Ngaba umntwana wakho ucaphuka kakhulu ngequbuliso ngenxa yento encinci? Okanye uyatsiba-tsiba aze azame ngokungalawulekiyo nangona eziva onwabile kancinci? Ngamanye amaxesha ungacinga, "Kutheni umntwana wam esenza ngolu hlobo? Uzama nje ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi ngakumbi." Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka siyiqonde njengabazali kukuba umntwana akenzi ezi zinto ngabom. Ingakumbi ukuba umntwana une-ADHD, oko kuthetha ukuba akanamdla wokwenza izinto ezininzi, ufuna ixesha elininzi kunye nomgudu kunabanye abantwana ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe .
Kutheni kunzima kangaka ngaba bantwana ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo?
Abantwana abancinci badla ngokuba ngabangxamayo kwaye benze izinto ngokungakhathali. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Njengoko bekhula, bafunda ukuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo zabo, oko kukuthi, ukuphuhlisa ukuzilawula .
Ngamafutshane, oku kufana nomlawuli wefeni emakhayeni ethu. Xa siziva sishushu, sisebenzisa umlawuli ukwandisa isantya sefeni. Xa siziva sibanda, sinciphisa isantya. Ngokufanayo, umntwana ufunda ukuqonda xa iimvakalelo zakhe "zishushu," oko kukuthi, xa umsindo, usizi, okanye ixhala zisanda, kunye "nokupholisa" ingqondo yakhe, oko kukuthi, ukuzola.
Nangona kunjalo, kubantwana abane-ADHD, lo "mlawuli" engqondweni yabo usebenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kancinci. Kuthatha ixesha ukuba ikhule . Yiyo loo nto kunzima kubo ukulinganisa "ubushushu" beemvakalelo zabo nokuzilawula ngokufanelekileyo. Ngequbuliso, iimvakalelo zabo ziba qatha kakhulu. Yiyo loo nto becaphuka kakhulu ngezinto ezincinci, okanye bachulumance kakhulu kangangokuba abakwazi ukuzilawula kwizinto ezincinci ezonwabisayo.
Abantwana abane-ADHD bazibonakalisa njani iimvakalelo zabo?
Ayingabo bonke abantwana abane-ADHD abaziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Abanye abantwana basenokungakwazi ukulawula xa belusizi okanye benomsindo, baze bakhwaze okanye baphose izinto phantsi. Omnye umntwana usenokungabi namdla okanye angabi namdla xa ecelwa ukuba enze into angafuni ukuyenza.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimpawu ezifanayo ezinokubonwa. Wakuba uzibonile ezi zinto, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukumqonda umntwana wakho.
| Uphawu | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Ukucaphuka kakhulu ngezinto ezincinci | Khawucinge nje, ithoyi iyaphuka, okanye incam yepensele enemibala iyaphuka. Umntwana oqhelekileyo uya kuba lusizi kancinci aze alibale ngayo loo nto. Kodwa umntwana one-ADHD unokuba lusizi, akhale, aze akhale ngokungathi ihlabathi lonke liwile. Kunzima kakhulu kuye ukususa loo mvakalelo. |
| Ubunzima bokuzola emva kokucaphuka | Ukuba balwa nomntu, okanye ukuba uyamkhalimela, loo msindo nosizi sele zisezintliziyweni zabo. Kunzima kubo ukulibala ngokukhawuleza baze benze abahlobo kwakhona njengomntwana oqhelekileyo. |
| Ukubona nokuba kukugxekwa okuncinci njengempazamo enkulu | Nokuba ungathi into encinci efana nokuthi “phucula indlela obhala ngayo,” baya kuziva ngathi ubaphathe kakubi kakhulu, ngokungathi ubabethile. Banokwenzakala kakhulu yiloo nto. |
| Ukufuna ukufumana into ngokukhawuleza xa kuyimfuneko | Ukuba bathi, "Ndifuna i-ayisikhrim," bayayifuna "ngoku." Ukuba bathi, "Ndiza kukunika kungekudala," abakwazi ukuyinyamezela. Baziva befuna loo nto ngamandla kangangokuba baphelelwa ngumonde. |
Oku kuyafana nakwiimvakalelo ezifana nolonwabo kunye nochulumanco. Baziva ngamandla kakhulu. Ngoko ke nokuba baziva bonwabile kancinci, banokonwaba kangangokuba abakwazi ukuzibamba, banokulwa baze bakhale.
Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ukuba alawule iimvakalelo zakhe?
Nangona oku kunokuba nzima kancinci kumntwana one-ADHD, ngoncedo lwakho, umntwana wakho angaphuhlisa esi zakhono. Ezi ngcebiso ziya kuba luncedo kakhulu kuwe.
1. Musa ukuyithatha lula indlela umntwana wakho avakalelwa ngayo.
Xa umntwana wakho ekhala okanye ekhathazekile, musa ukuthi, "Yintoni engalunganga, musa ukulila kakhulu." Ngelo xesha, umntwana wakho udinga indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Endaweni yokubuza imibuzo, mamela ngononophelo oko kuthethwa ngumntwana wakho. Zama ukucinga ngokwembono yomntwana wakho. Nokuba kubonakala kungaqhelekanga kuwe, khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho uvakalelwa ngendlela efanayo . Babonise ukuba uyaqonda ngokuthi, "Uyadabuka ukuba ithoyizi yaphukile, akunjalo? Ndiyaqonda."
2. Yakha imikhwa enempilo
Kulula kuthi ukulawula iimvakalelo zethu xa sisitya kakuhle kwaye silala ngokwaneleyo. Xa silambile kwaye sidiniwe, siyacaphuka ngenxa yezinto ezincinci, akunjalo? Oku kumchaphazela ngakumbi umntwana one-ADHD. Ke ngoko, qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho utya ukutya okunesondlo kwaye ulala ngokwaneleyo . Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzilolonga ubuncinane iyure ngosuku. Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abaleke aze adlale.
Kwezinye iimeko, ugqirha wakho okanye ingcali yezengqondo inokucebisa unyango oluthile lokuziphatha . Olu hlobo lonyango luquka unyango olufana no-"Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)" kunye no-"Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)". Olu hlobo lonyango lufundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokuchonga nokulawula iingcinga neemvakalelo zakhe.
3. Yenza uluhlu lweendlela zokuzola ingqondo yakho (Izakhono Zokumelana Neengxaki)
Xa umntwana wakho enomsindo okanye elusizi, qaphela iindlela anokuzithomalalisa ngazo ngaphandle kokuzilimaza okanye ukwenzakalisa abanye. Ezi zakhono sizibiza ngokuba zizakhono zokumelana neengxaki . Ezinye zezi zinto zingenziwa ekhaya, ngelixa ezinye zingenziwa ngaphandle.
- Phefumla nzulu: Ziqhelise ukuphefumla ngaphakathi ngelixa ubala u-1, 2, 3, 4 engqondweni yakho, uze uphefumle ngaphandle ngelixa ubala.
- Umthambo: Xa unomsindo, bacele ukuba babaleke bajikeleze igadi okanye benyuke behle ezinyukweni.
- Ukumamela umculo: Vumela umntwana aphulaphule ingoma ezolileyo ayithandayo.
- Ukuzoba okanye ukubhala ijenali: Bakhuthaze ukuba babhale phantsi okanye bazobe oko bakucingayo.
- Ukuthetha nomntu omthembayo: Zifundise, utata wakho, okanye umhlobo osenyongweni ukukuxelela into ekucingayo.
4. Zicinge njengomzali.
Ukunyamekela umntwana one-ADHD akulula. Kunokuba ngunobangela woxinzelelo lweemvakalelo ngamanye amaxesha. Ukuze uncede umntwana wakho, kufuneka ube sempilweni yengqondo kuqala . Yenza uluhlu lweendlela zokuzola xa uziva uxinezelekile. Musa ukuba namahloni okucela uncedo kusapho nakubahlobo xa ulufuna. Ngamanye amaxesha, unokufuna iingcebiso. Kwakhona, ukujoyina amaqela enkxaso kubazali babantwana abane-ADHD kunokuba ngumthombo omkhulu wamandla.
Ukuba unengxaki enkulu ngokuziphatha komntwana wakho, endaweni yokuzama ukufumana izisombululo ngokwakho, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka udibane nogqirha wabantwana okanye ugqirha wengqondo ukuze akunike iingcebiso . Baza kukunika isisombululo esifanelekileyo kuwe nakumntwana wakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-ADHD ayisosenzo somntwana esenziwe ngabom, yimeko yokwenyani yempilo.
- Iimvakalelo zala bantwana azilunganga, kodwa baziva nje "ngokwemvelo" kunabanye.
- Umonde wakho, ukuqonda umntwana wakho, kunye nemikhwa enempilo oyifundisayo ekhaya zezona zinto zinamandla amakhulu omntwana wakho.
- Hlonipha iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho, mphulaphule, kwaye umfundise iindlela zokuzola.
- Awuwedwa kolu hambo. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, funa uncedo lweengcali kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Kungcono ukufuna iingcebiso kugqirha onamava.
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