Kei te whakaaro anō hoki koe kāore koe e tika ana mō tēnei? Me kōrero tātou mō te Imposter Syndrome!

Kua rongo koe i te wehi o te pātai ki a koe anō, i te kore e harikoa mō āu whakatutukitanga, "He tika rānei tēnei mōku? Kāore ianei ahau i te pai pērā i te whakaaro o ētahi atu?" Ina whiwhi koe i tētahi whakatairanga i te mahi, ina puta koe i tētahi whakamātautau, ina whakanuia rānei koe e tētahi, kei te whakaaro koe me te mea kei te kī koe ki a koe anō, "Kāore au i te tika mō tēnei, ā tērā rā ka kitea e te katoa ko wai ahau?" Ko te ingoa noa o tēnei kare ā-roto ko te `(Imposter Syndrome)`.

He aha rawa te Imposter Syndrome?

Ki te kī ngāwari, ko te 'Imposter Syndrome' he wā e ruarua ana koe mō ō ake pūkenga me tō angitu . Ahakoa e whakaaro ana ētahi he atamai koe, ā, he pai te mahi i ngā mea, kei roto tonu i a koe te whakaaro kāore koe i te tino atamai, he rite koe ki te tangata tinihanga. Kei te mataku tonu koe kei kitea tēnei teka i tētahi rā.

Ahakoa kāore tēnei i te whakarōpūtia mana hei tātaritanga hauora hinengaro, ka pā nui pea tēnei kare ā-roto ki ngā āhuatanga maha o tō koiora, tae atu ki te mahi, te mātauranga, tae atu ki ngā whanaungatanga. E kīia ana hoki tēnei e ētahi he 'āhuatanga tinihanga', he 'mate tinihanga' rānei.

He rite tēnei ki tētahi huringa (Te Huringa Tānga)

He tokomaha te hunga e pāngia ana e te `Imposter Syndrome` e kite ana i tētahi tauira i roto i ā rātou whanonga, he mea rite ki tētahi huringa. Whakaarohia he whakaaturanga nui tāu hei tuku ki te tari. Ki te pā mai tēnei whakaaro ki a koe, ka tīmata koe ki te manukanuka nui rawa atu mōna, ā, ka tīmata koe ki te manukanuka, "Ka hinga ahau?" E rua ngā mea ka taea te tupu i roto i tēnei āhuatanga:

1. Te whakaroa tae noa ki te meneti whakamutunga: Ka whakaroa koe, kāore anō kia tīmata i te mahi. Kātahi ka oti i a koe te mahi i te meneti whakamutunga me te nui o te ahotea me te manukanuka. Ahakoa ka angitu te mahi, ka whakaaro koe, "Āe, he waimarie ahau i pai ai tēnei."

2. Te mahi nui rawa: Ka mahi nui atu koe i te mea e tika ana, i te ao, i te pō, e ngana ana ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa kia tino tika. Engari ina angitu koe, kāore koe e tango i te mihi mōna . Ka whakaaro koe, "E taea e tētahi atu tangata mohio ake i ahau te mahi i tēnei me te kore e mahi nui."

Ahakoa pēhea, kāore e roa te harikoa i muri i tō whakatutukitanga i tō whāinga. Nā te mea kāore e taea e koe te tuku i taua angitu kia "noho." Engari, ka tīmata koe ki te wehi i te mea nui e whai ake nei. Ka tīmata koe ki te ruarua, ki te mahi nui, ki te whakaroa anō rānei. Ā, ka haere tonu te huringa.

Ko wai ka mārama ki tēnei kare ā-roto?

Ina hoki, ka taea e te tangata katoa te wheako i tēnei kare ā-roto. I te tau 1978, i kitea tuatahitia e ngā tohunga hinengaro tokorua, a Suzanne Imes rāua ko Pauline Rose Clance, i roto i ngā wāhine whai angitu nui. Engari kua kitea ināianei e ngā rangahau he mea noa tēnei ki te tini o te tangata, ahakoa te ira tangata, i roto i ngā momo mahi.

Ka puta ake pea tēnei kare ā-roto ina rerekē koe i ō hoa mahi, i ō hoa mahi rānei. Hei tauira, he wahine koe e mahi ana i tētahi mara e whakahaerehia ana e te tāne . He mea noa anō hoki tēnei mō te hunga e whakaaro ana he tokoiti rātou i roto i te mātauranga, i te wāhi mahi rānei.

Kei te whakapae koe kei a koe te Imposter Syndrome? Tirohia ēnei tohu

Hei kimi mēnā kei a koe tēnei kare ā-roto, tirohia mēnā he āhuatanga noa ēnei e pā ana ki a koe:

• Te whakaaro he nui ake ngā mōhiotanga o te katoa i a koe.
• Kei te whakaaro tonu koe kāore koe i te mōhio pērā i te whakaaro o ētahi atu.
• Te whakaaro ko ō whakatutukitanga nā te "waimarie", nā te "tāngata e mōhio ana koe", nā ngā whakatau kino rānei a ētahi atu.
• Kei te rite koe ki te "huringa tinihanga" kua whakahuatia ake nei kei te hoki anō i roto i tō koiora.
• Ko te wehi kei kore koe e noho ki te wāhi kei reira koe (i te mahi/kura) ā, ka kitea e ētahi atu i tētahi rā.
• Te whakaaro me mahi tonu ngā mea katoa i te mea pai rawa atu, i te mea pai ake rānei i te mea i tumanakohia.
• Te āhua whakamā ina mihi mai tetahi ki a koe.
• Ko koe te tangata e aukati ana i a koe kei tutuki i a koe ōu whāinga .
• Te wehi kei whakapōrearea i ētahi atu.
• Ahakoa te iti rawa o te hapa i mahia e koe, e kore e taea e koe te wareware, me te whakaaro tonu ki taua mea.
• Me te whakaaro, "Me i mātau ake ahau, me i mātau ake ahau, kua kore ēnei feaa i roto i ahau."
• He mea tino nui ki a koe te whiwhi whakaaetanga a ētahi atu.

He aha pea ngā take mō tēnei āhuatanga?

He maha ngā take mō tēnei kare ā-roto.

• Ngā āhuatanga o te tangata: Ko ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te manukanuka nui, te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō, me te hiahia kia tino tika, e hono ana ki tēnei.
• Te taiao whakatipu: I ētahi wā, ka puta tēnei āhuatanga i roto i te hunga i tipu ake i roto i ngā whānau i aro nui ki te whakatutukitanga me te angitu. Ka puta anō hoki i te whiwhinga o ngā karere taupatupatu mai i ngā mātua, pērā i te nui rawa o te whakamoemiti i ētahi wā me te whakahē kino i ētahi wā.
• Te whakaaro he tangata ke koe: Hei tauira, ki te kore koe e whakataetae ā-tūturu i roto i tētahi wāhi mahi tino whakataetae, ka whakaaro pea koe "Kāore au e uru ki konei." Waihoki, ko te whakaaro he rerekē koe i ētahi atu nā tō iwi, tō tau, tō ira tangata, tō tūnga ōhanga rānei, ka arahi pea ki te `Imposter Syndrome'.
• Pāpāho Pāpori: Ina kite koe i ngā pikitia o ngā oranga "tino pai" o ētahi atu tāngata, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakataurite koe i a koe ki a rātou, ā, ka whakaaro "Kāore au i te rawaka."

He aha ngā mea ka taea te mahi hei karo i tēnei?

He uaua ki te whawhai ko koe anake ki ēnei whakaaro whakararuraru, nō reira he mea nui kia rapu tautoko mai i ētahi atu.

Tohutohu me te maimoatanga hauora

• Kōrero Whakaora: Mā te kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei, ka āwhina koe ki te mārama ki te pūtake mai o ēnei whakaaro, me te pānga ki tō oranga. Kātahi ka taea e koe te ako me pēhea te whakahaere i aua whakaaro ina puta ake.
• Te Whakaora Tukatuka Hinengaro (CPT): He tikanga whakaora tēnei e ako ana i a koe ki te tautuhi i ō whakapono kino me te whakakapi i aua whakapono ki ngā whakaaro pono ake.
• Whakaora Rōpū: He pai hoki te whakauru atu ki tētahi wānanga rōpū me ētahi atu e pāngia ana e te 'Imposter Syndrome' rite tonu ki a koe. Mā te whakarongo ki ngā wheako o ētahi atu ka āwhina i a koe kia kaua e noho mokemoke. Mā te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ka āwhina hoki i a koe kia whiwhi tirohanga hou.

Mena kei te pēhia koe e ēnei kare ā-roto, he mea nui kia kōrero koe ki tō tākuta whānau (GP) . Ka taea e ia te hoatu ki a koe te aratohu e hiahiatia ana e koe.

Ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake

• Kia maumahara ki ō whakatutukitanga: Tuhia he rārangi o ngā mea i tino pai ki a koe, ngā mea e whakahīhī ana koe. Tiakina ngā īmēra, ngā tuhipoka, me ērā atu mea e whakamoemititia ana e ētahi atu. Tirohia ēnei ina whakaaro koe "He tinihanga ahau."
• Ngā kare ā-roto me ngā meka motuhake: A te wā ka kite koe i a koe anō e ruarua ana i a koe anō, maumahara ki a koe anō he kare ā-roto noa iho, ehara i te meka.
• Kia atawhai ki a koe anō: He aha tāu e kī ai mēnā ka pēnei te whakaaro o tō hoa? "He mātau koe, ā, kei a koe te tika ki te hē," kāore? Me kī atu anō hoki ki a koe anō te mea kotahi.
• Whakamātauria te whakaae ki ngā mihi: Ina kī mai tetahi "ka pai rawa atu," kaua e karohia mā te kī "Ngā mihi, engari...", whakamātauria te kī noa "Ngā mihi nui ki a koe".
• Kaua e whakarite i a koe ki ētahi atu: Ko ngā tāngata katoa ka whakaputa i ā rātou ake mea pai ki runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Nō reira kati te whakarite i a koe ki a rātou. Engari, ngana kia pai ake te rā i tō inanahi. Kāore he tangata tino tika.
• Werohia ō whakaaro: Ina whakaaro koe, "I whiwhi ahau i tēnei mahi nā te mea kāore i hiahia tetahi atu," werohia taua whakaaro me te whakaaro pai, "I whiwhi ahau i tēnei mahi nā te mea he kaha taku mahi, ā, e pai ana aku hoa mahi ki ahau."
• Kia mārama: Kāore te hunga tinihanga tūturu e pāngia e te 'Imposter Syndrome'. Ko te āhua o ō whakaaro pēnei e whakaatu ana ehara koe i te tangata tinihanga!