Ngaba wakha waba ngolu hlobo? Ulibele ngokupheleleyo ukuya kwitheko lokuzalwa lomhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Okanye ubungenakukwazi ukuya kumhla nesoka/intombi yakho. Usapho lwakho nabahlobo bakho bahlala bekugxeka ngokungakhumbuli nto kwaye ungathabathi nzulu nantoni na. Ukuba ezi zinto zihlala ziphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba akubangelwa kukungakhathali kwakho. Mhlawumbi i-ADHD ( Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder ) yimbangela eyintloko yale nto.
Ulwalamano oluhle lwakhiwe ekuqondeni nasekuqondeni iimvakalelo zomnye umntu. Kodwa xa une-ADHD, kunokuba nzima kancinci ukwenza ezi zinto ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awunakuba nolwalamano okanye ubuhlobo obuhle. Kuthatha nje umonde omncinci, ukuzazi, kunye neengcebiso ezimbalwa ezisebenzayo.
I-ADHD ibenza njani ubudlelwane bube nzima?
Iimpawu eziphambili ze-ADHD zinokuchaphazela ngqo ubomi bakho bentlalo. Makhe sijonge indlela yokwenza oku.
| Uphawu lwe-ADHD | Indlela echaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane |
|---|---|
| Ukulibala | Uyalibala imihla ebalulekileyo, izithembiso, nezinto ozithethayo. Iqabane lakho okanye abahlobo bakho banokucinga ukuba awukhathali ngabo. Kodwa inyani yile, nokuba uzama kangakanani na ukubakhumbula, bayaphuma engqondweni yakho. |
| Ukungxama | Ukwenza izinto ngokungxama. Umzekelo, ukuchitha imali ngaphandle kokucinga, ukuthenga izinto ezingeyomfuneko kwi-intanethi. Oku kunokubangela iingxaki zemali kusapho. Kwakhona, ukuthetha izinto ngokungxama kunokulimaza abanye. |
| Ukuphazamiseka | Xa wenza into ebalulekileyo, okanye xa umntu ethetha, ngequbuliso uyaphazamiseka. Khawucinge nje, uthembise ukuya kwindibano yezemidlalo yomntwana wakho. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba uyalibala ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yomsebenzi waseofisini okanye umnxeba uze uwukhumbule emva kokuba umdlalo uphelile? Oku kwenza abanye bacinge ukuba awubaxabisi. |
| Ukungakhathali | Ingqondo ye-ADHD ikhawuleza itsaleleke kwizinto ezintsha kwaye ikhawuleza ilahlekelwe ngumdla kwizinto ezindala. Uthando olunamandla oluqala ubudlelwane lunokuphela emva kwexesha elithile. Oku kunokwenza iqabane lakho lizibuze ukuba uthando lwenu alulolwenyani na. |
| Ukungalungelelani | Igumbi nendlu zigcinwa zikwimeko yokungavisisani. Le yinto umntu ococekileyo angenakuyinyamezela. Asikuko ukuba uziva ulivila ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, kodwa xa ujonga loo ngxubakaxaka, uziva uxinezelekile kwaye ungazi ukuba uqale phi. Oku kubangela ukuba abanye abantu endlwini bathwale uxanduva olungakumbi. |
| Iingxaki Zoluntu Nokungavisisani | Xa umntu ethetha, kunokuba nzima ukuqonda izinto ezifana nolwimi lomzimba wakhe kunye nethoni yelizwi lakhe. Into ethile umntu ayithethayo ngokugculelayo inokuvakala ngathi uthetha into enzulu. Oku kunokukhokelela ekungaqondani. |
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba, ezi zinto azenzeki kuba ungumntu "ombi" . Le yimeko yezonyango eyenzeka ngaphandle kolawulo lwakho, enxulumene nomsebenzi wemithambo-luvo yobuchopho .
Ungenza ntoni ngale nto?
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ubudlelwane bakho buyaphazamiseka yi-ADHD, nazi iingcebiso ezinokukunceda uzise olo budlelwane kwindawo eyonwabisayo kuni nobabini.
Phucula ukumamela nonxibelelwano
- Mamela ngaphaya kwamagama: Xa umntu ethetha, mjonge emehlweni, qwalasela inkangeleko yobuso bakhe, kwanelizwi lakhe.
- Musa ukumphazamisa: Mamela ngomonde de omnye umntu agqibe ukuthetha. Ukuba uziva ngathi uyaphambuka, phinda ufunde oko akutshoyo engqondweni yakho.
- Qinisekisa oko kuthethwayo: Xa ibali liphelile, buza izinto ezinje, "Ngaba yiloo nto uyithethayo?" "Jonga ukuba ndiyayiqonda ngokuchanekileyo na..." ukuqinisekisa oko ukuqondileyo.
- Thetha ubuso ngobuso: Nanini na xa kunokwenzeka, thetha ubuso ngobuso kunokuba ubhale umyalezo okanye i-imeyile. Ngale ndlela, unokuyiqonda lula iimvakalelo zomnye umntu.
Ujongana njani ne-ADHD njengomzali?
Njengomzali, ukuba ne-ADHD kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu kuwe. Kwaye ukuba umntwana wakho naye une-ADHD, ungaziva unetyala kakhulu.
- Musa ukuzibeka ityala: I-ADHD ayibangelwa ngabazali abangalunganga okanye imeko yasekhaya engaqhelekanga. Yimeko yendalo, yemithambo-luvo, neyemfuza . Endaweni yokuziva unetyala, fumana izisombululo zokwenza ikhaya lakho libe yindawo eyonwabisayo kuwo wonke umntu.
- Gcina iingxoxo zimfutshane kwaye zilula: Xa ungavisisani nomntwana wakho, beka phambili ukunithomalalisa nobabini endaweni yokuba "niphumelele" ngokuxambulisana. Ungathi into efana nale, "Hayi, andikakulungeli ukuxambulisana nawe ngale nto. Masiphinde sithethe xa sobabini sizolile."
- Yiba nobubele kuwe nakumntwana wakho: Zixolele xa wenze impazamo. Zama ukuyenza kakuhle kwixesha elizayo. Bonisa loo bubele kumntwana wakho. Uphando lubonise ukuba xa abazali benobubele, ukuziphatha kobundlongondlongo kwabantwana kuyehla.
Kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lweengcali.
Ukuba unengxaki yokulawula yonke le nto wedwa, ungoyiki ukucela uncedo.
I-ADHD yimeko yezonyango ekufuneka ilawulwe, njengesifo seswekile okanye uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu. Eyona sisombululo kukubona ugqirha ofanelekileyo .
Thetha nogqirha wakho nize nixoxe ngale meko kunye nonyango lwayo.
- Unyango Lokuthetha: Ungafunda iindlela zokulawula ukukhungatheka kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngokuthetha ngazo.
- Unyango Lokuziphatha Oluqondayo (i-CBT): Olu nyango lukunceda ukuchonga nokutshintsha indlela yokucinga engalunganga kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezichaphazela ubudlelwane bakho.
- Amayeza: Ngamanye amaxesha, indibaniselwano yamayeza kunye nonyango lokuthetha lunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekulawuleni iimpawu ze-ADHD . Thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto.
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo unokuba ne-ADHD yabantu abadala, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenze kukufunda ngesi sifo nendlela yokusiqonda. Ungakwenza oku ngokutyelela iiwebhusayithi zemibutho yamazwe ngamazwe efana ne-Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD). Banokukunceda ufunde ngakumbi ngesi sifo kwaye ufumane oogqirha basekuhlaleni kunye namaqela enkxaso.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-ADHD ayibobuvila okanye isiphene sobuntu. Yimeko yokwenyani yempilo.
- Inyathelo lokuqala kukuqonda indlela i-ADHD echaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane bakho.
- Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lubaluleke kakhulu. Chaza imeko yakho kwiqabane lakho, kubahlobo, nakusapho.
- Zixolele xa wenze impazamo. Wonke umntu uyazenza iimpazamo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuzama kwakhona.
- Musa ukuzikhathaza ngezi zinto wedwa. Ukufuna ingcebiso kugqirha ofanelekileyo yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kuwe nakubudlelwane bakho.
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