He aha ō whakaaro ina rongo koe i te kupu 'kaiwhaiwhai mate pukupuku ū'? (Mate Pukupuku ū) - Me kōrero tātou mō ēnei kare ā-roto

Mena kei te pāngia koe e te mate pukupuku ū , kua rongo pea koe i ngā kupu pēnei i te, "He toa koe," me te "Kia kaha, kia whawhai i tēnei pakanga." Kua kite pea koe i ēnei pepeha i runga i ngā T-hāte me ngā pou pāpāho pāpori me ngā rīpene māwhero. Ko te tikanga o ēnei hei hoatu i te kaha me te maia ki a koe. Engari he aha ō whakaaro ina rongo koe, ina kite rānei i ēnei kupu? E pai ana te katoa ki te tapanga "toa"? Me kōrero whānui ake tātou mō tēnei.

Te whakaaro pai kei muri i te kupu "toa"

Tuatahi, me mārama tātou ina karangahia koe e tetahi he "toa", he whakaaro pai kei muri i a rātou. E mōhio ana rātou ki te uaua o te noho tahi me te mate pukupuku. Nō reira ka whakamahia e rātou ēnei kupu hei whakamanawa i a koe, hei whakatenatena i a koe, hei whakamahara i a koe kāore koe i te mokemoke.

Whakaarohia, ina tirohia ngā kaupapa whakamōhiotanga mō te mate pukupuku, he maha ngā whakamahinga o te kupu "whawhai". Ko te kupu "Whawhai ki te Mate Pukupuku" me te "Kia Whawhai Tātou" e ngana ana ki te whakakore i te wehi me te kore āwhina e pā ana ki tēnei mate, engari ki te waihanga i tētahi kare ā-roto kaha, pai. Ki ētahi tāngata, he tino kaha tēnei hei whakatenatena. Ina kite koe i a koe anō he "toa," ka hoatu he kaha nui ki a koe ki te aro atu ki te maimoatanga me te wikitoria i ngā rā uaua. Kāore he he o tēnā.

Engari… he aha te take kāore te katoa e pai ki tēnei tapanga 'toa'?

Anei te taha kē o te kōrero. Kāore te hunga katoa e ora ana me te mate pukupuku ū e pai ki te whakaaro kia "toa." He maha ngā take mō tēnā.

• Te pēhanga kia kaha tonu: Ki te mea he "toa" koe, e tumanako ana te hapori kia toa koe, kia pai hoki tō wairua i ngā wā katoa. Engari he pono rānei tēnā i te ao tūturu? He rā kei te pouri koe, kei te mataku, kei te hiahia hoki koe ki te tangi. Maimoatanga (`Tērā ētahi rā ka tino ngenge te tinana nā te rongoā matū . Ki te ngoikore koe i tētahi o aua rā, ko te tikanga kei te "hinga koe i te pakanga"? Ka taea e tēnei pēhanga te waiho hei kawenga nui i ētahi wā.

• Ehara tēnei i te pakanga i whiriwhiria e tātou: Ko te pakanga he mea e uru atu ai te tangata mā te whiriwhiri. Engari ehara te mate pukupuku i te pērā. Ehara i te mea e hiahia ana te tangata kia pā ki a ia; he mate e puta ana i roto i te tinana. Nō reira, mō ētahi, ina kī rātou he "pakanga" tēnei, e whakaaro ana rātou kua panaia rātou ki te papa pakanga i runga i tō rātou hiahia.

• Te ariā o te "toa" me te "hinga": I te kupu "pakanga" ka puta mai ngā kupu "toa" me te "hinga." Mena ka ora te mate pukupuku , ka kiia taua tangata kua "toa i te pakanga." Nō reira, ki te mate te tangata i te mate pukupuku, ko te tikanga o tēnā kua "hinga te tangata i te pakanga"? Kāore i "pai tana whawhai"? He whakaaro tino koretake, he mamae hoki tēnei. Ko te oranga o te tangata e whakawhirinaki ana ki ngā āhuatanga hauora pēnei i te angitu o te maimoatanga me te āhua o te mate pukupuku, ehara i te "wairua whawhai" o taua tangata.

• Te Whakamāmā i te Wheako: He haerenga uaua te haerenga mate pukupuku . He maha ngā mea hei whakaaroaro, tae atu ki te mamae, te pokanga (pēnei i te tango i te mastectomy), ngā pānga taha o te maimoatanga, ngā take pūtea, te pānga ki te whānau, me ngā pakaru o te kare ā-roto. Ina whakarāpopototia katoatia ki te kupu kotahi, "pakanga," ka whakaaro ētahi tāngata kua ngaro te hohonutanga o te wheako.

Ki te mea ehara tēnei i te "pakanga", he aha rā tēnei?

Ki te kore koe e pai ki te tapanga "toa", ka taea e koe te whakamahi i ētahi atu kupu hei whakaahua i tō wheako. Nāu anake tēnei whakatau. Koinei te tirohanga a ētahi tāngata ki ō rātou wheako.

Tukua ō kare ā-roto kia pērā - koinei te mea nui.

Ko te mea nui me mārama tātou mai i tēnei kōrero katoa , kāore he huarahi tika, he huarahi hē rānei hei whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto.

• Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he "toa" koe, ki te mea ka homai e taua kare ā-roto he kaha ki a koe, he mea pai tēnā. Haere i tō haerenga me taua kaha.
• Ki te riri tonu koe ina rongo koe i taua kupu, ki te pouri koe, he tika rawa taua kare ā-roto. He tika tonu tāu ki te kare ā-roto pērā.

Kōrero ki tētahi hoa tata, ki tētahi mema o te whānau, ki tētahi tākuta rānei mō ō kare ā-roto. I ētahi wā, he mea āwhina te rapu āwhina ngaio mai i tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro. Ko te mea nui ehara i te mea kia whai ingoa koe, engari kia kitea he huarahi hei āwhina i a koe i tēnei wā uaua.

Me pēhea rā te āwhina e tika ana mā tātou te hunga e karapoti nei i a tātou?

Mena he mate pukupuku ū tō tētahi mema o te whānau, tō hoa rānei, ka taea e koe te tautoko i a rātou. Engari me mahi e koe i roto i te huarahi e pai ana ki a rātou.

• I mua i tō kī atu, "He toa koe," pātai atu ki a rātou mō ō rātou kare ā-roto. Whakarongo ki ō rātou kare ā-roto.
• Kaua e whakatenatena mā te kupu , engari me āwhina mā te mahi . Pātai atu ki ngā mea pēnei i te, "Ka taea e au te hanga kai māu?", "Ka taea e au te haere tahi me koe ki te hōhipera?", "Kei te hiahia āwhina koe ki ngā mahi o te whare?" He nui ake te uara o ēnei i ngā kupu noa iho.
• Kati te kī, "Kia kaha," me te kī atu, "Kāore he aha te pouri, kei a koe ahau." Tukua rātou kia rongo i ō rātou kare ā-roto katoa.

Hei whakamutunga, koinei tō haerenga. Māu e whakatau ko tēhea ingoa e hiahia ana koe ki te hoatu. He "pakanga" pea, he "haerenga" pea, he aha atu rānei. He pai katoa.