Kua pēnei kē koe i mua? I wareware rawa koe ki te haere ki te rā whānau o tō hoa pai. Kāore rānei i taea e koe te haere ki tētahi rā whānau me tō hoa tāne/wahine. Ka whakahe tonu tō whānau me ō hoa i a koe mō te kore e maumahara ki tetahi mea, me te kore e aro nui ki tetahi mea. Mena kei te whakararuraru tonu ēnei mea i ō whanaungatanga, ehara pea i te mea nāu ake te kore aro. Ko te ADHD pea te pūtake o ēnei mea katoa.
Ko te whanaungatanga pai ka hangaia i runga i te mārama me te mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata. Engari ki te pāngia koe e te ADHD, he uaua pea te mahi tika i ēnei mea. Engari ehara i te mea kāore e taea e koe te whai whanaungatanga pai, te noho hoa pai rānei. Me manawanui noa, me mōhio ki a koe anō, me ētahi tohutohu whai hua.
He aha te uaua o ngā whanaungatanga nā te ADHD?
Ka pā tika ngā tohu matua o te ADHD ki tō oranga pāpori. Me titiro tātou me pēhea.
| Tohu ADHD | Te pānga ki ngā whanaungatanga |
|---|---|
| Te warewaretanga | Ka wareware koe ki ngā rā nui, ki ngā kupu whakaari, me ngā mea e kōrerotia ana e koe. Tērā pea ka whakaaro tō hoa rangatira, ō hoa rānei kāore koe e aro ki aua mea. Engari ko te pono, ahakoa te kaha o tō ngana ki te maumahara ki aua mea, ka memeha noa atu i tō hinengaro. |
| Te hihiri | Te mahi ohorere. Hei tauira, te whakapau moni me te kore whakaaro, te hoko taonga koretake i runga ipurangi. Ka raru pea te whānau i te taha pūtea. Waihoki, mā te kōrero ohorere ka whara pea ētahi atu. |
| Whakararuraru | Ina mahi koe i tētahi mea nui, ina kōrero rānei tētahi, ka huripokitia koe. Whakaarohia, i oati koe ki te haere ki te whakataetae hākinakina a tāu tamaiti. Engari nā tētahi mahi tari, nā tētahi waea rānei, ka wareware rawa koe ki tēnā, ā, ka mahara noa koe i muri i te mutunga o te kēmu? Mā tēnei ka whakaaro ētahi atu kāore koe e whakanui ana i a rātou. |
| Te kore aro | Ka tere te kukume o te roro o te tangata e pāngia ana e te ADHD ki ngā mea hou, ā, ka tere te ngaro o te hiahia ki ngā mea tawhito. Ka memeha haere te ngākau nui e tīmata ai te whanaungatanga i muri i tētahi wā. Ka taea e tēnei te whakaaro o tō hoa mēnā he rūpahu tō kōrua aroha. |
| Te kore whakaritenga | Kei te pōrearea te rūma me te whare. He mea tēnei e kore e taea e te tangata ma. Ehara i te mea he mangere koe ki te mahi i ngā mahi o te whare, engari ina titiro koe ki taua pōrearea, ka pōuri koe, ā, kāore koe e mōhio me tīmata ki hea. Nā tēnei ka nui ake ngā kawenga ka riro i ētahi atu o te whare. |
| Ngā Hē Hapori me ngā Kōrero Hē | Ina kōrero ana tetahi, he uaua ki te mārama ki ngā mea pēnei i te reo tinana me te reo o te tangata. Mēnā ka kōrero whakatoi tetahi, ka rite pea ki te mea he tangata pono ia. He maha ngā wā ka ara ake he māramatanga. |
Ko te mea nui, kaua ēnei mea e puta nā te mea he tangata "kino" koe . He mate hauora tēnei e puta ana i waho o tō mana whakahaere, e pā ana ki te mahi io o te roro .
He aha tāu e taea ai mō tēnei?
Ki te mea kei te whakararuraruhia ō whanaungatanga e te ADHD, anei ētahi tohutohu hei āwhina i a kōrua ki te whakatutuki i te harikoa.
Whakapai ake i te whakarongo me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero
- Whakarongo atu i ngā kupu: Ina kōrero tetahi, titiro ki roto i ōna kanohi, kia aro ki te āhua o ōna kanohi, tae atu ki te reo.
- Kaua e whakararuraru: Whakarongo mai kia mutu rā anō te kōrero a te tangata. Ki te mea kei te ahua kua kore koe e kōrero, pānuihia anō tā rātou e kōrero nei i roto i tō hinengaro.
- Whakaū i te mea e kōrerotia ana: Kia mutu te kōrero, pātai atu i ngā mea pēnei i te, "Koinā te tikanga o tāu kōrero?" "Tirohia mēnā kua mārama tika ahau..." hei whakaū i tāu i mārama ai.
- Kōrero kanohi ki te kanohi: I ngā wā katoa e taea ai, kōrero kanohi ki te kanohi, kaua mā te karere kuputuhi, mā te īmēra rānei. Pērā ai, ka māmā ake te mārama ki ngā kare ā- roto o te tangata.
Me pēhea koe e whakatau ai i te ADHD hei mātua?
Hei mātua, he wero nui te pāngia koe e te ADHD. Ā, ki te pāngia hoki tō tamaiti e te ADHD, ka nui pea tō whakama.
- Kaua e whakapae i a koe anō: Ehara i te mea nā ngā mātua kino, nā te taiao pōrearea rānei o te kāinga te ADHD i puta ai. He mate koiora, he mate pūnaha io, he mate ira hoki . Engari kaua e whakama, kimihia he otinga hei hanga i tō kāinga hei wāhi harikoa mō te katoa.
- Kia poto, kia māmā hoki ngā tautohetohe: Ki te kore kōrua e whakaae ki tāu tamaiti, me whakarite kia marino kōrua, kaua e "toa" mā te tautohetohe. Ka taea e koe te kī atu, "Kāo, kāore au i te rite ki te tautohetohe ki a koe mō tēnei mea. Me kōrero anō tāua ina marino tāua."
- Kia atawhai ki a koe anō me tāu tamaiti: Murua tō hara ina hē koe. Ngāna kia tika te mahi i te wā e whai ake nei. Whakaaturia taua atawhai ki tāu tamaiti. Kua whakaatuhia e ngā rangahau, ina atawhai ngā mātua , ka heke te whanonga pukuriri a ngā tamariki.
He mea nui kia rapu awhina ngaio.
Mena kei te uaua koe ki te whakahaere i ēnei mea katoa ko koe anake, kaua e wehi ki te tono awhina.
He mate hauora te ADHD me whakahaere, pērā i te mate huka, te toto toto tiketike rānei. Ko te otinga pai ko te toro atu ki tētahi tākuta whai tohu .
Kōrero ki tō tākuta , ka kōrero mō tēnei mate me tōna maimoatanga.
- Whakaora Kōrero: Ka taea e koe te kōrero mō ōu pouri me ōu kare ā-roto, me te ako i ngā huarahi hei whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto.
- Whakaora Hinengaro Hinengaro (CBT): Ka āwhina tēnei whakaora i a koe ki te tautuhi me te whakarerekē i ngā whakaaro kino me ngā tauira whanonga e pā ana ki ō whanaungatanga.
- Rongoā: I ētahi wā, ka tino whai hua te whakakotahitanga o te rongoā me te kōrerorero whakaora hei whakahaere i ngā tohumate ADHD . Kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnei.
Ki te whakapae koe kei a koe, kei tō whanaunga rānei, te ADHD pakeke, ko te mea tuatahi me mahi e koe ko te ako mō te mate me te pehea e mōhio ai koe ki tēnei mate. Ka taea e koe tēnei mā te toro atu ki ngā paetukutuku o ngā whakahaere o te ao pēnei i te Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD). Ka taea e rātou te āwhina i a koe ki te ako atu mō te mate me te kimi i ngā tākuta me ngā rōpū tautoko o te rohe.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te ADHD i te mangere, ehara hoki i te hapa o te āhua. He mate hauora tūturu.
- Ko te taahiraa tuatahi ko te mārama ki te pānga o te ADHD ki ō whanaungatanga.
- He mea tino nui te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera. Whakamāramahia tō āhuatanga ki tō hoa rangatira, ki ō hoa, me te whānau.
- Murua ōu hara ina hē koe. Ka hē te katoa. Ko te mea nui ko te ngana anō.
- Kaua e raru ko koe anake ki ēnei mea. Ko te rapu tohutohu a te tākuta whai tohu te mea pai rawa atu ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake me ō whanaungatanga.
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