Wake wakwenza lokhu ngesikhathi ukhulelwe? Ungena ekamelweni bese ucabanga ngokuzumayo, "Kungani ngilapha?" Noma ushiya uhlu lwakho lwezinto ozothenga ekhaya, noma ukhohlwa ngokuzumayo ukuthi uzothini ngenkathi ukhuluma. Omama abaningi bajwayelene nalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho. Ngokuvamile lesi simo sibizwa ngokuthi " ubuchopho bokukhulelwa " noma "iMomnesia." Ngakho-ke ingabe lokhu kuyinto ethile ngempela? Noma ingabe yinto esiyicabangayo nje? Ake sixoxe ngalokhu ngokuningiliziwe.
Ingabe 'Ubuchopho Bokukhulelwa' bungokoqobo?
Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ukusebenza kobuchopho kwehla ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kodwa akulona iqiniso lelo. Ngisho noma ungase uzizwe sengathi ukhohlwa izinto futhi unenkinga yokugxilisa ingqondo, ukukhulelwa akunciphisi amandla obuchopho bakho nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Lokhu kuqinisekiswe ucwaningo olwenziwe e-Australia. Ngokusho kukaSolwazi uHelen Christensen, owayehilelekile kulolu cwaningo, "Lapho sikhuluma nomama abakhulelwe futhi sifunda izincwadi, sivame ukuzwa ngalo 'Ubuchopho Bokukhulelwa'. Ucwaningo luphinde lubonise ukuthi kunezinguquko ezithile enkumbulo. Kodwa ucwaningo lwethu lubonise ukuthi azikho izinguquko emakhonweni ayisisekelo obuchopho ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa."
Kalula nje, ' ukukhohlwa ' okuzwayo kungokoqobo. Kodwa akusho ukuthi ubuchopho bakho bubuthakathaka. Kunezinye izizathu ezingakuthinta.
Pho kungani izinto zikhohlwa kanje?
Kunezizathu eziningana eziyinhloko zalokhu. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu. Ake sibone ukuthi yiziphi lezo zizathu.
| Isizathu | Incazelo elula |
|---|---|
| Ushintsho olukhulu kuma-hormone | Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, umzimba wakho udlula ekuguqulweni okukhulu ukuze ulungiselele umntwana. Ukuze kusizwe ngalokhu, amahomoni i-progesterone ne-estrogen anda ngokuphindwe izikhathi ezingu-15-40 amazinga awo ajwayelekile. Lawa mahomoni athinta ngqo ama-neurons ebuchosheni bakho. I-Oxytocin, ihomoni ekhishwa ngesikhathi sokubeletha, nayo ithinta izifunda zobuchopho. Yingakho kuvamile ukuzwa izinguquko ezincane ezinqubweni ezihlobene nenkumbulo. |
| Ukungalali kahle nokukhathala ngokweqile | Sikhohlwa izinto ngezinsuku lapho simatasa kakhulu, sicindezelekile, futhi singalali ngokwanele, akunjalo? Kwenzeka into efanayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ungase ungakwazi ukulala kahle ngenxa yokungakhululeki ngokomzimba, ukuchama njalo, nezinye izinto eziningi engqondweni yakho. Umuntu ongalalanga kahle ngeke abe nenkumbulo ebukhali. Lokhu kungakuthinta kakhulu. |
| Ukushintsha Izinto Eziza Kuqala | Lena yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngemva kokukhulelwa, umhlaba wakho wonke uba yingane yakho. Okubaluleke kakhulu ohlwini lwakho lwezinto eziza kuqala engqondweni yakho kunezinto ezifana nempilo yengane yakho, ukuphepha, kanye nalokho ingane yakho ekudingayo. Ngakho-ke uma ubuchopho bakho bugxile kakhulu kulezo zinto, kulula ukukhohlwa izinto ezincane ozenzayo nsuku zonke, izinto ezincane okudingeka uzikhumbule. Kufana nokuthi amashalofu obuchopho bakho agcwele izinto ezihlobene nengane. |
Kuzwakala kanjani ukuthi 'Ubuchopho Bokukhulelwa'?
Kufana nokucabanga ukuthi, "Kungani ngize kuleli gumbi?" izikhathi ezinhlanu noma eziyisithupha ngosuku. Noma ukushaya ucingo ukuze ushayele umngane, wenze okunye ocingweni, bese ukhohlwa ukuphendula ucingo.
Abanye ochwepheshe bathi kungase kube nesizathu sokuziphendukela kwemvelo salokhu. Okusho ukuthi, imvelo ingase ibe buthaka inkumbulo kamama ngale ndlela ukuze iphambukise ukunaka kwakhe kwezinye izinto ezingadingekile futhi igxile ngokuphelele ekunakekeleni ingane yakhe .
Yini engenziwa ngalezi zikhohlwa?
Lesi akusona isimo sempilo, ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokwesaba. Kodwa uma kuphazamisa imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke, kunezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza.
- Bhala phansi konke: Lesi yisisombululo esingcono kakhulu. Uma uya kudokotela, bhala phansi imibuzo ofuna ukuyibuza ephepheni kusengaphambili. Uma uya esitolo, yenza uhlu lwezinto ozothenga kuzo. Bhala phansi imisebenzi ebalulekile okudingeka uyenze kudayari noma ephepheni efonini yakho. Lokhu kuzonciphisa kakhulu umthwalo ebuchosheni bakho.
- Yenza impilo ibe lula:Ukukhulelwa yisikhathi soshintsho olukhulu empilweni yakho. Ngakho-ke, nciphisa eminye imisebenzi ngangokunokwenzeka futhi wenze impilo yakho ibe lula. Ungazami ukwenza izinto eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Gxila entweni eyodwa ngesikhathi.
- Lala ngokwanele: Lokhu kungaba nzima kancane uma ungumama omusha. Kodwa phumula noma nini lapho ungakwazi. Lala kancane uma ingane yakho ilele. Kutholakale ukuthi umama ulahlekelwa amahora angaba ngu-700 okulala ngonyaka wokuqala ngemva kokubeletha. Lokhu kuntuleka kokulala kuyimbangela enkulu yokukhohlwa. Uma ulala kahle cishe isonto lonke, uzothola ukuthi lokhu kukhohlwa kuzoncipha kakhulu .
- Qhubeka umomotheka: Qonda ukuthi lokhu kuyinto evamile futhi ungakhathazeki ngakho. Tshela umyeni wakho nomndeni wakho ngalokhu. Khona-ke bangakusiza nawe.
Kufanele ukhathazeke nini ngalokhu?
Lokhu kukhohlwa ngokuvamile akulona ingozi. Kodwa-ke,
- Uma ukhohlwa izinto ezingathinta ukuphepha kwakho noma ukuphepha komntwana wakho (isibonelo, ukukhohlwa ukucima uphethiloli, ukukhohlwa ukufaka umntwana esihlalweni semoto ).
- Uma lokhu kukhohlwa kuphazamisa ngokuphelele inqubo yakho yansuku zonke.
- Uma uzizwa ukhathazekile kakhulu futhi ucindezelekile ngalokhu.
Kulesi simo, kungcono ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho. Angahlola ukuthi lokhu kuyinto evamile noma kukhona yini enye imbangela.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ubuchopho bokukhulelwa buyinto yangempela, kodwa abunciphisi amakhono obuchopho bakho.
- Lesi simo sibangelwa yizici ezifana nokushintsha kwama-hormone, ukungalali kahle, ukukhathala, kanye nokunaka kakhulu ingane.
- Lesi akusona isifo esiyingozi, ngakho ungesabi noma ukhathazeke ngaso ngokungadingekile.
- Ungasilawula lesi simo ngokubhala phansi izinto okudingeka uzenze, ukulala ngokwanele, nokwenza ukuphila kwakho kube lula.
- Uma ukhohlwa izinto kuze kube sezingeni lapho zingathinta khona ukuphepha kwakho noma komntwana wakho, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho.
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