Me pēhea te kōrero ki tāu tamaiti mō te waipiro? Me kōrero tāua mō tēnei kaupapa nui!

I ēnei rā, ko ā tātou tamariki nohinohi, inā koa i te tau kura tuarua, ka whakamatautauria ki te inu waipiro nā te awe o ngā hoa, nā te hiahia rānei ki te inu waipiro. Inaa, ka kite tātou i te iwi e whakamahi ana i ēnei mea ahakoa i te tau e aukatia ana e te ture. Engari, e ngā mātua, he nui te mana o koutou ki te pupuri i tā koutou tamaiti kia matara atu i ēnei mea. Nō reira, he mea tino nui te kōrero ki ā koutou tamariki mō tēnei waipiro mai i te tamarikitanga, i a rātou e tipu haere ana.

Me pēhea te whakamārama i tēnei ki ngā tamariki nohinohi rawa? (Tata ki te 3-5 tau te pakeke)

He tino uaua ki ngā tamariki o tēnei tau te mārama ki te nui o te waipiro, kāore? He mea ngāwari noa iho tā rātou e hiahia ana. Engari ka taea e koe te whakatakoto tauira pai . Ka nui ngā mea ka akohia e tāu tamaiti i te āhua o tāu whakamahi tika i te waipiro (me te kore rānei e whakamahi), te noho pukumahi, me te kai i ngā kai hauora. Whakaarohia mēnā ka pātai atu tāu tamaiti ki a koe mō te waipiro? Whakautua mā te ngāwari me te pono . Kāore koe e hiahia ki te kōrero taipitopito, me kī noa i roto i te huarahi e mārama ai rātou. Hei tauira, ka taea e koe te kī i tētahi mea ngāwari pēnei i te, "Kāore ēnā e pai mō ngā tamariki nohinohi, e tama/kōtiro, ka whara pea tō puku."

Me kōrero tātou ki ngā tamariki i waenga i te 4 me te 7 tau te pakeke?

Ko te huarahi pai ki te kōrero ki ngā tamariki o tēnei tau ko te whakaara ake i te kaupapa ina puta noa mai . Hei tauira, whakaarohia kei te mātaki koe i te pouaka whakaata. Ka puta mai he pānuitanga waipiro. I taua wā, ka taea e koe te pātai ki tāu tamaiti, "E tama/tamāhine, e mōhio ana koe ki te aha ka pā ki tō tinana ina inu koe i tēnei inu?" Kia tino māmā ngā kōrero. Ka taea e koe te kī i ēnei mea:

• "Ina inu koe i ēnei, ka pōturi ake te mahi a tō tinana me tō hinengaro."
• "Ka uaua ki te whakaaro mārama, ā, ka ngaro pea te mana whakahaere i a koe e hikoi ana."
• "Ka uaua te kite tika i ngā mea pēnei i te hohonu o te wai, te tata rānei o te waka e haere mai ana i te rori."
• "Haunga tēnā, he haunga tō waha!"

I ētahi wā, ka pātai pea tāu tamaiti, "He aha i pai ai kia inu a māmā/pāpā, kaua māku?" Kātahi ka whakamārama: "Kei te whanake tonu te tinana o ngā tamariki. Pērā i te tipu iti. Ka taea e te inu i ēnei mea te kino ki te whanaketanga o ō rātou tinana me ō rātou roro. He nui te tūponotanga ka waranga rātou ki ēnei mea ina pakeke rātou. Koia te take kāore ēnei mea i te pai mō ngā tamariki nohinohi."

Me kōrero anō tātou mō ngā tamariki i waenga i te 8 me te 11 tau te pakeke.

Ka taea e ngā tamariki o tēnei tau te mārama ki ngā pānga o te waipiro, arā, te kino ka pā ki te tinana me te hinengaro, me ētahi atu taipitopito. Kua pakeke haere rātou ināianei, ā, kua tīmata rātou ki te whakaaro i ngā mea i runga i te arorau.

Ka taea e koe te kōrero mō ngā pānga poto o te waipiro. Ko ēnei:

• Ka pōhēhē ngā mea e kite ana koe, ngā mea e rongo ana koe, me te taurite o tō tinana (te taunga). Kāore e taea e koe te kite, te rongo rānei i te tika, kāore e taea e koe te haere tika, ā, ka hinga pea koe.
• Ka taea e ngā kare ā-roto me ngā kare ā-roto te huri ohorere. Tērā pea ka pōuri koe engari kāore e pōuri, ka riri engari kāore e riri, ka tino harikoa rānei.
• Ka ngaro te kaha ki te whiriwhiri i te tika me te hē, arā, te kaha ki te whakatau (te whakaaro ngoikore). Ka piki ake te mōrearea o ngā aituā, te toremitanga, ētahi atu mahi morearea , me ngā whawhai.
• Manawa kino.
• I te aonga ake, ka pāngia koe e ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te mamae nui o te upoko, te ngoikore o te tinana, me te hiahia ki te ruaki, e kiia nei ko te mate inu .

Me kōrero anō hoki mō ngā pānga roa o te inu waipiro mō te wā roa . Koinei ngā pānga tino kino:

• Kua tino pakaru te ate, tētahi o ngā okana tino nui o tō tātou tinana.
• Ka ngaro tō hiahia kai, ā, kāore tō tinana e nakunaku tika i te kai.
• He maha ngā wā ka pāngia ahau e ngā mate puku, i ētahi wā ko te gastritis.
• He nui te mōrearea o te kino ki te ngākau me te roro, ka arahi pea tēnei ki ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te mate ngākau me te whiu.
• I roto i te wā, ka memeha haere te mahara, ā, ka uaua ki te ako i ngā mea hou.

He maha ngā tamariki o tēnei tau e hiahia ana ki te noho tahi me ō rātou hoa, me te mahi i ngā mea e mahia ana e rātou . He mea noa tēnā. Heoi, whakaakona tāu tamaiti ki te hiranga o te whakaaro mō rātou anō me te whakatau i ā rātou ake whakatau. Whakatenatenahia rātou mā te kī atu, "Kāore koe e hiahia ki te mahi i tētahi mea nā te mea kei te mahi katoa, e tama/kōtiro. Me whai kaha koe ki te whiriwhiri i te mea e pai ana ki a koe, me te mea e pai ana ki tō tinana."

He aha tā tātou e kōrero ai ki ā tātou tamariki nohinohi i waenga i te 12 me te 17 tau te pakeke?

Koinei te wā hei whakarongo pai . Kia tuwhera tonu te tatau mō te kōrero ki tāu tamaiti. Kia mau tonu te noho hei tauira pai . Ahakoa te āhua nei kāore rātou e whakarongo ana ki tāu e kōrero nei, kua whakaatuhia e ngā rangahau he tino awe te tauira me te kōrero a ngā mātua i ngā whanonga o ngā tamariki nohinohi.

Kōrero ki a rātou mō ngā take pai hei karo i te waipiro. Anei ētahi take kua whakamātauhia e te pūtaiao:

• Ki te taunga koe ki te inu waipiro i te wā e tamariki ana, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka pāngia koe e ngā raruraru e pā ana ki te waipiro ina pakeke koe. Ko te tikanga ka taea e koe te waranga ki te waipiro.
• Ko te hunga rangatahi e inu waipiro ana he nui ake te tūponotanga ka moe tāne, ka moe wahine rānei i te wā e tamariki ana, ā, ka moe tāne, kāore he tiaki , ka ara ake pea ēnei raruraru pērā i ngā mate tuku iho me ngā hāputanga kāore i whakamaheretia.
• Ka raru pea ngā tamariki e whakamahi ana i te waipiro ki ngā mahi kura . Ka ngaro te mahara, ka heke te aro, ka ngaro hoki te hiahia ki te ako.
• Ka taea e te waipiro te whakararu i te mahi hākinakina . Ka taea e ia te ngaro o te kaha, te tere, me te taurite.
• He ture kore te inu waipiro mō te hunga kei raro iho i te 21 tau te pakeke. Ka whiua te hunga e hopukina ana.
• Ka taea e te waipiro te whakaputa i ngā huringa roa ki te roro . Ina koa i te wā taitamariki, i te wā e whanake tonu ana te roro, ka taea e te waipiro te whakararuraru i taua whanaketanga.

Mā te kauwhau me te whakamahi i ngā rautaki whakamataku mō te waipiro ka taea te tahuri ke atu i te hunga rangatahi i a koe. Nō reira kaua e pena.

Heoi, kia mārama koe kāore koe e hiahia kia inu waipiro rātou . Mēnā he raruraru waipiro tō tētahi o tō whānau, arā, mēnā he 'hītori whānau mō ngā raruraru waipiro', kōrerotia atu hoki ki tō tamaiti. Tērā pea ka nui ake te tūponotanga o te whakawhanake i tētahi raruraru waipiro.

E hiahia ana ngā tamariki nohinohi kia manakohia, kia paingia hoki rātou e ō rātou hoa. He mea mārama tēnei. Nō reira, kōrero ki a rātou mō te whanonga i roto i ngā āhuatanga rerekē, me te whakarite i a rātou mō aua āhuatanga. Hei tauira:

• "Whakaarohia kei te pāti koe, ā, e ngana ana tō hoa ki te whakamātau i a koe kia inu waipiro. He aha tāu e kī atu ai? Ka taea e koe te kī atu, 'Kāore au e hiahia, kāore au e inu i tēnei.' Ka taea rānei e koe te kī atu, 'Kāo, e hoa, me haere ahau ki te mahi i te atatu o te ata e whai ake nei.'"
• "Me aha koe mēnā kei te haurangi te hoa e kawe ana i a koe ki te kāinga? Kaua rawa e eke ki roto i te motuka me te tangata e haurangi ana. I taua wā, ka taea e koe te waea mai ki ahau, ā, māku koe e tiki."

Kōrerohia ēnei mea. Kōrerohia ki tāu tamaiti ka taea e koe te waea atu, te tuku karere rānei i ngā wā katoa, ka haere atu koe ki te tiki i a ia, ā, e kore koe e kauwhau, e whiu rānei i a ia . He mea tino nui te hanga i tēnei whakawhirinakitanga.

He aha atu anō tā tātou e taea ai hei mātua?

He tauira pai hoki ngā mātua mō ngā tamariki nohinohi. Nō reira, kia pai tō koutou tauira mā te whakamahi i te waipiro me te whakaaro nui (me te kore rānei e whakamahi i te waipiro), kaua e whakamahi i te waipiro hei otinga mō te ahotea, me te kore rawa e inu waipiro me te taraiwa. Mā ngā kōrero pono me āu tamariki e āwhina i a rātou ki te whakatau pai.

I taua wā anō, hei mātua , me tūpato koutou, me whakatakoto ture hoki . Ki te whakamātau tāu tamaiti i te waipiro, me tono kia pono rātou ki a koe mō taua mea. Ki te whakaaro koe kei te whakamahi tāu tamaiti i te waipiro, ā, kāore e kōrero ki a koe, kaua e warewarehia . Ki te whakaaro koe he nui te raruraru, ka taea e te tākuta o tāu tamaiti te āwhina.

Anei ētahi atu mea ka taea e koe te mahi:

• Kia mōhio koe ki te wāhi e noho ana āu tamariki, me wai hoki ō rātou hoa .
• Me whai huarahi hei whakapā atu ki tāu tamaiti. Me mau tonu tā rātou waea pūkoro, ā, me whakakā hoki. Me pupuri hoki ngā nama waea a ō rātou hoa, te nama waea rānei o te whare e haere tahi ana rātou me koe.
• Kia mōhio ki ngā mātua o ngā hoa o āu tamariki , kia kitea hoki he huarahi hei hono atu ki a rātou. Mā te mahi tahi me ētahi atu mātua ka māmā ake te tiaki i āu tamariki.
• Ō tirohanga mō te waipiro, ngā mea e whakanuia ana e koe ki ngā tamariki pakeke me ngā tamariki nohinohiKōrerohia. Me mārama kāore koe e hiahia kia inu waipiro tāu tamaiti.
• Kōrerotia ki āu tamariki te auau o te wā e tika ana kia whakamōhiotia rātou, arā, kia "takiuru mai", ina ngaro atu rātou i te kāinga.
• Mena kei te taraiwa tāu tamaiti, me mārama kei te kore e whakaaetia te inu waipiro me te taraiwa . Ka taea hoki e kōrua te hanga "kirimana" mā kōrua e haina, e kī ana kāore tetahi o te whānau e inu waipiro me te taraiwa. Me mārama mēnā ka takahia e kōrua taua kirimana, ka ngaro i tāu tamaiti āna mana taraiwa.

Hei whakamutunga, ētahi mea hei maumahara

Āe, ko tāku tumanako kua mārama koe ki ētahi o ngā kōrero nui i roto i tā tātou i kōrero ai. He kupu ngāwari noa iho, ki te hiahia tātou ki te whakaora i ā tātou tamariki i ngā tūponotanga o te waipiro, me kōrero tātou ki a rātou me te mārama me te pono .

He pai ake te tīmata i taua kōrero i te wā taitamariki.

I a tāu tamaiti e tipu ake ana, whakamāramahia ngā mea i runga i te huarahi e tika ana mō tōna pakeke. He mea nui anō hoki kia noho hei tauira pai, kia whakapuaki hoki i ō whakaaro ki a rātou i runga i te aroha, te mārama, engari me te kaha . Kia maumahara, ko koe te kaha nui rawa atu o tāu tamaiti! Ka taea e koe te ārahi i a rātou ki te huarahi tika.

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