Wake wazizwa ukuthi kungaba kuhle kangakanani uma othile evele akugone isikhashana, noma ekubambe isandla? Sizizwa sizizwa sinomuzwa onjalo kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma sizizwa sisinda kakhulu futhi sinesizungu. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu emzimbeni nasengqondweni yethu. Kodwa uma ngesizathu esithile ungatholi ukuthintwa okuvamile komuntu, okungukuthi, uma ungenaye umuntu wokugona noma wokumbamba isandla, kuba nokucindezeleka okungajwayelekile kanye nokuntuleka okuzwayo engqondweni nasemzimbeni wakho. Kwezokwelapha, lesi simo sibizwa ngokuthi 'Touch Favation' .
Kalula nje, kuyini ukulamba ngokuthinta?
'Indlala Yokuthinta' yisimo esenzeka uma ungatholi inani lokuthintana nabantu olifunayo noma osujwayele. Ngisho noma ufisa kakhulu ukuthintwa, uyanqatshelwa ngenxa yezizathu zomphakathi, zomndeni, noma ezinye. Abanye abantu babiza lokhu ngokuthi 'Indlala Yesikhumba', okusho ukuthi "indlala ongayizwa esikhumbeni sakho."
Isibonelo esihle salokhu ubhubhane lwe-Covid esabhekana nalo sonke. Uyakhumbula lapho sasingakwazi ukuxhawulana noma ukugona umngane ngenxa yokuqhelelana? Lapho siya ukuyovakashela ilungu lomndeni elikhulile, sasesaba ukusondela kulo. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, abaningi bethu kwadingeka babhekane nalokho okubizwa ngokuthi 'i-Touch Favervation'.
Ngokufanayo, lesi simo singase senzeke nasezinganeni ezincane ezihlala ezintandaneni, nakubantu asebekhulile emakhaya asebekhulile noma ezibhedlela, ngoba abatholi ukuthintwa kothando okuningi.
Kungani ukuthintana kwabantu kubaluleke kangaka kithi?
Cabanga ngakho, ukuthintana kwabantu kungenye yezindlela eziyinhloko esixhumana ngazo. Sixhawulana emsebenzini, siqabulana nabantu esibathandayo, kanye nabangane abanothando. Zonke lezi zinto ziqinisa izibopho phakathi kwethu.
Isikhumba sethu siyisitho esikhulu kunazo zonke emzimbeni wethu. Yilesi sikhumba esithumela ulwazi ebuchosheni mayelana nokuthintwa okuhle nokubi.
Uma uthola ukuthintwa ngothando, njengalapho ugona othile, ubuchopho bakho bukhipha i-hormone ebizwa ngokuthi i-oxytocin . Abanye abantu bayibiza ngokuthi 'i-hormone yothando'. Lokhu kukwenza uzizwe ujabule futhi ukhululekile. Kuphinde kunciphise ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kwakho, futhi kuqinise izibopho zomphakathi nezokuzwelana.
Le nqubo iqala kusukela ngosuku esizalwa ngalo. Lapho umntwana ezalwa, odokotela batshela omama ukuthi babambe izingane zabo eduze ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokhu kusiza umntwana ukuba akhule kahle. Sidinga lokhu kuxhumana kwabantu impilo yethu yonke. Ngisho nasebakhulile, lokhu kuthinta ngothando kusisiza silale kahle, sigaye ukudla kahle, siqinise amasosha ethu omzimba, futhi silwe nezifo.
Kwenzekani ebuchosheni nasemzimbeni uma ulahlekelwa ukuthintana?
Uma ungatholi ukuthintwa okwanele, izinguquko eziningi ziqala ukwenzeka emzimbeni wakho. Ungabhekana nokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukucindezeleka.
Ukuphendula lokhu kucindezeleka, umzimba wakho uqala ukukhiqiza i-hormone ebizwa ngokuthi i-cortisol . Lokhu kwaziwa ngokuthi 'i-hormone yokucindezeleka'. Uma ikhiqizwa ngokweqile, ingaba nemiphumela eminingi emibi emzimbeni wakho.
Ake sibheke umehluko phakathi kwala ma-hormone amabili.
| Isimo | Kukhiqizwa i-hormone | Kwenzekani emzimbeni nasengqondweni |
|---|---|---|
| Uma uthintana ngothando (isib., ukugona, ukuxhawulana) | I-Oxytocin - "i-hormone yenjabulo" |
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| Ukuthinta Indlala | I-Cortisol - "i-hormone yokucindezeleka" |
Lezi zinto zinganciphisa ikhwalithi yokulala kwakho futhi zandise ingozi yakho yokuthola izifo. Uma usuvele unezimo ezifana nesifo sikashukela, i-asthma, noma umfutho wegazi ophakeme, lezi zingcindezi zengqondo zingazenza zibe zimbi kakhulu.
Kwezinye izimo, lokhu kuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside nokuxhumana kungaholela ngisho nasezimweni ezinzima njenge -Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , ngakho-ke akuwona umqondo omuhle ukuvele uyeke lokhu.
Sibhekana kanjani nalesi simo?
Into engcono kakhulu ukuthi, kunezinto esingazenza ukulwa nemiphumela yalokhu 'kokulwa nendlala', ngisho noma singakwazi ukuxhumana nabantu ngokomzimba.
1. Shaya ucingo lwevidiyo (Ingxoxo Yevidiyo)
Nakuba kungabonakali sengathi uthinta umuntu ngempela, ukubona ubuso balabo esibathandayo, ukukhuluma nabo, nokuhleka nabo kunganciphisa kakhulu isizungu nokucindezeleka kwethu. Ngakho-ke, xhumana nabangani nomndeni njalo, okungenani ngezingcingo zevidiyo.
2. Bamba iqhaza ekuzilolongeni okuku-inthanethi
Ukujoyina ikilasi le-yoga eliku-inthanethi noma olunye uhlelo lokuzivocavoca kukunika ithuba lokujoyina indawo yokuxhumana nabantu. Kunganciphisa isizungu sakho futhi kukwenze uzizwe ulula.
3. Cula futhi udanse
Uma uhlanganyela emisebenzini efana nale, noma ngabe uwedwa, amazinga e-oxytocin emzimbeni wakho angakhuphuka. Faka ingoma oyithandayo bese uyihlabelela phezulu, udanse kancane. Izothuthukisa kakhulu isimo sakho sengqondo.
4. Chitha isikhathi nezilwane ezifuywayo
Uma unenja noma ikati ekhaya, ukudlala nazo nokuziphulula kungakulethela induduzo enkulu. Ngisho noma zingebona abantu, lokho kuthintana nokuxhumana kungakusiza uphumule. Izifundo zithole nokuthi ukuphulula isilwane kwandisa izinga le-oxytocin emzimbeni womnikazi.
Uma lezi zinto zingakusizi ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwakho, futhi uqhubeka uzizwa ukhathazekile, unesizungu, noma udangele, sicela ufune usizo lochwepheshe . Khuluma nodokotela omethembayo ngalokhu. Ungadinga ukwelulekwa. Akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukuthinta kuyisidingo esiyisisekelo: Ukuthanda ukuthinta komuntu kubaluleke kakhulu emizimbeni nasezingqondweni zethu njengokudla neziphuzo.
- Indlala Yokuthinta Ingokoqobo:Ukungathintani kungaholela ekucindezelekeni, ekukhathazekeni, ngisho nasezifweni zomzimba.
- Umphumela wama-hormone: Ukuthinta okuhle kukhiqiza i-hormone yenjabulo (i-Oxytocin), kanti ukulahlekelwa ukuthinta kwandisa i-hormone yokucindezeleka (i-Cortisol).
- Funa usizo: Uma isizungu nokucindezeleka sekuba nzima kakhulu ukukuthwala, khuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho. Ungalokothi unqikaze ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe.
- Izinto ezincane zenza umehluko omkhulu: Ngisho nento elula njengokuphulula isilwane noma ukwenza ucingo lwevidiyo ingenza umehluko omkhulu enhlalakahleni yakho.
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