Amazwi akanakuchaza uvuyo oluvayo xa kufika undwendwe olutsha ebomini bakho nomyeni wakho, akunjalo? Kunye nolo vuyo, kukwakho neembopheleleko ezininzi ezincinci ezihambisana nalo. Phakathi kwazo, ukukhetha igama lomntwana yingongoma abazali abaninzi abayifumana icinezela kancinci kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ibangela iingxabano ezincinci. Ootatomkhulu noomakhulu bathi igama elinye, abahlobo bathi elinye igama, unelinye engqondweni... Ekugqibeleni, awunakugqiba ukuba ukhethe ntoni. Ke namhlanje, masithethe ngokukhetha igama lomntwana.
Igama alilogama nje!
Sidla ngokucinga ngegama elihle lomntwana omncinci. Kodwa cinga ngale ndlela. Igama olikhethayo liya kuhlala nomntwana wakho ngonaphakade. Xa loo mntwana eya esikolweni, edlala nabahlobo, eqala umsebenzi, enosapho lwakhe... eli gama liya kuba ligama lakhe kuzo zonke ezi ndawo.
Ngokutsho kukaLaura Wattenberg, owabhala incwadi ethetha ngamagama abantwana, icebiso elihle kukuba, "Cinga ngegama ozinika lona." Ukuba ubuqala ubomi bakho namhlanje, ubungathanda ukuba eli gama likumele? Ukuba impendulo ithi "ewe," ukwindlela elungileyo. Ukuba impendulo ithi "hayi," lixesha lokuba ucinge ngeli gama kwakhona.
Ngamafutshane, khawucinge ngomntwana wakho njengomntu omdala onegama olikhethileyo, kungekhona njengomntwana wakho omhle.
Musa ukulandela umkhwa wamva nje.
Ngamanye amaxesha sibona amagama angaqhelekanga nangaqhelekanga. Ingakumbi kumazwe angaphandle, abantwana babadlali kunye nabadlali beqonga banamagama afana no-Apple no-Blue Ivy. Ngoku kukho umkhwa kwilizwe lethu wokufumana amagama angaqhelekanga. Abantu abaninzi bazama ukufumana igama elithandwa ngumntu wonke, kodwa akukho mntu ulisebenzisayo.
Kodwa igama elidumileyo kunyaka olandelayo lisenokuphelelwa lixesha. Ezi zezinye zeendlela ezidumileyo zamagama kule mihla.
| Uhlobo lweNtlobo | Imizekelo |
|---|---|
| Amagama ezixeko | E-Austin, eBrooklyn (nangona eSri Lanka bengasebenzisi amagama anjengoKandy noDambulla okwangoku, yingcamango efanayo) |
| Ukusebenzisa amagama efani kumagama okuqala | UParker, uColeman (kwilizwe lethu, iifani ezifana noPerera noSilva azisetyenziswa rhoqo kumagama) |
| Ukusebenzisa kwakhona amagama amadala, emveli | Iparele, iRuby (eSri Lanka, amagama afana neparele kunye neruby) |
| Amagama anxulumene nendalo | Umlambo, iSkye (njengomlambo, isibhakabhaka) |
Ukongeza koku, kuthandwa kakhulu kwilizwe lethu ukuthiya umntwana ngegama lelungu losapho, isalamane, okanye umntu esimhloniphayo. Konke oku kubonisa indlela uluntu olusingqongileyo olusiphembelela ngayo xa sikhetha igama.
Iingcamango ezilungileyo ziza xa ungalindelanga.
Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba zininzi kangakanani iincwadi kunye neewebhusayithi ozifundayo, awunakufumana igama elifanelana nokuthanda kwakho. Kodwa eyona ngcinga ilungileyo inokuvela kwindawo nexesha elingalindelekanga.
- Igama elivela kwimbali yosapho: UMelanie noBrian babefuna igama lonyana wabo. Ngenye imini, xa babesiya endlwini yabazali bakaBrian, utata kaBrian wakhankanya igama elithi "Preston" ngelixa bethetha ngotatomkhulu wakhe. Ngelo xesha, bobabini bajongana baza bancuma. Babelifumene igama ababelifuna. Kwilizwe lethu, kuqhelekile ukunika igama elivela kutatomkhulu, umakhulu, okanye umnombo .
- Igama elithandwa ngabazali bobabini: Abanye abazali badibanisa oonobumba bamagama abo amabini ukuze benze igama elihle. Liyila kakhulu, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha usiva elo gama, ukhunjuzwa ngothando oluphakathi kwabo babini.
- Igama elivela kwinkumbulo ekhethekileyo: Umama ogama linguJoan wamthiya unyana wakhe igama elithi "Benny" kuba yayiligama lendawo yokutyela ayithandayo awayeya kuyo xa wayekhulelwe. "Ndandisoloko ndisitya apho xa ndandisengumntwana, kwaye ngoku yindawo ayithandayo unyana wam," utsho.
Ukuzisola ngenxa yegama - 'Igama Lomntwana Ukuzisola'
Kwezinye iintsapho, ukukhetha igama kunokuba ngumthombo wengxoxo enkulu. Umfazi akayithandi igama lendoda, kwaye indoda ayithandi igama lomfazi. Oku kuqhelekile kakhulu. Kuba emva kokukhetha igama, izinto ezininzi zidibene kakhulu, njengeemvakalelo zethu, imvelaphi yosapho lwethu, uhlanga, kunye nenkolo.
Umama ogama linguMariyaXa wamxelela ukuba igama lakhe alithandayo ngu-"Stella," umyeni wakhe akazange alithande konke konke. Wathi, "Xa intombi yam isenza into embi, ndiziva njengoMarlon Brando kwi-'A Streetcar Named Desire.'" Ekugqibeleni, bobabini beza noluhlu lwamagama abavumelana ngawo bobabini baza bakhetha amabini abalaseleyo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuhlonipha iimvakalelo zabo bobabini kwaye bakhethe igama abanokonwaba ngalo bobabini.
Ngamanye amaxesha, emva kokuba abazali bechithe ixesha elininzi bekhetha igama, baziva ngathi igama alifanelani nomntwana xa umntwana ezalwa. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yiBaby Name Remorse .
Umama ogama linguKelsey wayithiya intombi yakhe igama elithi “Presley,” kodwa ukususela ekuzalweni kwayo, yaziva ukuba eli gama alimfanele. Kamva, bamnika igama elitsha elithi “Summer,” baza balitshintsha ngokusemthethweni.
"Kungangcono ukutshintsha igama lomntwana esemncinci, ngaphambi kokuba aqhele igama, ukuba abazali bobabini bayavumelana. Kodwa ukuba umntwana mdala kancinci kwaye akukho sivumelwano phakathi kwabo bobabini, kungcono ukuqhelana negama elikhoyo. Rhoqo, njengoko umntwana ekhula, igama liba yinxalenye yabo," zitsho iingcali.
Awukakwazi ukuyiqonda? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso
Ukuba usabambelele ekukhetheni igama, la macebiso aya kukunceda .
- Thetha nabantu abambalwa obathembayo: Xelela abahlobo abambalwa obathembayo kwaye ube nehlaya elihle ngamagama amabini okanye amathathu onawo wena nomyeni wakho. Fumana izimvo zabo. Ukuba usapho lwakho nabahlobo bakho abalithandi igama olikhethileyo, linokuba luphawu lwesilumkiso .
- Lipele ngokulula: Abanye abazali bazama ukwenza igama eliqhelekileyo libe lodwa ngokulipela ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Umzekelo, igama elithi "Mihiri" lipelwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo, njengo "Mihiry". Khumbula, sichitha uninzi lobomi bethu sifunda amagama, singawapeli. Xa upelo lungaqhelekanga, umntwana kuya kufuneka apele aze achaze amagama akhe esikolweni okanye emsebenzini. Oku kunokuba yingxaki kubo.
- Thetha nogqirha wakho: Ukuba unengxaki yokusombulula uxinzelelo lokukhetha igama okanye iingxabano phakathi kwenu nobabini, ungathetha nogqirha wakho wosapho ngaloo nto uze ufumane uncedo, njengokufuna iingcebiso zengqondo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Xa ukhetha igama lomntwana wakho, cinga kungekuphela nje ngexesha awayesengumntwana, kodwa nangendlela elo gama eliza kumchaphazela ngayo xa sele ekhulile.
- Musa ukulandela nje indlela yamva nje. Ngamanye amaxesha igama elilula neliqhelekileyo linokuba nexabiso ngakumbi ekuhambeni kwexesha.
- Esi sisigqibo phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho. Thethani ngaso nize nikhethe igama enilithandayo nobabini.
- Ngamanye amaxesha igama elihle linokukufikela ngequbuliso xa unengxaki yokulicinga. Ngoko ke musa ukuzibeka uxinzelelo olukhulu.
- Gcina indlela yokubhala igama ilula. Kuya kuba lula kakhulu kumntwana kwixesha elizayo.
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