Usenokuba ukhe weva ngemikhwa eyahlukeneyo yempilo engaqhelekanga elandelwa ngabadlali abadumileyo kunye nabadlali beqonga kwihlabathi liphela. Ngamanye amaxesha ezi zinto ziyaxoxwa nakwilizwe lethu. Esinye sezihloko ezinje esixoxwe ngazo kwihlabathi liphela kutshanje 'kukuzalwa okuthuleyo'. Usenokuba ukhe wakubona kwaye weva ngale nto ndaweni ithile. Ngoko ke namhlanje, masithethe ngokuba yintoni le 'kukuzalwa okuthuleyo', yintoni ibali elingasemva kwayo, kunye nento ekufuneka siyazi ngayo ngokwezonyango.
Yintoni kanye kanye "Ukuzalwa Okuthuleyo"?
Ngamafutshane, 'Ukuzalwa Ngokuthula' yindlela yokugcina ukuthula ngokupheleleyo ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana, oko kukuthi, ngexesha lenkqubo yokubeleka, kungekho mntu egumbini othetha ilizwi. Oku kuquka umama obelekayo. Le ngcamango ithandwa kakhulu yinkqubo yenkolo ebizwa ngokuba yi-'Scientology'. Ngokweemfundiso zomsunguli wabo, ukuzala yinto ebuhlungu kakhulu kumntwana. Bakholelwa ukuba amazwi aviwayo ngelo xesha abhalwe engqondweni yomntwana kwaye anokuba nefuthe elibi engqondweni yomntwana nakumama kwixesha elizayo.
Ngenxa yale nkolelo, bathi akukho mntu ufanele athethe ngexesha lokubeleka. Kulungile ukuba umama abhomboloze ngenxa yentlungu, kodwa akulunganga ukuthetha. Kwakhona, wonke umntu osegumbini, kuquka umyeni, oogqirha, abahlengikazi, njl.njl., kufuneka athule. Injongo yabo kukuzala umntwana kweli hlabathi kwindawo ezolileyo neyolileyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Bathini oogqirha ngale nto?
Kulapho kufuneka siqonde khona eyona nto ibalulekileyo. Akukho bungqina besayensi obuxhasa ingcamango 'yokuzalwa buthule'. Oku kusekelwe kwinkolelo yonqulo, kungekhona kwisayensi yezonyango .
Oku kuthethwa ngoogqirha bezifo zabesifazane kunye noogqirha bezifo zabesifazane ngale nto:
Khawucinge nje, ingaba umntwana ukwindawo ethuleyo ngokupheleleyo esesibelekweni? Akunjalo konke konke. Iintsana ziqala ukuva izandi ngokucacileyo emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa.
- Ukubetha kwentliziyo kukaMama
- Isandi segazi elihamba ngemithambo yegazi
- Isandi sokugaya ukutya
- Amazwi owavayo xa umama wakho ethetha naxa utata wakho ethetha
- Usana luyakwazi nokuva inja ikhonkotha ekhaya.
Enyanisweni, ingaphakathi lesibeleko sikanina yindawo apho ingxolo ifana nomzi-mveliso omncinci. Ngoko ke ukuba umntwana, obeqhele olu hlobo lwengxolo kangangeenyanga, ngequbuliso ufika kwindawo yokuthula ngokupheleleyo, kunokuba ngamava othusayo nangaqhelekanga kumntwana, kunokuba ngamava athomalalisayo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ngexesha lokubeleka kukuba umama nomntwana abasempilweni kwindawo ezolileyo nekhuselekileyo.Ukuze umntwana azalwe esempilweni, kubalulekile ukuba kubekho unxibelelwano olucacileyo phakathi kweqela lezonyango kunye nomama.
Liyinyaniso elokuba indawo enomsindo nengalawulekiyo ayilunganga ngexesha lokubeleka. Ukugcina indawo ezolileyo kubaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ungathethi nto. Ukuze kukhuseleke umama nomntwana, iqela lezonyango kufuneka lithethe lodwa kwaye lithethe nonina.
Ngaba kukho naziphi na iingozi ngale ndlela?
Ewe, ukuba ulandela le ndlela ngokungqongqo, kunokubakho iingozi ezininzi ezinkulu.
1. Ukulahleka konxibelelwano kunye nosongelo kukhuseleko
Le yeyona ngozi iphambili neyingozi kakhulu . Ukuzala umntwana yimeko engxamisekileyo enokwenzeka nangaliphi na ixesha. Khawucinge nje,
- Ukuba isantya sentliziyo yomntwana siyehla ngequbuliso.
- Ukuba umama uphuma igazi elininzi.
- Ukuba umntwana ubambekile kwaye kufuneka athunyelwe kwi-cesarean section engxamisekileyo.
- Ukuba umntwana akafumani ioksijini eyaneleyo.
Ngamaxesha anje, ugqirha kunye nabasebenzi bomongikazi kufuneka benze izigqibo ngokukhawuleza, bacebisane, baze bazise umama. Ukuba olu nxibelelwano luphazanyiswa ngumthetho othi "akuthethi", ubomi bomama kunye nosana bunokuba sengozini. Kwimeko engxamisekileyo, ngaba uhlala uthule unyange umntwana, okanye uthetha ukhulule ubomi? Impendulo icacile, akunjalo?
2. Impembelelo kwimpilo-ntle yengqondo kamama
Ukuzala lixesha elinzima ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo kumfazi. Ingakumbi kumama oqalayo ukuza. Ngelo xesha, kufuneka uthethe ngentlungu yakho, ubuze, "Ndiphilile? Ingaba umntwana uphilile?", uze uve amazwi okukhuthaza avela kumyeni wakho okanye kugqirha wakho. Amandla engqondo owafumanayo kumagama anje ngokuthi "Uphilile" kunye "Nexesha elincinci" alinakuthelekiswa nanto. Ukuzithintela zonke ezi zinto nokuhlala uthule kwaye unyamezele intlungu ngumthwalo omkhulu wengqondo kumama.
3. Umonakalo kulwalamano phakathi komntwana nonina
Abanye abakholelwa kwi-'Silent Birth' bathetha nangokungathethi nomntwana iveki yokuqala emva kokuzalwa. Oku kuyingozi kakhulu. Usana luyaliqonda ilizwi likanina kwangoko nje ukuba luzelwe. Xa umama ethetha nomntwana wakhe, ecula iingoma zokulala, aze ahlebele amazwi othando, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo bobabini buyaqina. Ukuhlutha umntwana olo khuthazo ngaloo mihla yokuqala ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba nefuthe elibi ekukhuleni komntwana ngokweemvakalelo.
4. Ukuphepha iimvavanyo zonyango ezibalulekileyo
Enye imfundiso yale nkqubo yokukholelwa kukuba akufuneki kwenziwe uvavanyo lwezonyango kusana olusandul’ ukuzalwa de kube yiveki yokuqala emva kokuzalwa. Olu luqheliselo oluyingozi kakhulu nolungenankathalo. Kukho uvavanyo oluninzi olumele lwenziwe kusana olusandul’ ukuzalwa kwiiyure zokuqala ezingama-24-48 nakwiveki yokuqala.
| Uvavanyo olubalulekileyo kwiintsana ezisandul' ukuzalwa | Kutheni oko kubalulekile? |
|---|---|
| Uvavanyo olupheleleyo lomzimba | Ukufumanisa izifo ezifana neziphene zokuzalwa kunye neziphene zentliziyo kwangethuba. |
| Uvavanyo lwegazi oluqhoboshelwe esithendeni (uvavanyo lwe-TSH) | Ukufumanisa izifo ezinzulu ezifana ne-hypothyroidism yokuzalwa, enokubangela umonakalo ongunaphakade ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo yomntwana ukuba ayifunyaniswanga kwangethuba. |
| Uvavanyo lokuva | Ukubona ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana unengxaki yokuva kakuhle aze amthumelele unyango olufunekayo. |
| Ubunzima, ukuphakama, umlinganiselo wokujikeleza kwentloko | Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana ukhula kakuhle. |
Ukutsiba ezi mvavanyo kufana nokuphoswa lithuba lokufumanisa imeko enzima nenyangekayo, uvumele ukuba kwenzeke ingozi enokuchaphazela ubomi bomntwana bonke.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ingcamango 'yokuzalwa ngokuthuleyo' ayinasiseko sesayensi. Isekelwe kuphela kwinkolelo.
- Nangona indawo ezolileyo ibalulekile ngexesha lokubeleka, unxibelelwano phakathi kweqela lezonyango lubaluleke kakhulu kukhuseleko lukamama nosana kwaye akufuneki luthintelwe nangasiphi na isizathu.
- Ukuthetha nomntwana wakho, ukumculela iingoma, nokumthulela amazwi othando ukususela ekuzalweni kwakhe kubalulekile ekuqiniseni ubudlelwane phakathi komama nomntwana.
- Musa ukulibazisa naluphi na uvavanyo lwezonyango olwenziwe kumntwana wakho osandul’ ukuzalwa esibhedlele. Olu vavanyo lunokunceda ekufumaneni izifo ezinzulu kwangethuba kwaye lusindise ubomi bomntwana wakho.
- Ukuba unezicelo okanye iinkolelo ezikhethekileyo malunga nesicwangciso sakho sokuzalwa, thetha ngazo nogqirha wakho ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakho.Thetha nogqirha wakho nize nixoxe ngendlela yokufumana amava akhuselekileyo nalungileyo kumama nomntwana.
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