Ngaba wonke umntu ucinga ngesiqu sakhe ngoku? Makhe sithethe ngokuzithanda kakhulu izinto

Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelwa kukuba abantu kule mihla, ingakumbi abo bakwi- social media , bacinga ngabo kuphela baze bazenze babonakale belungile? Kufana nokuba kukho "mna", "impumelelo yam", "ubomi bam" kuyo yonke indawo, akunjalo? Ukujonga iTikTok, iYouTube, kunye ne-Instagram, kubonakala ngathi umkhwa kukubonisa ihlabathi yonke into encinci yobomi bakho. Abanye abantu bakubiza oku ngokuthi 'ubhubhane wobuNazi'. Ngaba sonke siya siba ngabazingcayo nabazithandayo? Makhe sithethe ngokunzulu kancinci ngale nto.

Ngamafutshane, yintoni i-narcissism?

Ngamafutshane, ukuzingca sisimo sengqondo apho umntu ekholelwa ukuba "ukhethekile kunabanye, ukuba iimfuno zakhe zingaphezulu kwayo yonke enye into," kwaye umntu uzixabisa ngokugqithisileyo. Oku akusoloko kuyinto elungileyo okanye embi. Ukuba nokuzithemba okuncinci kunye nokuzingca ngawe kulungile ebomini. Kodwa xa oku kuba nzima kakhulu apho kuvela khona iingxaki.

Le meko ikwi-spectrum eyahluka ukusuka kumntu ukuya komnye. Abo bakwi-spectrum ephezulu, phakathi kwe-1% kunye ne-6% yabemi, banokuba nesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yi-Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) .

Le ndlela yokuziphatha yamaNazi inokubonwa ngeendlela ezimbini eziphambili. Ukuze uqonde oku, jonga itheyibhile engezantsi.

Sifike njani apha?

Abaphandi bathi kukho izizathu ezininzi zolu lwando. Esinye "yintshukumo yokuzihlonipha" eyaqala kumazwe aseNtshona ngeminyaka yoo-1970. Abantwana babexelelwa besebancinci ukuba "ukhethekile" kwaye "ungenza nantoni na." Nangona oku kwakunenjongo entle, ngamanye amaxesha kwakukhokelela kwingqondo ekhukhumeleyo, yokuzingca endaweni yokwandisa izakhono zabantwana. Uphando lufumanise nokuba xa abazali "bebajonga ngokugqithisileyo" abantwana babo, oko kukuthi, xa bebancoma ngaphezu kokuba bexabiseke izakhono zabo, abantwana bamkela ezo ngcinga zifanayo baze baphuhlise iimpawu zokuzingca.

Emva koko, ngokufika kweenkqubo zeTV zokwenyani kunye nokwanda kweendaba zoluntu, le meko yatshintsha nangakumbi. Kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo ukubonisa esidlangalaleni yonke into ngobomi bomntu, ukuthatha ii-selfie, kunye nokugxila kwinkangeleko yakhe.

Oko kuthetha ukuba, inani labantu abangooNazi kuluntu lisenokuba alizange linyuke. Kodwa ilizwi labo kunye nempembelelo yabo inyuke kakhulu ngenxa yeendaba zoluntu. Ngoko ke siyabona ukuba wonke umntu unjalo.

Iyintoni impembelelo yokwenyani yeendaba zoluntu?

Imidiya yoluntu yindawo yabantu abaneempawu zokuzingca. Uphando lubonise ukuba abantu abaneempawu zokuzingca kakhulu bachitha ixesha elininzi kwimidiya yoluntu, bathumela rhoqo, banabahlobo abaninzi, kwaye banamathuba amaninzi okuba ngamakhoboka emidiya yoluntu.

Kodwa impembelelo oku enayo kwabanye iyingozi.

• Ukuthelekisa kunye nokuxhalaba : Ukuziva ulusizi kwaye uxhalabile ngobomi bakho xa ujonga ubomi "obuhluziweyo" nobubonakala bonwabileyo babanye. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi-FOMO (Uloyiko lokuPhoswa).
• Iingxaki zempilo yengqondo: Olu thelekiso oluqhubekayo lukhokelele ekwandeni koxinzelelo, ixhala, kunye nobulolo phakathi kwabantu abaselula.
• Iimbono ezingalunganga malunga nomzimba:Imizimba "egqibeleleyo" ebonakala kwimidiya yoluntu iye yaba yimbangela enkulu yokwanda kwe-body dysmorphia, imeko apho amantombazana namakhwenkwe amancinci axhalabele kakhulu inkangeleko yawo yomzimba aze acinge ngeziphene angenazo.

Kwenzeka ntoni "kwiiNarcissist ezisengozini"

Imidiya yoluntu yindawo enzima kakhulu kwi-"Vulnerable Narcissists." Babona i-"Grandiose Narcissists" bebhiyozela impumelelo yabo kwaye bethumela iifoto ezintle, kwaye baziva benomona kwaye benomsindo kuba bengafumani lwazi olufanayo. Oku kunempembelelo embi kakhulu kwimpilo yabo yengqondo.

Enye into ebuhlungu kukuba abazali babelana ngayo yonke into eyenziwa ngabantwana babo, yonke into encinci ukususela ngomhla abazalwa ngawo, kwi-social media. Ngumbuzo obalulekileyo ukuba iziphumo zokubonisa yonke into kwihlabathi ngaphandle kokunika umntwana ithuba lokuba azive eyimfihlo ziya kumchaphazela njani umntwana kwixesha elizayo.

Ngoko ke, senzani ngale nto?

Oku kusenokuvakala kusoyikisa kuwe. Kodwa kukho iindaba ezimnandi. Uphando lubonisa ukuba njengoko sikhula, njengoko sithatha uxanduva olungakumbi (umtshato, abantwana), kwaye njengoko sijongene neengxaki ebomini, ukuzingca ngokwemvelo kuyancipha. Oku kungenxa yokuba sinyanzelekile ukuba sicinge ngabanye ngaphezu kwethu.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unengxaki yesi sifo, zimbalwa izinto onokuzenza.

• Nciphisa ukusetyenziswa kweendaba zoluntu: Lumka ekusebenziseni kwakho nekwabantwana bakho imidiya yoluntu. Hlala ukhumbula ukuba ayisiyonto yonke oyibonayo eyinyani, kwaye yindawo ebonisa kuphela okona kulungileyo ebomini babantu.
• Mamela i-radar yakho yangaphakathi: Xa uthetha nomntu, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uthetha kakhulu ngaye, uthoba abanye, okanye akanandaba neemvakalelo zakhe, qaphela ezo "mvakalelo zokuzithanda." Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ziqhelise kancinci kubantu abanjalo.
• Funa ingcebiso yobungcali: Abantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) abavumi rhoqo ukuba banengxaki. Yiyo loo nto bengafuni unyango. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unazo ezi mpawu kwindlela oziphatha ngayo, okanye ukuba umntu one-narcissistic features uchaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo, kubalulekile ukuba ungabi nantloni kwaye ufune ingcebiso kugqirha ofanelekileyo okanye kumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo. Yeyona nto ingcono onokuzenzela yona.