Yu pikin kin vɛks bad bad wan wantɛm wantɛm fɔ sɔntin we smɔl? Ɔ i kin jomp ɔp ɛn dɔŋ ɛn tray tranga wan we i nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol ivin we i fil gladi smɔl? Sɔntɛnde yu kin tink se, "Wetin mek mi pikin de biev lɛk dis? I jɔs de tray fɔ mek tin wɔs." Bɔt di impɔtant tin we wi fɔ ɔndastand as mama ɛn papa na dat di pikin nɔ de du dɛn tin ya bay wilful. Ɛspɛshali if di pikin gɛt ADHD, we min se i nɔ de pe atɛnshɔn, i nid mɔ tɛm ɛn tray pas ɔda pikin dɛn fɔ kɔntrol di we aw dɛn de fil .
Wetin mek i nɔ kin izi fɔ dɛn pikin ya fɔ kɔntrol di we aw dɛn de fil?
Bɔku tɛm, yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin want fɔ du sɔntin smɔl ɛn dɛn kin du sɔntin we dɛn nɔ want fɔ du. Dat na nɔmal tin. As dɛn de ol, dɛn kin lan fɔ ɔndastand ɛn kɔntrol di we aw dɛn de fil, dat na fɔ mek dɛn ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf .
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dis tan lɛk fan rɛgyulatɔ na wi os. We wi fil wam, wi kin yuz di rɛgyulatɔ fɔ mek di fan spid mɔ. We wi fil kol, wi kin ridyus di spid. Semweso, pikin kin lan bak fɔ ɔndastand we in filin dɛn kin "hot," dat na we i vɛks, sɔri, ɔ wɔri de bɔku, ɛn fɔ "kul" in maynd, dat na fɔ mek i kol.
כltu, pan pikin dεm we gεt ADHD, dis "rεgεlεt" na dεn bren de wok difrεnt sכmtεm. I kin tek sɔm tɛm fɔ mek i divɛlɔp . Na dat mek i at fɔ mek dɛn no di "tɛmpracha" we dɛn de fil ɛn kɔntrol dɛn fayn fayn wan. Wantɛm wantɛm, dɛn filin kin rili tranga. Na dat mek dɛn kin vɛks bad bad wan pan smɔl smɔl tin dɛn, ɔr kin gladi sote dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf pan smɔl smɔl gladi-at.
Aw pikin dɛn we gɛt ADHD kin sho aw dɛn de fil?
Nɔto ɔl pikin dɛn we gɛt ADHD kin biev di sem we. Sɔm pikin dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf we dɛn at pwɛl ɔ vɛks, ɛn dɛn kin ala ɔ trowe tin na grɔn. Sɔntɛm ɔda pikin nɔ go intres ɔ gɛt maynd we dɛn aks am fɔ du sɔntin we i nɔ want fɔ du.
Bɔt sɔm kɔmɔn kwaliti dɛn de we pɔsin kin si. We yu dɔn si dɛn tin ya, i go izi fɔ yu fɔ ɔndastand yu pikin.
| Di kwaliti we pɔsin gɛt | Wan simpul ɛksplen |
|---|---|
| Fɔ vɛks bad bad wan bɔt smɔl smɔl tin dɛn | Imajin, tɔys brok, ɔ di tip pan pensil we gɛt kɔlɔ brok. Nɔmal pikin go sɔri smɔl ɛn fɔgɛt bɔt am. Bɔt pikin we gɛt ADHD kin fil bad, ala, ɛn kray lɛk se di wan ol wɔl dɔn fɔdɔm. I rili at fɔ lɛ dɛn pul da filin de. |
| I nɔ kin izi fɔ mek yu at kol afta yu dɔn vɛks | If dɛn fɛt wit pɔsin, ɔ if yu kɔl am, da wamat ɛn sɔri-at de dɔn ɔlrɛdi de insay dɛn at. I nɔ kin izi fɔ mek dɛn fɔgɛt am kwik ɛn mek padi dɛn bak lɛk nɔmal pikin. |
| Fɔ si ivin smɔl kɔmɛnt as big mistek | Ivin if yu se somtin smol laik "improve your handwriting," dem go fil laik se yu don du dem big disservice, laik se yu don hit dem. Dɛn kin rili fil bad we i du dat. |
| Fɔ want fɔ gɛt sɔntin wantɛm wantɛm we nid de | If dɛn se, "A want ayskrim," dɛn want am "rayt naw." If dɛn se, "A go gi yu am afta sɔm tɛm," dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ bia wit am. Dɛn kin fil da nid de so tranga wan dat dɛn nɔ kin peshɛnt igen. |
Dis na di sem tin wit filin lɛk gladi at ɛn gladi at. Dɛn kin fil dɛn bad bad wan. So ivin if dɛn fil se dɛn gladi smɔl, dɛn kin gladi so dat dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf, dɛn kin strɛs ɛn ala.
Aw yu go ɛp yu pikin fɔ kɔntrol di we aw i de fil?
Pan ɔl we dis kin tranga smɔl fɔ pikin we gɛt ADHD, if yu ɛp yu pikin, i kin gɛt dis skil. Dɛn advays ya go rili ɛp yu.
1. Nɔ ɔndastand aw yu pikin de fil.
We yu pikin de kray ɔ in at pwɛl, nɔ se, "Wetin nɔ fayn, nɔ kray so." Da tɛm de, yu pikin nid say we sef fɔ tɔk bɔt aw i de fil. Bifo yu aks kwɛstyɔn, tek tɛm lisin to wetin yu pikin de tɔk. Tray fɔ tink di we aw yu pikin de si am. Ilɛksɛf i tan lɛk se i strenj to yu, mɛmba se yu pikin rili de fil di sem we . Sho dɛn se yu ɔndastand bay we yu de tɔk tin dɛn lɛk, "Yu sɔri se di tɔys brok, nɔto so? A ɔndastand."
2. Gɛt wɛlbɔdi abit dɛn
I kin izi fɔ wi fɔ kɔntrol di we aw wi de fil we wi it fayn ɛn slip fayn. We wi angri ɛn taya, wi kin vɛks pan smɔl smɔl tin dɛn, nɔto so? Dis kin afɛkt pikin we gɛt ADHD mɔ ɛn mɔ. So, mek shɔ se yu pikin it gud it ɛn i de slip fayn . I rili impɔtant bak fɔ ɛksesaiz fɔ at le wan awa insay di de. Ɛnkɔrej yu pikin fɔ rɔn ɛn ple.
Sɔntɛnde, yu dɔktɔ ɔ pɔsin we de stɔdi bɔt pɔsin in maynd kin tɛl yu fɔ yuz sɔm patikyula tritmɛnt dɛn fɔ di we aw pɔsin de biev . Dɛn tin ya na tritmɛnt dɛm lɛk ``Kɔgnitiv Bihayvya Tɛrapi (CBT)`` ɛn ``Dayalɛktik Bihayvya Tɛrapi (DBT)``. Dɛn tin ya kin tich yu pikin aw fɔ no ɛn kɔntrol aw i de tink ɛn aw i de fil.
3. Mek wan list fɔ di we dɛn fɔ mek yu maynd kol (Coping Skills) .
We yu pikin vɛks ɔ fil bad, no bɔt sɔm we dɛn we i go mek in at kol ɛn nɔ du bad to insɛf ɔ ɔda pipul dɛn. Wi kin kɔl dɛn tin ya we pɔsin kin ebul fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm . Sɔm pan dɛn tin ya kin apin na os, ɛn ɔda wan dɛn kin du na do.
- Briz dip: Praktis fɔ blo we yu de kɔnt 1, 2, 3, 4 na yu maynd, ɛn fɔ blo we yu de kɔnt bak.
- Ɛksesaiz: We yu vɛks, aks dɛn fɔ rɔn rawnd di yad ɔ go ɔp ɛn dɔŋ di stej.
- Lisin to myuzik: Mek di pikin lisin to wan siŋ we de mek i fil kol we i lɛk.
- Jɔnal ɔ drɔ: Ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ rayt ɔ drɔ wetin de na dɛn maynd.
- Fɔ tɔk to pɔsin we yu biliv: Tich yusɛf, yu papa, ɔ yu bɛst padi fɔ tɛl yu wetin de na yu maynd.
4. Tink bɔt yusɛf lɛk mama ɔ papa.
Fɔ kia fɔ pikin we gɛt ADHD nɔ kin izi. Sɔntɛnde, i kin mek pɔsin strɛs pan pɔsin in maynd. Fɔ ɛp yu pikin, yu nid fɔ gɛt gud mental wɛlbɔdi fɔs . Mek wan list fɔ di we dɛn fɔ mek yusɛf kol we yu fil strɛs. Nɔ shem fɔ aks yu fambul ɛn padi dɛn fɔ ɛp yu we yu nid am. Sɔntɛnde, yu kin nid advays bak. Dɔn bak, fɔ jɔyn sɔpɔt grup fɔ mama ɛn papa dɛn we gɛt pikin dɛn we gɛt ADHD kin bi big tin fɔ mek dɛn gɛt trɛnk.
If yu gɛt siriɔs prɔblɛm wit di we aw yu pikin de biev, bifo yu tray fɔ fɛn sɔlv fɔ yusɛf, yu fɔ rili go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn ɔ dɔktɔ we de mɛn dɛn maynd fɔ advays . Dɛn go gi yu ɛn yu pikin di bɛst sɔlvishɔn.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- ADHD nɔto tin we pikin kin du bay wilful, na rial mɛrɛsin.
- dis pikin dεm in filin nכ "rכng", dεn jכs fil dεm mכr "naturally" pas כda pipul dεm.
- Yu peshɛnt, ɔndastandin bɔt yu pikin, ɛn di wɛlbɔdi abit dɛn we yu de put na os, na di tin we yu pikin gɛt pas ɔl.
- Rɛspɛkt di we aw yu pikin de fil, lisin to am, ɛn tich am aw fɔ mek in at kol.
- Nɔto yu wan de na dis waka. If nid de, go to pɔsin we sabi du di wok fɔ ɛp yusɛf ɛn yu pikin. I bɛtɛ fɔ mek yu aks dɔktɔ we gɛt ɛkspiriɛns fɔ advays.
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