Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa ukhungathekile, unesizungu, futhi ungenathemba kangangokuthi awukwazi ukwenza lutho? Yilokhu esikubiza ngokuthi ukucindezeleka. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi imithi iyona kuphela ikhambi. Kodwa ubuwazi ukuthi ukukhuluma, okwaziwa nangokuthi ukwelashwa kokukhuluma noma i-psychotherapy, kuyindlela yokwelapha ephumelela kakhulu yalesi simo? Lokhu kungakusiza ufunde ngokucindezeleka kwakho futhi uthole izindlela zokuphatha izimpawu zakho.
"Ukwelashwa ngokukhuluma kukunikeza amakhono owadingayo ukuze uphathe ukucindezeleka kwakho. Ngakho-ke kubantu abaningi, kuyinto enika amandla kakhulu. Yingakho le ndlela yokwelapha iphumelela kangaka esikhathini eside."
Uma unokucindezeleka okuncane kuya kokuphakathi, mhlawumbe lokhu kwelashwa kokukhuluma kuphela kuzokwanela ukukusiza uzizwe ungcono. Kodwa uma unokucindezeleka okukhulu, ungase uzuze nangokuthatha imithi ngaphezu kwalokhu kwelashwa. Kulungile, ngakho ake sibone ukuthi ungaqala kanjani.
Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha ukucindezeleka ezingcono kakhulu?
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zokwelapha ngenkulumo. Izindlela ezimbili eziyinhloko ezisetshenziswa kakhulu ekucindezelekeni ukwelashwa kwengqondo nokuziphatha kanye nokwelashwa kokuxhumana nabantu.
- Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (i-CBT): Kalula nje, kukusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi amaphethini akho okucabanga angemahle athinta kanjani isimo sakho sengqondo futhi ushintshe leyo micabango nokuziphatha kube okuhle. Isibonelo, uma uvame ukucabanga ukuthi, "Angikwazi ukwenza lutho kahle," le ndlela ikusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi lowo mcabango unegalelo kanjani ekudabukeni nasekukhungathekeni kwakho, ushintshe lowo mcabango, futhi ucabange ngendlela eyakhayo.
- Ukwelashwa Kokuxhumana Nomuntu: Lokhu kugxila kakhulu endleleni oxhumana ngayo nabanye abantu. Lokhu kusho ukubheka ubudlelwano bakho bomuntu siqu - ubudlelwano bakho nomndeni, abangane, kanye nomlingani wakho - kanye nokukusiza ukuxazulula izinkinga nokwenza izinguquko ezinhle.
Zombili lezi zindlela zokwelapha ziboniswe zisebenza kahle kakhulu ekwelapheni ukucindezeleka. Udokotela wakho noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha angakusiza ukhethe indlela esebenza kahle kuwe.
Hlobo luni lochwepheshe okufanele ngilubone ngalokhu?
Kunezinhlobo eziningana zochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo abanikeza ukwelashwa kokukhuluma. Lolu lwazi luzokusiza ukhethe okulungele wena.
| Uhlobo lochwepheshe | Incazelo |
|---|---|
| Udokotela Wezifo Zengqondo | Laba odokotela bezokwelapha abelapha izifo zengqondo. Bangochwepheshe abaphambili bezempilo yengqondo abangakunikeza imithi. Abanye odokotela bengqondo nabo banikeza ukwelashwa kokukhuluma ngaphezu kokukunikeza imithi. |
| Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo | Bakufundisa indlela yokuphatha ukucindezeleka nokubhekana nakho (amakhono okubhekana nakho). Kodwa-ke, abavunyelwe ukukunikeza imithi eSri Lanka. |
| Abeluleki noma Ochwepheshe Bezokwelapha | Laba ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo bangakusiza futhi ukuthi uphathe ukucindezeleka futhi uthuthukise amakhono owadingayo ukuze ubhekane nakho. |
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthola uhlobo luni lochwepheshe bezokwelapha, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthola umuntu ozizwa ukhululekile naye, umuntu ongakhuluma naye ngokukhululekile nangaphandle kokwesaba .
"Indlela ozizwa ukhululekile ngayo ngomelaphi omkhethayo ibaluleke kakhulu kunezinga abanalo. Uma umthanda umelaphi futhi ungakha ubuhlobo obuhle naye, ukwelashwa kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi kuphumelele."
Ungamthola kanjani uchwepheshe wezokwelapha omuhle?
Uma udinga usizo lokuthola uchwepheshe wezokwelapha omuhle, zama lezi ziphakamiso:
- Buza umndeni nabangani: Buza ilungu lomndeni noma umngane omethembayo. Bangase bakwazi ukuncoma umuntu abamaziyo olungile.
- Buza udokotela womndeni wakho: Udokotela wakho angakunikeza ulwazi kanye nokudluliselwa kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo abahle endaweni yakini.
- Buza umholi wenkolo: Umholi wenkolo, njengompristi wethempeli lakho noma umpristi wesonto, naye angenza izinkomba zalokhu.
- Izinhlelo zokusiza zesikhungo:Uma usebenzela inkampani enkulu, ungase ukwazi ukuthola usizo ngoHlelo Lokusiza Abasebenzi (i-EAP) oluqhutshwa yinhlangano yakho.
- Buza inkampani yakho yomshuwalense: Uma unomshuwalense wezempilo, ungacela inkampani yakho yomshuwalense ukuthi ikunike uhlu lwabelaphi abakunethiwekhi yabo.
Ake senze i-aphoyintimenti yokubonana nodokotela wezifo zengqondo.
Uma usunamagama ambalwa, khuluma okungenani nabantu ababili ubatshele ngesimo sakho. Ungesabi ukubabuza ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ngokucindezeleka kanye nezinketho zabo zokwelapha. Uma uzizwa ukhululekile ukukhuluma, hlela i-aphoyintimenti. Kodwa khumbula, akudingeki ukuthi umthande umuntu wokuqala okhuluma naye noma ohlangana naye.
"Uma ufuna uchwepheshe wezokwelapha, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubaqhathanisa. Uma ucabanga ukuthi abafanelani kahle, thola omunye umuntu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthola umuntu ozizwa ukhululekile naye futhi ofanelana nawe. Lokhu kungathatha izingcingo ezimbalwa noma imihlangano embalwa."
Yini ongayilindela ngesikhathi seseshini yokwelapha?
Ngesikhathi seseshini yakho yokuqala, lungela ukutshela umelaphi wakho ngokucindezeleka kwakho nokuthi kungani ufuna usizo. Kungaba usizo ukucabanga ngalokho onethemba lokukufeza kulokhu kwelashwa. Isibonelo, ingabe ufuna izindlela zokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho bomuntu siqu? Noma ingabe ufuna imigomo yokwenza izinguquko empilweni yakho? Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba qotho kumelaphi wakho mayelana nokucindezeleka kwakho nokuthi yini onethemba lokuyithola ngokwelashwa.
Ngemva kokulalela isimo sakho, umelaphi uzoncoma uhlelo lokwelashwa olukufanele. Bazokwakha nohlelo lokwelashwa oluqondene nawe. Uma umelaphi ecabanga ukuthi ungazuza ngemithi, angakudlulisela kudokotela wezifo zengqondo noma kudokotela womndeni wakho.
Ngizozizwa ngingcono maduze?
Ukwelashwa ngengxoxo ngeke kukwenze uzizwe ungcono ngokushesha, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzobona intuthuko. Ungase uqale ukuzizwa sengathi ubudlelwano bakho buya ngokuya buba lula, noma isimo sakho sengqondo siyathuthuka. Noma ungase uzizwe sengathi uthola ukuqonda okungcono kwemizwa nezenzo zakho.
Uma ungazizwa ungcono, khuluma nodokotela wakho wezifo zengqondo ngakho. Angase akwazi ukuzama indlela ehlukile yokwelapha noma akuthumele kolunye uhlobo lokwelashwa. Ungase futhi uzuze ngokubona udokotela wezifo zengqondo ohlukile. Kungase kudingeke ukuthi ubonane nodokotela wezifo zengqondo abangaphezu koyedwa ukuze uthole ukwelashwa okufanele.
Ukwelapha akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngezinye izikhathi kungaba buhlungu ukukhuluma ngezinkinga ezinzima. Kodwa uma uqhubeka nakho, ukwelashwa kokukhuluma kungaba yinto eyanelisayo nejabulisayo. Kungakunikeza namathuluzi owadingayo ukuze unqobe ukucindezeleka kwakho.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukwelashwa ngenkulumo kuyindlela enamandla kakhulu futhi ephumelelayo yokwelapha ukucindezeleka.
- Into ebaluleke kakhulu, okungaphezu kweziqu, ukukhetha uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ozizwa ukhululekile futhi umethemba, nokuthi ubani ofaneleka kakhulu kuwe.
- Ungesabi ukukhuluma nabelaphi abambalwa uze uthole ongcono kakhulu. Lokho kuvamile.
- Thembeka ngangokunokwenzeka kumeluleki wakho wezokwelapha. Kuzosiza kakhulu ukuthi ukwelashwa kuphumelele.
- Ukwelapha kuthatha isikhathi, ngakho qhubeka nokubekezela nokuzinikela. Cela usizo uma kudingeka.
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