Xa kuvela iingxaki ebomini bethu, xa siziva sikhathazekile kakhulu, uninzi lwethu lufuna uncedo oluthile, akunjalo? Abanye baya etempileni, ecaweni, okanye etempileni ukuze bazole. Abanye bacamngca baze bazame ukuzola iingqondo zabo. Ngoko ke, ngaba ezo zinto zonqulo nezomoya zingayichaphazela ngokwenene impilo yethu yomzimba, ingakumbi iingqondo zethu? Namhlanje sithetha ngalo mba ubalulekileyo kubantu abaninzi.
Unxibelelwano phakathi kwengqondo yakho nobomi bakho bokomoya
Amayeza emveli aseNtshona awazange anike ngqalelo ingako kwiinkolelo zonqulo zomntu. Kodwa oko kuyatshintsha. Izifundo ezininzi ezintsha zibonisa ukuba izenzo zokomoya okanye zonqulo zinokuba nempembelelo emangalisayo kwimpilo yethu, ingakumbi impilo yengqondo.
Ngamafutshane, izifundo ezininzi zibonise ukuba abantu abalandela umkhwa wokomoya okanye wonqulo banamazinga aphantsi okudakumba, ukuzibulala, kunye nokusebenzisa iziyobisi . Ukongeza, abo baya rhoqo ecaweni, bathandaze, bacamngce, kwaye bancede abanye banamathuba amaninzi okuchacha kwi-posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) kwaye babe namandla engqondweni emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu .
Ngokutsho kukaLisa Miller, ingcali yezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseColumbia, le mikhuba inika uluvo lokhuseleko ngamaxesha anzima ebomini, “umntu uyasijonga, asisodwa.” Abantu abafumana intsingiselo nenjongo ebomini babo ngeenkolelo zabo zokomoya bakha amandla engqondo okujongana nayo nayiphi na ingxaki enzima baze bayoyise, bakha ukuqina ukuze bajongane nayo nayiphi na ingxaki eza kubo.
Oku akupheleli nje kwimpilo yengqondo. Izifundo zibonise ukuba abantu abaya rhoqo kwiinkonzo zonqulo abanamathuba amaninzi okulaliswa esibhedlele, kwaye nokuba balele esibhedlele, bayachacha baze babuyele emakhaya ngokukhawuleza. Kwanezigulane ezinezifo ezinzulu ezifana nomhlaza zixela umgangatho wobomi ukuba zilandela umkhwa womoya.
Into emangalisayo kukuba ngamanye amaxesha sinokubona olu tshintsho kwiingqondo zethu. Izazinzulu zifumanise ukuba xa sinamava onqulo okanye okomoya, iindawo ezithile zobuchopho bethu ezilawula iimvakalelo, intuition, kunye nokuqonda okunzulu ziyasebenza.
Ezinye iindawo zengqondo yomntu obexinezelekile ixesha elide zinokubonakala “zincinci” (hypotrophy). Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonise ukuba ezo ndawo zengqondo yomntu ophinda aphile ngezenzo zokomoya “ziyatyeba” (hypertrophy). Olu tshintsho engqondweni lunokubonelela ngokhuseleko kwizifo zengqondo . Nangona kunjalo, indlela okwenzeka ngayo oku isaphandwa.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, endaweni yokukholelwa nje, kubaluleke kakhulu ukulandela umkhwa onxulumene nawo . Kufana nonyango lwengqondo oluchazwe ngugqirha. Umzekelo, kunyango olufana ( Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - CBT) , kukuziqhelanisa okuqhubekayo kwezo zinto okuzisa iziphumo.
Ngaba ingcamango 'kaThixo' ibalulekile?
Hayi. Inkolelo yakho yokomoya akufuneki ibe yeyonqulo. Inokuba lunxibelelwano "namandla aphezulu" okanye "amandla endalo yonke." Kwabanye, yimvakalelo nje "yento enkulu kunabo." Ingahluka ukusuka kwinkolelo yendabuko kuThixo ukuya kunxibelelwano olunzulu nendalo yonke, nobugcisa, nendalo, okanye nabanye abantu.
Khawuthelekelele loo mvakalelo inzulu esiyivayo xa sijonga ukutshona kwelanga okuhle, simamele umbongo okanye ingoma entle, okanye sonwabele ubuhle bendalo evela kwiSigiriya okanye kwiSiphelo seHlabathi. Naloo nto ngamava okomoya.
"Nokuba ungumKristu, ungumBhuda, ungumHindu, ungumSilamsi, okanye umntu ongalandeli naluphi na unqulo, la mava okomoya avakala ngendlela efanayo nokusebenza kwengqondo yethu. Yinto engaqhelekanga nentle kakhulu."
Ngoko ke, iinkolelo nezenzo ezisesikweni aziyomfuneko. Ungaba nombulelo kwabanye, ubonise ububele, wenze inkonzo yoluntu, okanye uchithe ixesha nendalo. Ukuba uziva wonwabile kwaye unoxolo, mamela umculo, ufunde imibongo, kwaye wenze ezo zinto ngakumbi.
Amandla obunye phezu kwayo nantoni na eyenziwa yodwa
Xa sithetha "ngomoya," ngamanye amaxesha kunokubonakala ngathi yinto yobuqu, yomntu ngamnye. "Kodwa singabantu abathandana nabanye abantu. Siyabadinga abanye abantu. Sifuna indawo yokwamkela abanye abantu," utshilo isazi ngezentlalo uBrandon Vaidyanathan.
Mhlawumbi yingakho ukuba lilungu lenkolo ehleliweyo kunempembelelo enkulu kwimpilo kunokuzimela ngokomoya. Ubuncinane yiloo nto uphando olwenziwe ngexesha lobhubhane we-COVID-19 oluyifumeneyo.
| Umsebenzi | Iingenelo eziphambili |
|---|---|
| Izenzo zokomoya ezenziwa zodwa (umz., ukucamngca wedwa, ukubona indalo) | Uxolo lwengqondo, ukuziqonda, inkululeko yomntu ngamnye. |
| Izenzo zonqulo/zomoya ezenziwa njengeqela (umz., ukuya kwiitempile/iicawa, amaqela okucamngca) | Umanyano, ukuziva ungumntu, kunye nenkxaso yoluntu zezona ndlela zilungileyo zokunyanga isizungu. |
Xa usiya etempileni okanye ecaweni uze ujoyine abanye, ufumana uluvo lokuba “Ndiyinxalenye yale ndawo.” Elo liyeza lilungileyo lokuziva unesizungu. Awufumani olo luvo xa ucamngca wedwa egumbini.
Kodwa kukho elinye icala kule nto. Ayizizo zonke iindawo zonqulo okanye ezomoya ezilungileyo. Ukuba uziva wohlwaywa nguThixo okanye uluntu lwakho, ulahliwe, kwaye wenziwa uzive ngathi ungumoni, oku kunokunyusa ixhala lakho, ukudakumba, kunye noxinzelelo. Kwakhona, ukuba kukho ezopolitiko, ukukhetha, kunye nokuhleba kuluntu lwakho lonqulo, ngokuqinisekileyo amanqanaba oxinzelelo aphezulu phakathi kwabo.
Unyango lwezonyango kunye nokuphiliswa ngokomoya kungalungiswa njani?
Abanye oogqirha kunye neengcali zengqondo sele bedibanisa iindlela zonqulo okanye ezomoya zezigulane kunyango lwabo (umz., i-CBT). Izifundo zibonise ukuba le ndlela isebenza kakhulu ekulawuleni ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, ukudakumba okungapheliyo, kunye nokwenzakala.
UAnna Yusim, ugqirha wengqondo kwiYale School of Medicine, ngumphandi onomdla kakhulu kulo mba. Njengoko esitsho, “Iimfuno zokomoya ziyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bomntu.”
Ubandakanya iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonqulo nezomoya kunyango lwakhe lwezigulane zakhe. Ukuba iinkolelo eziphambili zesigulana ziyinxalenye yokholo lwabo, ubandakanya umthandazo, ukufunda izibhalo zonqulo, kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwimibhiyozo yonqulo kwisicwangciso sonyango. Kwabo bangenazo ezo nkolelo zonqulo,Usebenzisa iindlela ezifana nokucamngca, i-yoga, kunye nokusebenza ngokuphefumla. Uthi ezi ndlela zikwazile ukwenza umahluko onamandla kakhulu noguqula ubomi bezigulane.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba iinkolelo zakho zokomoya zibalulekile kwimpilo yakho yengqondo, ungoyiki ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngaloo nto. Mxelele ngeenkolelo zakho kunye nezinto ezikuthuthuzelayo. Oku kunokunceda ekwenzeni unyango lwakho lusebenze ngakumbi.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukulandela umkhwa wokomoya okanye wenkolo kunokuphucula kakhulu impilo yakho yengqondo , ingakumbi ukunceda ekunciphiseni uxinezeleko kunye noxinzelelo .
- Endaweni yokukholelwa nje, iziphumo zivela ngokulandela rhoqo umkhwa (njengokucamngca, umthandazo, inkonzo yoluntu).
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumntu onqulayo. Indalo, ubugcisa, okanye unxibelelwano olunzulu nabanye abantu nazo zinokuba ngamava anamandla okomoya.
- Ukusebenza njengeqela nokuziva ngathi uyinxalenye yoluntu sisixhobo esinamandla sokulwa nobulolo .
- Ukuba iinkolelo zakho zokomoya zibalulekile kuwe, thetha ngazo ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho. Zingafakwa njengenkxaso kwisicwangciso sakho sonyango.
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