I naupang tê chu a tap reng em? Thinrimna chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Aw, i naupang tê chu a thinrim nghal a, a tap a, leiah a inher kual vel em ni? A chang chuan i tih tur i ngaihtuah chhuak thei lo a ni lawm ni? Naupang tê, kum hnih emaw kum thum emaw mi ang chite hian hetiang ang tantrums hi an neih hi thil pangngai tak a ni tak zet a, English-a kan sawi angin ``Temper Tantrums'' pawh hi thil pangngai tak a ni. Mahse, a châng chuan naupang upa zâwkte pawhin hetiang hian an che thei a, an thinrimna leh lungngaihna chu an thunun thei lo.

Chûng thinrimnate chu engte nge ni? Anmahni hi i hrethiam mai ang u!

A awlsam zawngin, heng ``Temper Tantrums`` te hi naupangin a thunun theih loh rilru natna (thinrimna, lungngaihna, lungngaihna ang chi) a chhuah nghal theihna tur a ni. Ngaihtuah teh, naupang tê tê hian an duhzawng chu thu hmanga sawi chhuah dan an hre lo. Tichuan, chutiang chuan an chhungril buaina chu an chhuah chhuak ta a ni.

Hetih lai hian naupang chu hetiang hian a awm thei a ni:

• Au ri nasa tak leh tap chhuak .
• Leiah a mu a, a rolling , a kut leh ke a flailing bawk.
• I kuta thil lo thlengte paih.
• An inhnek a, khawi emaw laiah an lu an vawm a.
• Naupang thenkhat phei chuan thawk an titawp thei bawk .
• Midang (nangmah, i unaute) vuak leh seh tum.

A pawimawh ber chu, hei hi naupangin an "tha lo" avanga an tih tur a ni lo. Chutih lai chuan an thluak te tak te chuan chutiang rilru natna chu a tuar thei lo tihna mai a ni.

Engvangin nge hetiang taka ngaihtuahna fim lo taka i che thin, kid? A chhan engte nge ni?

Naupangin hetianga a nungchang dik loh chhan tam tak a awm thei. A chhan ber thenkhat han thlir ila.

Kum naupang (kum 1-4 vel) ah .

Hetiang kum naupangte hian ``Temper Tantrums`` an nei tam zawk. Hei hi a chhante chu:

• Thusawi mumal thei lo: An riltam, chau, thil mamawh, harsatna an nei tih sawina tawngkam an nei lo. Chuvangin hei hi an sawi dan tur an hriat loh huna lungawi lohna lo awm thin chu a ni.
• Mahni chauha thil tih tum: Hetiang kum hian khawvel hi an hrethiam zauh zauh a, "Ka duh danin ka ti thei ang!" Mahse, engkim an ti thei lo. Hetiang hian infiamna an siam that theih loh emaw, pheikhawk an bun theih loh emaw hian thinrimna a lo chhuak thin.
• Chauhna, riltam, mut tlakchham : Naute hi ei tur leh mut tlem an neih loh chuan an thinrim mai ni lovin, keini pawh kan thinrim thin. Hei hi naupang tê tê tân chuan a harsa hle.
• Thil thar, inthlak danglamna: Hmun thara an kal emaw, mi thar an tawn emaw, an ni tin nunphung an thlak danglam emaw hian an lungkham thut mai thei.

Naupang kum upa zawk (kum 4 hnuah) .

Sikul kal thei naupangte pawh hian a chang chuan hetiang hian an awm thei bawk.

• Boundary testing: "Hetiang hi ka tih chuan mom hian eng nge a tih ang?"
• Emotion chak tak thunun harsa : .Thinrimna, lungngaihna, inhuatna leh hlauhna ang chi rilru natnate an lo chhuah huna hmachhawn dan tur an la zir reng a ni.
• Mi ngaihven hlawh tûrin: A châng chuan i buai laiin i fa chu i ngaihven theih nân hetiang hian a awm thei a ni.
• Thiltih dan zir: Naupang pakhatin a hmain a au chhuak a, a tap a, thil a dil a, a hmu a nih chuan, "Aw... hetiang hian ka tih chuan ka duh chu ka hmu ang," tih an zir mai thei.
• In lama harsatna: In lama harsatna emaw, sikula ṭhian nena insual emaw ang chi thil avanga lungkhamna chu hetiang hian a lo chhuak thei mai thei.
• Thil awm dan bulpui thenkhat: A tlem hle nachungin, ``(ADHD)`` (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), ``( Autism Spectrum Disorder )``, emaw, lungkham lutuk ang chi thil te hian naupangte nungchang a tidanglam thei bawk. Hemi chungchangah hian rinhlelhna i neih chuan doctor pan ngei ngei tur a ni.

Prank zawng zawng hi a inang vek em?

Ni lo, a takah chuan tantrum chi hrang hrang a awm. Ṭhenkhat chu naupang lungawi lohna dik tak (Frustration tantrums) avanga lo awm a ni. Mi dangte chu ngaihven hlawh duhna rilru natna (tantrums) avanga lo awm a ni. A châng chuan, naupang chuan an duhzawng hmuh theih nân he tactic hi a hmang ṭhin (Manipulative tantrums). Naupang thenkhat chuan thawm a san thut emaw, mipui tamna hmuna an kal emaw chuan ``Sensory Overload`` an nei thei.

Tin, heng thinrimna nasatna leh hun chhung hi naupang hrang hrangah a inang lo bawk. Naupang thenkhat chu minute tlemte chhungin an thlamuang a, thenkhat erawh chuan hun rei tak an hmang thei thung.

Nu leh pa kan nih angin engtin nge he thil hi kan hmachhawn ang? Engtin nge kan fa chu kan tanpui ang?

Okay, chuvang chuan a pawimawh ber kan thleng ta. Hetiang hunah hian engtin nge naupang chu kan tanpui ang a, kan rilru a hahdam ang?

1. Sualna a thlen hmain ven tum ila! (Dam aiin invenna a tha zawk!)

• Thil tih dan mumal tak din rawh: A hun taka ei te, a hun taka mut te, leh a hun taka inkhelh te hi naupang tan chuan a pawimawh hle. Hei hian himna an neih theih nan leh a tul lo taka lungkhamna a tihziaawm ang.
• Duhthlanna tenau te phalsak rawh: I fa chu, "No sen atanga in duh em, a sen atang nge?"
• Nungchang tha fak: I fain thil tha a tih hian, muangchangin a inkhelh hian, "Aw, i tha lutuk, inkhelhna thilte chu mawi taka i dah dan kha han en teh," tih ang chi fakna tlem pe rawh. Tichuan chutiang thil tha ti leh turin an infuih leh ang.
• Hriatthiamna chungchang sawi turin zirtir rawh: "I lungngai em?", "I thinrim hmel hle mai," leh "I hlim em?" Chu chuan an rilru put hmang chu ṭawngkam hmanga sawi chhuah zir tûrin a ṭanpui ang.
• Harsatna awm theite chu ngaihtuah lawk rawh: Dawrah thil lei tûra kal i nih angin han mitthla teh. I riltam laia i kal chuan i fa chu a tap a, thil a dil duh zawk. Chuvangin, i kal hmain i pum khat tur thil keng la.

2. Thil nalh tak a thlen huna tih tur:

Hei hi a harsa ber a ni a, mahse hei hi i rilruah i vawn tlat chuan thil awmdan chu nasa takin i thunun thei a ni.

• Ngawi rengin awm rawh! Hei hi a hmasa ber leh pawimawh ber a ni . I thinrim emaw, i au emaw chuan naupang chu a hlau lehzual ang a, a bei nasa lehzual ang. Thâwk la la, "Ka rilru hahdam a ngai a ni," tiin ngaihtuah rawh.
• Naupang himna chu ngaihtuah rawh: Naupang chu mahni, mi dangte, a nih loh leh thil neihte tihchhiat hlauhawma a awm leh awm loh en rawh. Chutiang a nih chuan hmun him lamah hruai rawh.
• Naupang ni lovin, nungchang chu ngaihthah rawh: I fain ngaihven a hlawh hle nia i ngaih chuan (leh naupang chu a him a nih chuan) chu nungchang chu rei lo te chhung chu ngaihthah rawh. Mahse, i fa chu kalsan suh. Inhnaih reng la, mahse nungchang chu chhang suh.
• Validate feelings: I fa chu a rilru a hahdam deuh tawh chuan, "Toy i hmuh loh avangin i lungawi lo/i lungngai tih ka hrethiam," tih ang chi hi sawi rawh. Chu chuan i fa chu i hrethiam tih a hriattîr a ni.
• Chawlh rei vak lo (`Time-out`): Hei hi mi zawng zawng tan a thawk lo a, naupang thenkhat tan erawh a thawk tha hle. I fate chu an kum nena inmil tur hun rei lote (e.g. kum 3 mi tan minute 3) pe la, hmun reh tak, inkhelhna tur awm lohna hmunah dah mai rawh. Hei hi hremna atan hman tur a ni lo va, i fate rilru hahdamna hun pekna atan hman tur a ni.
• Distraction: Hei hi naupang naupang tak tak (kum 2 hnuai lam) tan a tha ber. Vawikhat chu tukverh chu kawhhmuh a, "En teh, pawnah sava mawi tak a awm!" emaw, infiamna dang pe rawh.

3. Prank zawh hnuah:

Hna pawimawh ber chu naupang a rilru a hahdam hnuah a lo thleng thin.

• Hmangaihna nen kuah la, thlamuan rawh: "Mommy/Daddy hian an hmangaih hle che. I thinrim lai pawhin kan hmangaih che" tiin sawi rawh.
• Thil thleng chungchang sawi rawh (naupang chu a rilru a hahdam vek tawh chuan): "Engvangin nge i thinrim em em?", "Eng nge i ngaihtuah?" Naupang thusawi chu ngaithla rawh.
• A dawt leha an rilru put hmang thunun dan zirtir rawh: "I thinrim leh hunah chuan Mom/Dad hnenah hrilh la, a nih loh leh 10 thleng chhiar ila, a nih loh leh thawk la la, zawi zawiin chhuah tir rawh.
• Naupangin a dil chu thinrimna avanga pe suh: Naupangin a au chhuahpui leh a tap hnua a dilna toy emaw, ei tur emaw chu i pek nghal chuan naupang chuan, "Aw... hetiang hi ka tih chuan ka duh chu ka hmu ang," tih a zir ang. Chuvang chuan a dil chu pek nghal loh a pawimawh a, a rilru a hahdam hnuah pawh pe nghal mai loh a pawimawh.

Heng thilte hi ti ngai suh!

• I fa chu au suh, vuak suh, hau suh, vau suh. Hei hian dinhmun a tichhe zual mai dawn a ni. Naupang chu a hlau zual ang a, i chungah rinna a hloh ang.
• I fa chu a harsat lai hian a dil chu pe suh. Chutianga tih chuan nungchang a tipung chauh ang.
• "I tap i chawlhsan chuan chocolate ka pe ang che.""Pakhat ka pe ang che" tih ang chi bribe pe suh. Chu chuan naupang chu thil dik lo a zirtir ang.
• I fa chu "Naupang sual tak i ni" emaw "I idiot" emaw tih ang chi hmangin timualpho suh. Hei hian naupang inngaihhlutna a tichhe dawn a ni.
• Naupang dang nen tehkhin suh. "I fapa hi a ṭhat zia hi en teh, nang chauh hi hetiang hian i bei a ni," tih ang chi hi sawi suh.

Engtikah nge damdawi lam thurawn kan zawn ang?

A tam zawkah chuan heng ``Temper Tantrums`` te hi kum upat danah a reh mai ang. Mahse, hetiang thil thlengah hian naupang enkawltu emaw rilru lam doctor emaw pan a, thurawn lak hi a tha tak zet a ni:

• Naupang thinrim hi a tam hle a nih chuan (ni khatah vawi engemaw zat).
• Thil sual pakhat chu rei tak (minute 30 aia rei) a awm chuan .
• Naupang chu a nungchang a chhe hle a nih chuan (mahni a tichhe nasa a, midang a vuak nasat a, thil a tichhia) a nih chuan.
• Kum 4-5 hnuah pawh heng thil sual rapthlak tak takte hi a la awm zel a nih chuan .
• Naupang chu a buai a, a thawk a chelh tlat a, a sen a, a hriat loh ang maia a lan chuan.
• Heng nungchangte hian naupang nitin hnathawh (schoolwork, play) a tibuai a nih chuan.
• If this has become a great stress for the whole family , nu leh pate tan chuan tuar harsa lutuk a nih chuan.
• I fa hian ADHD, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Speech and Language Delay, emaw, hmasawnna lama harsatna dang emaw a nei nia i rinhlelh chuan.

Ṭanpuina dîl hi chak lohna chhinchhiahna a ni lo tih hre reng ang che. Nang leh i fa tan pawh thlamuanna nasa tak a ni thei.

Nu leh pate u, nangni pawh in in enkawl a pawimawh hle!

Naupang ``Temper Tantrums'' hmachhawn hi a hahthlak hle thei. Nang pawhin a châng chuan thinrim, lungngaihna leh, "Eng nge ka tih?" A pangngai hle mai.

• Nangmah chauh i ni lo tih hre reng ang che. Nu leh pa tam tak chuan he thil tawn hi an paltlang thin.
• Hemi chungchang hi i kawppui nen sawiho la , in tanpui tawn rawh.
• I rilru put hmang chu i ṭhian emaw chhungte rintlak tak hnenah hrilh rawh.
• A theih phawt chuan nangmah tan hun engemaw chen hmang rawh. Chawlh la, i duhzawng thil ti rawh.
• Harsatna i tawk a nih chuan counselor hnen atangin tanpuina zawng hreh suh.

Take-Home Thuchah a ni

Okay, chuti a nih chuan vawiinah hian kan sawi tam tawh a ni lawm ni? Hengte hi hriat reng tur pawimawh tak takte chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Naupangte hi an naute hi thil pangngai tak a ni a, a bik takin kum naupang takah chuan. An hmasawnna tur a ni.
• Dawhtheihna, rilru hahdamna leh innghahna (consistency) te hi chutianga tanpui theih dan tha ber a ni.
• I fate chu an rilru put hmang hriat leh thunun dan zirtir a pawimawh hle .
• I rilru thlamuanna pawh a pawimawh.
• I theih zawng zawng ti chung pawhin i fate nungchang chungchangah ngaihtuahna i la nei reng a nih chuan , professional ṭanpuina zawng chu hlau ngai suh.

He zinkawng hi a chang chuan a harsa thei hle. Mahse hei hi i ti thei! Mom/dad tha tak i ni. Inrintawkna nen hmalam pan rawh!

` Naupang sual, thinrimna, nu leh pa thurawn, naupang nungchang, nungchang lama harsatna, naupang rilru lam, emotion regulation