Kutheni kulungile ukuba umama omtsha nomntwana bahlale kunye (behlala egumbini elinye)? Makhe sithethe ngale nto ngokweenkcukacha!

Emva kokuba nomntwana, umama uziva evuya kwaye ediniwe kakhulu, akunjalo? Lixesha elihle kakhulu kwaye lixesha eliza nemingeni emininzi emitsha. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uphumle kangangoko unako, wakhe ubudlelwane obuhle nomntwana wakho, kwaye uqhele ukunyamekela umntwana wakho ngaphambi kokuba ugoduke. Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngendlela elungileyo enceda kakhulu ngaloo nto, kwaye ngoku ilandelwa kwizibhedlele ezininzi. Leyo yiRooming-In .

Yintoni iRooming-In? Ngamafutshane...

Ngamafutshane, indawo yokuhlala iyenzeka xa umntwana osandul’ ukuzalwa ehlala kwigumbi elinye nonina iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku ngexesha lokuhlala kwakhe esibhedlele. Oku kuquka ukugcina umntwana kwibhedi encinci ecaleni kwebhedi kamama, okanye kwindawo ekhululekileyo kumama, endaweni yokuthumela umntwana kwigumbi lokukhulisa abantwana elahlukileyo.

Abanye oomama banokucinga, "Owu, emva kokubeleka, kungaba kuhle ukumbeka umntwana kwigumbi lokugcina abantwana ukuze alale kancinci, nangona ediniwe." Leyo yingcinga efanelekileyo. Kodwa, ubusazi, izifundo zifumanise ukuba ixesha umama alala ngalo liyafana nokuba umntwana usegumbini okanye usegumbini lokugcina abantwana? Kwaye bafumanise ukuba ukuba nomntwana wakho nawe ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakhe yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba wena nomntwana wakho niphumle kwaye nibe nemikhwa emihle.

Eli lelona xesha lixabisekileyo lokumazi umntwana wakho nokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo naye. Iintsana ziyalazi kakuhle ilizwi likanina, ivumba lakhe, kunye nokubetha kwentliziyo yakhe . Ngoko ke xa unomntwana wakho, uziva ekhululekile kwaye ekhuselekile. Indlela yokuHlala ngaphakathi ikunika amathuba angakumbi okuqonda iindlela zakhe zokuziphatha kunye noko akuthethayo (ngolwimi lwakhe!) ngaphambi kokuba umyise ekhaya.

Zithini iingenelo zokuhlala kumama?

Zininzi iingenelo zoku kuwe njengomama omtsha. Masibone ukuba ziintoni.

• Ukulala okusemgangathweni: Khawuthelekelele, ukuba umntwana usegumbini lokugcina abantwana, kuya kufuneka ulinde ude umzise ukuze amnike ukutya, kwaye usenokulala ngelo xesha. Kodwa xa umntwana ekufutshane, ungamtyisa nanini na xa efuna, uze ke nobabini niphinde nilale kunye. Oku kuya kunciphisa ukuphazamiseka ebuthongweni benu.
• Ukuzithemba ngakumbi ekuphatheni nasekunyamekeleni umntwana: Xa unomntwana, kancinci kancinci uyaqhela ukumbamba umntwana, ukumtshintsha inapkeni yakhe, ukumhlamba (mhlawumbi uza kufumana uncedo ngako oku esibhedlele ), nokunyamekela izinto zakhe ezincinci. Emva koko xa ubuyela ekhaya, ungasebenza ngokuzithemba okukhulu. Ukuba ubukwigumbi lokugcina abantwana, la mava ebengayi kuba luncedo, akunjalo?
• Ungaziqonda iimpawu zomntwana wakho:Iintsana zisebenzisa izikhokelo ukukuxelela ukuba zilele, zidiniwe, zifuna ukuthula, okanye zilambile. Ukuba kufutshane nomntwana wakho kukunceda ukuba uziqonde ngokukhawuleza ezi zikhokelo. Khawuthelekelele umntwana wakho evula amehlo akhe kancinci, eshukumisa umlomo wakhe... kwaye ukuba kufutshane nawe, ukhawuleza uqonde, "Owu, umntwana wam ufuna ubisi ngoku."
• Iimpawu zokutyisa kwangethuba kulula ukuzibona: Xa iintsana zilambile, zenza imiqondiso emincinci ngaphambi kokuba zikhale. Umzekelo, zivula imilomo yazo, zikhuphe ulwimi lwazo, zimunce imilebe yazo, zimunce izandla zazo, zize zinikine iintloko zazo ukusuka kwelinye icala ukuya kwelinye ukuze zifumane ubisi (ukumila kweengcambu). Wakuba uzibonile ezi mpawu, ungaqala ukumunca ngaphandle kokulinda ukuba umntwana wakho akhale. Oku kwenza kube lula nokumunca.
• Amava okuncancisa aphumelele: Ukukwazi ukuncancisa umntwana wakho nanini na xa efuna, xa efunwa, luncedo olukhulu ekwenzeni ukuncancisa kube yimpumelelo. Oku kunceda ekufumaneni ubisi olufanelekileyo.
• Usana alukhali kwaye alucaphuki kakhulu: Iintsana ziyathanda ukuba kufutshane nonina. Ivumba likanina, ubushushu, kunye nokubetha kwentliziyo kubenza bazive bekhuselekile. Ngenxa yoko, bakhala kwaye abacaphuki kakhulu.
• "I-baby blues" kunye nokudakumba emva kokuzalwa azixhaphakanga: Emva kokuzala umntwana, abanye oomama banokuziva bedakumbile kancinci, bexhalabile, kwaye benomsindo. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-'baby blues'. Kufunyenwe ukuba ukuba kunye nokunxibelelana nomntwana kunokunciphisa ezi meko. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kunokunyuka kube kukudandatheka emva kokuzalwa . Ke ngoko, kulungile ukukwazi oku.
• Ekupheleni kweveki yokuqala bebuyela ekhaya, abazali baziva bephumle kakuhle kwaye bekhululekile: ekubeni bebe nosana lwabo ukususela esibhedlele kwaye beqhelene nenkqubo yabo yesiqhelo, baziva bexinezelekile kancinci emva kokuba bebuyele ekhaya.
• Ukudibana ngakumbi nolusu: Oku kuthetha ukubamba umntwana wakho esifubeni sakho, nokuba unqunu okanye unxibe impahla encinci. Oku kudala ulwalamano oluhle phakathi komama nomntwana, kwenza umntwana azive ekhuselekile, kwaye kukhuthaza ukuhamba kobisi lukamama.

Zithini iingenelo zokuhlala neentsana?

Iingenelo zoku kumama nakumntwana zinkulu kakhulu.

• Ukulala okusemgangathweni ongcono: Umntwana uziva ekhuselekile ukuba kunye nomama. Ngenxa yoko, ulala kakuhle. Umjikelo wokulala nowokuvuka komntwana (umjikelo wokulala nowokuvuka) ngokukhawuleza uhlala ngendlela ethile. Oku kumnceda aqonde umahluko phakathi kwemini nobusuku.
• Ubushushu bomzimba buhlala buzinzile: Kulula ukuba umntwana ahlale enobushushu bomzimba obungaguqukiyo xa ejikelezwe bubushushu bukanina. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwiintsana ezincinci.
• Ngokwesiqhelo wonwabile, ukukhala kancinci: Usana aluziva lulolo okanye lungoyiki kuba unina ekunye nalo. Ngenxa yoko, lona lonwabile kancinci kwaye alili kakhulu.
• Amanqanaba eswekile egazini ahlala ezinzile: Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwiintsana ezizelwe zinobunzima obuphantsi, okanye iintsana zoomama abanesifo seswekile.
• Uncancisa ibele ngokukhawuleza, ixesha elide, kwaye kulula ngakumbi: Ngenxa yokuba ubisi lufumaneka ngokukhawuleza xa ulambile, umntwana uncancisa kakuhle.
• Amanqanaba aphantsi ee-hormone zoxinzelelo: Ukuba ukhuselekile kumama, umzimba womntwana unezinga eliphantsi lee-hormone zoxinzelelo.
• Ukuvezwa ziintsholongwane eziqhelekileyo eluswini lukamama: Oku kunokunika umntwana amandla okuzikhusela kwiintsholongwane eziyingozi.

Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokwenza oku kube yimpumelelo

Icebiso elihle esinokulinika abazali abatsha kukuba niziqhelise ukulala nomntwana wenu kwiintsuku zokuqala ezimbalwa. Akunamsebenzi nokuba kusemini okanye kusebusuku, hlalani nimncancise umntwana wenu nanini na xa elele. Iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zincancisa rhoqo, kwaye ziziva zikhululekile kwaye zikhuselekile xa zinani.

Ukufunda indlela yokuncancisa umntwana wakho kuya kuba lula xa uqonda iimpawu zakhe zokulamba kwasekuqaleni kunye neemeko zokulala/ukuvuka. Ngokugcina umntwana wakho ekufutshane nawe, ungafunda indlela yokumondla nokumnyamekela ngoncedo lwabasebenzi abanamava esibhedlele.

Khumbula: Abahlengikazi kunye noogqirha esibhedlele bakhona ukukunceda. Ukuba unemibuzo okanye iinkxalabo, ungoyiki ukubuza.

Enye into kukukhumbula ukuba ngubani oza kukutyelela xa unomntwana wakho. Ukuze kuhlangatyezwane neemfuno zomntu wonke, ezinye izibhedlele zivumela iindwendwe iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. Kodwa licebo elihle ukucinga ngezinto ozikhethayo ngexesha lokuhlala kwakho esibhedlele. Ngaba ufuna iindwendwe ngamaxesha onke, okanye ufuna zinqunyelwe kumalungu osapho asondeleyo ngamaxesha athile emini?

Sisoloko silapha ukukunceda uphumle kwaye uchache. Abanye abazali babeka inqaku elincinci emnyango wegumbi labo lokulala elithi, "Ndicela undivumele ndiphumle kwaye ndichithe ixesha nomntwana wam." Abanye oomama, xa beziva bediniwe, basebenzisa "ibinzana eliyimfihlo" abalinika amaqabane abo ukuxelela iindwendwe ukuba zihambe... kwaye liyasebenza nalo!

Umyalezo obalulekileyo onokuwuthatha ekhaya

Nokuba ukhetha ntoni na, injongo yethu kukubonelela ngononophelo olungcono kangangoko, ngelixa sikulungiselela ukuya ekhaya ukunyamekela umntwana wakho omtsha. Ukuhlala endlini akupheleli nje ekugcineni umntwana wakho ekufutshane. Kumalunga nokuqinisa ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi komama nomntwana, ukuninceda nobabini niqondane, nokubeka isiseko esihle sekamva.

Ngoko ke, ukuba ungumama okhulelweyo, thetha nogqirha wakho kunye nesibhedlele malunga nokulala. Cinga ngeenzuzo eziya kuzisa kuwe nakumntwana wakho omncinci.Eli lelona xesha lixabisekileyo kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Lisebenzise kakuhle.

` Igumbi lokuhlala, umama omtsha, usana olusandul' ukuzalwa, umama nosana, ukhathalelo lwasesibhedlele, ukuncancisa, ukhathalelo lwasemva kokubeleka, ukulala kosana, ukuphumla kukamama