungaba ngenkolo , ukuzindla, noma umthandazo. Kwabanye, kungaba ukuthatha into entsha yokuzilibazisa, ukuchitha isikhathi emvelweni, noma ukubeka imigomo emincane nokusebenzela ukuyifinyelela. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukwengeza incazelo entsha nethemba elisha empilweni yakho.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka akusikho ubuthakathaka bakho, kuyisimo sangempela sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa.
- Ungalilahli ithemba uma ukwelashwa kokuqala kungasebenzi. Sebenza nodokotela wakho uze uthole ukwelashwa okukusebenzela kahle.
- Uma uphuza imithi, yenza kanjalo njalo ngaphansi kokuqondisa kukadokotela. Ungalokothi uyeke ukuthatha imithi noma ushintshe umthamo ngokwakho.
- Ngaphezu kokwelashwa, indlela yokuphila enhle, ukuxhumana nabantu, kanye nokuthola okuthile okukunika ithemba lokuphila kubalulekile enkambisweni yokuphulukiswa.
- Awuwedwa kule mpi. Cela usizo. Khuluma. Baningi abantu abalindele ukukusiza.
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