Khawuthelekelele intombi yakho ngequbuliso iqala ukunxiba amacici amahle kunye neebracelets ongazange uyithengele zona. Okanye unyana wakho uneCD zamva nje kunye nezixhobo ze-elektroniki kwigumbi lakhe obungazi. Okubi nangakumbi, ngenye imini amapolisa akufowunela athi umntwana wakho ubanjwe esiba evenkileni. Le yinto engekho mzali ofuna ukuyibona. Kodwa ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho uza kuba sisaphuli-mthetho? Mhlawumbi, kodwa mhlawumbi akunjalo.
Oku kuqheleke kakhulu kunokuba unokucinga. Ingakumbi amantombazana namakhwenkwe aneminyaka eli-12, eli-13, eli-14 ubudala, mhlawumbi nangaphantsi, abandakanyeka kwezi zinto. Njengogqirha, xa ndisiva umntwana omncinci ebanjwa esiba evenkileni, andicingi kwangoko, 'Owu, esi sisifo sengqondo esibi kakhulu.' Kodwa, sisenokuba njalo.
Kutheni abantwana abancinci behendeka ukuba benze izinto ezinje?
Ukuba ubuza abantwana abaninzi ababanjwe ngolu hlobo, "Kutheni nenza loo nto?" impendulo yabo iya kuba, "Andazi." Kodwa eneneni zinokubakho izizathu ezininzi zoku. Makhe sijonge ezona zizathu ziphambili.
- Ukunqwenela izinto ezintle: Umnqweno wokufumana izinto umntu angenakukwazi ukuzithenga okanye angenakukwazi ukuzithenga ekhaya (umzekelo, iimpahla zefashoni zamva nje, izinto zokuthambisa, izixhobo zefowuni).
- Uxinzelelo loontanga: Ukwenza into kuba abahlobo beyenza "njengomceli mngeni". Abantwana nabo bayayenza le nto ngenxa yemingeni evela kubahlobo, njengokuthi "Ukuba unako, yibe uze uphinde uyenze." Kule minyaka, uxinzelelo loontanga lunamandla kakhulu.
- Ukuzonwabisa okanye ukonwabisa: Kukho abantwana abenza oku ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukuze nje babone ukuba bayabanjwa okanye ababanjwa, kwaye ukuze bafumane ulonwabo.
- Bonisa amandla akho: Njengoko abantwana bekhula , bafuna ukubonisa amandla abo kunye nokuzimela kwabo. Bacinga ukuba banamandla ngokwenza into "engalunganga" okanye "embi."
- Ingxaki zengqondo esisiseko: Ngamanye amaxesha oku akupheleli nje ekonwabeni. Abantwana banokwenza izinto ngenxa yeengxaki zasekhaya, uxinzelelo, iimvakalelo zokungahoywa, ukuba mbi, okanye ukuziva bengento yanto . Oku kunokuba kukukhalela uncedo.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba, kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi komntwana oneminyaka eli-12 ukuya kweli-13 owenza oku kunye nomntwana oneminyaka eli-15 ukuya kweli-16 oqhubeka ekwenza. Njengoko bekhula, abantwana bafunda ukucinga ngemiphumo yezenzo zabo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha iyaqhubeka emva kweminyaka eli-15, isenokuba yingxaki ' yokungaziphathi kakuhle' .Okanye isenokuba luphawu lwesifo esifana ne -kleptomania, esisifo sengqondo apho ubusela bungalawulekiyo.
Yintoni omele uyenze njengomzali?
Nangona oku kuqhelekile ebantwaneni, asinto ifanele ithathwe lula. Ukuba ukrokrela okanye unobungqina bokuba umntwana wakho uyeba, kubalulekile ukuthetha naye ngayo nzulu. Nazi ezinye iindlela onokuzithatha.
| Inyathelo eliza kuthathwa | Kwenziwe ntoni? |
|---|---|
| 1. Thetha ngoxolo. | Ukumkhalimela okanye ukumbetha umntwana wakho akuyi kunceda. Okokuqala, zola uze uthethe nomntwana wakho wedwa. Mbuze ngothando, "Kutheni unyana/intombi yakho yenze loo nto?" Mamela into ayithethayo. |
| 2. Chaza iziphumo | Cacisa ubunzulu bale nto. "Mxelele ukuba izinto zinokuba zimbi kangakanani na kunesohlwayo sasekhaya. Cacisa ukuba ukuba ubanjwa ngamapolisa, ukuba kufuneka aye enkundleni yabantwana, oko kuya kubeka uphawu olumnyama kwikamva lakhe lonke." |
| 3. Nceda ulungise impazamo | Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abuyisele into ebiweyo evenkileni. Hamba naye. Hamba uye kuxolisa kumnini-venkile. Ukuba kungokokuqala, mhlawumbi baya kukuxolela ngaphandle kokuthatha amanyathelo omthetho. Oku kuya kuba sisifundo esihle kumntwana. |
| 4. Bonisa iingozi zehlabathi elingaphandle kosapho | Nika umntwana lo myalezo: "Ngoku ujongene nento engaphandle kwesangqa sokhuseleko losapho. Ngexesha elinje, asinakusoloko sikukhusela. Uzibeka emngciphekweni." Abantwana abaninzi bayawuva lo myalezo ngamandla. |
Ufanele ufune nini uncedo lweengcali?
Amaxesha amaninzi, uloyiko kunye neentloni eziza nokubanjwa kube kanye zisifundo esihle kumntwana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha iyaqhubeka , okanye ibonisa ezinye iimpawu eziyingozi ukongeza koku, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo lweengcali.
Ziziphi ezinye iimpawu ezikhoyo?
- Ukuba uziphatha ngokungakhathali nangobundlobongela ngaphezu kwangaphambili.
- Ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo uphazamiseke ngokupheleleyo kwaye amanqaku ehlile.
- Ukuba kukho ukurhanelwa kokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye utywala .
- Ukuba uphoxekile yinto yonke kwaye ubonisa iimpawu zokudakumba .
Kwimeko enjalo, ngaphandle kokulibazisa, dibana nogqirha wosapho lwakho ( ugqirha) nize nixoxe ngale nto. Uya kukwazi ukuvavanya ngokuchanekileyo imeko yomntwana aze akuthumelele kugqirha wengqondo okanye kumcebisi ukuba kuyimfuneko.
Khumbula, ukuba umntwana uyeba akuthethi ukuba “ungumntwana ombi.” Kunokuba luphawu lwangaphandle lwengxaki okanye uxinzelelo olungaphakathi kuye. Ngoko ke, luxanduva lwethu njengabazali ukumqonda nokumkhokela kwindlela elungileyo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ubusela evenkileni buqheleke kakhulu kunokuba unokucinga usemncinci, kodwa akufuneki buthathwe lula.
- Isizathu soku singaba yinto elula njengempembelelo yoontanga okanye ulonwabo, okanye ingaba yingxaki enzulu efana noxinzelelo okanye ukudakumba.
- Endaweni yokumohlwaya umntwana wakho, thetha naye ngokuzolileyo uze umchazele ubunzulu bempazamo kunye nemiphumo yayo.
- Nceda umntwana wakho alungise impazamo (umz., buyisela into). Oku kuya kuba sisifundo esihle kakhulu.
- Ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha iyaqhubeka okanye ibonisa ezinye iimpawu ezinengxaki (ubundlobongela, ukungawenzi umsebenzi wesikolo), funa ingcebiso kugqirha wakho okanye kugqirha wengqondo ngokukhawuleza.
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