Nukae nye ‘Kamedede si Wozi Ðe Ame Dzi’ sia?
Kpuie ko la, ‘Kamedede Dzizizitɔe’ nye ne ame se le eɖokui me be ele be yeade kame wòagbɔ eme eye yemate ŋu aɖu eɖokui dzi o. Ne míagblɔe tututu la, woyɔa esia ɣeaɖewoɣi be ‘kamedede ƒe numame’ . Ame siwo ŋu nɔnɔme sia le medi be yewoadzudzɔ kamedede o, ne wole dɔ lém, xɔ abi, mɔnukpɔkpɔ su yewo si be yewoafe kple yewo xɔlɔ̃wo, alo yame ƒe nɔnɔme gblẽ gɔ̃ hã. Eva zua nu vevitɔ le woƒe agbe me.Nukatae ame aɖewo dea kame wògbɔa eme nenema gbegbe ɖo?
Bu eŋu kpɔ, kamedede gbesiagbe nye agbenɔnɔ si me lãmesẽ le ƒe akpa vevi aɖe. Gake ɣeaɖewoɣi la, esia ate ŋu ayi ŋgɔ akpa.- Kamedefefewɔlawo: Ðewohĩ ate wo kpɔ be woade kame geɖe wu be woƒe kamedefefe ƒe ŋutete nanyo ɖe edzi. Ðewohĩ woawo ŋutɔ ƒe taɖodzinuwo , hehenalawo, bɔlƒoha me tɔwo, alo dzilawo ƒonɛ ɖe wo nu be woaƒo wo ɖokui nu wu woƒe seɖoƒe. Bu sekɛndrisuku ƒe kamedefefewɔla bibi aɖe si amesiame gblɔna be, "Àte ŋu awɔ dɔ nyuie wu, awɔ dɔ sesĩe wu." Emegbe woate ŋu asusu be, "Ele be masrɔ̃e gaƒoƒo ɖeka kpee." Esia ate ŋu adzi ɖe edzi le ɣeyiɣi aɖe megbe.
- Nuɖuɖukuxiwo: Zi geɖe la, kamedede si gbɔ eme sia zɔna aduadu kple nuɖuɖukuxiwo . Ne ame aɖe le eƒe nuɖuɖu dzi ɖum la , ate ŋu adzroe hã be yeade kame fũ akpa be yeaɖe yeƒe lolo dzi akpɔtɔ . Le kpɔɖeŋu me, ame aɖewo, amesiwo ŋu dɔléle aɖe si woyɔna be bulimia , dea kame be yewoakpɔ gbɔdzɔe le nuɖuɖu fũu akpa megbe.
- Ŋutilã ƒe susu siwo gbɔ womate ŋu aɖo o: Ame aɖewo xɔe se be ne yewoyi edzi le kame dem la, yewoakpɔ ŋutilã ƒe nɔnɔme si yewosusu, si ate ŋu adzɔ le nyateƒe me o. Esia ate ŋu atso nuwo abe nusiwo wokpɔna le hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo kple hatiwo ƒe nyaƒoɖeamenu gbɔ.
Kuxi kawoe ate ŋu ado mo ɖa le kamedede fũu akpa me?
Kamedede dzimaɖumaɖu alea ate ŋu ahe ŋutilã kple susu me kuxi geɖe vɛ. Nusiwo wonye enye si:- Nuveviwɔamewo :Ŋutilã ƒe akpa ɖeka mawo ke zazã fũ ate ŋu ana woaxɔ abi le wo zazã fũu akpa me eye woagbã nuteɖeamedzi . Bu nusi adzɔ ne ame aɖe si ƒua du gbesiagbe ƒe afɔ le vevem eye wòyi edzi le du dzi togbɔ be ewɔe hã ŋu kpɔ.
- Nɔnɔme tɔxɛ aɖe na nyɔnuviwo: Nyɔnuvi aɖewo, vevietɔ amesiwo kpɔa gome le kamedefefewo me, ate ŋu axɔ nɔnɔme aɖe si woyɔna be `Nyɔnu Kamedefefewɔla Etɔ̃lia` . Esia lɔ nu vevi etɔ̃ ɖe eme:
- Mɔnu siwo mesɔ o siwo dzi nàto aɖe lolo dzi akpɔtɔ: Nuɖuɖu dzi ɖeɖe kpɔtɔ, nuɖuɖu si nèɖuna dzi ɖeɖe kpɔtɔ zi ɖeka, aɖuɖɔtoe , kple nuɖuɖutikewo alo aɖuɖɔtoemetikewo zazã ate ŋu ate ame kpɔ.
- Amewo ɖeɖe ɖe aga le hadome: Esi kamedede nye nu vevitɔ ta la, àte ŋu aŋe aɖaba aƒu sukudɔdasiwo kple sukudɔdasiwo dzi. Ðewohĩ màzã ɣeyiɣi ʋɛ aɖewo ɖe xɔ̃wòwo kple ƒometɔwo ŋu o. Àte ŋu adze nyawo abe, "Ele be mayi kamedefefewɔƒe egbea, nyemate ŋu ava kplɔ̃ɖoƒea o" gbɔgblɔ gɔme.
- Dzimaɖitsitsi Kple Blanuiléle: Susu me kuxiwo ate ŋu ado mo ɖa le nuwo abe dɔwɔwɔ ƒe nyaƒoɖeamenu, bubumademade ame ɖokui ŋu, kple modzakaɖeɖe bubuwo ƒe anyimanɔmanɔ ta. Ate ŋu agbɔ eme ne mèkpɔ nusiwo nèdi tso wò kamededewo me o.
Vevietɔ: Menye ɖevia ƒe vodadae nɔnɔme sia tso o. Enye nusi dzi ɖuɖu sesẽna na wo. Esia tae wòle be míakpe ɖe wo ŋu ɖo.
Dzesi kawoe miate ŋu akpɔ abe dzilawo ene?
Ne èsusu be viwòa le kame dem akpa la, di dzesi siawo:- Mèdzudzɔ kamedede ne ɖeɖi te ŋuwò, nèdze dɔ, alo nèxɔ abi gɔ̃ hã o.
- Ne èto kamedede ŋkeke ɖeka gɔ̃ hã me la, àtsi dzimaɖi vevie eye nàbu fɔ ɖokuiwò .
- Wò kpekpeme kple ɖoɖo si nu nèdea kame ɖo ko ŋu bubu ɣesiaɣi .
- Kpekpeme dzi ɖeɖe kpɔtɔ ɖedzesi aɖe le ɣeyiɣi kpui aɖe me.
- Kamedede geɖe wu gɔ̃ hã le ŋkeke siwo dzi nèɖua nu geɖe alo doa kpo kamedede aɖe dzi.
- Ne màte ŋu ade kame o la, ele be nàɖu nu ʋɛ aɖewo ko.
- Xɔlɔ̃wo do go, asiɖeɖe le modzakaɖeɖe bubuwo ŋu, kple aɖabaŋeŋe ƒu ame ƒe agbanɔamedziwo dzi gɔ̃ hã be wòakpɔ ɣeyiɣi geɖe atsɔ ade kame.
- Esusu be ame ƒe bubudede eɖokui ŋu nɔ te ɖe kamedede agbɔsɔsɔme si wòwɔ kple agbagba si wòdze le eme dzi.
- Ame ƒe ŋutilãmeŋutetewo ƒe dzi madzemadze gbeɖe o.
- Ne nyɔnuvie la, dzinukpɔkpɔ madzɔmadzɔ alo abixɔxɔ enuenu abe ``nuteɖeamedzi ƒe gbagbã`` (ƒuwo ƒe gbagbã nyuiwo) .
Aleke woawɔ ade dzesi nɔnɔme si me ‘Kamedede si Wozi Ðe Ame Dzi’?
Le nyateƒe me la, esesẽ vie be woakpɔ ‘Kamedede si Wozi Ðe Ame Dzi’ ƒe nɔnɔme sia. Elabena ŋuɖoɖo alo nukpɔsusu ɖeka aɖeke meli tututu le "Kamedede nenie sɔ gbɔ akpa?" Ke hã, ne ame aɖe yi edzi le kame dem togbɔ be exɔ abi, lãmesẽkuxi bubuwo, alo ƒomedodo si le gbegblẽm ɖe edzi kple ƒometɔwo kple xɔlɔ̃wo hã la , ate ŋu anye `kamedede ƒe numame` . Ðɔkta alo susumedɔléle ŋuti aɖaŋuɖola ate ŋu atso nya me mamlɛtɔ . Woalé ŋku ɖe ɖevia ƒe kamedede ƒe nɔnɔmewo, tamesusuwo, nuwɔna, kple lãmesẽ bliboa ŋu nyuie.Aleke wodaa nɔnɔme siae?
Mègavɔ̃ be yease nya sia o. Atike aɖewo li na nɔnɔme aɖe si woyɔna be ‘Compulsive Exercise’. Nu vevitɔe nye be nàse egɔme be woate ŋu akpe ɖe ɖevia ŋu.- Atikewɔla ƒe kpekpeɖeŋu: Atikewɔla ate ŋu akpe ɖe amewo ŋu woatrɔ woƒe nuwɔna siwo mele lãmesẽ me o, woakpɔ kamedede si sɔ, eye wòafia tenɔnɔ ɖe nɔnɔme siawo nu ƒe mɔnuwo wo.
- Atikewɔwɔ bubuwo:
- Abi siwo li xoxo la dada.
- Kamedede dzudzɔ alo edzi ɖeɖe kpɔtɔ hena ɣeyiɣi aɖe.
- Kamedede ƒe ɖoɖo siwo le lãmesẽ me wu, siwo woate ŋu azã ɖe eteƒe la dodo ɖe ŋgɔ .
- Na aɖaŋuɖoɖo le nunyiame ŋu eye nàfia nu tso kamedede fũu akpa ƒe nugbegblẽ le ame ŋu ŋu.
- Atikewɔwɔ me nɔnɔme bubu siwo ate ŋu anɔ anyi ɖekae kple nɔnɔme sia (e.g., nuɖuɖukuxiwo, blanuiléle, alo nuteɖeamedzi ƒe dɔléle - OCD) .
Ðo ŋku edzi be atikewɔwɔ menye tohehe o, ke boŋ enye mɔ si dzi woato akpe ɖe ɖevia ŋu wòaganɔ lãmesẽ me ahakpɔ dzidzɔ ake.
Nukae dzilawo ate ŋu awɔ?
Abe dzilawo ene la, miate ŋu anye kpekpeɖeŋu gã aɖe na mia vi le mɔzɔzɔ sia me. Kpɔe ɖa be àte ŋu awɔ nusiawo hã:- Na viwòa nakpɔ gome le eme ne èle nuɖuɖu siwo me nunyiame le ɖam.Emegbe wosrɔ̃a nu tso nuɖuɖu kple nunyiame ŋu.
- Miƒo ƒu abe ƒome ene eye miakpɔ dzidzɔ ahanɔ vevie dom nu. Yi ɖatsa le tsaɖibɔa me, do wò gasɔ, ƒo fefe. Na woase le wo ɖokui me be kamedede nye modzakaɖeɖe, ke menye tohehe o.
- Nye kpɔɖeŋu nyui ɖola le ŋutilã ƒe nɔnɔme ŋu. Mègaƒo nu tso wò ŋutilã ƒe gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔwo ŋu ɣesiaɣi o. Nyawo abe "Me da ami," "Mesena le ɖokuinye me be mevɔ̃ɖi" ene gbɔgblɔ le viwòwo ŋkume hã ate ŋu ahe nɔnɔme gbegblẽwo vɛ le wo me.
- Mègaɖe ɖeklemi ame bubuwo ƒe kpekpeme alo woƒe ŋutilã ƒe nɔnɔme o.
- Ðo dze kple viwòa, do alɔ wo. Se nya si wogblɔ. Dze agbagba nàse woƒe seselelãmewo gɔme evɔ màdrɔ̃ ʋɔnu wo o.
- Kpe ɖe ɖeviwo ŋu woakpɔ mɔ yeye siwo dzi woato akpɔ kuxiwo gbɔ. Na woase egɔme be menye kamedede koe nye mɔ si dzi woato aɖe kuxiwo ɖa o.
Mlɔeba la, nu vevitɔ kekeake (Take-Home Message) .
Nu vevitɔ kekeake si gɔme wòle be mí katã míase enye be togbɔ be kamedede le vevie na agbe nyui nɔnɔ hã la, ate ŋu ahe kuxiwo hã vɛ ne èwɔe wògbɔ eme . Ðeko wòle abe nya aɖeke gbɔgblɔ fũu akpa menyo na wò o ene. Nɔnɔme sia si woyɔna be ‘Compulsive Exercise’ ate ŋu akpɔ ŋusẽ ɖe ɖevi ƒe ŋutilã ƒe lãmesẽ kpakple eƒe susu ƒe lãmesẽ dzi. Eyata ele vevie ŋutɔ na mí dzilawo be míanya esia, ade dzesi dzesiawo, eye míaxɔ kpekpeɖeŋu ne ehiã.Mègavɔ̃ o, kpekpeɖeŋu biabia menye gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔ o, ke boŋ enye ŋusẽ! Àte ŋu akpe ɖe viwòa ŋu wòanɔ agbe si me lãmesẽ le, si da sɔ.
` Kamedede si wozi edzi, kamedede si gbɔ eme, kamedede ƒe numame, kamedede ƒe numame, ɖeviwo ƒe lãmesẽ, susu ƒe lãmesẽ, nuɖuɖukuxiwo, dzilanyenye ŋuti aɖaŋuɖoɖo

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