Kei te pēhea tō rā? Whakatāhia he wā poto hei whakaaroaro mō ō wheako i tēnei rā. Ki te taea, hopukia he pene me he pepa, ka tuhia ētahi o ngā kaupapa whakahirahira. Kia kite tātou i tāu i tuhi ai.
Nā, he aha ō whakaaro? I kī tonu tō rā i ngā wā pai? Tērā pea he mea pēnei i te, "He rawe te rā nei! I tunua e Kui he pīti reka hei parakuihi, i noho tahi mātou me ōku hoa i te kura, ā, he ngahau te wā Ingarihi!" I aro rānei tō hinengaro ki ngā mea i hē? Pēnei i te, "Nā te tunu kai a Kui i tomuri ai ahau, i ngaro ahau i te pahi, ā, i kōrero tonu aku hoa mō tētahi whakaaturanga pouaka whakaata hoha i te tina. I tua atu, i kai mātou i te reo Ingarihi! Kāore au i te pai ki ngā Rāpare!" He tikanga nui tō te whakamārama i ēnei huihuinga.
He aha te tikanga o te Optimism me te Pesimism?
Ki te kī ngāwari, he rerekē ngā huarahi e rua o te tirohanga me te whakaaro ki te ao, arā, te tumanako pai me te ngakau pouri . He rerekē rawa ngā hinengaro .
Ko te tangata e tino tumanako ana ka rapu tonu i te taha pai o ngā mea. E tumanako ana rātou ki ngā hua pai, ā, e whakapono ana kei a rātou ngā pūkenga me te mana whakahaere hei āwhina i ngā kaupapa kia pai ake. Kei roto i tā rātou huarahi te whakaaro "Ka taea e au te whakahaere i tēnei".
I tētahi atu taha, ko te hunga e aro nui ana ki ngā hapa, e titiro kino ana rānei ki ngā mea katoa, ko rātou te hunga e kīia nei he "tangata pōuri". He maha ngā wā ka matapae te tangata pōuri ka hē ngā mea, ā, ka aro tonu ki ngā hapa, ki ngā arai rānei. Ko te whakaaro tonu "e kore tēnei e angitu" he maha ngā wā ka noho ki roto i ō rātou hinengaro.
Heoi, he mea nui kia mōhio tātou kāore he tangata e tino hihiri ana, e tino pōuri ana rānei i ngā wā katoa. Kei roto katoa tātou i tētahi wāhanga o te whānuitanga. Ko te rongo pai, ahakoa ka anga atu koe ki te pōuri, kāore koe e noho tonu ki reira! Ka taea e tātou katoa te ako ki te huri i ō tātou tirohanga me te whakawhanake i tētahi tirohanga hihiri ake. He pūkenga ako tēnei.
He aha te mea e tino whai hua ai te whakaaro hihiri ki a koe?
Kua roa ngā kairangahau me ngā kaipūtaiao e rangahau ana i ngā tāngata hihiri. E ai ki ā rātou kitenga, mā te pupuri i te wairua hihiri ka noho harikoa koe, ka angitu i te ao, ā, ka noho hauora tonu.
Whakaarohia ēnei painga o te whakaaro hihiri:
- Hauora Hinengaro : He rite te hihiri ki te whakangungu rakau hei tiaki i a koe mai i ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te pouri . Ahakoa he ngāwari tōu ki te pāngia e ēnei āhuatanga, ka taea e te hinengaro hihiri te noho hei mea tiaki nui.
- Manawanui ki te ahotea: Mā te tirohanga pai ka kaha koe ki te tū atu ki ngā pēhanga o te ao, ki te ahotea rānei. Ina puta he raruraru, kaua e mataku, ka kitea e tō hinengaro tētahi huarahi rerekē hei tiro i te āhuatanga.
- Te Roa o te Ora: Tērā pea ka miharo koe, engari e kī ana ngā rangahau ka taea e te whakaaro hihiri te whai wāhi atu ki te oranga roa. He taputapu tino pai mō te oranga hauora, harikoa hoki.
- He Pūkenga Ako: Ko te mea pai rawa atu, ahakoa he āhua pouri ō tauira whakaaro i mua, he mea ka taea e koe te ako me te whakangungu i a koe anō ki te whakamahi.
"Ehara te hihiri i te mea he huarahi whakaaro noa iho; he mea nui hoki ki te oranga hauora."
He pēhea te tirohanga a te hunga tumanako me te hunga ngakau pouri ki ngā kaupapa?
Ehara i te mea ko te titiro noa ki te taha pai, ko te tumanako rānei ki ngā hua pai te kaupapa o te tumanako pai. Engari ko te āhua o tā tātou tukatuka me te whakamārama i ngā kaupapa kua puta kē.
Whakaarohia pēnei: Ina puta he mea pai, e kī ana te hunga hihiri i ahu mai i ā rātou ake mahi me ō rātou pūkenga. E kite ana rātou i ō rātou kaha hei wāhanga pumau, pumau o rātou anō. E whakaaro ana hoki rātou me pēhea e huaki ai e tēnei angitu ngā tatau ki ngā hua pai ake. Hei tauira, ki te puta koe i tētahi whakamātautau, ka whakaaro pea te tangata hihiri, "I puta ahau nā te mea i kaha taku mahi. Ka taea e au te whakatutuki i ēnei mea, ā, mā tēnei ahau e āwhina ki te whiwhi mahi pai ā muri ake nei."
I tetahi atu taha, ina kore ngā mea e haere pērā i te whakamahere , he rerekē te tauhohenga. Kāore te hunga hihiri e whakapae i a rātou anō. E kite ana rātou i ngā hinganga he mea rangitahi noa iho . Ina he tetahi mea, ka hono te tangata hihiri ki tētahi āhuatanga motuhake, kaua ki tētahi hinganga whaiaro. Nā te mea kāore rātou e aro ki ēnei hinganga, he pai ake rātou ki te hoki mai i te pouri i te hunga hihiri.
Whakaarohia tēnei tauira: Ka whakamātau a Nimal rāua ko Supun mō te tīma poitūkohu o te kura. Kāore tētahi o rāua i eke ki te taumata. I pouri rāua, engari he rerekē ā rāua tauhohenga.
He tangata hihiri a Nimal. E whakaaro ana ia: "He tini ngā tāngata pūkenga i ngā whakamātautau, ā, he torutoru noa iho ngā tūranga i whakawhiwhia. I kaha taku whakaharatau, ā, i pai taku tākaro! He pai ngā urupare a te kaiako. Ka mahi ahau i ngā wāhanga i whakahuatia e ia, ā, ka mātaki i ngā kēmu katoa o tēnei wā. Mā tēnā ka pai ake taku whai wāhitanga i te tau e tū mai nei."
Kei te kite koe i tēnā? E aro ana a Nimal ki te āhuatanga motuhake, kaua ki tōna ake uara. Kāore ia e kite i tēnei hei āhua tuturu. E tumanako ana ia ka uru atu ki te tīma i te tau e tū mai nei, ā, kei te whakamahere kē ia me pēhea te mahi.
He ahua pōuri a Supun. E whakaaro ana ia: "Kāore he mea miharo i kore ai ahau i eke ki te taumata - ko au te kaitākaro kino rawa atu i ngā whakamātautau, ā, kāore pea te kaiako i te pai ki ahau. Kāore he mea e tika ana mōku. Me whakaae noa ahau ehara ahau i te kaitākaro pai." Kāore i rite ki a Nimal, ko Supun te tangata e tango ana i te hinganga. E whakapae ana ia i a ia anō, ā, e whakaaro ana kei te mahi ngā mana o waho (te kaiako, te ora) ki a ia. Ko te mea kino rawa atu, nā tēnei huihuinga kotahi ia e pātai ana i tōna pūkenga hākinakina katoa.
Nā, me kī mai koe: ko wai ka roa ake te pouri? Ko wai ka nui ake te tūponotanga ki te whakangungu me te ngana anō? Ā, ko wai ka tūpono ki te tuku? He mārama te whakautu, kāore?
Me pēhea te whakapakari i tō manawanui mā te whakaaro hihiri?
Mā te whakaaro pai ka taea e tātou te titiro ki ngā huihuinga whakarihariha he wā poto noa iho , ka homai he whakapono ki a tātou ka taea e tātou te wikitoria i aua mea. Ka whakapakari tēnei i tō tātou whakatau ki te ngana anō , kaua ki te tuku. Ka pupuri i ā tātou whāinga me ā tātou moemoeā kia ora tonu, ā, ka whakakaha hoki i tō tātou whakatau. Nō reira, ka nui ake te mana whakahaere o te hunga pai ki ō rātou āhuatanga, ā, ka nui ake te whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō . Kei a rātou te whakapono pono ki a rātou anō.
I tētahi atu taha, ka akiakihia tātou e te whakaaro pōuri ki te tango i ngā pouri me ngā whakakorenga ki a tātou anō. Ka meinga kia rite ki ngā mea pumau, kaua ki ngā mea e haere noa ana. Ka whakanuia e te tirohanga pōuri ngā āhuatanga kino o tētahi āhuatanga, ā, ka taupokina ngā āhuatanga pai. Ina kore ngā mea e haere pērā i te mea i tumanakohia, ka tino uaua te aro atu ki tēnei whakaaro.
He tirohanga noa iho rānei te tumanako mā roto i ngā karu rōhi? (Te Whakaaro Tino Pai)
Kāo, ehara i te mea koinā te tikanga. Ko te noho hihiri ehara i te mea ko te titiro ki ngā mea katoa mā roto i ngā karu rōhi, ko te kī rānei he pakiwaitara te ao. Kāore te hunga hihiri e wareware ki ngā wero o te ao, kāore hoki e kī he tino tika ngā mea katoa. Engari, ka arotahi rātou ki te tautuhi i te pai o tētahi āhuatanga, me te mōhio ki ngā mahi ka taea e rātou te mahi hei whakapai ake i ngā mea.
He pono te whakapono o te hunga e tino hihiri ana, ā, e ahu mai ana tēnei i te rite. E mārama ana rātou me ako nui kia angitu ai i tētahi whakamātautau uaua, pērā i tā rātou e mōhio ana me whakaharatau tonu te hanga i tētahi tīma poitūkohu.
Ki te kī māmā noa, ko te tumanako he mahi e aro ana ki te mahi. Ko te rapu i te taurite hauora i waenga i te whakaaro pai me te pono tūturu.
He mea tika rānei kia puta he āhua pouri?
Ahakoa ka taea e te whakaaro pōuri te aukati i a koe—ā, he mea nui kia mōhio koe ka taea e koe te whakarerekē i taua whakaaro—ehara i te mea me ūkui katoa e koe ngā whakaaro kino.
I ētahi wā, mā te pātai "He aha te raru?" ka āwhina i a tātou ki te tautuhi tika i te take. Mā te whakaaroaro ki ngā tūponotanga ka taea te tiaki i a koe mai i ngā kino koretake.
Whakaarohia pēnei: Kei te tuku karere tō tuakana i a koe e taraiwa ana i a koe ki tētahi wāhi. Kei te whakatūpato tō wairua kino, whakatūpato hoki i a koe: "Kāore tēnei i te haumaru!" Kātahi ka tono koe kia mutu ia, ehara i te mea mō tōna haumaru anake, engari mō tō haumaru anō hoki. I tēnei wā, kei te whakakotahi koe i tētahi whakaaro pōuri ("Ki te tuku karere ia i a ia e taraiwa ana, tera pea ka pā he aituā ki a tāua") me tētahi mahi hihiri ("E mōhio ana ahau he mea ka taea e au te mahi hei whakamutu i tēnei.")
Ka pāngia tātou katoa e ngā wā uaua, ā, kāore he mea e tika ana. Ina pōuri koe, he mea āwhina te whakaae ki ō kare ā-roto me te kōrero mō te hē. Mā te kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe ka māmā ake tō taumahatanga hinengaro, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te aro anō ki ngā mea ka taea te tumanako. Ko te mea nui kia kaua e mau ki te raruraru tonu. Ki te whakahaere koe i tēnei, ka taea e te whakaaro kino te noho hei whakakorikori mō te anga whakamua.
Me pēhea koe e whakapiki ake ai i tō hihiri?
Ki te kite koe kei te anga atu koe ki tētahi tirohanga pōuri, ka taea e koe te whakangungu i a koe anō ki te kite i ngā mea pai. Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te whakamātau:
- Kia mōhio ki ngā mea pai, kia maioha hoki. I te mutunga o ia rā, tangohia he 10 meneti hei whakaaroaro me te tautuhi i ētahi mea e whakawhetai ana koe. Tuhia ki roto i tētahi puka tuhi, whakamahia rānei he taupānga whakahihiri i runga i tō waea pūkoro, i tō papa rānei. Ahakoa ngā mea iti, he mea nui tonu—pēnei i te menemene mai o tētahi ki a koe i tēnei rā.
- Whakangunguhia tō hinengaro kia whakapono ka taea e koe te awe i ngā hua pai. Whakaharatauhia te kī atu ki a koe anō i ngā mahi motuhake ka taea e koe te mahi hei angitu. Hei tauira: "Ki te ako au, ka taea e au te whiwhi māka pai." "Ki te whakaharatau au, ka pai taku mahi i te kōnohete." "Ki te uru atu au ki taua rōpū tūao, ka tūtaki au ki ngā hoa hou."
- Kaua e whakapae i a koe anō ina hē ngā mea. Ina kore ngā mea e rite ki tā te whakamahere, whakarongo ki tō kōrero ā-roto. Engari kaua e whakaaro, "I rahua ahau i te whakamātautau nā te mea he ngoikore ahau ki te pāngarau," ngana ki te kī, "I rahua ahau nā te mea kāore au i tino ako. E kore ahau e tuku i tēnā kia tupu anō." Engari ki te whakaaro, "I whakarērea ahau e rātou nā te mea he koretake ahau," ngana ki te: "E mārama ana ahau he aha te mamae o tēnei wehenga, engari mā te noho tahi me ōku hoa ka pai ake tōku wairua."
- Ina tika te haere o tētahi mea, me mihi ki a koe anō. Whakaarohia ngā mea i mahia e koe hei whakatutuki i te hua pai. I whakarite pai koe? I whakangungu koe me te ngākau nui? Kia mōhio ki ōu kaha me te āwhina i a koe kia angitu. Kaua e wehi ki te kī, "Nāku i mahi tēnei!"
- Kia maumahara koe he rangitahi noa iho ngā raruraru. Ina hē tetahi mea, kia maumahara koe ka pahemo atu - ā, waihangahia he mahere hei whakatutuki i tēnā. Hei tauira: "Kāore i rite ngā hua o taku whakamātautau ki taku i tumanako ai, engari ka taea e au te ako kaha ake me te mahi anō i te whakamātautau."
- Mātakihia te kōrero a ētahi atu mō rātou anō. He hunga hihiri, he hunga pōuri rānei ō hoa me tō whānau? Hei tauira, ka mea atu rānei tō pāpā, "I tahuna e au ngā hotdog, he tino kino rawa atu ahau ki te tunu kai!" ka mea atu rānei ia, "I tahuna e au ngā hotdog nā te mea i aro atu ahau ki te mātakitaki i te kurī e whai ana i te kūkara!"
Whakamātauria te whakauru i ēnei tikanga ki roto i tō oranga. Tērā pea he uaua i te tīmatanga, engari mā te whakaharatau, ka tīmata koe ki te kite i te rerekētanga.
Te Karere Kawe-ki-te-Kāinga
E kite ana koe, he hinengaro ka taea te ako i te tumanako. Ko te tikanga hoki o tēnei he mea ka taea te whakakore i te tumanako!
He roa te wā e pau ana ki tēnei mahi, nō reira kaua e ngākau pouri. I a koe e mōhio haere ana ki ēnei huarahi whakaaro e rua, ka kitea e koe ētahi atu huarahi hei whakatipu i te hihiri. Me kī tonu ki a koe anō, "Ka taea e au te hihiri ake, ā, ka mahi tonu ahau!"
Kia maumahara, he mea nui ia takahanga iti. Ko ia whakapau kaha e mahia ana e koe ki te huri i tō tirohanga ka whakatata atu koe ki te oranga harikoa, angitu, me te oranga ngākau . Nō reira, me tīmata tātou i tēnei haerenga hihiri i tēnei rā? Kei a koe tēnei!
