Ingabe nawe uzizwa sengathi awukufanelekeli lokhu? Ake sixoxe nge-Imposter Syndrome!

Wake wazizwa, esikhundleni sokujabula ngempumelelo yakho, ukwesaba ukuzibuza ukuthi, "O, ingabe ngikufanele ngempela lokhu? Angilungile njengoba abanye becabanga ukuthi ngilungile?" Uma uthola isikhundla emsebenzini, uphumelela isivivinyo, noma unconywa othile, uzizwa sengathi uzitshela ukuthi, "Angikufanele lokhu, ngolunye usuku wonke umuntu uzothola ukuthi ngingubani ngempela"? Lo muzwa ubizwa nje ngokuthi `(Imposter Syndrome)`.

Iyini ngempela i-Imposter Syndrome?

Kalula nje, 'Imposter Syndrome' yilapho ungabaza khona amakhono akho kanye nempumelelo yakho. Ngisho noma abanye becabanga ukuthi uhlakaniphile futhi wenza izinto kahle, uzizwa ujule kakhulu enhliziyweni yakho ukuthi awuhlakaniphile kangako, ukuthi ufana nomkhohlisi. Uhlala wesaba ukuthi ngelinye ilanga la manga azobanjwa.

Nakuba lokhu kungachazwa ngokusemthethweni njengokuxilongwa kwempilo yengqondo, lo muzwa ungaba nomthelela omkhulu ezicini eziningi zempilo yakho, okuhlanganisa umsebenzi, imfundo, ngisho nobudlelwano. Abanye abantu bakubiza nangokuthi 'imposter phenomenon' noma 'fraud syndrome'.

Lokhu kufana nomjikelezo (Umjikelezo Wokukhohlisa)

Abantu abaningi abane-'Imposter Syndrome' babona iphethini ekuziphatheni kwabo, into efana nomjikelezo. Zicabange unesethulo esikhulu ongasinikeza ehhovisi. Uma unalo muzwa, uqala ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngakho, bese uqala ukukhathazeka, "Ingabe ngizohluleka?" Kunezinto ezimbili ezingenzeka kulesi simo:

1. Ukuzindela kuze kube umzuzu wokugcina: Uzindela ngaphandle kokuqala. Bese uqeda umsebenzi ngomzuzu wokugcina ngokucindezeleka okukhulu nokukhathazeka. Ngisho noma umsebenzi uphumelele, ucabanga ukuthi, "O, ngibe nenhlanhla ukuthi lokhu kuphumelele."

2. Ukusebenza kanzima kakhulu: Usebenza kanzima kakhulu kunokudingekile, imini nobusuku, uzama ukwenza konke kahle. Kodwa uma uphumelela, awuzithathi udumo ngalokho . Ucabanga ukuthi, "Umuntu ohlakaniphile kunami ngabe wenze lokhu ngaphandle kokusebenza kanzima kangaka."

Noma ngabe yikuphi, umuzwa wenjabulo ngemva kokufeza umgomo wakho awuhlali isikhathi eside. Ngoba awukwazi ukuvumela leyo mpumelelo "ihlale." Kunalokho, uqala ukwesaba into enkulu elandelayo. Uqala ukungabaza, ukusebenza ngokweqile, noma ukuhlehlisa futhi. Ngakho-ke umjikelezo uyaqhubeka.

Ubani othola lo muzwa?

Eqinisweni, noma ubani angawuzwa lo muzwa. Ngo-1978, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezimbili, uSuzanne Imes noPauline Rose Clance, baqala ukuwubona phakathi kwabesifazane abaphumelelayo. Kodwa ucwaningo seluthole ukuthi uvamile kubantu abaningi, kungakhathaliseki ubulili, emisebenzini eyahlukahlukene.

Lo muzwa ungavame ukuvela uma uzizwa uhlukile kontanga yakho noma ozakwabo. Isibonelo, ukuba ngowesifazane osebenza ensimini ebuswa ngabesilisa . Kuvamile futhi kulabo abazizwa sengathi bancane ngokwemfundo noma emsebenzini.

Usola ukuthi une-Imposter Syndrome? Hlola lezi zimpawu

Ukuze uthole ukuthi unalo yini lo muzwa, bheka ukuthi lezi zici ezilandelayo zivamile yini kuwe:

• Ukucabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu wazi okungaphezu kwakho.
• Uhlala ucabanga ukuthi awuhlakaniphi njengoba abanye becabanga ukuthi uhlakaniphe.
• Ukucabanga ukuthi impumelelo yakho iwumphumela "wenhlanhla", "abantu obaziyo", noma izinqumo ezimbi zabanye.
• Ukuzizwa sengathi "umjikelezo wokukhohlisa" okukhulunywe ngawo ngenhla kuyaphinda empilweni yakho.
• Ukwesaba ukuthi awuyena owakho lapho ukhona (emsebenzini/esikoleni) nokuthi abanye bazokubona ngelinye ilanga.
• Ukuzizwa sengathi konke kufanele kwenziwe njalo ngokusemandleni akho noma kangcono kunalokho obekulindelekile.
• Ukuzizwa ungakhululekile uma othile ekuncoma.
• Nguwe ozivimbela ekufinyeleleni imigomo yakho.
• Ukwesaba ukudumaza abanye.
• Awukwazi ukukhohlwa ngisho nephutha elincane kakhulu olenzile bese uqhubeka ucabanga ngalo.
• Ukucabanga, "Ukube bengihlakaniphile, ngihlakaniphile, bengingeke ngibe nalokhu kungabaza."
• Ukuthola imvume yabanye kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.

Yiziphi izizathu ezingaba yilesi simo?

Kungaba nezizathu eziningana zalomuzwa.

• Izici zobuntu: Izici ezifana nokukhathazeka okukhulu, ukuzethemba okuphansi, kanye nokufuna ukuphelela zihlotshaniswa nalokhu.
• Indawo yokukhuliswa: Ngezinye izikhathi, lesi simo singakhula kubantu abakhulela emindenini ebilokhu igcizelela impumelelo nempumelelo. Singabangelwa nokuthola imiyalezo ephikisanayo evela kubazali, njengokunconywa ngokweqile ngezinye izikhathi kanye nokugxekwa okunzima ngezinye izikhathi.
• Ukuzizwa ungumuntu wangaphandle: Isibonelo, uma ungenawo umncintiswano ngokwemvelo endaweni yokusebenza enokuncintisana okukhulu, ungase uzizwe sengathi "Angifaneleki lapha." Futhi, ukuzizwa uhlukile kwabanye ngenxa yohlanga lwakho, ubudala, ubulili, noma isimo sakho sezomnotho kungaholela ku-'Imposter Syndrome'.
• Imidiya Yezokuxhumana: Uma ubona izithombe zokuphila "okuphelele" kwabanye abantu, cishe uzoziqhathanisa nabo futhi uzizwe "Angikwanele."

Yini engenziwa ukuze kugwenywe lokhu?

Kunzima ukulwa nale micabango ekhathazayo wedwa, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthola ukwesekwa kwabanye.

Iseluleko sezokwelapha kanye nokwelashwa

• Ukwelapha Ngengxoxo: Ukukhuluma nomeluleki noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha kungakusiza uqonde ukuthi le micabango ivelaphi nokuthi ithinta kanjani impilo yakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, ungafunda ukuthi ungayilawula kanjani uma ivela.
• Ukwelashwa Kokucubungula Ubuchopho (CPT): Lena indlela yokwelapha ekufundisa ukubona izinkolelo zakho ezimbi bese uzishintsha ngemicabango engokoqobo.
• Ukwelashwa Kwamaqembu: Kungasiza futhi ukujoyina iseshini yeqembu nabanye abane-'Imposter Syndrome' efanayo nawe. Ukuzwa okuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye abantu kungakusiza uzizwe ungedwa kangako. Ukwabelana ngemicabango yakho kungakusiza futhi uthole umbono omusha.

Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile yile mizwa, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho womndeni (GP) . Angakunikeza isiqondiso osidingayo.

Izinto ongazenza wena

• Khumbula impumelelo yakho: Bhala uhlu lwezinto ozenzile kahle, izinto ozigqaja ngazo. Londoloza ama-imeyili, amanothi, njll. anconywa abanye. Bheka emuva kulezi uma uzizwa sengathi "ngingumkhohlisi."
• Imizwa namaqiniso ahlukene: Ngesikhathi esizayo lapho uzithola ungabaza, zikhumbuze ukuthi kumane nje kuyimizwa, hhayi iqiniso.
• Yiba nomusa kuwe: Ubungathini uma umngane wakho ezwa ngale ndlela? "Uhlakaniphile, futhi unelungelo lokwenza amaphutha," akunjalo? Zitshele into efanayo.
• Jwayela ukwamukela ukunconywa: Uma umuntu ethi “wenze kahle,” esikhundleni sokukugwema ngokuthi “Ngiyabonga, kodwa...”, jwayela ukumane uthi “Ngiyabonga kakhulu.”
• Ungaziqhathanisi nabanye: Wonke umuntu ubhala okuhle kakhulu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kuphela. Ngakho yeka ukuziqhathanisa nabo. Kunalokho, zama ukwenza usuku lwanamuhla lube ngcono kunosuku lwakho lwangaphambilini. Akekho ophelele.
• Inselele imicabango yakho: Uma ucabanga ukuthi, "Ngithole lo msebenzi ngoba akekho omunye owayewufuna," inselele lowo mcabango bese ucabanga ngendlela enhle, "Ngithole lo msebenzi ngoba ngisebenza kanzima futhi ozakwethu engisebenza nabo bayangithanda."
• Qonda: Abakhohlisi bangempela abatholi 'i-Imposter Syndrome'. Iqiniso lokuthi uzizwa ngale ndlela lifakazela ukuthi awuyena umkhohlisi!