Wake wenza into encane ukusiza othile wazizwa ujabule kakhulu futhi ukhululekile ngemva kwalokho? Mhlawumbe kwakungesikhathi usukuma unikeza isihlalo sakho kumuntu osekhulile ebhasini, lapho unikeza iziqondiso kumuntu olahlekile emgwaqweni, noma lapho uya ukuyovakashela umngane ogulayo... Lowo 'muzwa omuhle' omuhle ofika engqondweni ngaleso sikhathi awuwona nje umuzwa. Ubuwazi ukuthi kunesayensi eningi ngemuva kwawo? Namuhla sizoxoxa ngakho. Ake sibheke ukuthi ukusiza abanye, okusho ukungabi nabugovu, kuthinta kanjani imizimba yethu kanye nemizwa yethu.
Kuyini lokhu 'ukusiza kuphezulu'?
Kalula nje, ukwenzela abanye okuhle ngaphandle kokulindela lutho kubizwa ngokuthi ukuzinikela. Injabulo, ukwaneliseka, nomuzwa ofudumele esiwuzwayo lapho senza into efana nalena kubizwa ngokuthi 'ukuphakama komsizi'.
Cabanga nje, ungakanani umsebenzi wokuzithandela abanye abantu abawenzayo ngesikhathi sabo sokuphumula? Uqala ekwabeleni abantu abaswele ukudla, ekuhlanzeni indawo ezungezile, ekusizeni asebekhulile, nasekusebenzeleni omakhelwane babo okuthile. Ngakho ososayensi baqala ukubheka lokhu. Kungani abantu benza lokhu? Ingabe kukhona inzuzo yezempilo kumuntu othola usizo, kanye nomuntu olunikezayo ? Ucwaningo lwakamuva luthi, "Yebo, nakanjani."
Ukuxhumana phakathi komusa nempilo yethu
Sonke siyazi ukuthi ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo akukuhle emzimbeni. Uma sizizwa sicindezelekile, umzimba wethu uphendula ngokuthi "ukulwa noma ukubaleka". Ngalesi sikhathi, ama-hormone afana ne-"cortisol" ayakhishwa, izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo yethu liyakhuphuka, futhi ukuphefumula kwethu kuba ngokushesha. Lokhu akuyona inkinga yesikhashana. Kodwa-ke, uma lesi simo siqhubeka isikhathi eside , amasosha ethu omzimba , inhliziyo, kanye nemithambo yegazi iqala ukuba buthaka.
Yilapho imizwa yokuzinikela iba khona 'njengomuthi' omuhle. Lapho sisiza abanye, lapho sibonisa umusa, imizwa emihle esiyizwayo ilawula ukusabela okungekuhle ngokomzimba okubangelwa yilokho kucindezeleka.
Kuye kwenziwa izifundo eziningana ngalokhu.
- Ucwaningo olusebenzisa abesifazane: Iqembu labesifazane laqashelwa iminyaka engama-30Ngokumangalisayo, ngaphezu kokuthi babenabantwana abangaki noma ukuthi izinga labo lemfundo lalingakanani, impilo yabo yayithinteka ngokuthi babezinikela noma cha. Abesifazane ababezinikela babenengozi ephansi kakhulu yokuthola izifo ezingathi sína kunalabo ababengazinikelanga.
- Ucwaningo lwabantu abadala: Ezinye izifundo ezimbili ezinkulu zithole ukuthi abantu abadala abenza umsebenzi wokuzithandela bavame ukuphila impilo enempilo nende kunalabo abangakwenzi. Ucwaningo olulodwa lubonise ukuthi ukuzinikela kwakungenzeka kakhulu ukunciphisa ingozi yokufa ngaphambi kwesikhathi ngo-44% kunokuzivocavoca izinsuku ezine ngesonto.
Ubuchopho bethu nezakhi zofuzo zihlobene kanjani nalokhu?
Lo 'muzwa omuhle' awuyona nje into eyenzeka engqondweni. Unesisekelo sebhayoloji.
Impendulo yobuchopho
Ososayensi bathole ngokusebenzisa ama-scan afana ne-'fMRI' ukuthi lapho sizwa imizwa ejulile njengozwela nomusa, izingxenye ezithile zobuchopho bethu ziyasebenza. Njengoba nje umama ebheka isithombe somntwana wakhe, ingxenye yobuchopho ethi '(prefrontal lobe)' iyaba esebenzayo. Lena yingxenye yobuchopho bethu enesibopho sokunakekela nokwakha ubudlelwano . Injabulo evela kulokhu ihluke kakhulu enjabulweni evela esenzweni esenziwe ngomshini njengokubhala isheke. Ivela ekuxhumeni nabantu ngempela, ukubasiza ngokumomotheka, ngezwi elifudumele, nokumbambatha ehlombe.
Ithonya lama-hormone
Amakhemikhali asemzimbeni wethu, okungukuthi, ama-hormone, nawo ahilelekile kakhulu kulokhu.
| I-hormone | Umphumela emzimbeni |
|---|---|
| I-Oxytocin | Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi 'i-hormone yokubopha'. Kusiza ekwakheni ukwethembana phakathi kwabantu, isibopho phakathi komama nomntwana. Uma sisiza abanye, ukukhiqizwa kwale hormone kuyanda futhi kunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwethu. |
| I-Dopamine | Lokhu 'kuyikhemikhali ethokozisayo'. Kusenza sizizwe sijabule futhi sanelisekile. Uma senza okuthile okuhle, ubuchopho bethu bukhiqiza le hormone, esishukumisela ukuba senze izinto ezinhle kakhulu. |
| Ama-Endorphins | Lokhu kufana nemithi yokubulala izinhlungu yemvelo ekhiqizwa umzimba. Kufaka isandla ekuzizweni kwenjabulo okuvela ekuzivocavoceni nasekuziphatheni okuhle. |
Izakhi zofuzo nokuphila isikhathi eside
Izivalo ezivikelayo ezisemaphethelweni ezakhi zofuzo zethu zibizwa ngokuthi `(ama-Telomere)`. Cabanga ngakho njengengcezu encane yepulasitiki ekugcineni kwentambo yesicathulo. Ivimba intambo ukuthi ingagugi. Yileyo ndlela ama-`ama-Telomere` avikela ngayo izakhi zofuzo zethu. Ukucindezeleka kwesikhathi eside kunganciphisa la ma-`ama-Telomere` , okuyimbangela yokuguga ngaphambi kwesikhathi kanye nezifo. Kodwa ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi imizwa emihle njengomusa nothando iyasiza ekuvikeleni.
Ingabe lomusa uyinto esiyizuza njengefa?
Abantu bayiqembu lezilwane elinobungane . Ukusizana nokuhlala ndawonye kwakubalulekile ukuze sisinde. Ngisho noDarwin wathi "Ubumnene" bubaluleke kakhulu ekusindeni kwesintu kunokuthi "Ukusinda kwabanamandla kakhulu."
Futhi indawo esikhulela kuyo nayo inomthelela omkhulu kulokhu. Izingane ezithandwa futhi zinakekelwa kahle ngabazali bazo kanye nabantu abadala njengezingane cishe zizoba nozwela nomusa lapho sezikhulile. Lokho kunakekela kusiza ekuthuthukiseni izingxenye zobuchopho bazo ezihlobene nozwela. Uma ubhekene nokucindezeleka okungapheli, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho.
Ngakho-ke, ukusiza omunye umuntu akuyona nje into enhle kulowo muntu. Kuyinkonzo ewusizo kakhulu oyenzela wena. Injabulo yengqondo kanye nenhlalakahle engokomzimba evela kukho ayinakuqhathaniswa.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukusiza abanye (ububele) akuyona nje umkhuba omuhle, kuwukutshala imali empilweni yakho yomzimba neyengqondo.
- Izenzo zomusa zinciphisa amazinga omzimba wakho ama-hormone okucindezeleka njenge-cortisol, zithuthukisa impilo yenhliziyo, futhi zithuthukise amasosha omzimba wakho.
- Uma usiza othile, uzizwa uphilile futhi wanelisekile ngenxa yokukhishwa 'kwama-hormone enjabulo' njenge-Oxytocin ne-Dopamine.
- Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukuzithandela nokusiza abanye kungakusiza nokuthi uphile impilo ende nenempilo.
- Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokulawula imizwa emibi njengentukuthelo, inzondo, nomona enhliziyweni yakho ukwenza okuthile okuhle kwabanye.
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