Sonke sithi "enkosi" okanye "enkosi" ubuncinane izihlandlo ezimbalwa ngemini, akunjalo? Sele iyinxalenye yobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla ngoku. Kodwa eneneni, ugqibele nini ukuba nombulelo wokwenene ngomntu okanye into ethile ebomini bakho, kwaye uye wema nini wacinga ngayo? Mhlawumbi awukhumbuli nto kwangoko. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Masithethe ngale nto nzulu kancinci namhlanje.
Ithetha ukuthini ngokwenene le nto yokubulela?
Kukho abantu abasoloko becinga ngezinto ezilungileyo ebomini. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba, oko akusebenzi kuwo wonke umntu. Ngokutsho kukaGqr. Courtland Dahl, umphandi kwiYunivesithi yaseWisconsin-Madison, isizathu soku sinxulumene nebhayoloji yethu kunye nokuguquka kwezinto. Uthi, "Sazivelela ukuze siphile, endaweni yokuba sonwabe. Ngoko ke, ngokwembali, kuye kwasinceda ukuba siphile ngokunika ingqalelo ngakumbi kwiingozi nezinto ezimbi ebomini."
Kodwa ezona ngxaki zinkulu esijongene nazo namhlanje ziingxaki ezibangelwa luxinzelelo . Njengokungalali, ukudakumba, izifo zenkqubo yokugaya ukutya, izifo zentliziyo nezinye ezininzi. Ngoko ke lo mkhwa wokubulela unokuba luncedo olukhulu ekulweni nezi ngxaki.
Ngamafutshane, ukuba nombulelo kuthetha ukuqaphela izinto ezilungileyo ebomini bethu nokuqonda indlela esizifumene ngayo. Oko kuthetha abanye abantu, abazali, abahlobo, okanye amandla aphezulu emva kwezo zinto zilungileyo. Ukuziqhelisa oku kubulela kuthetha ukuqaphela loo mvakalelo entliziyweni yakho okanye ukubonisa umbulelo kwabanye ngokusuka entliziyweni yakho.
Usenokucinga ukuba ezi zinto zisekelwe kwifilosofi okanye azinamsebenzi, kodwa zininzi izizathu zokuzama lo mkhwa.
Zithini iingenelo zempilo zokuba nombulelo?
Iingenelo zalo mkhwa ngoku zingqinwe ngokwesayensi. Izifundo zifumanise ukuba abantu ababulela rhoqo bonwabile, balala ngcono, kwaye banokudumba okuncinci emizimbeni yabo . Akupheleli apho, abanakukwazi ukuba nokudakumba, kwaye bayakwazi nokuchacha ngokukhawuleza emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu.
Kolunye uphando, abantu abanesifo sentliziyo esingenazimpawu bacelwa ukuba babhale phantsi ijenali yombulelo yonke imihla. Okumangalisayo kukuba, emva kweeveki ezisi-8, amanqanaba abo e-C-Reactive Protein (CRP), uphawu lokuvuvukala, ancipha kakhulu. Nangona olu phando lungangqinisi ngokuthe ngqo, lubonisa unxibelelwano olucacileyo phakathi kombulelo nempilo.
Kwenzeka ntoni engqondweni?
Kusekho uphando oluncinci malunga nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kwiingqondo zethu xa sinombulelo. Kodwa olunye uphando oluncinci, olusebenzisa iskena se-functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), lujonge ukusebenza kwengqondo yabantu xa benombulelo. Lufumanise ukuba xa abantu benombulelo, babesebenza ngakumbi kwiindawo zengqondo ezinxulumene novelwano kunye nobudlelwane bentlalo .
Olunye uphando olukhulu lwalubandakanya abantu abamalunga nama-300 abafumana unyango lwengqondo. Elinye iqela lafumana unyango lwengqondo kuphela. Elinye iqela labhala ngeemvakalelo zabo kunye nonyango. Iqela lesithathu labhala iileta kubantu ababenombulelo kubo, kunye nonyango. Iziphumo zabonisa ukuba iqela elalibhala iileta zombulelo lalinempilo yengqondo engcono kakhulu kunezinye. Olu phuculo lwaqhubeka kwiiveki ezili-12 emva kokuba uphando luphelile.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, ukuze ube nombulelo akufuneki uhlale uncumile kwaye wonwabile. Enyanisweni, lo mkhwa uluncedo kakhulu kwabo badlula kwiimeko ezinzima ebomini babo. Kuba lulo mvakalelo wombulelo kunye nonxibelelwano esinalo nabanye olusinceda sidlule kwiimeko ezinzima.
Kaloku, singawuhlakulela njani lo mkhwa wokubulela?
Umbulelo sisakhono esinokuziqhelisa size sizenze umkhwa waso. Endaweni yokucinga nje ngokuba nombulelo yonke imihla, abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kuluncedo ukubekela bucala ixesha elithile lokwenza oku. Ungazama enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi ndlela.
| Indlela | Ungayenza njani loo nto? |
|---|---|
| Ukubiza izinto ezi-3 ekupheleni kosuku | Yonke imihla ngaphambi kokuba ulale, cinga ngezinto ezintathu onokuzibulela. Nesizathu sokuba kutheni. Kungaba yinto elula njengokuthi, "Namhlanje ndiyabulela ukuba umhlobo wam uthethe nam kuba undikhulule umthwalo engqondweni." Ukwenza oku neqabane lakho kunokuba luncedo kakhulu kulwalamano lwenu. |
| Ukubhala ileta yombulelo | Thabatha usiba ubhale ileta eya kumntu oye wongeza ixabiso ebomini bakho (umama, utata, utitshala, umhlobo). Yibhale ngokweenkcukacha ezininzi kangangoko unako. Into efana nokuthi, "Uyazi ukuba ndiyakuxabisa kangakanani ukundinceda ngaloo mini?" Ukuba kunokwenzeka, bafundele ileta. Iya kubazisela uvuyo olukhulu. Ukuba kunzima ukwenza njalo, bhala ileta uze uyigcine nawe. |
| Ukumamela/ukufunda amabali ombulelo | Kukho iincwadi ezininzi, iipodcasts, kunye neeTED Talks malunga nombulelo. Ukufunda nje okanye ukumamela into efana nale imizuzu embalwa ngosuku kuya kuqala ukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo. |
| Ukudala iBhodi yokuBonga | Yenza ibhodi enemifanekiso yabantu, amava, kunye nezinto ozibulelayo. Yibeke kwindawo ohlala uyibona, njengasekhitshini okanye eofisini yakho. Iya kukuzisela uvuyo oluncinci ngalo lonke ixesha xa uyibona. |
| Ukuziqhelanisa nokucamngca | Izithethe zemihla ngemihla ziluncedo kakhulu. Ungenza eyakho indlela yokucamngca ngombulelo. Okufuneka ukwenze kukuhlala uthule, uvale amehlo akho imizuzu embalwa, uze ugxile kwizinto ezilungileyo ebomini bakho, ezinkulu nezincinci. |
Faka le mikhwa ebomini bakho. Ungalindeli utshintsho olukhulu ngobusuku obunye. Kodwa kancinci kancinci, uya kuqonda ukuba lo mkhwa mncinci unokwenza umahluko omkhulu kangakanani kwimpilo yakho yengqondo neyomzimba.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Umbulelo sisakhono esinokusifunda size siphuhlise sibe ngumkhwa. Kunzulu kunokuthi nje "enkosi."
- Lo mkhwa unezibonelelo ezicacileyo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo neyomzimba, njengokulala ngcono, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, kunye nokunciphisa ukudumba emzimbeni.
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale wonwabile ukuze ube nombulelo. Enyanisweni, lo mkhwa unokuba namandla amakhulu ngamaxesha anzima ebomini.
- Qala ngento elula, njengokucinga ngezinto ezintathu ozibulelayo ngosuku okanye ukubhalela umntu ileta.
- Ukuba usenengxaki yokulawula iingcinga ezimbi, usizi, kunye nokukhungatheka okuhlala kubuya engqondweni yakho nasemva kokuba wenze ezi zinto, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngaloo nto.
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