Ngaba wena okanye umntu omaziyo wakha wafunyaniswa ukuba unesifo esinzima esifana nomhlaza? Ukuva ngento enjalo kunokukwenza uzive ngathi ihlabathi liphela limile. Usenokuziva ngathi onke amathemba akho kunye namaphupha akho ebomini aphelile. Kodwa namhlanje siza kuthetha ngomfazi onamandla amangalisayo owavela kwimeko enzima kakhulu waza waguqula loo mngeni waba ngumvuzo wokuphila. Igama lakhe nguMartha Avila-Adam. Ibali lakhe ngokuqinisekileyo liza kuba sisikhokelo esikhulu nesifundo esihle kubomi bethu.
Ngubani lo Martha?
UMartha Avila-Adam ngumongikazi ohlala eTexas, eMelika. Akangomntu nje oqhelekileyo, kodwa ngumfazi onamandla kakhulu owalwa waza woyisa umhlaza wamabele ngo-2015. Emva konyango lomhlaza, endaweni yokuziva ebuhlungu ngobomi njengabanye abaninzi, uMartha wenza isigqibo. "Ndifuna ukuphila ngoku, ukwenza izinto ezintsha," wacinga.
Akathandi ukuthetha kakhulu ngempilo yakhe yangaphambili okanye unyango lomhlaza. Nangona kunjalo, akathandabuzi ukwabelana ngamaqhinga akhe ezempilo, izinto azilandelayo ukuze ahlale esempilweni, ukunceda abanye abalwa nomhlaza.
Emva komhlaza, uMartha akazange ahlale nje. Wajoyina ijimu, wafumana ibhanti elimnyama kwiTaekwondo, waze wafaneleka nokufundisa ii-aerobics. Emva koko waqalisa ukubheqa. Ngenxa yolu kuzimisela, wagqiba ekubeni athathe inxaxheba kwi-"Great A LABA ma 650", enye yemidyarho enzima yokunyamezela emhlabeni.
Ukujongana nokhuphiswano olunzima kwihlabathi
I-"Great Alabama 650" ayilomdyarho umnandi. Ngumdyarho we-rafting oziikhilomitha ezili-1,046 (iikhilomitha ezili-1,046) odlula kwimilambo emikhulu yase-Alabama. Uhambo oludlula kwiingxangxasi kunye neentlambo eziyingozi lunzima nakumntu onamava kakhulu ekubhexeni.
UMartha wayengomnye wabafazi abane abakhuphisana bodwa kulo mdyarho. Wajongana nemingeni emininzi eyongezelelweyo endleleni. Cinga ngokuba wasuswa umsipha womqolo ngenxa yotyando lokwakha amabele emva komhlaza. Oku kuthetha ukuba wayengaphili kakuhle emzimbeni ngokupheleleyo.
Akuphelelanga apho, kodwa imoto yakhe yokuxhasa yonakele ngexesha lomdyarho. Ngoko ke kwafuneka ayishiye aze afumane enye imoto eyayikude kakhulu nendlela yomdyarho. Umqobo onje unokuba buhlungu kuye nabani na. Kodwa uMartha akazange anikezele. Njengoko umyeni wakhe esitsho, "Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukwenza into ethile, akukho nto ingako inokukuthintela."
Ngenxa yokuzimisela okungagungqiyo, uMartha wakwazi ukugqiba umdyarho kwiintsuku ezisi-8, iiyure ezili-19, nemizuzu engama-54 .
Kutheni ukuzilolonga kubaluleke kangaka emva komhlaza?
Esinye sezifundo ezinkulu esinokuzifunda kwibali likaMartha kukubaluleka kokuzilolonga emva konyango lomhlaza. Rhoqo, sizama ukungazenzi umthambo ngenxa yezinto ezifana nokudinwa kunye nokudakumba okuza nonyango. Nangona kunjalo, ukuthetha nogqirha wakho kunye nokuzibandakanya kwinkqubo efanelekileyo yokuzilolonga ngemvume yakhe kunye neengcebiso yindlela entle yokubona iingenelo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo: Ungaze uqale inkqubo yokuzilolonga wedwa. Soloko uqhagamshelana nogqirha wakho ukuze ubone ukuba zeziphi imithambo ekhuselekileyo nefanelekileyo emzimbeni wakho.
Makhe sijonge le theyibhile ingezantsi ukuze sibone ukuba zeziphi izibonelelo eziphambili zokuzilolonga emva komhlaza.
| Inzuzo | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Ukomelela kwamandla omzimba | Unyango luqinisa izihlunu ezibuthathaka kwaye lunyusa amandla. |
| Ukudinwa okunciphileyo | Ukudinwa yingxaki enkulu kubantu abaninzi abanomhlaza. Okumangalisayo kukuba, ukuzilolonga kunokunceda ekunciphiseni oku kudinwa. |
| Impilo yengqondo engcono | Xa uzilolonga, umzimba wakho uvelisa 'iihomoni zovuyo' (ii-endorphins). Oku kunokuba luncedo olukhulu ekulawuleni iimeko ezifana nokuxhalaba, uxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba. |
| Ukulawula ubunzima | Ezinye iindlela zonyango zinokubangela ukutyeba. Ubunzima bungalawulwa ngokuzilolonga nokutya okufanelekileyo. |
| Umngcipheko wokuphinda ubuye | Ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba abantu abaphila ubomi obusempilweni banokuba nomngcipheko omncinci wokubuya kwezinye iintlobo zomhlaza. Buza ugqirha wakho ngale nto. |
"Andingomntu onesifo sam" - Ukwakha amandla engqondo
Esinye isigidimi esinamandla kwibali likaMartha “kukwala ukubonwa sisifo sakhe.” Rhoqo, xa sifumana isifo esinzulu, uluntu lusibiza ngamagama anje “ ngesigulana somhlaza ” okanye “ngesigulana seswekile.” Ekuhambeni kwexesha, siqala ukuzicingela ngaloo ndlela.
Kodwa uMartha akazange awele kuloo mgibe. Wagqiba kwelokuba into emchazayo ayikuko ukugula kwakhe, kodwa zizenzo zakhe nokuzimisela kwakhe. Yile nto amandla engqondo ayiyo.
Singawakha njani olu hlobo lwamandla engqondo?
- Zibekele usukelo olungaphaya kokugula kwakho: NjengoMartha, zibekele usukelo olutsha oluyonwabisayo nolukuzisela uvuyo. Lungaba yinto encinci. Lungaba yiyo nantoni na, njengokufunda ulwimi olutsha, ukuqala igadi, okanye ukubhala incwadi.
- Qala into entsha oza kuyenza: Ukuzilolonga yinto enye. Izinto ezinje ngokuzoba, ukudlala isixhobo somculo, okanye ukwenza inkonzo yoluntu zinokukwenza uzive ukhululekile kwaye zikunike ithuba elitsha lokuphila.
- Nxibelelana neqela lakho lenkxaso: Usapho nabahlobo ngabona mthombo wamandla akho amakhulu ngamaxesha anje. Yabelana nabo ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye noloyiko lwakho. Musa ukuba wedwa.
- Phila imihla ngemihla ngokupheleleyo: Endaweni yokuxhalabela ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ukhathazeke ngekamva, gxila kunamhlanje. Yenza okulungileyo okuncinci onokukwenza namhlanje uze wonwabe.
Ibali likaMartha lisibonisa ukuba akukho nto ingenakukwazi ukwenziwa kukuzimisela komntu. Umhlaza yikoma ebomini, awuyonto iphela.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukufunyanwa unomhlaza okanye esinye isifo esinzima asikokuphela kwebali lobomi bakho. Kungaba sisiqalo sesahluko esitsha.
- Ukwenza umthambo, ngemvume kagqirha wakho, liyeza elinamandla kakhulu emzimbeni nasengqondweni.
- Zibekele iinjongo ezintsha ebomini onokuzilindela. Ziya kukunika amandla okuqhubela phambili.
- Ubuwena bakho abukuko ukugula kwakho. Ungumntu onamandla kakhulu, oxabisekileyo ngaphezu koko.
- Musa ukudimazeka xa kuvela imiqobo. NjengoMartha, jongana nayo ngokuzimisela okukhulu. Nawe ungayoyisa.
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