Ukuzisa umntwana omtsha emhlabeni akulula. Njengomama omtsha, unemibuzo emininzi engqondweni yakho. Ngaba oko ndikutyayo kulungile kumntwana wam? Ngaba kukhuselekile ukuzilolonga? Ndiza kuwuphatha njani umsebenzi, umsebenzi wasekhaya, kunye nokunyamekela umntwana wam emva kokuba nomntwana ? Mhlawumbi ucinga ngezi zinto ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive uxinezelekile ngexesha lokukhulelwa, njengakwelinye ixesha ebomini bakho. Kodwa ukuba olu xinezeleko luhlala luhleli kwaye luqhubeka, lunokuba nemiphumo yexesha elide kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Ngoko masithethe ngale nto ngokweenkcukacha ezithe vetshe.
Kwenzeka ntoni ngokwenene emzimbeni xa uxinezelekile?
Xa uziva uxinezelekile okanye uxinezelekile, umzimba wakho ungena kwimo "yokulwa okanye yokubaleka". Oku kufana nenkqubo yesilumkiso emzimbeni wethu. Khawuthelekelele uhamba esitalatweni uze ngequbuliso inja itsibe phambi kwakho. Intliziyo yakho iqala ukubetha ngokukhawuleza, umzimba wakho ubanda kwaye ubile, kwaye awazi ukuba wenze ntoni, akunjalo? Yiyo loo nto kunjalo.
Ngeli xesha, kukhutshwa i -cortisol kunye nezinye ii-hormone zoxinzelelo emzimbeni. Ezi hormone zikulungisela ingozi. Zithumela amandla angakumbi kwimisipha yakho kwaye zenze intliziyo yakho ikhawuleze, zikulungiselele ukuba ubaleke okanye ujongane nayo.
Ukuba ungaphuma kuloo meko inzima uze uzole, ukusebenza kwezi hormone kuya kuncipha kwaye umzimba uya kubuyela esiqhelweni.
Kodwa into eyingozi kakhulu kuxinzelelo oluqhubekayo oluqhubeka ngaphandle kokukhululeka. Olu hlobo loxinzelelo olungapheliyo lunokutshintsha inkqubo yomzimba wakho yokulawula uxinzelelo. Okwenzekayo kukuba umzimba wakho usabela ngokugqithisileyo nakwizinto ezincinci, nto leyo ebangela ukuvuvukala emzimbeni wakho wonke.
Olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba oku kuvutha kunokuchaphazela kakubi impilo yokukhulelwa kwaye kukhokelela nakwiingxaki zokukhula komntwana kwixesha elizayo. "Kukho ubungqina bokuba abafazi abanezinga eliphezulu loxinzelelo olungapheliyo kwaye abangakwaziyo ukumelana noxinzelelo banamathuba amaninzi okuba neentsana ezingaphantsi kobunzima kunye nokuzalwa ngaphambi kwexesha," utshilo u-Ann Borders, MD, ingcali kunyango loomama kunye nosana .
Indlela uxinzelelo oluchaphazela ngayo ingqondo yomntwana
Iingcali zithi uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo lunokuba nemiphumo engabonakaliyo ekukhuleni kwengqondo yomntwana njengoko ekhula, nto leyo enokubangela iingxaki zokuziphatha kwixesha elizayo.
Kodwa ungoyiki oku. Uphando ngale nto lusekwinqanaba lokuqala. Oogqirha basafunda ngolwalamano oluchanekileyo phakathi koxinzelelo kunye neziphumo zokukhulelwa. Nangona kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe njengomama okhulelweyo ukuba uqaphele oku. Ingakumbi ukuba unengxaki yoxinzelelo olungapheliyo, njengeengxaki zemali okanye iingxabano zosapho, kufuneka ucinge kabini ngale nto.
“Kufuneka sicinge ngendlela esinokunciphisa ngayo uxinzelelo olungenampilo size sincede abafazi bafumane iindlela ezingcono zokujongana noxinzelelo lobomi,” utshilo uGqr. Borders. Ukwathi masingaziva sinetyala ngokuziva sixinezelekile, kodwa sizame ukukulawula kangangoko sinako.
Ungayilawula njani ingcinezelo ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Kaloku ke, kukho izinto ezilula onokuzenza ukulawula olu xinzelelo. Zama ukuzifaka ebomini bakho ezi zinto.
| Yintoni enokwenziwa? | Inkcazo kunye nokusetyenziswa |
|---|---|
| Thetha nogqirha. | Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho malunga nokuba yintoni ebangela uxinzelelo lwakho. Nonke, ninokufumana izisombululo. Ugqirha wakho unokucebisa izinto ezifana nokucamngca, i-yoga yangaphambi kokukhulelwa, okanye unyango lokuthetha. |
| Mamela umculo | Nokuba awukwazi ukucula, akunamsebenzi. Mamela ingoma oyithandayo. Okanye ucule kancinci. Umculo unokulawula amanqanaba akho e-cortisol. |
| Phumla, zola ingqondo yakho. | Hlamba ngamanzi afudumeleyo. Sela ikomityi yeti emnandi. Funda incwadi oyithandayo. Bukela imuvi ephumzayo. Emva kokuba nomntwana, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu kuwe ukufumana ixesha lakho. Ngoko ke lisebenzise kakuhle eli xesha. |
| Fumana uncedo kusapho nakubahlobo. | Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Thetha nomyeni wakho, umama, utata, okanye umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ngezinto ezikukhathazayo. Ukubamba kuzo kuya kwenza uxinezeleko lube mandundu. Thetha ngazo. |
Ngaba kunzima kuwe ukwenza ezi zinto wedwa?
Ngamanye amaxesha uxinzelelo esiluvayo lunokuba lukhulu kunokuba sicinga. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ezi zinto zikhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla zodwa zisenokunganelisi. Ukuba uziva ulusizi ngalo lonke ixesha, uxhalabile, kwaye ungonwabanga nakweyiphi na into, oko kungaba luphawu lwemeko ebizwa ngokuba kukudandatheka enokwenzeka ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Ukuba uvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela, musa ukuyithatha njengento eqhelekileyo. Asikuko ukuba unetyala. Kwakhona yimeko enokunyangwa . Ngoko ke qiniseka ukuba uxelela ugqirha wakho ngayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive uxinezelekile ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ungakhathazeki ngaloo nto.
- Nangona kunjalo, ukuba olo xinzelelo luhlala ixesha elide ( uxinzelelo olungapheliyo ), lunokuchaphazela impilo yakho kunye nophuhliso lomntwana esibelekweni sakho.
- Asikuko ukuba uziva uxinezelekile, kodwa kubalulekile ukuzama ukuyilawula.
- Nezinto ezilula ezifana nokuphefumla nzulu, ukumamela umculo, okanye ukuthetha nomntu omthandayo zinokukunceda kakhulu.
- Ukuba uziva ngathi kunzima ukumelana nolu xinzelelo, musa ukulufihla. Qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho. Uza kukunika uncedo olufunayo.
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