Uyakhumbula umhla ugqirha akuxelele ukuba umntwana wakho une-autism? Mhlawumbi waziva ngathi ihlabathi lonke likuwe. Ngequbuliso, ubomi bakho, amaphupha akho, izicwangciso zakho, yonke into yatshintsha. Oku akupheleli nje kuwe, kodwa kubo bonke umama notata abaye badlula kolu lwazi. Kodwa oku akupheleli nje kohambo, kodwa kukuqala kohambo olutsha nolwahlukileyo. Namhlanje, masithethe ngendlela yokugcina ubudlelwane bothando nobomeleleyo kusapho njengoko udlula kolu hambo lutsha.
I-Autism yinto echaphazela lonke usapho.
Oogqirha bathi i-autism ayichaphazeli umntwana kuphela, kodwa nosapho lonke . Kanye njengokuba ilitye echibini livuthuza, ukongezwa komntwana one-autism kusapho kunokuba nefuthe elibi kumama, utata, abantakwabo, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, kunye nezinye izalamane. Nangona lonke usapho lwahlukile, kukho imingeni eqhelekileyo ejongene nayo wonke umntu. Ubungakanani bale mingeni bunokwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kubukhali be-autism yomntwana. Kodwa imiba esijongene nayo iyafana kakhulu.
Umngeni wokuqala: Ukutshintsha okulindelwe ngabazali
Mangaphi amaphupha esinawo ngomntwana wethu? Baza kuya esikolweni baze bafunde kakuhle, baye ekhampasini, bafumane umsebenzi olungileyo, batshate baze baphile kamnandi... Sinamaphupha aliwaka anjengala engqondweni yethu. Kodwa xa sifumanisa ukuba umntwana wethu une-autism, la mathemba atshintsha kakhulu. Kufana nokuceba uhambo oluhle oluya e-Itali size sehle kwinqwelo moya size sive "Wamkelekile eHolland."
Ungacaphuka ngequbuliso, ungaziva ulusizi . Ungacinga, "Ndifuna ukuya e-Itali! Kutheni undizise apha?" Kodwa ukuba ulusizi nge-Itali, awusoze ukwazi ukubona ubuhle beHolland, ii-tulips, ii-windmills.
Kunjalo ke nangolu hambo. Isenokungabi bubomi obucinga ngabo. Kodwa obu bomi bahlukile, buhlukile, kwaye buhle . Ukuze sibone obo buhle, kufuneka senze isigqibo.
Umngeni Wesibini: Ukoyika Abantakwabo
Ukuba kukho abanye abantwana ukongeza kumntwana one-autism, enye yezona zinto zixhalabisayo abazali kukuba, "Ngaba omnye umntwana uza kushiywa ngasemva? Ngaba uza kuphulukana nengqalelo yam?" Kuqhelekile ukuziva ngathi awunalo ixesha lokunyamekela abanye abantwana bakho, ngezinto ezifana nonyango kunye nokutyelela oogqirha, xa ubaleka ukhangela umntwana wakho one-autism.
Kodwa ngokumangalisayo, uphando lufumanise ukuba abantakwabo nabantwana abane-autism badla ngokuqhelana ngcono ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo.Bafunda ukuthwala uxanduva baze babonise uvelwano ngokukhawuleza kunabanye.
Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba masilibale ngabo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubanika ithuba lokuchitha ixesha bodwa nathi.
| Iingxaki abanokujamelana nazo abazalwana noodade wabo | Oko sinokukwenza njengabazali |
|---|---|
| Ukucinga ukuba abanalo ingqwalasela yabazali. | Chitha usuku olunye ngeveki wedwa naloo mntwana (umz., umama uchitha ixesha nomntwana one-autism ngelixa utata edlala nomnye umntwana). |
| Ukuziva uneentloni okanye uloyiko malunga nokuziphatha komntakwenu xa abahlobo bakho befika ekhaya okanye esikolweni. | Vumela umntwana wakho athethe ngokukhululekileyo ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Menze aqonde ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive ngaloo ndlela. |
| Ukucaphuka kukuba abakwazi ukwenza izinto abazifunayo ngenxa yomntakwabo one-autism. | Hlonipha iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Cacisa, "Awutsho loo nto kuba ungumntwana ombi." Bancede bajongane nezo mvakalelo. |
Ngamanye amaxesha, apho umntwana one-autism engakwaziyo ukuzilawula, abantakwabo nabo bayakwazi. Loo manyano luqine kangako.
Umngeni wesithathu: Impembelelo emtshatweni
Le yingongoma ebucayi kakhulu. Xa umntwana efunyaniswa ukuba une-autism , ibeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kuyo nayiphi na imitshato. Amaxesha amaninzi, oomama nootata bajongana nale meko ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Ngokwesiqhelo, nangona oomama beziva intlungu enganyamezelekiyo, bakhawuleza bathathe amanyathelo . Baqala ukukhangela unyango abamele balwenze kumntwana, ukuba oogqirha bafuna bathini, kunye nayo yonke into abanokuyenza kumntwana. Kodwa ootata abaninzi bagxila emsebenzini wabo . Abanye abafuni ukuyamkela le meko, okanye bazama ukuyibaleka.
Xa aba babini becinga ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kuvela imingxunya yokuqala emtshatweni. Umama ulahlekelwa ngumntu oza kwabelana naye ngentlungu yakhe. Isisombululo esingcono koku kukufumana ixesha lenu nobabini , nokuba nixakeke kangakanani na. Kusenokuba kukuthetha imizuzu eli-15 emva kokuba abantwana belele, okanye ukuhlala kunye nisela ikomityi yeti. Kubalulekile nokuba ufumane ixesha lenu wedwa.
"Nokuba unemizuzu eli-15 yokuya kuhlamba wedwa, kufanelekile. Fumana ixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza into encinci, njengento obukade uyonwabela, njengokufunda incwadi, ukumamela ingoma."
Imingeni yesine neyesihlanu: Ulonwabo lwentsapho kunye nobomi bentlalontle
Ngaba izinto esasizenza ngokungakhathali, njengokuya ekhefini, ukuya kwisiganeko sosapho, okanye ukuya kwitheko lomhlobo, ngoku zingumceli mngeni omkhulu? Abantwana abane-autism ngokubanzi abakuthandi ukutshintsha imisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla. Ngoko ke ezi zinto zinokuba nzima kakhulu kubo.
Kodwa isisombululo sale nto asikokuyeka ezo zinto, kodwa kukuzitshintsha ukuze zilungele umntwana wethu .
- Ngaba uya kuhambo? Yiya kwindawo oqhelene nayo yonke imihla. Ngale ndlela, umntwana wakho uya kuqhela. Ukuba uya kwindawo entsha, mbonise umntwana wakho imifanekiso yendawo kwangaphambili uze umchazele okwenzekayo apho.
- Ngaba uya epatini? Hamba kwangethuba ngaphambi kokuba bonke abanye bafike. Ngale ndlela, umntwana wakho unokuqhelana nendawo engqongileyo ngaphambi kokuba kufike izihlwele. Hamba ngezithuthi ezimbini. Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokuhlala apho, omnye wabo angamthatha amse ekhaya.
- Uya kutya ngaphandle? Xa ufowunela indawo yokutyela uze wenze ubhukisho, cela itafile ekhoneni apho ungaphazamisi abanye.
Xa umntwana wakho esenza izinto ngendlela eyahlukileyo phambi kwabanye abantu, ujonga wena nomntwana wakho ngendlela engaqhelekanga. Kunzima ukuyinyamezela. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, uza kufunda ukuyityeshela. "Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uza kuziva ngathi ukhula ulusu olutsha phantsi kolusu lwakho." Ukuba umntu ukujonga ngendlela engaqhelekanga, uya kuba namandla okuncuma uthi, "Akukho nto yokukhathazeka ngayo, yonke into iyalawuleka ."
Usapho lwethu alunyanzelekanga ukuba lube "lusapho olugqibeleleyo" kwiphephandaba. Usapho lwethu lunokuba lolwahlukileyo njengoko sifuna lube njalo. Ngala bantwana, sinokufumana uvuyo kwiindawo ezingaqhelekanga ebomini.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-Autism ayiyongxaki ojongene nayo wedwa, ichaphazela lonke usapho, uhambo wonke umntu aluhamba kunye.
- Kuqhelekile ukuba buhlungu ngekamva obulicingayo. Kodwa xa olo sizi luphela, zama ukubona ubuhle kolu hambo lutsha nolukhethekileyo.
- Nika ingqalelo ekhethekileyo kwabanye abantwana bakho. Bavumele bathethe. Banamandla kunokuba ucinga.
- Khuselani umtshato wenu. Mamelanani, niqondane, nize nichithe ixesha lomnye nomnye.
- Musa ukuyeka amaxesha olonwabo kusapho. Zitshintshe ukuze zilungele usapho lwakho.
- Musa ukukhathazeka ngento ecingwa ngabanye abantu. Akukho nto imbi ngosapho lwakho ukuba lonwabe ngendlela "eyahlukileyo".
- Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba konke oku kunzima kakhulu ukukuthwala, nceda uthethe nogqirha wakho okanye nomcebisi . Ukucela uncedo luphawu lwamandla.
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