Dadewethu, ngaba nawe sele uza kuqala ukuya exesheni? Ungakhathazeki, masithethe ngayo yonke le nto!

Uqala ukuba mkhulu kancinci ngoku. Ngoko ke, umzimba wakho udlula kwiinguqu ezininzi, ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Mhlawumbi uyazibuza, 'Ndiza kuqala nini ukuya exesheni?' Kuqhelekile kakhulu, kwaye amantombazana amaninzi ayakhathazeka ngako, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo. Ngoko masithethe ngako namhlanje, kwaye yonke imibuzo engqondweni yakho iya kunyamalala, kulungile?

Yintoni ukufikisa?

Ngamafutshane, ukufikisa lixesha elibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho xa utshintsha kancinci kancinci ukusuka ekubeni yintombazana encinci ube ngumfazi oselula. Ngeli xesha, umzimba wakho uvelisa iikhemikhali ezininzi ezibizwa ngokuba zii-hormones . Ngokuchanekileyo, ezi hormones zezona zenza zonke ezi nguqu emzimbeni wakho - ubude bakho, imo yomzimba wakho, kunye nezinto ezintsha oqala ngazo. Cinga ngako, ukuba ujonga abahlobo bakho, abanye oodadewenu banokuqala ukubonisa iimpawu zokufikisa xa bemalunga neminyaka esi-8 okanye esi-9 ubudala. Kwabanye, ezi nguqu zisenokungaqali de babe malunga neminyaka eli-13 okanye eli-14 ubudala. Le yinto eyahluka kumntu nomntu. Ngoko ke ungacingi ukuba ungaqhelekanga okanye ukhathazeke ukuba uqala ngaphambi kwabahlobo bakho okanye emva kwabo. Iwotshi yomzimba yomntu wonke isebenza ngendlela yayo eyahlukileyo neqhelekileyo. Kufana nezinye iintyatyambo eziqhakaza kusasa, ngelixa ezinye ziqhakaza emva kwemini.

Ziziphi iimpawu zokuqala zokufikisa?

Xa ufikelela kwinqanaba lokufikisa, utshintsho lokuqala oza kulubona noluqondayo kukukhula kwamabele. Kwizonyango, oku kukwabizwa ngokuba yi-`(Thelarche)`. Oku kuthetha ukuba amabele akho aza kuba makhulu kancinci, aqale ukuphuma, kwaye asenokuziva ebuhlungu kancinci. Olu luphawu lokuqala olubonwa ngabantu abaninzi. Emva koko, emva kwexesha elithile, iinwele ezintle ziya kuqala ukubonakala kwindawo yakho yabucala, oko kukuthi, zijikeleze isini sakho (zijikeleze isini) . Kwizonyango, oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-`(Pubarche)`. Emva kwexesha elithile, iinwele ziya kuqala ukubonakala phantsi kwamakhwapha akho. Ngaphandle koku, amanye amantombazana anokuba nolusu olunamafutha kancinci kwaye angaqala ukuba ne-acne.

Zonke ezi zinto zenzeka ngokwendalo. Ezi ziimpawu zokuba umzimba wakho uyakhula kwaye ulungiselela inkqubo entsha yebhayoloji. Musa ukoyika xa uzibona ezi zinto.

Ndingalindela nini ukuba sexesheni okokuqala (Menarche)?

Umbuzo omkhulu onawo ngoku ngulo, 'Ndiza kuqala nini ukuya exesheni?' Akunjalo? Uninzi lwamantombazana luqala ukuya exesheni okokuqala, okanye 'ukuya exesheni ' njengoko ubiza njalo, malunga neminyaka emi-2 emva kokuba amabele awo eqalile ukukhula, njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili. Oku kwenzeka malunga neminyaka eli-12 okanye eli-13 ubudala.Kodwa njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, oku akufani kuwo wonke umntu. Abanye oodade bangaqala ukuya exesheni beneminyaka esi-8 okanye esi-9 ubudala, ngelixa abanye bangaqala kade, bemalunga neminyaka eli-15 ubudala. Oku kuyinto eyahlukayo ngaphakathi koluhlu. Izinto ezininzi ziyayichaphazela le nto, njengobudala umama okanye udade wakho aqala ngabo ukuya exesheni (oko kukuthi, imfuza yosapho), impilo yakho yomzimba, inqanaba lesondlo lokutya okutyayo, kunye nobunzima bomzimba wakho. Ngoko ke musa ukuziva kakubi ucinga ukuba uNimali osecaleni kwakho uqale kwangethuba kunawe. Kuya kwenzeka xa ixesha lakho lifikile, xa umzimba wakho ulungile.

Ngaba kukho naziphi na iimpawu zokuba ndiza kuqala ukuya exesheni?

Ewe, kukho olunye uphawu oluhle lokuba sele uza kuqala ukuya exesheni. Loo nto yincindi ebonakala ngathi yincindi ephuma kwilungu lobufazi bakho. Sikwayibiza ngokuba "yincindi ephuma kwilungu lobufazi". Olu ncindi lunokuba ncinci njengamanzi, okanye lunokuba lukhuni kancinci, njengomhlophe weqanda. Ngamanye amaxesha lunokuba lukhuni, njengomucus. Ngokwemibala, lunokuba mhlophe, lube mhlophe, okanye lube mhlophe njengobisi (ongacacanga). Ungakubona oku malunga neenyanga ezi-6 ngaphambi kokuba uye exesheni lakho lokuqala. Musa ukoyika xa ubona oku, oku kukwayindlela eqhelekileyo yomzimba. Kodwa ukuba olu ncindi lutyheli, luluhlaza, lunevumba elibi, okanye luhamba nokurhawuzelelwa kwilungu lobufazi, lunokuba luphawu losulelo, ngoko ke kungcono ukuxelela umama wakho ukuba aye kugqirha.

Ngaba kufuneka ndiye kugqirha?

Nangona le nkqubo yokufikisa kunye nokuya exesheni okokuqala ngokuqhelekileyo yenzeka ngokwendalo, kukho amaxesha apho kufuneka sifune iingcebiso zonyango. Makhe sibone ukuba zithini:

• Ukuba uqala ukuya exesheni ungekafiki kwiminyaka esi-8 , oku sikubiza ngokuba " kukufikisa kwangaphambi kwexesha" kwaye kufuneka uqwalasele.
• Ukuba uneminyaka eli-15 ubudala kwaye awukaqali ukuya exesheni lakho lenyanga.
• Okanye, ukuba uneminyaka eli-13 okanye eli-14 ubudala kwaye awukaqali ukuba nazo naziphi na iimpawu zokuqala zokufikisa (ezifana nokukhula kwamabele ) ezikhankanyiweyo ngaphambili.
• Emva kokuba uqalile ukuya exesheni, ukuba wopha kakhulu, unentlungu enganyamezelekiyo , okanye ukuba umjikelo wakho wokuya exesheni awuqhelekanga (umzekelo, usenokungabi nayo inyanga ezininzi uze ngequbuliso ube nayo).

Ngexesha elinje, kungcono ukuthetha nomama wakho uze ubone ugqirha ukuze akunike ingcebiso. Ugqirha angabona ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle na kwaye kukho naziphi na ezinye iingxaki.

Ndingayilungiselela njani le nto?

Ukuba uziva ngathi uza kuqala ukuba sexesheni, ukulungela kancinci kuya kukwenza uzive ukhululekile kwaye uzithembile.

• Soloko ugcina i-sanitary pad kunye ne-underwear eyongezelelweyo kwibhegi yakho yesikolo okanye kwibhegi yakho. Ungazigcina ezi kwibhegi encinci. Ngale ndlela, ukuba uqala ukuya exesheni ngelixa ungekho ekhaya, esikolweni, okanye eklasini, akuyi kufuneka ukhathazeke.
• Ungabuza umama wakho okanye udadewenu omdala indlela yokusebenzisa i-"Sanitary pad" ngokufanelekileyo. Kulula kakhulu. Kwakhona, buza ukuba kufuneka uyitshintshe kangaphi (ngesiqhelo kulungile ukuyitshintsha rhoqo emva kweeyure ezi-4-6).
• Ukuba uyafuna, ungaphawula umhla oqala ngawo ukuya exesheni kwikhalenda encinci okanye kwi-app efowunini yakho. Ngale ndlela, unokufumana umbono ocacileyo wokuba ukuya exesheni kwakho okulandelayo kuza kufika nini.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba le yinto eyenzekayo kuwo onke amantombazana nabafazi emhlabeni. Ngoko ke akukho sizathu sokuba neentloni ngayo, ukoyika, okanye ukucinga ukuba yinto engcolileyo. Yinto ebonisa impilo yomzimba wakho.

Ndinemibuzo emininzi malunga nokuya kwam exesheni, kwaye ndiyoyika kancinci. Ingaba kuqhelekile oko?

Inene! Kuqhelekile ukuba ube neengcinga ezahlukeneyo, imibuzo, mhlawumbi noloyiko oluncinci, ixhala, kunye nokudideka malunga nokuya kwakho exesheni okokuqala kunye notshintsho olwenzekayo emzimbeni wakho, sthandwa sam. Asinguwe wedwa, yiyo yonke intombazana elingana nawe ngeli xesha. Uziva usoyika kuba ezinye izinto zintsha kwaye awazi yonke into. Nokuba ucinga ntoni ngale nto, thetha nomntu omthembayo kwaye uzive ukhululekile ukuthetha naye. Isenokuba ngumama wakho, udadewenu omdala, umakazi, utitshala wesikolo, okanye ugqirha wosapho lwakho. Banokuphendula imibuzo yakho, banciphise uloyiko lwakho, kwaye bakuqinisekise. Mhlawumbi umama wakho wayevakalelwa ngendlela efanayo xa wayelingana nawe. Thetha naye.

Yintoni kanye kanye le nyanga?

Ngamafutshane, inyanga nenyanga umzimba wakho uzilungiselela ithuba lokukhulelwa umntwana kwixesha elizayo. Oku kuquka ukuveliswa kwe-lining ekhethekileyo eludongeni lwangaphakathi lwesibeleko sakho (isibeleko). Le lining yiyo enceda umntwana ukuba akhule ukuba ukhulelwe. Nangona kunjalo, awukhulelwa mntwana nyanga zonke, ingakumbi xa usemncinci njengawe. Emva koko, le lining ingafunekiyo, enesondlo yesibeleko, kunye negazi kunye nezicubu, ichithelwa kwilungu lobufazi. Yiloo nto siyibiza ngokuba yi-sex yakho, okanye ukuya exesheni. Ihlala ihlala iintsuku ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-7. Olu luphawu lokuba uphilile. Le yinxalenye ebalulekileyo neyindalo yobomi bomfazi. Le yindlela umzimba wakho olungiselela ngayo ukuba ngumama wexesha elizayo.

Umyalezo Wokubuyela Ekhaya Ovela Kwizinto Esizixoxileyo

Kulungile, dade wethu, sithethe ngezinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo namhlanje, akunjalo? Ukuya kwakho exesheni okokuqala ngenyanga, okanye "ukuya exesheni," linyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu, lendalo kuhambo lwakho lokukhula.

• Musa ukoyika okanye ube neentloni ngaloo nto. Le yinto eyenzekayo kuyo yonke intombazana esempilweni.
• Lumka utshintsho olusemzimbeni wakho, kodwa ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngalo.
• Lungela. Gcina iphedi encinci yokuhlamba ebhegini yakho.
• Ukuba unemibuzo, amathandabuzo, okanye uloyiko, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nomama wakho, udadewenu, okanye ugqirha wakho. Awuwedwa, sonke sikunye nawe!
• Khumbula, umzimba wakho uyamangalisa, kwaye yonke into oyenzayo iluncedo kuwe.

Ngoko ke, jongana nale ngxaki intsha ngovuyo. Ndikunqwenelela ithamsanqa!

---

Ukuya exesheni ngenyanga , ukuya exesheni kokuqala, ukuya exesheni, ukufikisa, impilo yamantombazana, ukukhupha ulwelo kwilungu lobufazi, iinapkin zokuhlamba